₦airaland Forum

Charly68:
Every man should provide for his family..no matter what your wife is earning..God will bless you more and more as you purpose to play your role as the father of the house. Father means source . Source of supply ,blessing and wisdom etc. Your wife knows how to help you where necessary. She will do that without stress. She may want to see your faithfulness in providing for household first before knowing what to do. To me ,it is unmanly to sit down with your wife and be discussing shared responsibility . Be the man and see God making room for you

How much does her father make.
Sometimes use wisdom. A man is supposed to take care BUT he foots all bills gives her monthly allowance and she’s still complaining.
My problem with women is not asking for money it’s what you do with it. Buying high end fashion and forming my husband is rich and you’ll want to kill the man when children come along instead of planning/investing ahead of time.
Any sensible woman that her husband provides everything for should be looking to increase wealth not splash money on crap because it’s the good days.
It will ALWAYS come back to haunt you.

Especially when your children start approaching their teen years and you’re close to retirement with nothing to show for it.

Lol. It’s interesting to see how common sense is lacking.
Your wife does not and will never love you...all she wants to do is spend recklessly. She’s not talking about investments or trustfund for kids just gimme gimme.

The problem is not the money it’s the lack of empathy and consideration. Una no go look well go marry.

trutharena:
Oga the lady is working in the supermarket in Abuja. Is that not a job?

Lol. Do you know how much they pay? 30k If your lucky and it’s a big supermarket OTHERWISE NA 25k and you will eat and still transport with that money and pay rent and buy toiletries. Even if you manage to die and save 40% per month
You CANNOT afford rent of anywhere near the city meaning you MUST be staying in the outskirts, or perching with someone...EXCEPT if you have a side hustle which you Still CANNOT do because you’re in the shop on 12 hr shifts IF THE SHOP IS BIG AND CAN AFFORD SHIFTS otherwise you’re there all day.
Before the 31st of every month you are neck deep in debt Lol.
So when you go to the supermarket you see the sales girls as “well-to-do” as per it is a well paying job? So you will send your daughter to be a sales girl because it pays well? LMAOOOOOOOO GOD HELP YOU

tamdun:
Now does this girl look like someone that can't afford 75k? Him tu lie said she's been looking for 75k since 2018 haba, Mr obi small small na

So makeup kit of 2,000 naira and studio picture of 300 is well to do. May poverty not afflict usz

Toluwanise247:
Obi is doing the same thing MKO did and nobody is saying anything. Please arrest this dog on time .

MKO sponsored ThRee military coups just to get close to power. Lol.
Emilokan the first.

Blackhacker:
If me and my girlfriend both agree to do an abortion and she died during the abortion process what will happens to me

Smh. Which kind amateur waka be this. Hope it’s not a quack clinic they will rupture her womb o

SmartGadgetz:
Bruh no do abortion, it's too bad. Don't dream of it, you are killing your son or daughter.

She wants to live, don't kill her.
If you do, you will face the implication throughout your life.

Don't risk the death of the child and your gf.

Rubbish talk. What of the ones wey dey die upon delivery or 3 months in. Lol.

Kobojunkie:
1. Do your yourself adhere to the golden rule? If you did, you would never consider marrying a woman in order to have her submit to you in marriage nor would you consider sitting as a god over her in your relationships.

2. Are you willing to disavow your custom and traditional laws and Torituals which fuel all you have tabled there?

I adhere to the golden rule to the best of my ability and will never demand from you that which I cannot do for you.
I’m not a sitting god, you can do whatever you like with your as long as it doesn’t jeopardize our relationship.
You must be not be naive or gullible falling for cheap tricks men play especially when I’ve given you all the secrets.
If you do, it’ll just reduce your status in my eye and I’ll end things.
I do not obey any traditional or customary laws/rituals, what we do for us is what we AGREE should be done as serves us. I won’t make you a slave, I don’t need you to cook, clean or wash anything for me. Just don’t be a dirt piler yourself or a food conscious person.

I’ve loved people that left me and I never regretted or reduced how much love I gave to the next person because there is only one way to love.

