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Mrs.Chima:
There are couples who are atheists and have a sound marriage. No offense to the bible thumpers but let use common sense when analyzing a broad question.

There are some people that WILL NEVER meet their chosen one because of A, B, and C reasons. That's fact. Some people HAVE MET their chosen one but weren't MATURE in recognizing a valuable notion. It is important to correct SELF before go seeking or waiting on a partner.
Marriage is a business in today's world because you have to pay someone to say that you are married to such and such hence a business.

Back in the ancient times...there weren't any court weddings or "certificate" that identified married couples. People in the town/village knew who were married and who weren't by attending public weddings, introductions, and homecomings. Parents chose partners for their children and in many cases...were successful in the matches. However, we live in society where people want to be right and do not adhere to what is common sense even if they KNOW they are wrong they will be damn to admit they are wrong.

It is the thing with parents who think because they have lived longer than their children...they KNOW EVERRRRYTHING. If your parents instilled in you the best of advices then you shouldn't have any problems choosing a mate for you. I am not saying women should go and hunt for a man that is not what I am saying but if a woman meet a man and he is shy but they both want to get it on...then it would be fortunate for the woman to speak up to get the ball rolling.

In traditional days...men hunt and women choose. I believe that God is not complicated as people always shouts. For the bible thumpers...in the bible...it speaks about free will and making your own decisions in which path you will go. It doesn't make sense for God to say it is in my will that A, B, and C happens but you have a free will to choose.

I always hear my granny say I pray that it is in God's grace/favor that A, B, and C is acceptable and will succeed. I asked her why she says that all the time...she told me that whatever decisions she make she pray that God will direct her accordingly..in other words guide her as she walk down the path she has chosen.

It is important to seek someone that is compatible to you and listen to your inner voice....holy spirit. I am a spiritual being so I operates off spirituality. That's how my ancestors operated and so on. It is also good to know that demonic spirits exist although many people may not agree but how do you explain many demonic paranormal activities that occurred in the last decade? Exactly.

Now getting back to the point...it is about knowing what you want, what you expect, whom you are most compatible to, and how mature you are in your life and mind. It is important to have all of these things in order before you step into a relationship religious or not.

If you meet someone that you like always take it slow and get to know that person. Pay attention to actions and words....if you are uncomfortable with what you see and hear....time to change course. You can't change a person but you can change who you interact with.

Remember that everything is not what it seems. Ask for the revelation of the unseen. Last thing you want to be is sorely surprised!

Thank you dear!
Haba! They make it sound like if you ain't a "born again" christian, then you can never know never know God's will in choosing your life partner. They make it seem like being "born again" guarantees a successful relationship and if you are not born again your marriage or relationship is bound to fell!

What of those who are not Christians? What of those who are not born again? Yet their relationship and marriages have been successful?

No offence, but I think so many people have allowed being born again to take away their common sense.

fresh_dude: Why? Because I pointed out your foolishness?

.......now let's see who is foolish. Someone opened a thread and I posted my opinion. You quoted me and said that you are surprised to hear a lady with that opinion(that's the only think I picked, foregoing your other sentence(s)). I quoted you and threw more light on why I have my opinion which is also in line with what op wrote (reason why ladies demand for a court marriage).

So wise mugu, where exactly did you lose it? Is it in my quoting you, or the use of the word "you" or, the "exclamation mark?" what? If you had expanded you thinking faculty for once you would have known that I wasn't referring to you (ofcourse you ain't that important). I know you are daft so let me explain it to you like you are 6, NOT EVERYTHING IS ABOUT YOU.

Now who is foolish, fool?

Don't ever try this bullshit again, cos next time I might not be this polite? Ask question if you don't understand.

Now move to the left make I see road joor.

Awwwwwww.......
D Explorer, Boron, Itsmodella(nwunye dim), vicky..........thanks guys, I'm crushing on you too.

Like seriously? Pls break up with him.

I'm not married cos I'm yet to see a guy that will sweep me off my feet again. Yea, I wanna fall in love again first.

A smile.

