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Mokole2023:
Dear Nlders,

I cant say if this problem is peculiar and I would sincerely appreciate mature comments and suggestions.

My marriage is just about a year old though I had an on/off online friendship with my now-wifey since 2017 before we decided to get serious late 2021. Our physical courtship was kinda brief - about 6 months - while we both resided in the same state but different Cities (about 3hrs apart).

I used to be very sexually active in my previous relationships - trust me when i say I'm quite good in bed - but with my now-wifey, I decided to limit the sex part cos i felt at a man's age (tho my sisters also advised same) that there r other things to look out for in a woman. So basically, we did not get too intimate during courtship. Worryingly, even the few times we did it, I rarely got to orgasm cos she couldn't match my stamina.

Fast forwards to 1 month into the marriage, I was diagnosed with High blood pressure which the doctors advised BP drugs might affect my libido but it will later regulate/normalize. Then the problems started! First, I get aroused normally with good turgidity enough to penetrate my Wifey's tight "body" but I tend to loose erection after some mins of thrusting and that's the end. Never comes back on again. Few times I was able to finish but that's not without alot of mental imagination to make me finish ontime.

Very worryingly for me, I decided to check myself with other women and dear readers, I achieved stronger turgidity and no fail moment. That was my first shock.

Summarily, my wife and I still dont live together but this situation has gone worse now. I got no sexual feelings towards her and na by force we dey manage run 1 round in weeks. Meanwhile, I get sex requests from other girls on a daily. I'm very sad about this situation especially when i look at my wife because she ought to be enjoying this thicke alone forever.

As a man, you can imagine how you'd feel when your woman feels ur impotent while other women are bugging you for your time.

Various extreme thoughts have crossed my mind and I'm seriously bothered which isn't even good for my health. Should i confess to my wife?

I await your responses, suggestions and advice.

Many thanks,

Una dey always make me laugh. Lmao. You go marry who no dey turn you on...it’s your fault for trying to control yourself in courtship. See your life.

INTEGRITYA1:
Many revelations toward the end of Buhari's Presidential Era

But when Buhari decided to make me Minister of education, I called some people to assist me work on policy document on education because I was novice in the sector.

Competency should be the main criteria for appointments, for it has direct effect and implications.

Buhari himself have also confessed that; he couldn't perform under pressure.

Meanwhile; Presidential Office come with so much pressure.

We are hopeful that; Tinubu will get things right.

May God guide our leaders right and help our youth truth to know.

Smelly brain

The DISCIPLINARIAN. Lmaoo. The incorruptible general. Country of clowns.

You see. These are the people many of you claim own successful businesses outside politics. Smh.

Una dey always make me laugh.
Rushing into things with people.
Calm down Una no go gree.

Your life your choice.
If loneliness sets in find one young man wey dey find old milf to warm her stew.
It’s your life.

Na who no get orientation dey find fame from street matter.
If seun means to handle the recorder he will be handled and it will look like an isolated incident.

Person slap police, wetin concern you?
Police dey pay you salary?
How many young men have police brutalized and kxlled in cold blood with zero repercussions, you dey report when the oppressor is now the oppressed.

Confused black people, always loving their oppressors later Una go cry say police kxll Una family

Government robs everyone and sleeps peacefully at night. LMFAO.

Wtf does it mean that God gave him only daughters to punish him. Lol

Mindlog:
Why should she live "forever" without a man because she divorced an addict?,🙄

After you marry am, she’ll still go back to her addict

Lmaooo hahahahah

3phase:
Addiction is very bad but being addicted to gambling is worst. I too just stop gambling this week. But I must confess it ain't easy. My wife and I do quarrel almost everyday about my addiction and the worst past is that, I only gamble when I have little change on me. If am broke, I will be humble but the moment I have money I become restless until I visit their shop to play virtual. But now both bookings and virtual have become thing of the past. May Allah save your husband. Mine was so bad that I had to see a gambling counselor but it didn't work.

Lmao. When he was providing for you with bet money where was ya brain.
Keep fighting.

That’s why man is intelligent.
According to fanatics it’s a sign of end time but what your religious leaders won’t tell you is that you are God and God is inside you.
The power of creation lies in you only if you can dedicated yourself to it, ANYTHING is possible.

Which kind weaklings dey this era abeg

Lol. Goan sleep please. Shebi he provides for you? When you been wan marry am shebi his income was a factor? Goan sleep my dear. When you wake up, carry mop.

