I’m 30yrs of age, and I never for once consider getting married, I lost interest totally, but this should incase i decide to tie the nut, how much should I have in my bank account to be on safer side before dragging myself into a life time contract with someone else daughter??
I currently own a car, and managing a salon plus other bussiness thag comes once a while, I’m working towards having a building of my own before getting married, but you see the country is so messed up right now that building a three bed room apartment for yourself is so difficult. Families and friends are dragging me to get married without considering my financial status, they all felt I have what it takes to get myself a wife......lol tho I’m not moved or shake by their claims but I really need to know this.
Can one settle down with an available balance of a million naira and feel safe?
If you recently get married here, can you pls do a cost implication of the said wedding and cost of running your marriage since inception?? Many guys are scared, I swear
Mr man you shouldn't be thinking of getting married to those black apes called Naija women but rather you should be thinking of how to date foreign women
you see! these pieces of shiit don't have have anything to offer other than there 1000 diameter blackhole!
the disadvantages of marrying a Naija women far outweigh the advantages!
no economical value, NOTHING!
walking into marriage with Naija women is like signing life contract with the Devil!
Countries with short supply of women includes: 10. Switzerland is short of female 9. India is short of female 8. Sweden (no wonder there are more female Aupair welcome to the country annually) 7. Italy is short of female 6. Finland is short of female 5. China is short of female with 34 million more men than women with a ratio of 88.03. 4. Cyprus is short of female 3. Canada is short of female 2. Iceland is short of female 1. Norway is short of female
lefulefu: ok i will be forced to agree with u on the sex angle ..yea white girls tend to be liberal with sex if they like u..but for cleanliness cmon there are white girls who have bad hygiene as well
Na those drug junkies one you dey meet up and down or rather the obese ones!
Omo! the ones I dey meet so far Na clean ones ohh but just that the thing were dey vex me with them na that tissue paper were them dey use take clean yansh and bathing 1 or at most 3 times a week.
apart from this two things I mentioned them clean Weller.
NwekeUG: Davido's Fiancee, Chioma Celebrates Him On His 28th Birthday (Photo)
Singer, Davido is celebrating his 28th birthday today, November 21. His fiancee, Chioma took to Instagram to celebrate him with beautiful words, IgbereTV reports.
The mother of one wrote:
"Screaming happy birthday to you @davido. you’re such an amazing everything!. I pray God makes you as happy as you make me today and always! We love you papa bear and hope you have the best day ever!"
themosthigh: Why do you people hate islam like this. All Muslims ever wanted was to spread peace around the world so that the peace and Allahu Akbar can ring form every roof in every nook and cranny of the world.
ThinkSmarter: Yahweh, elohim, jehovah or Allah is a deity created by human conciousness. Except what u refer to as god are the esence of life like sun, air, water, food , soil . God doesn't exist. Who created god? How did he come into existence?
you should be asking yourself how did you come into existence! the fundamental question of science that haven't been solved yet!
well! give your life to Christ Jesus and you will understand!
pls don't go with this terrorist religion who loves the word Beheading!
Islam forbids Muslims to keep dogs, and the punishment for that is that the one who does that loses one or two qiraats from his hasanaat (good deeds) each day. An exception has been made in the case of keeping dogs for hunting, guarding livestock and guarding crops.
It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever keeps a dog, except a dog for herding, hunting or farming, one qiraat will be deducted from his reward each day.” Narrated by Muslim, 1575.
It was narrated that ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever keeps a dog, except a dog for herding livestock or a dog that is trained for hunting, two qiraats will be deducted from his reward each day.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5163; Muslim, 1574.
Is it permissible to keep a dog to guard houses?
Al-Nawawi said:
There is a difference of opinion as to whether it is permissible to keep dogs for purposes other than these three, such as for guarding houses and roads. The most correct view is that it is permissible, by analogy with these three and based on the reason that is to be understood from the hadeeth, which is necessity. End quote.
Sharh Muslim, 10/236
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
Based on this, if a house is in the middle of the city there is no need to keep a dog to guard it, so keeping a dog for this purpose in such situations is haraam and is not permitted, and it detracts one or two qiraats from a person’s reward every day. They should get rid of this dog and not keep it. But if the house is in the countryside and there is no one else around, then it is permissible to keep a dog to guard the house and the people who are in it; guarding the members of the household is more important than guarding livestock or crops. End quote.