You cannot be a bad boyfriend/girlfriend and be a wonderful husband/wife or father/mother.
The way you handle 1 shows how you will treat 3 or 4 .
You can only play how you train.

EriMma1:
Leave that feminist bullshit! That's what you men are using as excuse to dodge responsibilities these days.

By the way, feminism is widely misunderstood. It doesn't mean equality with men in the area of financial responsibilities but equality of rights to work, earn and occupy certain office and political positions. You are just being ridiculous to think feminism is all about sharing financial responsibilities equally. No!

To your question, a womans duty is to make sure the home is in order and the children and husband are well fed and cared for. Manages the husbands finance very well. Proper Home and financial management are what we bring to the table.

Are you a Christian? Did you read the golden rule? Of doing unto others as you would have them do unto you? As long as you keep deceiving yourself whether man or woman you will never find fulfillment in any companionship until you do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
All this male role and female role bullshit is the way of the world. A world of selfish people who want to leech off another person’s sweat.
Men feel when they pay for everything they get a slave, women feel a man should pay for everything but still shouldn’t tell her what she can or cannot do. How about everybody make their own money and then meet at the table with equal duties.
Y’all are funny.

Smh

Acidosis:
What else would you have done with your time if you hadn't gone to school?

Bought bitcoin and fvcking slept off. That’s what. School sucks.

Don’t ever date or marry anybody that takes theor pastor’s word as God’s word.

Legitisreal:
Adaobi try to also condem sit at home

Why are you pained.

I know an extremely cheap project when I see one. Substandard materials on fleek.
On paper, hundreds of millions have been quoted.

I want to go out but I want the outside to come to me not the other way around.

franchasofficia:
[s][/s]To me, she is not entirely wrong for many reasons. Unless she is a materialistic lady before now, only you can tell cos you are the one that knows her better than we do.


Over time, I have come to realize that women of our time are more focused by on their life goals than men.


Most women don't marry anyhow again unless they are getting aged and just need a sperm donor for procreation purposes, that is when they can settle for just any man willing to marry them.


But on a normal situation today, most modern ladies don't want to marry just anybody in the name of marriage, and I personally applaud them for that. Women are calculative when making marriage decision unlike men who make marriage decision based on how their dick rises and how their dick makes them feel for a girl.


Love is not enough reason to marry anybody in our current world and time. Love cannot pay bills. Love cannot pay rent. Love cannot feed a family. Neither can love pay school fees.


Don't be deceived by makebelieve movies you watch on Nollywood, Hollywood, Bollywood, etc films, their storylines don't always reflect the reality of life.


Many Nigerians foolishly believe that you can marry as a broke person and after marriage, whatever luck will shine on you and boom you blow and become rich and your wife that married you as a poor or broke guy starts to enjoy wealth, just as they portray in Nollywood films, but little did they know that all those things are lies, just mere imagination of the movie script writer which hardly happens in real life. I don't think there are up to 5% of married people that married broke and later became rich or comfortable in Nigeria. The number is very small and negligible to make any reasonable person to take such risk today.

And if you go close to those that married broke and later became rich or comfortable in life, you will discover that they were prepared for success, how? Most had a job and just starting a career, so it is normal for them to grow in their career with time. Some of them had business they were doing and it is also normal for a small business to grow bigger if managed properly. Some had saleable skills they were honing or grooming, some studied lucrative courses or were studying and in the process got good jobs and grew from there, so luck didn't just shine on them from nowhere without preparations.



If its true that after a broke guy marries, marital luck will open doors for him and he will start to succeed financially and become financially buoyant or rich, then we wouldn't have more than 100 million married poor Nigerians today. If life happens that way, your parents ought to be rich, your poor friend's parents too ought to be rich since they also married poor.



To succeed financially in life, you must be smart in your thinking, you must be calculative in all your dealings in life, and you must be very wise and realistic in all your critical life decisions like marriage.



Please dear Nigerian guys, don't marry anyhow again oh, life has changed. Opportunities of survival are reducing daily due to oversaturation in almost all human endeavors due to global overpopulation oh.


