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posakosa:
hahahahaaha! are you sure u're Nigerian ?!

Oooo da mo!

I know naija men can do and undo, i've seen a few of them do their things in london
But that is a very tiny minority and they're prone to getting caught at the end of the day. . . I just dont think the OP has enough to start worrying about this guy. Find out more about him and then make your decisions, but don't make it look like a murder scene

@OP

Like i said earlier, there are factors there that are influencing his decisions at this stage but it is nothing for u to start suspecting him over.  He has not visited u and has not hosted u in his house so u need to calm down and look at it as him being him.

When the time is right, he will open up to u, and u will know that by so doing, he has made up his mind to move to that level with u.

follypimpi:
O ri e Fokasibe

Ori iwo nko?

posakosa:
Doing the right thing ?! Did you guys read the post?! when he's overly concerned and afraid about her wanting to be married, she never said that she wanted to be married to him.

one thing I know, if a Nigerian man truly cares. Often times, he will be straight forward. Not honest but straight forward, this one sounds like someone hiding something.

Some people dont want a girl to get the wrong impression when they are not sure about moving up to the next level with her, there is nothing wrong with that - it is better than building sand castles in the air and then the girl feels hurt tomorrow when things dont materialize.

posakosa:
Im sure he has sampled her in her house.  trust a Nigerian man not to sample when he's not an opebe ?!

If i remember well, OP said he felt uncomfortable with her inviting him over, she didnt say for sure whether or not he visited

natashi:
I am an African American sister dating a Niger man. He is very smart, sweet, adventurous and funny. However, there are weird things coming up that is getting very hard to ignore. I have been dating him for five months now and I haven't seen his place of residents. When confronted on this he says he is not ready for that step. However, when I have invited to see my house its the same thing he gets very uncomfortable. I am not sure if I am running into a cultural issue or this is just we rid period no matter what culture you are from. Also, he seems unnecessarily worried about things. For example, he is worried about me wanting to get married (its only been five months what person wants to get married so fast). I have never even brought the subject up or hinted to the relationship going there. These things are stressing out the relationship and the chill guy that started is slowly turning into a secretive weirdo, help am I stressing over cultural issues that will work itself out , or should I dump and run and not be stupid because if he was a man from the states I would have been LONG gone.

jay bee:
lexi common, dude is in his 30's and what single dude do you know will date a for 5 months and not for once invite the girl over to his place for sampling?

Some people have strict principles and they abide by it at all times. This guy may just want some time to see that he is doing the right thing!

posakosa:
Civilized economy or not: If this man is an illegal immigrant: I'll say this: you can never track a Nigerian Illegal immigrant, NEVER. Unless he commits a crime.

this man would have no job if he was illegal, he would not drive if he was illegal - she says he has a job and she's been to see him in his office, so how was that possible?

posakosa:
How will she do a surprise inspection if she doesn't know where he lives ?!  

are you suggesting that she stalk him to figure this out,

Nobody can hide in a civilized economy. . .  He has a mobile number, it is registered to an address. If he drives, it must have a plate number which is registered somewhere. If he has a house land line, u can look up the yellow pages or local directory. . .  

Knowing it is easy to track him down, why would he not want u to come? I think you're about to end this relationship if u go trespassing and i also have a sneaky suspicion that at the end of the day, you'll have nothing on him - and that will hurt seriously cos then it would be late!

natashi:
Only way to be sure is to go over and check out , So advice guys on how to confront this problem. If it is a lady she can have him, How should I bring this up to him

Clear your mind of all these suspicions and stop smouldering your young relationship with shenanigans.  Have u considered the fact that he may just mean exactly what he says about not being ready for that step yet?

follypimpi:
Women and their wahala,why cant everything just be plain simplezzz

Bros, i wonder oh

Things fall apart when the center cannot hold anymore

I dont like Man utd!

So i no fit talk to u

Seriously though, y'alls should stop hating and fronting. . .

What do u say to those naija sisters who be sucking up every white man's balls and nuts with the primary intention of citizenship via marriage??

Thats just food for thought

na2day?:
yea i live in Leeds, just opposite oshodi bus stop

Yeye man

deco2come:
If a guy last for a 2minutes, they will nickname him 2minutes noddles, if he last for longer they call him crap or stingy lover. I don tire.
Now kellorah I think you have a job now, tell me which minutes you like? I know most of you girls here will dump your man if he last only a minute. You won't consider yourself being stingy or the guy being tired Now my d**k refused to fall down ,you call me stingy lover.

