₦airaland Forum

GboyegaD:
But it's always been a black market and the best any one can do is to choose with patience someone who is willing to work and walk with you.

OP was patient, his wife was willing to work and walk with him until she achieved her aim(marriage to the guy) and boom, story changed. This is where Luck comes in.

That is impressive, congrats to her and her baby

I'm beginning to think this institution called marriage has something to do with luck, it's a black market, you never know what you will get once you go into it.

OP, the Lord is your strength.

You are a thief for taking 5 notes from the loot and this means you can't be trusted.
The woman may have counted it while you assume she didn't.

You are in trouble either way, inform your boss and watch her turn the whole thing on you, she will claim you stole the money and she wasn't aware.

If you return it to her and tell her you don't want to be part of the deal, she will tell her husband you want to rape her.

You need to learn some lesson from your covetousness.

You cannot predict a man's character until he is comfortable financially, the more reason it's better to marry a comfortable man so you can know his real character from the word "go" rather than wait for him to remove shock absorber from your legs later in life.

Lagoon0:
Told one lady to do work out. As slim as i am I do that always. I also do yoga alot.

She told me she can't go out early morning alone because bad guys might want to sexually harass her. Sincerely I hate the kind of excuses girls give

It irritates me

That's a genuine excuse, you should have suggested other means aside going out early morning.

Owo Baba ibeji

Everyone deserves to love and be loved, stature shouldn't be a barrier.

This super eagle set are collection of good looking men, gone are the days or Taribo West, Taye Taiwo and co.

OlayemiAshraf:
#shobolabasa ... I'll like to join this gang

Something that is supposed to make you weep after reading is what you are laughing at, if this report is true in anyway, it is worth weeping over cause that's a secondary school where some other learners would be underaged, naive, and innocent but live in constant fear of the delinquents.
Are those your own supposed role models? Are you even supposed to joke with such dirty slang?
Disgusting!!!

They are majorly PDP governors.

What's the issue here? Can't two adults snap in peace again?

I do it know when women will learn to give birth to the number of kids they can singlehandedly train.

That was how I read a story of a farmers wife who already has 5kids now has quintruplets(five babies at a time) in Ogbomosho, making a total of 10kids.

It's crazy!

Congrats to Adedamola, I hope the money he used to acquire it is clean though..

If he can ask you to split 800naira and pay half for Apple he bought, it means you don't even get to enjoy weekend outings or some small chops treats from him.
It is well

bizme:
Summary: Society expects a man to be a provider, and the woman to be in need of being provided for. Very interesting explanation from you, even though this doesn't exactly fit into the feminism-driven society that some are hustling to perpetuate.

That is what society expects but we are grateful to the earlier feminists who fought for the right of a woman to become financial providers as well, it is this financial freedom that protects the widow from men who see them as vulnerable and can be taken advantage of.

Do not confuse feminism for something else.

If you are sure there is any form of maltreatment truly, Go to child welfare office in your state and report him there, they will invite the two of you with representative from your families, they will help you reach an agreement on whatever he will be dropping monthly for the kids while they in your custody.

It is however important for you to have something worth doing for yourself, you can't depend on your baby papa for long, it is not every man that is responsible therefore you have to take responsibility for yourself.

obstead200:
aunty carry ur ignorance vomit for here. CONRAISS stands for consolidated research and allied institutions salary scale. They are paid almost like lecturers of higher institutions. CONRAISS 1 is equivalent of grade 7 in core civil service

You are obnoxiously ignorant, I won't engage you, go and get the Nigerian Scheme of service.

LordofNaija:
CONRAISS 3 is the equivalent of level 10
CONRAISS1 - LEVEL8
2- level 9
3- level 10

What sort of misinformation is this?
A University graduate in any federal parastatal today will either be employed with Conraiss 7 which is same as level 8 depending on the salary scale of the place.

Level 3 is for school cert holders.

Widowers are not neglected by society, the way society show care for both party is only different.

The woman's duty is traditionally tied to taking care of the house and tending to her husband and kids hence, once she becomes a widow, no one would bother about how she does her domestic chores, all what everyone would be concerned about is how she copes financially.