Secondly:
With regard to the words of the questioner, “keeping a dog is naajis”. This is not exactly correct, because the najaasah (impurity) is not in the dog itself, rather it is in its saliva when it drinks from a vessel. If a person touches a dog or a dog touches him, that does not mean that he has to purify himself, whether with soil or water. But if a dog drinks from his vessel, then he has to throw away the water and wash it seven times with water and the eighth time with soil, if he wants to use it. If he makes it just for the dog then he does not have to purify it.
It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The purification of the vessel of one of you, if a dog licks it, is to wash it seven times, the first time with soil.” Nararted by Muslim, 279.
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
With regard to dogs, there are three views among the scholars:
1 – That they are taahir (pure), even their saliva. This is the view of Maalik.
2 – That they are naajis (impure), even their hair. This is the view of al-Shaafa’i and is one of the two views narrated from Ahmad.
3 – Their hair is taahir but their saliva is naajis. This is the view of Abu Haneefah and of Ahmad in the other report narrated from him.
This is the most correct view. So if the wetness of the dog’s hair gets onto one’s garment or body, that does not make it naajis. End quote.
Majmoo’ al-Fataawa, 21/530.
Elsewhere he said:
That is because the basic principle is that substances are taahir, and it is not permissible to regard anything as naajis or haraam without evidence, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“while He has explained to you in detail what is forbidden to you, except under compulsion of necessity?”
[al-An’aam 6:119]
“And Allaah will never lead a people astray after He has guided them until He makes clear to them as to what they should avoid”
[al-Tawbah 9:115]
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The purification of the vessel of one of you, if a dog licks it, is to wash it seven times, the first time with soil” – and in another hadeeth, “If a dog licks a vessel…” All of the ahaadeeth mention licking only; they do not mention any other part of the dog, regarding them as naajis is based only on analogy.
Moreover, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) granted a concession allowing people to keep dogs for hunting, herding and farming. The one who keeps them must touch the wetness of their hair, just as happens in the case of mules, donkeys, etc. To suggest that their hair is naajis when touching them cannot be avoided could impose undue hardship, which is not what the Lawgiver intended for this ummah.
Majmoo’ al-Fataawa, 21/217, 218
To be on the safe side it is better, if a person touches a dog and there is something wet on his hand, or if there is something wet on the dog, to wash his hand seven times, one of which should be with soil. Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen said:
With regard to touching this dog, if there is no wetness then it does not make the hand naajis, but if he touches it and there is any wetness, then this means that the hand becomes naajis according to the view of many scholars, and the hand must be washed after that seven times, one of which should be with soil. End quote.
Conclusion:
It is not permissible to keep dogs except for hunting or guarding livestock and crops, and it is permissible to keep them for guarding houses so long as that is outside the city and that there is no other means of guarding the house. The Muslim should not imitate the kuffaar by running with the dog or touching its mouth and kissing it, which causes many diseases.
for this pure and perfect sharee’ah, which came to set people’s spiritual and worldly affairs straight, but most people do not realize.
What is the virtue of reading the Qur’aan at night when people are asleep?.
Answer:
Praise be to Allah.
It is proven in the saheeh Sunnah that the Qur’aan will intercede for those who read it at night, as Ahmad (6626) narrated from ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Amr that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Fasting and the Qur’aan will intercede for a person on the Day of Resurrection. Fasting will say, ‘O Lord, I deprived him of his food and his desires during the day, so let me intercede for him.’ And the Qur’aan will say: ‘I deprived him of his sleep at night so let me intercede for him.’ Then they will intercede.” Narrated by Ahmad; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, no. 3882.
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) stated that reading the Qur’aan at night is one of the blessings that the believer is to be envied for. He said: “There should be no envy except in two cases: a man to whom Allaah teaches the Qur’aan, so he recites it during the night and during the day, and his neighbour hears him and says, ‘Would that I had been given what So and so has been given and I could do what he does, and a man to whom Allaah gives wealth so he spends it all for the sake of the truth, and a man says, ‘Would that I had been given what So and so has been given and I could do what he does.’” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 4738.
