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If you have never met the devil and you want to, just visit Attah Igala cos all 'Attah's' are the devil's incarnate. During the reign of Ameh Oboni, even the Oba of Benin was afraid of him.

A word of advice: If you have an Igala friend, keep him at arms length cos if they decide to jazz you, millions of TB Joshua cannot save you.

MrHandsome2013:
I am from delta, Anioma precisely and i dont want to marry any ladies from south south and south east reasons best known to me.
Pls i need good tribe i can marry from.
Good tribe that have beautiful and well mannered ladies.

A tribe is made up of people comprising of the good, the bad and the ugly. Even though I am against tribal discrimination, I must confess that some tribes are a no go area, as their custom, traditions and general practices could be appalling.

I could suggest a few tribes for you, but the question is: "Do you intend getting married to a tribe or to a woman"?

So, here is my humble advice:" Search for a good woman to marry and try to adopt her tribe". I noticed that the tribe of a lady holds sway mostly during the traditional ceremony. Afterwards, any other issue that arises becomes a family problem and can be managed.

But regardless, I would reiterate that it is better to marry a woman who was raised in a State other than her state of origin. Families of such women are usually more liberal and open minded.

I used to think that smoking was an irresponsible act, but when I got to know that Olu Jacobs and Joke Sylva are chain smokers, I decided to rest my case.

booscy:
This one Pain am well well. Mumu!!!!

Mad Person spotted feeling pained

Actually, you sound like the pained one. You keep repeating same words and end up sounding like a kid learning how to speak for the first time.

themaestro08:
something tells me that this is a fictitious story about an imaginary lady looking for a virgin husband.

For every fiction, there is always a reality.

booscy:
Your Myopic fore fathers are the Niggas!

Mad Idiot

Unfortunately, you consistently keep displaying your ignorance and lack of manners on a public forum. Aggression is destructive and the reason why Africans are still backward is because they have more of your type scattered across the continent.

Grow up kid and become a better version of yourself. We need progress and a turn around on the African continent. But with people like you, I guess that is a mirage.

U1:
Did you bother to ask your friend that question?

You just seem to be contradicting yourself. Why does your so-called friend want to marry without getting pregnant since sex is for procreation?

No, I'm not contradicting myself. You are the one who is entangling things and making it complicated. The primary aim of marriage is for companionship, while the secondary aim is for procreation. She wants to get married for companionship sake and any icing on the cake will be considered a secondary factor.

She can get married and choose not to have babies in the conventional way. The point is, sex or babies is not a driving factor for her wanting to get married.

farem:
You're off-course dude. It's obvious you don't understand my drift, especially the uses of metaphors to explain things.

More like the use of sarcasm.

Omotayor123:
Of course, I wasn't into him. And The reason I mentioned his financial strength was to let u know that any girl would av jump into the opportunity and figure how to clinch him tightly to herself.
I have the opportunity even after I went through same in the hands of others. I could have use it as a pay back but I didn't.
So Yeah, that obviously deserves a standing ovation.

And my write up isn't blaming anybody.
Thank you for your contribution.

Nah, not any girl would jump into the hands of a man simply because he is rich. That you didn't do so and feels you deserve an accolade shows the level of moral decadency in our society.

Being rich is one thing and defining the source of wealth is another. Not every wealth looks appealing and I know girls who will always say no to a man regardless of his income status.

oyekanwahab:


this need to be added to the next mission impossible movie as a mission, let see if Tom Cruise can help her find one

It would be an impossible mission if sex were food and sustains life. But the last time I checked, sex was for procreation. So, if a man isn't ready to procreate, what business does he have with sex?

Omotayor123:
Met this guy late September, he was in for loving doving and all. Told me I was the perfect definition of what he was looking for in a bride.

This is a well to do single man with chains of businesses, cars, a good house & also working for mining company. He is Responsible disciplined and religious.
Bottom line is He's what any lady would be glad to have.

The thing is, He had problems with his bae & wanted to find solace and comfort with me, forget his Fiancee and moved on.

I could have taken Advantage of their situation, played the Angelic Good wife, hold him tight, pretend to tolerate all his mess & made him forget totally about his bae.
But I see it as a challenge I have to overcome.
Why

I had issues with my fiance, he left to find comfort in the hands of another girl. The girl jumped on the opportunity without hesitation, played the perfect babe and the rest is history...

I couldn't do the same to another girl, i know how heartbreak & betrayal feels.
so I decided to help them for I know their issue isn't beyond repair.

I took my time to let the guy know I am not perfect and equally have my flaws.
I made him see reason why he shouldn't give up and run to a comfort zone each time his relationship has issues.
Their issue was just communication breakdown & lack of understanding. They could fix it if they really want to and ready to shift grounds...