A man on the other hand is traditionally tied to being a financial provider hence when he loses his wife, the society render help to him by advising him to get another wife immediately to take care of him, the kids and the home. Some families even go to the extent of searching for suitable women for him and even if he is yet to get another wife, women around him would still find a way to help him out with domestic chores.

I hope Sir Shina Peters fulfil his promise to the boy, he has messed up in the past but it's not too late .

I feel weak.
Poverty is never an excuse, how can you allow a man as old as this befriend your child to the point of letting him sleep over at your house, how much does he even have to give you?
The girl shouldn't even have a boyfriend in the first place, she is too young.

Kelvin30286063:
Paint her bad. How did I do that?
I love dogs and we've had 2 burglary issues in 1 year. Having dogs around help solve that problem. My dogs are not a problem to my wife. I have people that comes in to clean the house and take care of them and I don't think there is a number of dogs you should have as long as you can take care of them.
If this post looks like I'm painting her bad to you then you must be a very difficult person to deal with.

Whatever you think about me is inconsequential.
Wait until immature boys rubbish your wife's effort at being frugal and concort stories like she is controlling you and help you dissect your home.

My mom's business name is OMOTOLA and it is registered, so what will happen to the business name?

It depends on who is financing the wedding.

Kelvin30286063:
Well I don't have a side chick but you point is not valid cuz most times she doesn't agree with what I spend money on. Take for instance, I need to take 2 of our 3 dogs for vaccination today, that will cost me about 15k. My wife can't know about that cuz it's unreasonable to her that I'll use 15k to vaccinate dogs.

Keeping such numbers of dogs and spending so much on them should mean that they are bringing in more money for you that is, you use them for business, anything outside that is quite wasteful, what will you be doing with plenty dogs?

As for the money, open a new account with a different bank, ask her to transfer the money into the account or you pick her phone and do the transfer yourself, she won't object because it is your money, don't try to paint her bad.

In all these, I blame the man, he turned his wife to a footmat for his mistress to step on.

The mistress has no shame, the man may have lied to her that he solely own the property but since the wife has presented a valid document, the mistress is meant to sit it out.

Now let's assume the man even own the property solely, the ex-wife that bore kids for him still have more right than the mistress who is in no legal way connected to the man.

I'm so ashamed on her behalf.

Look at me here wishing my inlaws will always enter kitchen to cook while I eat from it and save myself from stress. As long as there's enough food in the house, you can even cook for your community, life is not that hard.

What I can only deduce from this op is that there has been series of fights and it didn't just start today.

Meanwhile, the wife is wrong for throwing you out of the house, even if she is the one paying the house rent, she should at least have some respect for her husband.

Nairaland is a reflection of what Nigeria is about today.
There are too many frustrated, broke and unhappy people roaming around.

Those that don't have anything to offer yet they will try all they can to bring others down to their level.

May God save us from poverty.

Saintmary:
No matter how much leeway a husband allows a woman, she will still make sacrifices.
You just have to decide what is worth it.

Everyone makes one sacrifice or the other in marriage, man or woman.

Amaka
I was 33 when I got married and honestly, I do not think marriage benefits women in the long run. Whatever people consider a benefit, does not equal all the things marriage makes you lose. I think marriage hindered me from doing certain things because there is a huge constraint on your time and energy. You are meant to be building the family, but then things you are building does not necessarily benefit you. A men can be working to build his family, while building his career at the same time. He gains both the benefits of being married to you such as free labour, but women can’t say the same thing. The nine years I spent building my family, I could have built my career. The only solution was to not be married anymore so I did that, and my life has been happier and healthier.

This lady raised a valid point but there are exceptions.
A woman can grow her family and grow her career at the same time, all she needs is a supportive husband who genuinely wishes her well, she needs to know how to manage her time in other to balance her home and career, it's not easy but it is achievable.

bukatyne:
You need to always ask 'WHY' when someone is offering something out of the norm.

There is no free lunch in freetown.

Believing there is free lunch somewhere or over valuing yourself is why people fall for scams in relationships, business, education, finances etc.

What's out of norm in someone seeking a single mother for marriage?