Reading Qur’aan at night saves one from negligence, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever reads ten verses at night will not be recorded as one of the negligent.” Narrated by al-Haakim, who said it is saheeh according to the conditions of Muslim. Al-Albaani said in Saheeh al-Targheeb wa’l-Tarheeb (640): It is saheeh because of corroborating reports.
And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever observes these prescribed prayers regularly will not be recorded as one of the negligent, and whoever reads one hundred verses in a night will be recorded as one of the devout.” Narrated by Ibn Khuzaymah in his Saheeh, and by al-Haakim, who said it is saheeh according to the conditions of both (al-Bukhaari and Muslim). It was also classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Targheeb wa’l-Tarheeb, 640.
Allaah has described the pious as follows (interpretation of the meaning):
“They used to sleep but little by night [invoking their Lord (Allaah) and praying, with fear and hope].
18. And in the hours before dawn, they were (found) asking (Allaah) for forgiveness”
some50686: Hi Everyone, i got married in 2018, We are both working class.. I am in my 34 while my wife is in her late 28. My wife has been denying me sex, we rarely have sex. sometimes we can go for over a month without sex. Whenever i ask for sex, she just complains she is tired and that is it. Sometimes i would plead and try yet she wont accept. What pains me the most is the way she react when i try to approach her. She would yell and begin to shout what nonsense is this, who is this now? To the point i only could initiate sex, sat morning and even with that she still refuses. Before we got married I sat her down and told her about this issue, that i hear about it from my married friends and dont want to experience such, she assured me and said our wont be like that but our is now worse. I am not sure we had sex more than 12 times the whole of last year.
The first time i sat her down, i asked her why she is doing all this to me, she complained i dont show her enough love, that she wants me to do more house chores, and also take her to eat outside and watch movies. I told her i will try. Although i knw am not the most romantic guy around, but i try the little ways I can, we sometimes go to see the movies. I do laundry on sat, help with ironing all the clothes she would wear during the week and cook a very few time. I ensured we got a maid so she wont be pressure by house chores. I also gave her my only car so she doesnt need to enter public transport, buy food from great eateries and even icecreams, almost every other week. But she has not changed, the last major fight we had was about 3months ago and it was about sex cause she denied me for no reason. Sex has always been the source of our quarrel. She was even telling me to go meet the maid since i am always so nice to the maid one time i tried to have sex. I really feel pained, like she is taking me for a ride because of my cool and easy going attitude. I have never raised my hand on my wife or even used abusive words. I even try to ask her how work is and gist with her to increase our bonding, yet all to no avail. I am someone who doesnt like going out to share and i believe the issue can only be fixed by the both of us, but this one is begining to drag for too long and from the look of things i am the one at the loosing end. I will go to my inlaws place and smile, nobody know how mean their daughter is to me, i too feel very ashamed raising the matter with my father inlaw. Last week i tried to initiate sex the same rejection, she is tired. I felt very frustrated and am now seriously considering cheating even though i am a Christian. Cheating is not right, cause it is expensive and emotionally draining, exposes one to STDs and it is against my Christian faith but what can i do? Sometime i have had to masturbate to suppress my sexual urge, but for how long can one continue to do this? I feel very ashamed coming to nairaland but what can i do. But dont get me wrong o, my wife has her good sides but this sex issue is really beginning to hurt and it does nt look like she would change anytime soon from the way she has been behaving.
Even if she doesnt find me attractive, should that be enough reason to continue to deny me sex after 3 months. Right now we are not speaking at the moment, cause i am mad with her. The next day after all she did, she come to greet me in the morning and acts like nothing happen. This is how she does and most time i always over look it, but the one from last week really hurt the most. I feel I have made a mistake marrying her. She also doesn't really care about my eating, most time she is only bothered about what our son and the maid will eat. I always have to go to the kitchen and look for what to eat, sometimes i get food outside. Even though i always drop food money. since we started quarrelling she has stopped cooking for me. Just very frustrated.
To the experienced married men in the house, what can i do the address this issue. I am considering collecting my car, not that it would be of any use to me , just to frustrate her
go out and make new bitches friends and watch how your stupid wife will open her leg like MTN mass
no men would want to marry a 1000 diameter blackhole
when there are young you will see those ape forming "he is not my type" "must have 6figure" blabla bla, but once there are getting old even goat will be a suitable candidate for them to get married to!
you see! the problem with Naija women is that they lack common sense! dey think just by having a hole and two grape they can rule the world but little did they know that this world is be ruled by men.
