If you truly love each other you will marry and remove your reproductive ducts and adopt babies. But naaaaa. Y’all playing.

ISellBeer:
God bless you OP
Once you get married (for guys) you will start noticing that your prick might not stand for months, it's not infection but more bills that keep Pilling up for you to settle.

I only did traditional wedding and I am not doing any white wedding. White wedding is a scam also, can't fall for that.

I just dey vex anyhow, this Tinubu ehhhh, make I see am first

Na this part Dey always make me laugh, who forced you into it? Nobody.

spiSeyi:
Just because you don't know how to maintain a vehicle doesn't make the vehicle model bad. Honda is bad yet it's a good car for those that can maintain it. Just because you failed in your marriage doesn't make marriage a scam. People who conclude that marriage is a scam are those that allow emotions to becloud their sense of reasoning by chosing to ignore the red flags during courtship . I repeat Marriage is not a scam and it is the best institution in life if you enter it logically and with Godly principle. Read Waiting & Dating by Myles munroe

Once anybody starts quoting books I know they’re the type with a billion mentors and have never finished any project they started.
Marriage is not the best institution in life and is not meant for everybody.
Men who are down bad NEED women to feel like men.
Women take advantage of men to complete their life cycle through birth and cheat for the rest of the marriage while the man continues to sweat to keep the family together either that or woman is suffering endlessly to cater to family while man is useless.
The smal percentage of TRULY happy couples that exist outside of this did not read any books and are often outliers with their own unique way of life, never found in a church, mosque or whatever place where people gather to lure and induce themselves into doctrines.
The end.

Lmao “allow”.
If na to cheat now dey go dey find parent’s permission?
Not knowing what you want for yourself is enough sign that you ARE NOT READY for marriage.
Lmao “parents allow”.

Person wey never make money run for man house dey find parents house to run back to.

Make your own money, move on and stay on your own.
No go back to give your parent’s headache.

Contrary to most here, her spirit seems good.
but try make am within a few years after service otherwise this long note go be story.
Women are social climbers.

If he truly loves you he should go broke to pay bride price and you have the nerve to come here to lament.

This is to all intending bachelors, if you ever complain about money and your woman insists on spending it on frivolity instead of trying to see what she can do to reduce it, you will have yourself to blame soonest. I don’t make the rules.

This OP dun shayo.

Beautiful story. I orgasmed while reading.

He provides for you innit?
Just take wetin you see, bear am.

He doesn’t owe you faithfulness, you were not there when he was sweating to be successful and even if you were you were doing nothing but waiting.

The end.

If he can take care of 1, he can manage 2.
That’s why if you’re a polygamist you should never change Cos women don’t love you.

oyeb15:
Most babes carry so much shit in their body. They will be fresh, big butty and sultry. But when u enter their palace with your fagile head, you are gone.

The curse on some na wahala. Some na witch. Anytime I bleep one girl, I go just go broke. My car go get problem. Na so I run.

Lmaooooo laugh wan wound me.

Una no dey ever hear word. Na now you just find out say you dey married and your wife wan born??!

There will always be vagïna in the world, INSIST on test results BEFORE any rubbish...
No woman on earth is worth the trouble of an STI.

Contrary to most of the comments most Igbo fathers will die before they allow you alter their plans no matter how rich you might be as a child and you might send the money for the renovation and still hear endless stories on why it wasn’t done.
Therefore you might have to wait until their death to do the needful.

“Ego”. Same reason why most don’t upgrade their business and it dies when they die too.

ban cars next lmao...how are Nigerians so street-smart and clueless?? Kidnappers dey inside bush you dey talk about tinted glass. Lmao.

I have ZERO respect for all public office holders. Clueless , wasteful, woeful.

Clueless thieves wey suppose dey chop slap per second.
Stop worshipping those that ruined your future.

If she’s a good woman yes.
Because she won’t do shizt for you except you’re providing. The end.

