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This man no do well o haba.. a grown man at that should know what to do

Why would you house a girl whose family aren't in support.

That man needs to be taught a lifetime lesson

Losing your loved ones yet he never come nor the lady

Omo Op i pity you and your family o seriously

crackhaus:
The only issue I have here is you dating her for over 8years before figuring all of this out.

Please tell us, what's the real issue?


And yes, your mom does have a point... But still, why wait 8years?

And yes, they can still return the bride-price. People get divorced after many years of marriage, so yours should be less stressful... But still, why wait 8years?

He waited for 8 years because he chose her. Something beyond chioma is what is causing a rift for now

Raalsalghul:
Madam, there are levels to this shit.

Poor Chioma + Mum---fine

Poor Chioma + Mum + a sibling---still fine

Poor Chioma + Mum + two siblings---maybe manageable (assuming the Op doesn't have any responsibilities from his side)

But Poor Chioma + Mum + 6 other siblings + Op's Mum + Op's siblings? Haba!

I would have expected you came up with something else than emotional guilt-tripping.

Most ladies that have commented so far have probably put themselves in Chioma's shoes and gone ahead to say "Marry her na."

In the same vein, they should put themselves in the position of the Op's mother or perhaps a sister that might need his financial assistance and see if they'll advise such.

It is only logical for the Op to reconsider his marriage plans with the said lady. I only blame him for tagging her along for good eight years: perhaps he lacked foresight.

Please what do you mean by the bolded?

Because he's educated, it's mandatory for him to marry an educated fellow?

Or because he's a medical doctor working in a FG parastatal and earning descent income, it's compulsory for him to look for something similar?

Don't forget this guy is not from a rich home. He's just from a little average family who got education as a medical doctor and a job with the FG

Do you know that as poor as chioma and her family was, if she had got the opportunity to get educated, this topic won't even come up at all

yomi007k:
The question I have for you is will Chioma marry you if the tables were turned?


Don't let anyone guilt trip you. Love fades and reality sets in after a few years and by that time it will be too late because you will be bothering with middle age crises. Whatever choice you make will be your responsibility and not "village people"


The truth is bitter but it sets you free.

This is Africa man. It is expected for every man to be the bread winner of the family. Women are solely meant to look after the home and kids

Na civilisation make some women dey work small small to be supportive. Still that doesn't stop the man from being the bread winner of the family

dominique:
You and your parents were not aware of their financial situation all though the time you were dating? Did they not accompany you to pay her bride price? The deed has been done, you have already married her and you have no choice but to manage the situation. You know her people are low income people, they will always look up to you for financial support. You need to know where to draw the line so they won't milk you dry and run you in debt.

PS. Who made it a rule that it's the duty of the first born to train his/younger siblings? African parents needs to do away with this mentality of birthing children to carry financial responsibilities in future. It's totally unfair

Every responsible firstborn must look after his/her younger siblings

Though it could be in other way not necessarily monetary terms. They just have to be responsible.

Snitch24:
Trash

How is it trash please?

He should divorce her and go get married to someone else right?

NekkyCee:
I must say. it's not easy. I also submitted my CV last year October , but nothing has come up. May God help us.

Where una dey submit the CV put abeg

micflo28:
I abandoned my msc to go for an FG job. Guy pick the job. Can you connect me, I am not enjoying my present job. 0.8.0.6.4.8.2.4.0.3.1. Please hook me up with an opportunity there too

You even get one sef bro... we wey no get anything nko? Like nothing

Maybe you should help me out with the one you ain't enjoying please

Nadaken:
This is the only Northern Muslim cum Fulani that i can be rest assured would be liberal as president

He is not a jihadist, he is liberal, he is educated, he is well diversified etc

We forever miss your leadership of NASS

We were one Nigeria when he was a Senate president right?

But now we weren't one Nigeria isn't it?

obaomo1:
Hello Gurus in the house, I will need you guys assistance on the easiest way to migrate to Australia, I couldn't complete my bachelor's degree due to some financial status some years back but love to move to Australia now to start my studies afresh and also work to support it...

I need expect advice on what to do and how to go about it, kindly reach out to me on WhatsApp: 08053501716... obaomo1@gmail.com.

why not consider Norway bro?

Oyindamolah:
Seen, I will respond accordingly.

Alright, thanks in anticipation

Happy birthday to you. Many more fruitful years ahead

Oyindamolah:
Yes, just send me a DM

I just send you a mail, please do confirm

Thanks

Charmingrascal:
Even though I am not really a fan of Tinubu but the obvious truth is that Tinubu is the grandmaster of political game in Nigeria.
He has the wisdom, knowledge and understanding of politicking.