Rapmoney: In as much as we always try to paint and re-paint realities, they still stare at us in the eyes with the greatest level of confidence or boldness you can think of.
I am using this post to offer a candid advice to Nigerian graduates within the 2.2 grade level, especially, those folks who graduated within the last 2 years. I said this because I should think most of the folks who graduated 5 to 10 years ago would have been able to create something for themselves, whether on a small or large scale.
Graduating with a 2.2 grade should not make you start dwelling on how you did it wrong and what you could have done and not have done. Your 2.2 grade does not mean you are not intelligent or brilliant. Certificates from Nigerian higher institutions these days have lost their true value and relevance. There is little or no difference between university certificates and cardboard papers or wallpapers. Your 2.2 grade should give you the signal that the labour market is not friendly to you because even the first class and 2.1 graduates are not finding it easy as well. Except you have strong connections, you may never get that dream job of yours with your 2.2 cert. It is the truth. There is no proverbial Good Samaritan anywhere. Stop waiting and act.
ADVICE FOR 2.2 GRADUATES
1. Stop looking for that dream job that is almost nonexistent. Get productive in any small firm that employs you. Even if the salary is not big. Make sure you save aggressively like a mad man. Give yourself few years and start your own business in any lucrative industry you have interest in and passion for. Grow your business diligently and gradually. Make sure your eyes are wide open kokoroko like those of a hawk. No room for distractions from unserious friends. Business first.
2. Humble yourself and learn a good lucrative skill. Nigerian university education is almost like a scam! The country does not possess the industrial capacity to absorb graduates from most of the departments and faculties you fancifully look at in JAMB brochure. Again, without connections, there is no Good Samaritan out there. Go learn a good skill and TRY TO BE VERY GOOD AT IT; it should not even be related to what you studied in school. You should explore other career paths in life.
The Nigerian society does not always believe in 'practicalize what you can do for us to see'. So even if you are a very bright person who graduated with a 2.2 due to some unfortunate circumstances, you may never get that chance to prove your worth or knowledge to get employed in your dream industry. That is how the system is. Yes, it is all messed up you would say. And you are right. The system believes in connections laced with mediocrity and financial gratification.
My candid contribution...
Happy Weekend!
this is the advice you only give to you and your family members
just because you came from a poverty family and graduate with 2.2 doesn't mean you can start writing rubbish to Console yourself!
the system we have in Nigeria is "who know who" even those who came out with first class are still in the street looking for job!
I have seen many pass or third class grade in a high position and making waves?
your stupid president Buhari and his cabinet crew check them out. them didn't comes out with any grade not talkless of passed grade but look at them making stupid rules and laws to suppress imbec1le like you
if you have brain enough which I know you don't have, you will see that this system is so fvcked up that the rich are trying to suppress the poor by making rubbish law that favours them!
why is the outside world system so good that you will be thinking of leaving this shit hole? do they have ten heads?
so give this humble advise to you and your fvcking families since you have already decided that you won't make it!
Please have you ever been asked "what do you want from me?" by a lady that you just wanted to help with no strings attached?
I was driving home yesterday after work and a lady (average looking) flagged me to stop and i decided to stop and gave her a lift. I asked her where she was going and she mentioned a bustop before mine and i said lucky you... We had a lil chat as i drove her and she seemed really fun, We got to her bustop and i offered to be taking her to work in the morning since she stays close to my place. Then suddenly her face changed and she asked the annoying question "Oga what do you want from me?".. at that point i was dumbfounded and sad at same time. But i had to quickly smile and said "nothing" then i drove off.
For me i find it sad, a lot of people are not used to good people doing good things without wanting anything in return.
How do you feel and react when asked that question?
Please share yours
you are a stupid boy!
is it only women you can offer to be taking to work? are there no fellow men to offer this kind gesture?
Mr man stupid boy? if you are offering kind gesture, do it to your fellow men
we know you want to keep that bitch as December chicken
but she saw through you and asked what do you want?
Romance / Re: How Much Should I Consider Safe To Have In My Bank Before Thinking On Wedding? by womenareapes: 12:30pm On Nov 24, 2020 