Always remember, the minute you stop providing you’re a liability which is why you should NEVER lower your standards for a woman....

To catch her cheating, simply tell her to prepare for a lie detector test on Saturday at 10am.
Don’t answer any further questions .
WHEN she fails to show up to your house at the appointed time or throughout the day, tell her anytime she shows up you’re going so it doesn’t matter if she delays, she’s just wasting her own time.
Watch her not come anywhere near your house for a month or claim she’s “in a hurry” and will just drop by quickly.
Lol. But you’re in love and you wish what I’m saying wasn’t true.
A trial will convince you.

In the end all they want is your money. Remember this always.

Nice.

folake4u:


I'm pained? And you typed this long epistle for me? Better look yourself in the mirror.

You read it, same time spent. Run along.

Richpet85:
Most often men suffer more separation in marriage more than women. In my case it was less than 5years my darling wife became a total stranger and can hardly talk with me, spend time or share her experience, happiness and pains with me. Till today am still looking for way of having my lovingly, kind hearted and sweet wife back. Thou for my peace of mind I have decided to stay on my own and let her leave in her world just to have a peaceful marriage because I can't afford a broken home.

She doesn’t give a shizt and is already on another man’s phallus. You idealism is the same as all men, the idea that any other woman asides your mom can love you is false.

ahnie:

Sorry to asked....are you sure you're okay?
Just asking?

You may never even get a reply from me.

Like I said enjoy your broken home in peace okay? I’m not the reason why your husband lost interest in you.
Most of you have the personality of a table spoon, listen to your mothers too much and will end up making the same mistakes they made.
You’re on here crying about a Nigerian husband you married, why not leave the marriage since you’re not happy? You can’t because HE PROVIDES FOR YOU.
That’s economic slavery, and a slave is in no position to tell their master how to treat them.
Now go and wash those plates and after washing mop the roof, while preparing baby food while washing your husband’s clothes all at once, nobody send your desperation and no amount of skin-like-milk cream will help the wrinkles already appearing on your face. Peace to you. The end.

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folake4u:
This woman and her pastor husband, Kingsley Okonkwo talk too much. No filter, just keeping stirring controversies nonstop.

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You are pained.
Everyday we hear about broke men and how women can’t settle for a man that is struggling lol, ordinary transport you are crying.
Why will you want to go and see a man and you don’t have transport or rather you CLAIM you don’t have transport but will spend 5x the amount fixing meaningless lashes and hair.

wirinet:

But why then if a man wants to extend his territoriality to include other economic outlets, these same women would start crying.

It’s fake tears they will stay wherever there is comfort. Lol.
The worst thing you can do is to act like a monogamist when you are indeed a polygamist just because of a woman...if roles reversed they would never consider you before jumping on the next man’s phallus for “safety and financial security”.

Shinjawestside:


Invest that money in crypto and use it to trade ..

2 million naira business will take u no where ...

A person with 2million available capital shouldn’t start any business that needs more than 10% = 200k.
“Nowhere” is not an honest projection.
Impatience is the bane of many that don’t understand the numbers game.

SayNo2SmallPrik:

Could run into billions. Says person wey no fit maintain ordinary POS business. E sweet for mouth. Same business wey Otedola say he almost commit su!c!de untop.

There are different classes of Investment not just asset trading.
The maintenance of any business lies in long term availability of cash capital.
If you need 6m to start a business you should have ATLEAST 30m in cash to support that business, split quaterly over the next 5 years (which is usually the time when most businesses fail) putting your ALL into a business at the start is recipe for failure.
Money only respects planning and calculation not projection and speculation.

What % of Otedola’s Capital was invested in the said business? Complacency is the worst enemy of success. If you want to kill yourself when any business fails you’re overinvested in that business...and if it’s not your brainchild or a business you nurtured from the start that is production based and patented you’re very wrong for throwing all your money at it because you are not in control of its success or failure.

ahnie:

She would be freed from the Nigerian husbands issues that makes Nigerian wives ages faster than their age.

