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Breaststroke:
OP,

I perfectly understand you and I don't think you're being insecure, my cousin and a childhood friend are the same way as your wife and it bothers me.

My childhood pal has always been a high flying, slay queen long before the term 'slay queen' hit us. Even her mother once said calm down, you want to walk before you crawl.

She's married now but there are rumours of her dating one of her organization's top clients.

Sorry I don't have any real advice other than to say, you're not insecure or crazy for wanting more and better from your spouse.

I just pity those inexperienced ones shouting insecure, low self esteem etc. Some would just come here to give advise they cant take in the name of being civil on faceless forum for that matter.

Op should just spy on her and send the idiot packing if found guilty.

ststyreal:
So what happens to a cheating husband, if the wife is like Ebola Will CCTV go out with the wife? Or follow her wherever she goes?? Most women knows that the first call of search is their phone, hence some of them have a spare sim for calling without the husband's knowledge. What am I saying in summary, a faithful man shouldn't worry about tracking a cheating wife cos the truth will surface without a stress from the husband.... Note, I am only referring to a faithful man, who isn't cheating on his wife but if you are an unfaithful man and your evil mind is telling you that your wife is doing same, hence you are trying to catch her, I tell you, you will Neva get any evidence untill you the husband put a stop to yours, only then will her wayward lifestyle be made known to you. Nothing beats faithfulness in marriage... And a home filled with God's presence.... May God give us the grace to be faithful to one another amen....

The way some of you ladies replying to this thread is just so irritating and quite pathetic. Cheating is bad irrespective of whoever indulge in it, but using it as an excuse to commit adultery in marriage is wrong, and i dont think it should be encourage for whatever reason. A responsible woman with self respect/dignity would rather divorce the said husband than messing herself around.

piroux:
The second paragraph made a lot of sense actually. And i agree. I personally don't intend to cheat in marriage and i will not take such from a partner.

However, your first paragraph is totally obsolete. Women who cheat these days have alternatives unfortunately. Men marry them, they move on and have more children, they have jobs and play the field. A lot of them sustain and keep the homes and men cannot cope without them. Infact, why do you think there are more men forgiving cheating spouses? Their wives feed the homes, they provide. The age when cheating was a man only thing was when men alone sustained and provided for their homes. Now, the playing field has been leveled.

If any man considers himself the head of his home, let him set a good example in fidelity and loyalty. A man who cheats deserves a community vagina. If you want faithfulness, lay a good example and give it.

In my opinion, only an unintelligent person excuses infidelity in men and tackles that of women. Marriage is a give and take. No one is an idiot. What you cannot take, don't dish out.

How many women can sustained and provided for their homes in this country for 5 years, probably the percentage would be too low. Besides, why would a woman be taking advantage of her husband and starts cheating because she is a bread winner?

Are you saying for every cheating wife, there must be an unfaithful husband in her life?

Whenever this type of issue is raise, dont you think is more appropriate to address it as it is rather than using another wrong did to justify our points?

piroux:
I would have come up with a solution with you if you sounded remotely intelligent in your ridiculous assertions. But you didn't. Especially when you added that men can cheat and women can't.

So I'm done.

It's ironic that you call yourself modern ways though, you should call yourself "Oldstyle" "Yesterday's idea" or "Throwback"

Men can cheat and women can't, yen, yen, yen!

When you come up with ideas on how to make husbands stop cheating, then you will find a way to make wives stop. In the meantime, women will cheat with as much impunity as men have for ages. And everyone will suffer together.

You dont say this madam, it is quite unfortunate that women are not at advantage when talking about cheating, unlike men, you lose everything and the person you are cheating with might not even marry or talk to you again after being caught.

Both men and women should remain loyal and faithful to one another, there is no gain in messing yourself around because of sex or material gain if two persons can become one and works toward their progress. Nothing good can ever come out of cheating but destruction and pains.

modernWays:
The rate of infidelity among married women is so alarming these days, and one keep wondering if there are somethings their husbands dont have that the next man possessed or can we simply call it stupidity or moral decadency. Some are even robbing it on your face by having sex with a next door neighbour or one useless broke guy in the street. Office romance are not left out.


As we all know, a cheating wife is as dangerous as cancer to her husband. Apart from the life of her husband she would put in danger, what about bringing disease or another man's child to your home.

What women should know is that, they have a lot to lose if they're caught. Apart from losing your blessed home, you lose your value and dignity as well as puting yourself in shame especially if your husband is someone who cannot bear the pain alone.

Note: Men are not saint, men could cheat and still be responsible at home, the moment a woman start having sex outside her marriage, she became an endanger specie to her husband.

So what is the best and fastest way to catch such a woman.

CCTV at home and hacking of her phones. Be smart enough to pick points from her statements and body language.

If you eventually discover the truth, dont ever forgive her, a cheating wife is as deadly as Ebola virus.

banio:

Overdose of herbal medicine damages kidney, liver and other internal organs. It kills within two weeks

Keep listen to pure lie feeding you by pharmaceutical industries.

Do you know how many people that have been cured of various sicknesses western scientics are claiming there are no cure by herbal medicine.

Honorable Mamora and other dignities who attended the summit are not daft.