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posakosa:
Where are you ? If you know me, you know where I am so Come and Catch me,

I am on my way

@posakosa no let me sef catch u, no be .38 caliber i go use, na C4 bomb so that i no go fit pick one piece of u

Nellyb:
No way whitelexi,love is not madness. God is love n am sure God is not mad. In 1 word God is love. Love is deeper than feelings,its d very life we live. U cannot say u love God if u dont love d flesh and blood u see.

Can u not be madly in love? whether with God or women?

One thing i've come to understand is that just as many men run after a woman - giving her the luxury of variety and choice. . .  Girls also run after men, and we also have the same luxury of variety and choice.

TEXASGIRL:
Another thing I learned about this is to always trust my "women's intuition". I should have checked him out earlier.

Well, go ahead then and keep checking everyone out, but u need to know that some of we naija men absolutely hate it when a woman sticks her nose into what does not concern her.

When you have just started seeing someone, there will always be loose ends to tie up, there will always be girls on the side whose relationship have to be tidied out. . .  

u dont just come into someone's life and start placing tabs on them or start posting pictures of the 2 of u everywhere to scare off other women, leave him to tidy things out first - the time for all that will come when you will be free to post anything and have his support. . .  

u have no right to call up his friends to ask or gossip about him - without his permission, that is just unacceptable - u have no right to do that. . .

u have no right to curse him to his face, once is good enough to let u go - no matter what he feels for u at that stage, he can decide not to put up with that part of u. It doesnt make him thin-skinned or less of a man, no, it is a way of avoiding stress which will be caused by u when the relationship matures.

Finally, it may be worth your while to know that u dont force things when u've only just started a relationship, u need to turn a blind eye for a period of time and then slowly start asserting your control otherwise u create a wrong impression at an early stage. Keeping tabs on your husband is different from keeping tabs on a bf u only just started seeing.

In all u do though, i still wish u the best, however if he's a naija man, it may not go far until u learn to accord a good level of respect.

ezinne1212:
Love is frustrating.

I know u dont mean that

skfa1:
Love is wicked

It is the kindest thing we know, love is sharing so how can it be wicked??

TEXASGIRL:
And a liar he is. Yesterday we meet and made up. He was coming to my house for the night (we live an hour apart). He stood me up! No show no call, Then I go on facebook this morning to find a message from a friend that he posted that some other girl is his "main boo". So yes I got played & hard. No more tears over this one. My heart is hurt but I have to remember it was all an illusion. People can be so heartless and mean, and it doesn't matter where you are from/ what color you are. He should realize that God will take his revenge for hurting women (surely I'm not the first)like that. You always reap what you sow.

Me thinks u drove him to another woman with your cursing and name-calling. . .  I told u earlier that it was a silly thing to place all those tabs in the first place, i think when a man discovers that his partner does not as much as trust him in a relationship - the result is usually simple and straight-forward.

Beyonce sang a very silly song and called it irreplaceable, truth of the matter is that no woman is irreplaceable - no matter how good she is. . .  If one woman cannot replace u, 2, 3, or 4 will make up for all your abilities - it is not that easy for a woman to do the same. Some men will tolerate your mess for longer than other men, but some will not tolerate it at all.  If i were him, i'd have walked a long time ago.

Nag, Nag, and Nag!

Girls kiss me and then turn round to tell me they dont love me oh - they're just considering my proposal

@Post: there's no biggie there, kissing used to be intimate, now its just a preamble to the main course

TheSeeker:
Yes, that impressed me too. When you get the dose, slide one up to me

Lol, imagine being imune to falling in love

That would just be. . . divine

TheSeeker:
Not all women are evil. But a callous woman, is worse than the devil.

Hey, what's up with all the insults on the dude? You're just trying to prove his point. So stop it already

Exactement

TheSeeker:
Scientifically informative

Yeah, that part about prozac impressed me. . . Now i think i need a dose

@Poster:

Am I being stupid by wanting to continue the relationship?

No, u r not stupid for wanting to continue with the relationship but u were stupid for trying to end it in the first place.  A man sometimes finds himself in a messy situation, he will wanna fix the mess without his woman getting seriously involved. . .  Women generally make up their minds quicker than men and act on it faster especially where another woman is involved - in some cases they're wrong and this could turn things sour.

