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slimyem: Vivian,i agree with you last post...
I hate to see women cheat as much as i hate to see men cheat!!
You say you hate to see women cheat....but you left out men!
See??
You left out men because you made an excuse for them already...."because they are men"!!
That is not right!!

Excuse for men to cheat? Lol........some men cheat whether you make excuses for them or not! Now its like saying I hate to see women smoke.....ofcourse smoking is a bad habit for both men and women....naturally I can't stand a man that smokes but I'm furious when I see a woman smoke.

There are so many things I can't stand a man doing but very furious at women when they do it.

Now let me get a little personal, I can't cheat on my man and won't tolerate cheating, hell no! unless the circumstance is extra ordinary.

shymexx: Thank you, brother...

These women don't understand the ricochet effects of their action(s)...

They don't know that black women have always been the pillar behind the black man, once we lose them to these foreign ideologies, that would be the end of the black race...

We just need to keep educating them about morals and our culture...

May God bless you.

@ slimyem, ok, let me break it down for you. When a man cheats, confesses to his woman, if a woman says she forgives, she forgives from the bottom of her heart and let it go. But when a woman cheats and a man forgives, he never let's it go. He keeps making a mental picture of the who scenario, his ego takes a hit. Whenever he remembers the incident he withdraws emotionally.....now when a man starts withdrawing emotional you have got a big problem and at the end of the day, the marriage has 97% of surviving! Take a trip to any marriage counsellor, you will be told the same thing!


Now personally, I hate to see women cheat!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I hold women in higher esteem.....when a man misbehaves, he brings reproach unto himself alone! When a woman misbehaves, she brings reproach unto herself, family and the entire community, and womanhood in general.

That's the plain truth, no amount of exposure and empowerment will ever change that.

slimyem: This thing has gone on long enough o..
Haba!!
Vivian is stubbornly sticking to her opinions...
Shollypopz wants to school her at all costs....i like her argument except for the excessive use of profanities.
Shymmex doesn't quite get what the topic is about and what Shollypopz's point is..
Cameroonpride typed some jargons initially..
And me,i made my point earlier..Cheating shoud not be excused for anybody no matter what gender is involved!!
Its an unfair fact that when women cheat,it is seen as abnormal and hell is let loose but when men do the same,it is seen as normal and the man is mostly hailed for being a sharp guy or a badass.
Now,tolerating such nonsense (a cheating man) because he is a man and giving him a warm hug after his irresponsibility and disrespect to the union is subject to individuals.
I,as a woman will not under any circumstances tolerate or welcome such....not now,not ever...and whichever woman thinks she can/will forgive and take back a man who doesn't respect family values in the first place because she is a woman who believes in those same family values should simply have a nice day!!

First of all, I did not say women must forgive a cheating man! Forgiving him or not is based on individuals involved.

Now Shola schooling me? That's funny!

But the practical truth is, a cheating man is easily forgiven more than a cheating woman. Take it or leave it!

Henry120: Both vivian chinasa and shollypopz have got serious points, and if it were a football game it would end as a stalemate and chinasa vivian would win if it were taking to penalties. This is because in my own opinion, this is nigeria, where values and traditions form a core part of our society. Chinasa vivian is been a complete realist, women stay in not so happy homes, even out-right abusive homes in nigeria, and not contemplate leaving, not because they cannot leave the marriage, or are afraid of been mocked ( not saying this is not a possibility), but there is this feeling engraved in our DNA's, a feeling that cannot be literally explained that accept some excesses that men do. We live in a society where it is acceptable for a man to have more than one wife ( of course the man must have been cheating on his first wife , before he married the second). Damn..... Our religion condones and accepts it, even encourages it (islam & african traditional religion). We can only import so much of another man's culture.


Shollypopz is also very correct, all points she made are spot on. Many women in nigeria today, tue 16 oct, would rather sleep in the streets than live under the same roof with a cheating or abusive partner. That is why in today's nigeria, we have one of the highest divorce rates, if not the highest rate of divorce on the continent of nigeria. There are very few countries in africa today that offer better empowerment to women than nigeria.

