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Heroclitus:
I'm not this tall, I'm only 6'4, but then, I still feel I'd commit a crime by dating a lady below 5'9 feet


How does he feel looking this down on his girl...Good for them tho

Jaubdu:
. Now you schooled me right? Why do we have so many bitter and beaten frustrated depressed women here. God help us all.. you even assume everything about me without getting to know me how sad

Timekeeper:
I'm sorry, I don't serve your Allah..

I serve God through Jesus Christ.. I apologize bcox I probably said wrong about u eating shit... If not that, I swear to God Almighty, I wunt apologize.. So don't think I apologized ordinarily okay... I was wrong n dts d reason for my apologies

majorbravo:
Ladies and gents, please some of us abroad need your help answering these questions.

For someone who wants to settle down with a Nigerian but not sure what it costs, What is the average cost of Bride Price in your area?
Our married folks on here please help us out.

Please use this format in your reply.

The cost involved in planning a wedding is relative. The traditional marriage cost depends on the girl's state of origin, and family. Other expenses depends on what you can afford.

But, I guess you should have parents, siblings or relatives in Nigeria. I think they're in a better position to advise you.

State:
Village/Lga:
Bride Price Cost:
Traditional marriage cost:
White wedding cost:
Court wedding cost:

If you can give a breakdown of each, that would be much appreciated. Thanks serious replies only.

Impregnable101:
Snooped into my girl's WhatsApp & read her chats with a particular guy

The guy was like "I just arrived abuja. Wat I want now is a good head to help me relax"

She was like "u are not serious"

The guy: oh I am

My girl: OK, just take care of ur sef o

The guy: I want u to come & do it

My girl: u know i can take care of u

The guy: I know that why I want u to come & do it
My girl: lol

The guy: I wanted to see something thats why I called u on video but u were hiding in the dark

My girl: no light

My girl: I don't want to disturb my sister with my noise


She was in the same platoon with this guy

To think that i engaged her few months ago. Plus i have already taken drinks to her parents!!!
Cc lalasticlala

Jaubdu:
. Why are you questioning me? Stop been toxic. I do what I like as an adult. If you are interested you contact me and get to know me. Stop assuming

startright250:
I can't provide answers to all your questions here.
No child with me.

candyguyofficia:
No doubt, she said our mind

viettastitches:
leave people's kids alone o. the wahala isn't usually worth it believe me.

sholay2011:
You just said my mind.

MurderX:
Paedophile bastard!!!
You'll soon be fixed.

funmisticqueen2:
In this era, you have to be very careful with little girls as an adult male.

It doesn't matter what your intentions are, it is better to be safe than sorry.

Pavore9:
OP, there is certainty something about you the kid do not feel comfortable about.

kodix:
Her instinct has told her you re not a good person, you they re like angels,pls leave people little girls and daughters alone to avoid minority rape. Tell them to stop coming bf entering into temptation you don't even bargain for,!

funmisticqueen2:
Are you a paedophile?

Cos she behaves like her parents just taught her against rape.

It is better you Keep your distance from the girl

NoToPile:
Loool and loool, you are making a big issue out of this jare.

Coldplay007:
you acted suspiciously.
parents have hammered it into little girls' heads that they should not allow men to touch them intimately.
You sent her elder one out then tried to touch her, which probably set off all the alarms in her head.

for your own good, don't ever try that kind of shit again.
If it was in the US, you could be in prison now. It's her words against yours.
SHe could say you were trying to touch her bumbum or something like that. Don't touch/carry kids when there are no adults around. it's too dangerous these days.

GeniusWannabe:
OP, try this trick: try sending her sister on an errand again, and if she tries to follow her, object again momentarily. Then after a while, grant her request. Maybe that'd reduce the anger toward you, then subsequently try the previous tricks you used in winning her back.

startright250:
I am tired of sitting at the bus stop or attending events looking for a woman of my choice. I have decided to go the online way this year.