And now, I'm grateful my efforts played off, with my coaching, he realized he was making a mistake taking the risk of throwing a 3 years relationship away for another one which the outcome is yet unknown.

Now they are back Together, settled all differences and their wedding date is set.
I just received an IV to attend their wedding holding on 18th of January 2020.

If i had entered their Picture, it may be impossible or almost imposssible for this great feat to happen.

I couldn't be more proud of myself.

Ladies This Year Let's help ourselves out!
Don't take Advantage of other people's situations
Don't be the reason why a relationship or marriage breaks totally.
Don't let Despiration push you into hurting others.
May God help us, Give us the best of partners and not make us a stumbling block to the happiness of others.

I did well right


Sorry for the Long Epistle
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lalasticlala
farano

He was only using you as a rebound. That sweet talk of "you are the kind of woman I want", could have just been mere words and not really that serious.

The truth is, he wasn't really into you. It's good that you were smart enough to figure that out, to avoid stories that touch.

Your ex left you for another woman and I don't think she is to be blamed. Your guy must have seen something in her which was missing in you(unless he was under a spell and not in his right frame of mind).

You must bear in mind that for one to rise, someone must fall. Life isn't fair and that's the way it is!

Regardless, I think the part where you mentioned about his wealth wasn't necessary. In my opinion, seeking 'a standing ovation' for your act wreaks of hypocrisy. Both of you were not into each other and it has got nothing to do with doing the right thing.

Skmoda360:
Ah!!! I don't want this kinda woman ooo.....she doesn't want her body to change at all.....

It isn't about her body, but tokophobia is a mental state and it can't be helped. The truth is, there are more tokophobic women in Africa, but they're afraid to come out cos they will be deemed as abnormal.

MJBOLT:

using your logic,there are no female virgins in nigeria and virginity is overrated

Virginity is overrated and I believe it should be so. This is because, sex forms the bedrock of almost all the calamities that humans commit.

If u marry a virgin woman, be thankful cos you're 100% certain that she hasn't slept with an animal. If that isn't a big deal, then what is?

booscy:
It will also be cyberspace freedom to put it to you that you're mentally unstable, infact you're mad.

Go to your forum, werey!

Mad people everywhere

You just proved my point nigga! Your aggressive words defines who you are;a typical African with a myopic mentality. Change for the better so you all can help build the African continent into an enviable height.

Jewessgratitude:
Madooo
You're not a virgin and you want a virgin? Abeg wake up!

How can one even know if a man is a virgin?
Na well package gigolo them go send give you.
Una Neva hala

Same reason why you may not be a millionaire, but may want a rich dude for marriage. You may be short, but want a tall guy for marriage. That she isn't a virgin doesn't mean she can't desire a virgin guy.

As for your second question, how did your guy found out whether you were a virgin or not? I'm guessing you must have talked at some point before hitting it. Since female virginity can also be faked, whether you lied or not is a different ball game altogether.

So, if in the course of talking and he says he is a virgin, then she doesn't have to doubt him and will take his word for it. After all, why should an adult male lie about his sexual life?

booscy:
And you're saying it on a forum of people with myopic mentality.....Lolz!
Those people who aren't myopic, yet dwell among myopic people are even more myopic than those they acclaim myopic

Mad People everywhere!!!!!!!!

Saying it on a forum of people with myopic mentality is called the 'cyberspace freedom of expression'. And you being myopic to think that only Africans visit this forum is pathetic.

If you ain't the myopic type, then you wouldn't consider the criteria as outrageous. What happens to the saying:"Live and let live"?

habsydiamond:
that's why u get it wrong.. since it involves an opposite sex there is opportunity flying around

Relationship with the opposite sex must not always be rooted on acquiring gains. She is a lady that wants a partner mainly for companionship(reason she desires someone of a particular kind).
It's up to the prospective guy to decide whether he fits in and can settle for a lady like her.

drezzyx:
I see
Reverend father spotted...

Even not all Reverend fathers are virgins.

Being a 'Reverend Father' is just a title and doesn't define who they are inwardly. I can't recall the last time I went to a place of worship, but I am who I am.

habsydiamond:
if there is an opportunity involve...lying is a norm for some people.

Yeah, but in this instance, there are no opportunities involved;at least not for now. So, if he wanna lie about it, then that's his problem.

Divinelady:
she's not ready yet

As a lady(which I assume that you are), do you settle with numerous guys at a time? Even if you do, there is only one that will always captivate your heart.

Regardless of the many women that a man sleeps with, he will always choose one at a time. For every man or woman, there is always someone out there for them.

Saying her choice of man is impossible to get out of over a hundred million people is a cause for concern. Like I've always said, if there are virgin women in their 30's, then there should also be virgin men in their 30's.