The bottom line however is that nigeria is an ultra conservative society, and the society by a while 85% in my book, cutting across both male and female, would rather condone / in many cases accept a cheating man ( 2nd wife, all na the same cheating) than see a lady cheat. This is the realistic truth, and no matter all the grammar we speak, this is how it is on the ground. And if a poll is carried out 85 % of the respondents would go with chinasa vivian.

Thank you my dear! *edited*). I did not and will not in any way say that a man has a right to cheat or encourage men to cheat, I simply said I will rather hear an "adulterous man" which is a whor.e than an "adulterous woman" which is a whor.e too. Bottom line, it breaks my heart to see woman being qualified with such demeaning attributes and I won't want a woman to actually qualify the names.

I get into fights with my friends whenever they insult women like this, and I don't like when women confirm their suspicious!

Women are generally given bad names and we should be correcting it, and not proving to them that we are worst that they imagined!

But are cheating men easily forgiven than cheating women? That's a proven fact! Grammar no dey that one!

Lol....ewo! Sholly, pls stop showing how empty you are, you are beginning to disgrace women! Do u even know anything about African culture? Menhhh, come back to your root jare. Go and lie on ur grandpa's feet and learn wisdom!

Wisdom is the principal thing!

There is something about you sholly, you are a drama queen, being dramatic ain't swag! Empowered women talk with confidence! You just feel their swag, they don't swear up and down!

shymexx: And it was all over the news...

However, Hilary Clinton, didn't let that change her - she weathered the storm and moved on to greatness...

And right now, she's the most powerful woman in the power...

She controls America's security and foreign policy - that's 'empowerment'...

She withered the storm? Thank God! So why didn't she contract the most reputable divorce lawyer to dissolve their marriage? Or jump from one man to another? Considering how powerful she is?

U see to the world, she is the most powerful woman on earth but to her husband she is just "Hillary my wife"

Ewu ofiah! Learn!

Sholly, I'm still waiting for you, talk to me about motivational speakers who are wives! Ewu ofiah!

shymexx: The most power woman in the world, Hilary Clinton, believes in women-empowerment not feminism...

Bill clinton cheated on her with Monica Lewinsky.. However, she still stayed with her man because she believes in family values... She didn't go about cheating like a freaking slut because "what a man can do, a woman can also do."

All the most power women in the world aren't even feminists... Susan Rice, Samantha Powers, Okonjo Iweala etc.. they all have families/married...

To be honest, feminists are just noisemakers IMO!!!

Yea, I remember Monica, the lady that did the presidential BJ......lol.

Sholly, I know Funmi Iyanda too well my dear, don't talk to me about female motivational speakers who are still single in their 40s, of course they can never know what it is like to be married and build a home. Talk to me about successful motivational speakers who are wives! Being a wife is not learnt, it is experienced! A virtuous wife is worth more than rubies.... Ewu ofia!

Well, that's where we are different my dear, I wanna be a wife someday, so I won't want men to "STFU" when I talk, so I listen to women who are successful both as wives and as personalities.

Funmi Iyanda is successful, no doubt, but there is something she is not; A WIFE..........but believe me she is not as lousy and stu.pid as you!

Shollypopz: Bow ur head when u tell me good night, I've told u to treat me as u treat the opposite sex. Talk when I ask you talk and do whatever I command you to do, u hear??!!

SMH.........

I countered you today for 2 reasons; 1. So that a lot of young girls don't get misled by your lousiness. 2. To expose the depth of your stu.pidity (which you are known for). That I achieved! Mission accomplished! FYI, no one is scared of you on this forum, people just see you as a worthless piece of trash and most times they throw you where you belong; a trash can.

Sholly, I'm done with you ok. Good night, abroad woman.

Sholly, abroad woman! Lol, so what you learnt abroad is when you talk men shut up? Ewo! Heheheheheheheh miss empowerment!!!!!!!!!!!!!

6 months minimum till whenever we are both ready to say "I do."

I repeat! I hate it when women cheat!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Maybe cos I hold them in higher esteem just like I hold myself when it comes to relationship/intimacy............ A cheating man is easily forgiven than a cheating woman. Period!!!!!

Becacia_Barbie: Dont u kno d meaning of assumptions

I aint gna xchange words wid u anyway, cause i stil find ur arguements pointless!

Exchange words with you?

The truth is bitter sugar, look around, your man might be cheating on you. My very good friend is a divorce law....so send me a PM, we will be ever ready to dissolve your marriage, and the charges be fair, that's if u are married. Fairy tale!!!!!!