FYI, I am a single father.
I need a slim (with some flesh) fair complexioned woman. Fair could be yellow or any colour that is not too black because I am a dark guy. Between 33 to 40year is fine. A Yoruba specifically from Osun, Oyo or Kwara and must be working or doing business (please not a make up artist o).


Edited... A prayerful woman. With prayers we can achieve a lot

My contact is startright250@yahoo.com

Madisonsqua:
Please pardon the epistle, I'm a family guy who put my family first in all my decisions due to my upbringing and position in the family....my father single handedly provided and trained the 4 of us through school as my mum never had a job due to recurring illness......I moved overseas few years ago and settling down wasn't easy. But one thing my father kept telling me even before I got my first job was to invest back home.....after paying up all the loans I incurred from funding my travel, I saved hard and invested all my savings in a few plots of land running into millions. To secure the land I was advised to do the fencing just to mark my territory as Im not ready to develop it yet.

I respect and love my immediate family so much that I can't go a week without talking or skyping them. Dad is a senior pastor in one of the Pentecostal churches that preaches holiness and righteousness which was the basis of my trusting him....but he completely betrayed my trust when I sent some money to commence the fencing....

P.s I've not been selfish to my family. I spent close to a million on gift and their welfare that same year...and even promised to get them a car as soon as I can afford it...

Instead of commencing the project, he decided to spend the money on a car just because he couldn't wait. The worst part of it was that he warned my 3 younger siblings not to tell me about it until he's able to get back the money. Which they knew might never happen....But I got to know from an outsider after 6 months.

Whenever I asked my dad about the project, his excuse had always been the rain stopping them from commencing, not knowing the money was gone. When I confronted my siblings, they confessed he had warned them not to tell me. Then I confronted my mom who later confessed and apologized....till today my father hasn't call to explain anything to me. Instead he chose to be mad at his wife for confessing to it and even raised his voice when I questioned him.

Since that incident few months ago, the relationship between us has gone so cold and we barely talk anymore....he hardly call and I don't call him either....I had forgiven him but I can't forget. I'm so discouraged now that I don't see myself sending any more money in the nearest future. I don't even care about the land safety anymore...this is affecting me mentally, I wish to just let go but I can't....I feel taken advantage of by someone I trusted the most in this world.

Please for those who had been in this situation before what would u advise.......I feel like the strong and priceless connection I had with my parent is gone due to one person's decision.

Thewriter2018:
She called me and was pleading and pleading that she doesn't mean anything she said to the guy.

I do not trust her again and I told her that I do not care what she does with her life. In fact I broke the relationship. She begged for over 4 hours but still I told her to give herself some time to decide whhat she wants.

She loves me and is ready to do anything I said. I mean anything I say.
I can tell her to help me with some cash and she wouldn't hesitate regardless of the amount provided that she can afford it.

She gives me sex including blowjobbs and Anal sex too. She takes a lot of risk just to see me like sneaking out of her Father's house aorund 10pm just to see me and satisfy my sexual urge.

She promised that she hasn't had sex with the guy and I can boldly concur because there is no place to do it. She works in a market and there is no place to meet with a guy and have sex with him there. She cannot also meet rhe guy at night because the guy stays far. She cannot also viait the guy because her parent does not allow her to go out except to her shop. She cannot also corner to the guy's house after her work because she is always timed.

I actually make her cumm when we have sex. I suck her cat so much that she orgasms and squirts.

She calls me all the time and tries to please me all the time.

She has promised me that she will not talk to the guy again but if by any chance I see her cheating I shouldn't hesitate to spread her nude pictures because I have her nudes in my phone (the ones she snapped and sent to me.)

Please, should I continue with her though I do not trust her again and I never even did.

What should I do?

Vega100:
Hello all,

The title is as clear as it is... I need a nice girl for a relationship. 100K/month is the allowance...

About me
I am in my early 30's very independent and gainfully employed (more questions will be entertained as we unwind) ;this is all most girls will only care to know anyways!!