I'm not a fan of his also

But he's very smart and calculative. His high level of intelligency when it comes to politics is second to none

oldienavie:
The fact that Nairaland is faceless should not be a license to write whatever you feel like writing.
A lot of people have met their favour on this same Nairaland.
Try and learn to be civil and behave in a respectable manner.

Let me tell you a story, I was an unemployed graduate some years ago with my 2:1 in Engineering and no job, it was on this same Nairaland that I got the right connection that resulted in a well paying job.
And that job has turned out to be a platform for me to rise to even greater heights.

A lot of people are getting their breakthroughs on this platform in every facet, so do not abuse the anonymity of this forum.

Learn to behave and address people in a much civil manner.
Cheers

Interesting

Please sir can you also help me with a job? I'm also a 2.1 product with 4.3CGPA, though didn't study Engineering

I'm dead broke, I can't even point at where my next meal will come from honestly

I need a job to help and support my family. It always saddened my heart seeing them going hungry

Btw, I'm in my mid 20s. Please help me in any way you can. Thanks

BiggyB242:
My dear, I'm looking for myself. Someone actually contacted me then for a NSCDC job 200k before the corona virus started. She works with them, it was legit but I didn't really fancy working with them is like my course and time in school will become a total waste.

Nah oil and gas connect I dey find abeg.

Link me with the person boss

Abeg who we offend for this country?

helinues:
Talk about yourself.

I really enjoyed yesterday independence day like Kilode

You're such a selfish being for saying that. Tell yourself the truth was this the Nigeria of last 20years?

Look around to see for yourself how your fellow Nigerians are suffering. No job, no food, epileptic power supply, insecurity, galloping inflation et al

If you failed to speak the truth, no matter how rich you are, we the poor masses will torment you and your family to the brim. That's the result of your selfish and biased view

Will all these make we unemployed youths productive?

Tohsynetita1:
Does anyone knows a platform whereby Foreigners are taught Yoruba and the teacher get paid?

Are you interested in learning Yoruba?

Lostchild:
badaatum; Tell me what I did wrong..

Nabanga; You can report me to the police

Emotionalbeing; Tell me what you think on the above thread.

nnamdiosu; What do you think?

VTJN ; You can see I am no more concern about women.

eyinjuege; You can reveal more of your demon and call me pedophile

I hear you.

[quote author=walefresh3 post=106205386]u are just saying dis to please ur ego...
Don't let ur emotion control ur senses...
Northerners don't reasons like the the easterners... The most fanatics among the south are easterners... Once they hate u... that's all ... Obasanjo contested against Buhari in 2003...
Buhari won nw/ ne... Obasanjo won nc/sw/ss/se...
Throw back to 2011 .. Jonathan against Buhari. Buhari strong hood are ne and nw.. ebele j won nc/se/sw/ ss..
The only upstacles to osibanjo presindecy it's ibo...
But for me ..am for any party that field in southern president[/quote]You've said it all @bolded. I'm rooting for southern presidency this time around. Not party

Can't imagine having another Fulani/Hausa man as president again. Nbanu!

habsydiamond:
24year old wanted to become rich all if a sudden. What's this country turning into sef

As in eh... young guys of today are desperately looking for money

There's uninterrupted power supply in my location

amnesty7:
Then you better migrate outside the shores of the country.

I should migrate outside the shore of the country, when i don't know where my next meal will come from?

You probably got no ideas how every average Nigerians are living now.

I don't give a fvck about party. All I'm concerned is not allowing any hausa/fulani man again.

No doubt, it'd take us more than 2 decades to recover from this mess buhari put us into

Too bad

Please who go help my life, make i join any of these uniform work. I want to make use of my degree

CrystalPeace:
Do you reside around Surulere and the Island?

A 3 months ad-hoc Job with the Lagos State Government is available for BSc and HND graduates

If interested, contact 08167666550

What's The nature of the job?

Hassanmaye:
Bro here in Kaduna people with PhD applied for teaching Jobs

Too bad. I wonder what would happen in coming decade seriously

mfm04622:
What exactly do you mean by restructuring? What exactly do you want to change?

Are you happy that the youths are unemployed?
Are you happy of the insecurity ravaging the nation?
Are you happy about the meagre minimum wage?
Are you happy how the legislative arm of government are eating fat and collecting mouthwarming allowances?
Are you happy the way politicians rigged themselves into office?
Are you happy for lacking good healthcare, education, infrastructural facilities et al?
Are you happy that we solely rely on crude oil and import virtually what we consume down here?
Are you happy that i couldn't get a job in any government parastatals because I'm a son of nobody and knows no one?
Are you happy that almost all institutions ain't functioning and they go on strike almost every year?
Are you happy that those politicians who rigged themselves into office, claiming to represent us and never bothered coming to our communities not until it's time for another election period?


I can always go on and on... The list is endless.