Dude, dont listen to em. Your case is different from mine but they're also similar. . . I used to have a nympho girlfriend back in uni, and on the average, we used to go 6 rounds before i came. She always wanted it, but sadly, i wanted much more than just sex from a relationship and so it had to end slowly. She still calls and we talk from time to time. . . It is a blessing that many guys dont have, and believe it or not, some girls here - even the married ones, sometimes wish their men would last much longer than they do. If all men were perfect for their women, u wouldn't be hearing of cheating and divorce. Sex is like an aphrodisiac, once you're good at it, them girls will just keep coming back no matter what u do or say.

But your case is different cos your girlfriend is not a nympho, in fact, she's way below average when it comes to sex and you are having trouble as a direct result of that. Like i said earlier, if she doesn't improve, it is going to end whether or not u want to break up with her - and she knows this in the back of her mind. All it takes is for u to meet someone who remotely meets your expectation and your current girlfriend is history.

Ask her to buckle up, it will be very selfish of her to not want pre-intimacy - always want u to start sex quickly, and then stop once she has satisfied her own urge. . . That will only lead to frustration and an eventual break-up.

na2day?:
LMAO

Dude, r u in Leeds? We should go hang out a bit cos i'm visiting again soon! Bet u dont know as many happening places on there as i do. . . I show u some wicked stuff - and thats being brutally honest

na2day?:
i just finished taking pepper soup and my tongue was still on fire

You should the one i cooked yesternight with some dried Ghanian chilli. . .  That was just off tha hook! My belly is still on fire

THE AMAKA:
and does that make it right?

SHA!

You should ask the presidency of your country

Afterall, no be 12yrs old boy wan claim father for London the other day with 15yr old babe?

truphie:
hahahaha,me i like sex alot oooh.if my bf was hard like dis every night il gladly yansh him till it goes down oh.hmmmm il be happy sef that he wants to fu ck constantly.lol

Amadioha!!

Itohan123:
what the hell are you smoking son

Shit must be good, I want some

Wanna make records but i'm woooooooooooooooooooooooooed up!
Slippin, fallin, cant get up

Naija no be jand/yankee. . .  na from metropo force hq u for dey post this thread

Fear of what?? A woman or a Lion

!amebo no1:
Missy b and justwise have said it all

whatever happened to pre-intimacy, i mean the real serious pre-intimacy, its so obvious all you do is take her and ram your ozuma rock into her hole without lubricating the place with pre-intimacy, why on earth wouldnt she complain
I hope the first or second gurl you had sex with is a prostitute, cos that will explain the reason why you just ram without smooching

LMAO

But seriously, some guys are like this - they dont cum quickly no matter what the girl does, so make una no kill am ohhh

justwise:
If u said some i will agree but not all of them are like that

Quite needfully so too

na2day?:
nigerian women are just armed robbers in wrapper clothing

Needless to say

justwise:
I think u are being selfish here, u made her feel the way she is feeling now, u have complained so much that she is feeling like a failure or incompetent in bed.
U probably having s.x with her not making love with her, u go ontop and start pounding like no 2moro without caring about how she want it and get her involved, all she does is to lay there praying that u finish soon and leave her alone.

If u stop thinking with your willy and take your time and pay attention to the senstive part of her body, she will feel more loved,she will be more than ready to return the fav by the time u want to start pounding.

Stop treating her as your s.x toy and more of an active partner.

Thats a harsh assumption
You should ask if thats what he's doing and not assume and scold

I feel sorry for u cos i can relate with your situation. If she loves u, then she has to understand and try going beyond the first round or do some serious pre-intimacy, otherwise i'm afraid she's justified in asking whether u love her cos she's on her way out if she cant satisfy u - and she knows it in the back of her mind.

Be patient with her for now, things change with time - perhaps she'll get to adapt a bit. . . But the chances are quite dim and you should consider your options if there is no joy at the end of the day.

Love don tear eye finish. . .  no truth in love is blind in naija again, love can see and only looks for money

As usual, ojoro happens at old trafford, it would not have happened if man utd are playing away anywhere else. Ferguson is the only coach who has his own special wrist watch in every match and always gives referees trouble when he feels there is a lapse of time. . .  It is just so wrong!

Goal, Fab4

Game over!

HNIC:
Fab4 is injured

with Arshavin also struggling, that is a big worry. . . Rosicky cannot be playing 90mins yet, he needs a partner!

I give it to Verminator, but its not a boot, its a golden helmet. . . That guy scores with his head like it was a leg

the viper:
goalllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll, by dudu or eboue? all the same its a gunners goal

apparently Eboue gets the goal as he made the last contact with the ball.