Person Specification.
1)Must be beautiful (preferably lightskined but not exclusive).
2) tall , at least 5ft7 in height
3) Well educated and able to hold an intelligent conversation.
4) well behaved, calm, nice and far from being rude, short tempered or arrogant.
5) Athletic built, slender and curvy girls are welcome , but fat girls please stay clear.
6) Have Fine Legs.

U can be from any tribe, that's inconsequential, but be in or around Port Harcourt.

Should you meet these criteria and you sure you do, please send me a direct email, and also be willing to send a photo of you (this will be very strictly confidential I can assure you , we can sign a non disclosure should you so wish), the photo must be of you in something short (bum shorts or any kind of shorts,or even bikinis) as I will just wanna see what your legs look like.

I will be waiting in my D.M

Thanks.

streetsoldier1:
I tried all I could to save face , just have to end it all after discovering that the single mother I married still contact her ex regularly...
Despite forgiving her several errors even while we got engaged, she still have the guts under my roof to mess up.
Warning guys, never ever marry a single mother that has been messed up!!!
6years was messed up!!!

SecretSpy666:
I registered on this platform to tell my story and encourage other Nigerian youths who may have humble background like me, not to give up.

I did one of the craziest wedding in human history. I can’t stop laughing now as God has changed our story

COST OF THE WEDDING IN DETAIL:
Statutory marriage (court wedding) – took place in December, 2015

The court wedding was contracted at the marriage registry of Kano State, opposite Emir Sanusi’s palace, Kano municipal. Here are what I spent:
1) Wedding Certificate fee N8,000
2) Wedding ring N1,500
3) Clothes for the wedding for both of us (including sewing) N13, 600
4) Two crates of multina N5000
5) One carton of Digestive biscuit N600
6) Transport for both of us (kake napep) N200 (to and fro)

Total: N 28,900

No reception

Few invitees and no much celebrations


TRADITIONAL WEDDING:
I spent about 35,000 including clothes.

HOW IT STARTED

I was posted to Kano for my NYSC in 2014 August, Batch B. I fell in love with this beautiful lady and we had similar historical background. Before I completed my NYSC, I got admission to Bayero University for my master degree programme (march, 2015). I didn’t have what it takes for marriage and there was no help from anywhere. I really wanted to dump her and focus on my study but she never let me go.

She told me she want to go for master too, we hurriedly applied for her during the late application period, she was lucky she got admission to study community health. She took me to her parents who are based in Kaduna but are from Okrika in River state. Her parents are educated and gave me good advice and encourage us to get serious with our studies. The father told me to pay N5,000 as bride price and I spent about 30,000 for a very quiet traditional wedding.

In Kano, we live in a single room (self contain) opposite Bayero University gate, going to school together. I started a part time teaching with Al-Furkaan Science Academy with 18,000 salary and also work it for her to be teaching there too for 15,000 salary. The school management did not know that we are couple. Some teachers there were even trying to talk to her….
After our coursework, as if God was waiting for us to complete the coursework, boom!!! I was called by an agro allied company based in kano for interview. I applied online for the job. I got the job and we were both happy!!!

Three months later, my wife got a job with an NGO working in communities in Kano and Jigawa. Not long after, we moved to a two bedroom flat and got a car. We had a baby boy now and building a house in Otukpo, Benue state.

THIS IS MY TESTIMONY……
Start little and God we increase it…
I was so ashamed then and the people laughing at us them are now coming to begg us for money and support.

Now my wife is saying we should do a flamboyant, expensive, and gorgeous church wedding and invite all the people we invited during the low-key court and traditional marriage...and invite all friends, foes and all the people laughing at us at that time....