Cheating is bad!!!! But whether you like it or not a cheating man is easily forgiven than a cheating woman! It might sound otherwise in papers, but practically is the truth.

Deal with it!!!!!

Becacia_Barbie: @Vivian...errm...frm ur points i wa able to deduce dat, it's okay wen a Man cheats on his gal or wife right? Ermmm..plz are u married? If u are...u mean u gna b fully okay wid ur husby messing nd sleepn around wid oda gals?? Cuz i dont just gerrit...nd frm ur posts am assumn u r frm a polygamous home..nd u r d 2nd wife or u som1's side chick...cuz to b sincere all ur posts makes no sense! Well Bak to d topic, Am so dumping any guy who cheats on me! Shikena...mi o le wa ku!

Now this is funny. I'm from a polygamous home? Lol! Then someone's side chick? Rotl.......babe, I can't cheat by God's grace and I won't be cheat with knowing. Moreover, I have got what it takes to land my own man, and I'm not from a polygamous home if you must know.

What happened to your sense of reasoning? Did I answer the question posted by the op? I only said unfaithful women disgust me! Now cheating is bad for both sexes ok, but seeing a woman cheat especially married ones? That I hate with passion.

Pls read, and put on your thinking cap before you rant!

Now to answer your question, if my man cheats on me, the decision to forgive him or not is based on me and not on some "gender equality or some stu.pid empowerment."

Ikekings.

Sexkillz, I don't intend to question ur authority but why did u hide my posts? Did you not see when she insulted me in her first post? As if I was referring to her? Why won't she allow me to air my opinion about things instead she goads me? This is not the first nor second nor third time this is happening. Moreover, she was the one raining insults on me. With all due respect this is wrong! Pls warn her!!!!!!!

Sholly, I'm tigress, I'm humble yet fearful! If u know me, when u hear my name you will take to your heels. I don't just come online to display my lack of adequate home training like you. Be careful of people like me!!!!! We don't talk much but we bite hard!!!

Shollypopz: It's just sad when I see women like this girl, I just wish I can help.

And for d buffoon that keeps co-signing her, I'm sure u're glad u still hv low self-worth, remote control women, hv fun!

Lol at helping me. Sorry failure is not my role model. Cos u failed woefully as a woman.

Mynd_44: Sholly, leave her. She is beyond salvation.
She probably also thinks women should be seen and not heard and should not hold elective posts too.
She should be back in her village producing children cos that how she sees herself

And you are human being, who will go about sleeping with every dick, tom, harry cos your man cheats on you. Of course you are empowered, what a man can do a woman can do it better! Empowered sholly!!!!!!!!!!!!

Mynd_44: I might be a kid but I know some things are not right. How can you excuse men from cheating and say when women do it its bad. What century do you live in? Are you well at all.
You make all those statement and you say when you speak, men listen. I am a man and when little ignorant f00ls like you speak, I tune off cos all you have to sat is pointless.
You lack the ability to reason and you are what you are somebody's backside wipe.

I said men not puppies.

Sholly my stu.pidity is ur wisdom any day any time.

Shollypopz: Tell me d difference between a man and a woman, my dear. Prolly my intervention in ur life would start from there......

smh @ challenge men, I'm almost crying for you. This is just sad!

I'm lousy rit?? I'm sure u were brought up to shut ur mouth when men are talking, rit?? Shake my darn head!!

Why don't you go and ask God who created them first? Did I hear mean to me? Now this cracks me up. I'm super empowered, educated and a strong woman and a little cultured, I don't just measure myself by insulting men no matter how little they are. And that's where we are different.

You could be out of this country, but where I have been to, you will never be in your whole life, what I have experienced in life will always be a mirage to you! Sholly, humility is a virtue ok, that's what they forget to teach you abroad.

If your definition of "empowerment" is rubbing shoulders with men, then you are an empty coward.

Good day.

Mynd_44: I wonder if there is a brain inside the head of whoever typed this pile of shyt. Its your likes that case men to cheat cos you make excuse for them but I don't blame you, Lawd knows I don't you. I blame the society you grew up in

You are a kid who doesn't understand how things work in real life. I will talk to you when u grow up.