Let me give u an example: I had a gf so many yrs ago whom i loved very much, when i left the naija for london, i didnt call for a while and things were just on and off between us, I told her things were a bit rough for me and i could only call a few times a week. . .  After a while she left me thinking things had been rough for way too long. I moved on and then things became good, then i started getting friendly with another girl over here and somehow my ex came back into the picture. My ex would call and call until i would switch my phone to silent in order to get some sleep, and the girl i was with didnt like that at all, she always wanted to get involved but i didnt want that and made it clear. She got my ex's number and dialled her to insult her - i felt betrayed and asked her to get the hell outta my life. There are certain issues that are best handled patiently, it doesn't always mean a guy is cheating if he doesnt want u to get actively involved.

Dont do it. . .  Infact u need to sit him down and review your relationship objectives, you dont wanna ruin your life cos of one man's unilateral wet-dream

Weel, dude has attempted to buy some time by telling her he is thinking about the proposal but "miss thing" here seems not to be a new comer to issues like this cos she's shoved further into the defensive by crying and accusing him of lying to her all this while saying he loved her when he didnt [if u ask me, i'd say she's right about that one]. . . However, my guy is watching his emotions roam in turmoil cos although he is interested in the girl and doesn't wanna lose her, he cant answer to her proposal as well.

I've asked him to stand firm and see how it goes over the first few weeks but he is a proper jelly and i wont be shocked if she is able to push him a bit.

Kai!  at the rate these girls are showing interest in this ritual. . .  Some brothers are in trouble already

Poor things, Chai oh chai oh

justwise:
The last time i checked, dog sleeps with dog

Point of correction bro, The Dogg shags tha Biatch

Poor girl poor girl, like she didnt know what was at stake? and why was she trying to deny it and make things worse for herself?
The husband sef na one small pikin cos distributing such a video was harsh and low!

@TheSeeker. . . Wise words, very salty.

kok:
He should come out loud and make a decision!

If only it were that easy for him, i'm sure he woulda come out very very loud. . . the guy is worse than shy!

sexyLeamon:
very very bad boy chei

Before nko? when she wont leave him in peace. . . If it were the other way round now, all nl girls woulda run to her defence

I appreciate your responses but this girl is very domineering. . .  and this my guy keeps falling my hand! He reminds me of Bradley in Eastenders [i want to meet stacey BTW] he turns to jelly when he should stand firm like a man!  He doesn't know how to say NO emphatically.

He doesn't want to rush into this stuff but he also doesnt know how to respond to her words. . .

Be very rough with her so that u bruise her inside there. . . She will give u like 4 days off while it heals, then use the time you've bought to think of an escape route.

Here's the deal:

You've known this chic for about a yr but u started dating like 6 months ago. . . So far so good, and things are nice and smooth but she keeps asking u whether or not u love her.
From your point of view, she's okay. . . she's nice but you are not sure she's the one for u cos there are some sensitive areas in her behaviour that u have noticed and u want to investigate those areas more. . . And then one nice evening, after asking the same question [and u reply 'yes' as usual] she puts u in the tight corner by going on her knees to propose to u! How would u react to this?

Caveat: This issue does not concern me, i'm seeking ideas for a friend of mine who is caught up with this domineering chick

I'm going home to my thick thick village this december to see if i can find a decent girl too oh

Negro_Ntns:
LOL. . you must be content within regardless of your status in life. Status is temporary. . .dont join the rat race chasing success. We all want to be successful but not all successes are pain free and not all pains are treatable with medicine

I certainly agree

Get a good education, buy a house. . .
Have a cook, and a cleaner

Truth be told, some of these so called african women in the diaspora useless themselves when they go abroad and then they wonder why they're still single? When a woman knows absolutely nothing about keeping a home, all she thinks about is getting all the take-away she can, bitching and nagging all the time, partying and clubbling almost 7 days a week, living life on the fast lane, sleeping with every foreigner she can bed like it was some sort of award. . . Then when she's well spent, she thinks she can still command respect from us dudes? Naaaa, thats why they often travel back home to decieve an unlucky man into marrying them

Girls normally look at the size of a man's palms before they slap. . . I've never been slapped - even with my very notorious bluntness

michelin89:
Una too like gossip.

We no like gossip oh, na the drama dey interest us