When it feels right, your instinct tells you (tho sometimes we shut our instincts out cos we want that thing so badly, most people even see it as being negative), and he or she brings undiluted peace to your life and the love stands the test of time.

helpmeohgod: Since she is now married to a wealthy man. What stops her from being honourable by repaying my money spent on her since she did not honour our agreement again?

Let it go dude! Thought we agreed on that?

@ op, could you be more specific? Like who amongst them dislikes you? Why you think he/she dislikes and dis-approves your relationship?
If we understand better, we might help.

fresh_dude: All this shouting for what? Isn't this supposed to be a conversation? Who's asking about anbody's loss or gain. I simply made a comment, no need to expend your entire vocabularly. I said 'frivolously' for pete's sake.

My friend move to the left joor!

190-the-clown:
SLAP!!

Don't u dare -

Lol, slap who? Me? Impossible my dear.

190-the-clown:
U see smile for my face

You get face?

190-the-clown:
I'm deeply touched by dis dude

I admire the-strength and courage of you, its well

Karma clearly would use that gurl and her husband to-dance azonto

Onye oma C.Y.

helpmeohgod: @ vivian; I don't think I would want to sue her, moreover there was no writen documents of proof, just an oral promise. Again, the poor girl was coerced into the scam by her greedy mum because she was initially condemning her mum's act of asking her to get money from me. So she did not opt out of d relationship, but instead created an avenue for me to edge out by making and allowing her mum to give me rules and guidelines of a life that concerns her.

Knowing the kind of person I am, she knows I will fall for it by walking out thereby giving her room for their selfish and unconcientious act.

In this kind of life teaching melo-drama, all one could do is nothing but to leave everything in the hands of d creator.

I REST MY CASE

Its ok my dear. Just leave everything in the hands of God.

Good luck.

helpmeohgod: @ vivian on Charity. Mind u this Angel girl promised me marriage before I started paying her school fees. If she has indicated we will end up on friendship level alone, I would have reduced my spending pattern on her. She was a scammer and I have left her for God. CHARITY is when u give willingly and not when u ar deceived to give.

You could sue her you know?

Idowuogbo: Nauurie naughtiest!

Babe I'm no saint joor. I could be freaky too.

No, its not a crime! In fact, its a treat! Any day he helps me in the kitchen, he is so in for a treat cos the kitchen counter will get really DIRTY. *winks*

kunlejazz: Chinaza! Charity? Are you now reffering to african women as generally less privileged? Cos last time I checked only d less privileged get charity. That's very wrong dear

So what do you call money you spend on someone without anticipating returns or revenue?

Don't twist what I said ok........... If you wanna spend on a lady(or people), do it cos you love her and you know she really needs help and you wish to help her (not that you are obligated to it)...........not because you want her to marry you.

Now define less privilege? We are all less privileged in one way or the other!

If you can't afford a car, you less privileged to have it, if anyone buys you a car, its charity! If he gives you the car to start doing kabukabu for him, then its an investment!

virgin_vampire: Girls who do white wedding usually gets jilted.........but court wedding might signal some sort of maturity.......what matters is maturity cos even when mature u can wed before just ur dad,mum and pastor and ur marraige lasts 50yrs

Like seriously?

helpmeohgod: @ vivian, thank u. My pin is 28550816. @ least u can see how I look.

Omg! Pls edit and remove you pin ok.
And I'm really sorry for what u went through, and I believed you when you said you are handsome.

Mynd_44: Now how can I disagree with that?

Stay away from me, I won't warn you again!

helpmeohgod: @ vivian, if I am not a working class I wouldn't have been able to sponsor a lady in school.

It was my handsomeness made Angel fell for me if not she was a very beautiful girl that she was not even worth living in VGC but Hollywood

Ok.

Good luck in your search.

Lol.......menh, its good for a lady to make her own money o to avoid all these insults, haba!

helpmeohgod: I now need a beautiful decent working class lady

They full lagos na. Btw, are you handsome? Decent? And working class?

Buy me chocolate and I will love you more! That's the only thing I learned from the write up.

Don't see a girlfriend as an investment project, see her as charity.