Secondly she's in a sane country n a better climes,no husband wahala.

Lmao. If you’re aging fast because you married rubbish in your economic desperation you DESERVE IT!!
Nobody sent you to rush into where you rushed into dey find security akpako dun knack you.

Z

Dimaya:
OP, you have to mend your marriage. It doesn't matter whether you wanted the child or not, the child is here and has to be raised well by both his parents.

I don't care whatever the sidechic tells you, she doesn't care about you or what happens to your family and children. In all likelihood, this is how she thinks about you and your wife:


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z2hppHc_wFU



Women do NOT love men. They see men mostly as utility- an implement/instrument that can be used. If the outside lady sees you finish like your wife has, she too will start to misbehave.

Also, when women have children, they are forced to change. Raising children especially below age 5, is extremely stressful. Your wife will have sleepless nights and she won't get enough rest. Better adapt and seek support of family members in childcare. It seems your wife is experiencing parenting burnout. She needs your understanding. You both need patience.

OP, you can still repair your marriage. Go to your wife, plead with her to overlook your indiscretions. Tell her it was a moment of weakness. And work on getting your family back together. Don't let your children suffer the consequences of growing up in a broken home.

These are tricky love decisions. I wish you all the best.




https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RJ2ulJMb_pk

All these things wey you write no make any meaning. Nobody sent her to have children if she wasn’t ready. All this excuse of parental stress, nobody force you marry born pikin. There’s always one long explanation when women start misbehaving, when man misbehave e go be say e just be bad person.

Liverpoolfc:
You must either be on kolos or immature. You are in a very wrong tract. Men ought to love who they marry.

Wrong. Men ought to love whoever deserves to be loved the way women decide whether to respect a man or not depending on what he does for them. The end.

Delete that wife and wait small before you marry again...you are once again rushing headlessly into things without thinking.
Desperation

I've been married for four years now, and it seems my wife has become a stranger.

We've been having issues from the first year, mostly on different styles of life.
I am a guy who loves managing resources and very focused on achievements because I was born with a silver spoon but lost it due to the death of my father, I never wanted to experience the same thing as I did when he died.
She on the other hand is comfortable and okay with what she has, not too bothered about achievements.

I've been calling for management of resources for a while but she's the type that grew up in a very comfortable home and knows not how to manage resources.

Another issue on my part is that, she does not really care about how she looks and that's one of the things I care about.

I lost, or should I say resigned from my first job due to pressure and things became hard. I had to sell some of my landed properties so we could survive.

I got another Job and in six months, I made millions. We lived well until I wanted to chase my passion in banking again.

Got back into banking and to cut the story short, I met one lady where I was sent to. I loved her. I wish I had met her first honestly. In a year, she showed me a lot in the kind of woman I wanted. Then I lost my job again, this time because I wanted to go for youth service.

I got back home and I told my wife the game plan. I bought foodstuffs for at least two months and went for camp. In less than a week, my mother called me and was angry why I left my wife and two kids hungry. I exeated camp immediately and came back home. After investigating, I found out she sent the food to her mother who is an associate professor, without telling me and while she knows out conditions.

I got so angry. I wanted her out.
I considered things because my second child which she had by force is just 5months. She had the baby because she stopped taking contraceptives because of advice from people that if she has a male child for me, I'll stay.
After much, she can't leave, because who will take care of the boy?

Yesterday, she read my messages and discovered I was having an affair and wants to leave. I told the lady off this morning but, I still loved her.

I can't allow that. Even if she does, she has to wait for the boy to be at least a year old. Remember she was the one that wanted this baby, not me. Now she wants to leave the liability for me?
And I can't allow my kids to grow with her because I don't want them to learn such lifestyle.

What should I do?

Your desperation has cost you so much...one error to the other....the fact that you left a job to face nysc after touching millions in your life tells me you are NEVER coming out of this problem. God has helped you so much but you just can’t find a way to stabilize your own life.