KingEzo:
Hello Nairalander, please I need your advice. I 31years and my fiancee 29years have been dating for the past four years. she discovered that she's pregnant on new year's eve. we discussed the issue throughout the new year and we agreed to keep the pregnancy that she's going to write her nursing Council exam later. I told her that she should give me some time so that I can go and discuss with my parents and organize introduction then do the engagement in a little way but she said her mom won't be happy with her that she need to do big wedding because she's the first child of her mom. she later told me that she's going to inform her parents before taking any step. to my surprise she called me this evening that she is going to terminate the pregnancy because her family has been raining insult on her since she got home. she said her grandma is even coming to the city with her so that she can terminate the baby. but I told her that I didn't support it that I can't terminate pregnancy, I told her that she can write the the council exam after delivery but she insisted
sir-ma should I support this their action.

bestofnollywood:
They were so in love with each other!

In fact, nobody envisaged that there would be a separation, not to talk of a divorce between Nollywood’s actress, Dakore Egbuson-Akande, and her husband.

But like some celebrity marriages, Dakore and Olumide Akande are no more. Just like a pack of badly stacked cards, the nine-year-old wedding crumbled and the centre cannot hold.

Signs that the wedlock was troubled surfaced online when the actress posted a photo where she wore bikini! Prior to that, she was sighted at the One African Music Fest in Dubai with her brother, Timini.

“The marriage had problems a few years back but the couple tried to make things work out. Many factors were responsible but Dakore became tired of not having enough money to throw around. Her husband, Olumide, who is one of a son of billionaire businessman, Harry Akande, is broke—the money isn’t flowing like when they met, courted and married. Olu lives off his dad and the economy isn’t as buoyant. Even Harry Akande is allegedly not as rich as he was,” reliable sources told Kemi Ashefon.

Many would recollect that Dakore was romantically involved with Olumide, for many years before they were pronounced man and wife at the Guiding Light Assembly, Ikoyi in 2011. A lavish reception that had in attendance elite members of the society was staged at the prestigious KFA Event Place in Lekki. Dakore’s father-in-law, businessman cum politician Chief Harry Akande brought to bear his social and financial clout.

“Olumide sacrificed everything for Dakore. Initially, when he made his intention known to family members that he wanted to marry the actress, hell was loose! No member of his family stood by him. To them, Olu could have gotten a good girl instead of an actress, who is tagged wayward and a gold-digger. He ignored all pleadings and advice. The handsome dude went for Dakore and they were married in 2011. They have two girls as products of the union,” source revealed.

Moreover, the quest for a third child must have allegedly put pressure on the actress who quit the movies long before she married Akande and after their two kids, they relocated to the United States of America. Well, Dakore’s mother-in-law wasn’t pleased with their lifestyle and wanted them in Nigeria where the couple can work towards giving her a grandson!

Meanwhile, Dakore had maintained that she was done with child-bearing. As a matter of fact, it was due to the imbroglio in their marriage that pushed her into acting again.

Not a few fans would be worried at this development because Dakore did all she could to keep her marriage intact—at least on social media. Not known to celebrate her wedding anniversaries on social media unlike some actresses, she revealed that she wanted a ‘private marriage and not one to be displayed on social media.’

In an interview two years ago, Dakore disclosed that, “My mother always say, ‘cover your yam and how you’re eating it.’ Like on his birthday, I just do maybe some posts on Instagram but we like to celebrate anniversaries in-house with the kids. We’ve been together for 11 years but married for seven years.”

Already, Dakore has moved out of her marriage and she is allegedly dating a Nigerian guy who is into entertainment and organizes big shows in Africa and other continents. Who knows the couple can still come back again.

Source: Kemi Ashefon Blog

https://ngg.ng/2020/01/10/dakore-egbusans-11-years-marriage-to-olumide-akande-crashes/

OTayobami:
Did you try the "oya you go and buy biscuits for yourself jare" scope and see whether she would run to meet you?

Gina2019:
what I am trying to say is that, there's a different between doing things for money and also making an excuse that poverty lead you to it.

If you want to live an expensive life, then you must be ready to work your ass out for it. Good things don't come easy.

I was on XVIDEO when my friend told me most girls that do prostitution are ugly. I tried to find out myself which is not true.