Don't marry a jobless girl in the name of you love her, she loves you....don't marry any girl in the name of she is beautiful, she is young, she is fertile, she has sexy shape, because by the time poverty and financial pressure hit you in marriage, you will hate her without even remembering how beautiful or sexy she is.


Don't even marry any girl just because she knows how to cook or clean the house or greet people, those are outdated qualities to use as sole reason to marry any girl.


Marry wisely for your own future and for the better future of your unborn kids.


Marry ladies with saleable skills.

Marry ladies that have good career.

Marry ladies that are financially productive.

Marry only ladies that are pursuing a career or a sustainable business or trade.

Stop marrying broke, jobless, lazy girls no matter how rich you think you are.


How many rich guys do you see marrying broke, jobless girls?


Son of former IG of Police married Aliko Dangote's daughter.


Son of Oil Billionaire Indimi married President Buhari's daughter.


Tinubu's son married the daughter of a global shipping line MD.


British Royal Prince Harry married Meghan Merkle who is an American A-list Actress.


Former US President Donald Trump's daughter married the son of a business tycoon. Where do I start or stop?


Only boys from poor families rush to marry broke, jobless girls without tangible career or saleable skill once they mistakenly hit money via Yahoo or one off business deal that makes them feel arrived, and few years down the line they go back to their poverty and financial struggle trenches just because of their mistake in marrying foolishly in the name of romantic love and showoff.


Nigerian guys stop marrying anyhow. Put on your thinking cap, stop encouraging Nigerian girls to be lazy and unproductive. That small millions you think you have is nothing when economic difficulty hits you.


Stop looking at flimsy things when picking a wife, we are no longer in the 1970s or 1980s, so you cannot marry for the same reasons your father married your mom, time have changed, global economy have changed, life is becoming more and more difficult all over the world, so you need a lady that is ready to work and partner with you in building a prosperous family, not just popping out kids every 9 months.


Marry a lady that can sustain the family financially if anything happens to you and renders you financially or physically incapacitated for months or even years.


And if you must marry a jobless lady, make sure you have the financial means to set her up with a profitable business or career or skill, and make sure she is ready for this and not just being ready with mouth, be sure she is truly prepared and ambitious to chart her own financial course with little assistance at the beginning. Don't think opening a supermarket or clothing or hair salon for your wife means she now has a job, most of the time, they end up squandering the business capital without anything to show for it. Consider all these things before you marry any lady today.



It is better they call you gold digger than for you to end up marrying a financial liability that will destroy your future.


Back to your topic, the lady is not confident in what you are doing now. She doesn't see a future in those things you are doing and she is scared marrying you may land her into another poverty she has been into under her parents. Its either you sit her down and explain to her why you don't want to rent a bigger apartment and also tell her your future plans, what you want in life, your goals, your financial plans, and while doing this, also ask her her own financial goals and plans in marriage. How does she intend to contribute in building her marriage, supporting her husband in achieving a successful family? Hear her out and also consider what she is currently doing, the course she studied also matters, the skills she has and what she has been using them for currently and her utterances. Her friends; what are they doing, how far have they gone in life?



Consider her family background too, can you cope with their own financial baggage, if any? Is she from a family that can support you or her in growing financially? Will they mar your own growth with their numerous financial problems and requests?



Marry wisely oh if not, you and your unborn kids go hear am oh[s][/s]

You just said rubbish but I no get time to argue.

@op listen, the minute any woman mentions to your face or behind your back your material status, or profession or anything tangible as a reason to (or not to) marry you, just WALK AWAY.

TobiArchy:
where in Enugu

Sorry o. Just saw this.
Tank Bustop by Nowas BUT
for now , it’s pick up or home delivery delivery.
No Diner yet.