Skmoda360:
She can easily buy sperm (sperm bank) if she is so in need of a baby.

Did you read the part where I said she is a tokophobic? The truth is, making babies for her has never been a priority. But peradventure the guy wants kids, then they go the surrogate way.

Oriyomin25:
If this is not a troll and you are not the FRIEND. Extend my new year greetings to your friend and tell her she is Mad.

Yeah! Mad enough to know exactly what she wants.

drezzyx:
Virgin men still dey?

Even if they never bang before at least they don do soapy wella..

For ur information no virgin men final.

Speak for yourself! That you took the bus, doesn't mean there are no boats left.

habsydiamond:
am not taking of being ashamed or that it's a taboo to be a male virgin... My question is how is she going to know that this guy or that guy is And is being open-minded a criteria for a virgin Cos ayam not understanding again o

Can a guy tell whether a lady is a virgin just by mere looking at her? No! They get to know each other in the course of their conversation and open up to each other.

If he isn't one and he lies about it, then no harm involved as long as the said lady believes it's the truth. But the question is: Why should an adult lie about such things?

farem:
Is this a fiction or what?
An old cargo by all standards reeling out what an eighteen year beautiful lady can't attempt.
If it's true, the lady in question is a lunatic!

Being an 'old cargo' is a beautiful feeling given that she has spent a significant amount of years on earth to know exactly what she wants. An 18 year old is still a kid, and may accept whatever comes her way. But if an adult can't define what she wants, then she is as inferior as your choice of words.

booscy:

Those stereotyping Africans lack cognitive reasoning, its a mental condition.

Brings me back to the mad people everywhere statement.

Nah, Africans are actually the ones with the myopic mentality. It is not a stereotype, but more like a way of life.

Mikel4xrist:
Ive finally found a woman who I want to marry. The problem is, how do I propose to her.

I've been googling on different ideas, but I havent gotten one that is convincing enough.

Please advice me guys, how do I do this... I love her so much...

this is one article I saw on the topic

https://www.24rentz.co/10-mind-blowing-ways-to-propose-to-a-nigerian-girl/

I don't think proposing to a lady should take that much of an effort. The truth is, most guys don't go through the hassles. They just assume that the lady already knows and preparations will start. But since you want to make yours memorable, then let me suggest something for you.

Firstly, make it private and don't involve either friends. Make a less than one minute video of yourself talking about how much she means to you and how much you love and cherish her. Keep the video saved on your phone.

Ask her out to a very private and quiet outdoor setting. Make sure she comes with her phone. While both of you are seated, talk less, hold hands and stare more at her. After a few minutes, excuse yourself that you need to go use the bathroom.

While you're lurking around the corner, send the video via WhatsApp. Since she may not open it immediately, give her a call and ask her to come online that you want to share something with her.

She will rush to open the video. As she is watching your blockbuster 'movie', walk towards her and quietly sit down. When she is done watching it, stand up, grab her hands and pull her close. Then look into her eyes, call her by her first name and ask: "Would you like to share the rest of your life with me"?

Since it's what she has been praying and fasting about, she will definitely say yes. Stare deeply into her eyes and say: " I promise to make you the happiest woman on earth ". Then end it with a passionate hug.

Blakjewelry:
You are right but not in this case, she is the one making all the demands, she is not marrying for love

Who said anything about love? Love can fizzle out, but loyalty and honesty can stand the test of time.

It is not a demand she is making, but just a simple criteria that she has. I don't get why the 'virgin' part is such a big deal. Is the society so morally deranged that premarital sex amongst men has become a norm?

booscy:
How do you know that those are what I want ?

You see how it all starts?

Mad People everywhere

Unless you don't have an African blood running through your veins. Cos if you do, then it is what you want. It is what you all want!

Larryfest:
Seriousness far from the lady. She never ready to marry.

As a business man, before you venture into any business, you identify a need and come up with a feasibility study. Then you draft a business plan and come up with strategies on how to succeed.

Since marriage is also serious business, she is doing the needful so she can succeed at it.

THUNDER4real:
Endangered? really?

Any way, @ late 20"s, I am still one.....It's not easy....However I breaking out this yr or get married, one of my new yr resolution

You sound desperate to taste the fruit. Remember, not all fruits tastes good.

habsydiamond:
Woman want male virgin to marry. For her to know that she must know how water take enter coconut oo. Abi dem don dey seal male virgins' John Thomas ni even she no be virgin o..... Inside life sha

I mentioned in my post that she needs someone who is sophisticated. This is because, sophisticated men are more open and will easily talk about themselves in an appealing manner. Being a virgin man is not a taboo and there is nothing to be ashamed of.