Britishcoins:
Pls my fellow Nairalanders, I am in confused state of mind right now... I am in my early 30. I am not super rich but I am financially comfortable, at least living in my own apartment and having a business that give me atleast 600k monthly.
I am equally the first son and my parents are late, so I am like the head of the family to my younger ones...
Age is no longer at my side and I have no reason why I am still single.. But there is a problem.
I have plenty female admires.. Even some which was suggested for me through families and friends.. But only 2 of them I will talk abt now

Let me call one of them Judith and the other one IFEOMA.
Judith is from from the same local government with me.. I knew her when she was still in secondary school and I was apprentice then... I don't even know what was called love then.. We only greet like brother and sisters because we are in far away north then.
I have relocated to another state and she too is now undergraduate, studying nursing at uni zik Awka. I normally call her because I was in good term with her mother.. She feel in love with me. But my own fear is that I am not sure if she will understand the language of hardship. She was only Dauther and last born, the family is average comfortable.
The only thing she always rely most is her beauty... She is so beautiful no wonder she just won a beauty queen competition, the sun newspaper even carry the news.. But her beauty is not what attracted me..
Last December I visited her parent with just one of my uncle and they welcomed us very well..
Another issue is that she still have abt 4 years to finish her education.. And I don't want to waste more than 2 years ahead.


Now let me talk abt IFEOMA. She is from Nsukka, very far from my local government.
She is living with her sister here in the same state I am staying...
She is 25 and years and Judith is 22 years.
She is NCE holder.. Based on my findings so far she is good in business and came from a poor family too.. She is equally a virgin, I am very sure of it..
She not too beautiful but have showed her love to me... The problem is that I have no feelings for her.. But I love her hard working..
I am planning to invite Judith to spend some weeks with me to understand her characters.

Pls I don't know how to write more..
Which one should I marry?

None of what you said about either individual is a criteria for marriage.
But don’t marry for looks...marry who fit dey for you as you dey for am...especially when road no too smooth. Nuff said.

E still no go raise voice when those he perceives to be superiors call her by her name.
If you must make a rule, it must cover everyone OTHERWISE his message is loud and clear...You are “below” him.

Untether yourself.

Nemesis0147:
Good morning fams,

Hope you guys are good?
Please can someone survive on a 10k weekly pay in this country?
What prompted me to ask this question is because our last born…during my days in school,we survived on a 30k in Esut and this was allowance apart from foodstuffs and textbooks and this was just 2016.
I use to take food stuffs when going back to school.
But our last born (brother) who is still in 100 level can’t survive with 100k for a semester….
We do give him food stuffs and money for textbooks separately…
He just called our mother that he is out of cash…dy no born am well to call me sha…
me and my immediate young brother want to place him on a weekly pay instead of monthly/semester…..what do you guys think?

He is spoilt...

mabea:
Yeah for someone who doesn't have a family. No matter how bad a brother is if you lose him you would wish that things were different.

More crap. Your daughter is more important than your brother.
You did not bring your brother into this world.

mabea:
What if that brother of yours needed help too? What if he was abused when he was much younger? I'm not condoning his actions but I think the boy needs saving. He's in bondage already and should be rescued from total destruction.

Rubbish talk.

STARGREEN:
So deep, yet trust me she's equally feeling bad as much as you are that her own brother that should have protected her daughter is now the evil she's scared of.

It's not a sufficient reason to divorce her, but it's a sufficient reason to ask for space until you heal.

Trust me, you gonna overcome this issue with time. Get back to your feet bro.

Lmao Lmao lmao lmao.

No matter how bad government is the fact that some people’s parents will support it shows you nigeria is finished.

Lol. Withdrawal limit lmao. “A good thing”...

Anybody that remotely knows economics knows this is just a ticking time bomb.

This is what happens when “qualified” “learned” classroom professors who have never ran a business or microeconomy jump into banking. Lol

Early signs of a failed state 101.

Delay panic, create thin foil money policy that is bound to explode at any minute.

Smh. Dey still dey fight sef. Smh. Wtf.
Smh.

Dey dun knack this one wife e dey use style cry.

Patriottt:
I sense laziness..

Suffer merchant. Why not go back to riding horses too... why you dey even use phone.

ONE SIMPLE thing for solve this thing.
Could have aborted it and moved on.