Rayjnr:
So north no get all these primitive gods,
Thank God I'm a northerner

Everybody in the north is a medicine man. I don’t know any northerner that hasn’t visited a mallam that makes charms atleast once in their life time even for things as little as defecating on someone’s farmland.

If you do not support this motion then you deserve every bad thing leaders have done to your country.

Calling them powerless gods does not negate the fact that politicians have no respect for the Bible or Quran and will disrespect them before they ever disrespect a deity.
Many of them know how many sacrifices they do before elections and through out their political journey despite publicly attending church or mosque.

eepeepook:
Let’s pause talking about waist beads for once.

This is a topic which affects many Nigerians. Funny enough, I’ve never seen it posted here. I know very well some members have experienced it.

How will you cope with discovering your father had a secret family? I can imagine the rage and betrayal I’ll go through from such revelation. Many learned of it after the death of their fathers. Some accept the new family while few reject them completely.

What will you do? Has it happened to you? Do you know anyone who’s faced the situation?

What rage? Did your father swear to take care of you and only you? Na you be him wife?

The problem starts when men lie to themselves with monogamous bulljive when MOST MEN CAN NEVER STICK TO ONE WOMAN.

I can’t be mad at such and will welcome them with open arms. It’s my mom’s amorous emotions that might be touched. It’s just life.

Many people claim to have left their father’s house but are still there mentally.
Anybody that doesn’t want to talk you, does not need to be talked to.
I know fathers who have nothing other than bad things to say or do and they are always right.
The african attitude of loving and killing your self for family is one of the reasons why people don’t progress compared to those who remain stuck in the past.
So if you had been in a country with a different time zone this is the drama you people will be acting and you will also travel down, take leave from your job to go visit a man that doesn’t want to see you.

“I dun comot my papa house”...lol

achimendy:
Tell her na, which kind small pikin be this one



Abi you dey fear the woman??

E dey fear am. He’s weak.

YOU MUST NOT TELL HER IT IS YOUR FATHER’S CONDITION.

Your father is not foolish and might have heard something from his background check on her family that he just doesn’t want to say out loud. He wants you to find out first hand.

Smh. The fact that you’re arguing shows you’re not even ready for marriage and your wife to be is using your head, you’re scared of her and she has successfully emasculated you.

A genotype and fertility test are a MUST in today’s world. So you won’t complain that nobody told you.
A man or woman might be infertile, the earlier it is known, the better for all parties.

The time for ignorance has passed.

IF YOU LIKE, also forget to do DNA test after birth, you hear? Lol

chigoziri2403:
Someone from 9mobile contacted you,and your meeting point is a private location
What happened to 9mobile office?
Did you verify with 9mobile the authenticity of who contacted you?
Or you are just in a hurry to secure the bag

Asin later dey go say person dey blame victim. The fact that she went to a restaurant to have an executive meeting. Shallow harp.

Nobody cares.

Nobody cares. When dey dey thief money you no talk.

Weakling. Person do you something you dey report for social media. Smh.

Go and warn your neighbor and tell him you will fry his appliances...disconnect his wire...next time he does it, change over to nepa and throttle the gen using the spring behind the fuel control lever...it won’t affect you and won’t spoil the gen...

If you are still lost, watch a vid on YouTube.

https://youtube.com/shorts/IhLmWVEDFw0?feature=share

Dog is trying to warn the owner...he will not listen. There goes another soul. Smh. She told him to kill his dog....man some men are daft...and he’s still with her. Smh....

It will be televised.

nicej2:
Dear Nairalanders, i am not really good posting my issues online. But this time i need your advise.

I have been married for 9 years now and my sister inlaw has been living with us( I, my wife and the kids) for the past 6 years now, although I am not always around.
I have never imagine any negative thoughts toward her. I always see her like my younger sister, i have been taken care of her. She is 28 years old and I can't really says if she have a boyfriend cos I haven't see one around her. She is a boss in her working place but yet i foots all her bills in the house without bothering anyone, including my wife that is also a boss .Until of recent she started wearing seductive clothes around the house, Some how i started developing feelings for her As if she knows, she continues wearing those clothes and started showing more caring towards me.
I can't believed that i am having feelings for my sister inlaw cos i am a disciplined man to the core. Even during university days girls do come to my apartment passed a night without molesting them. I am well brought up. But is like that disciplined man in me started degenerating as i began to see this girl in my dreams.
There was a night i returned from travelled, i started feeling the urge to go to her room. My wife almost cought me that night cos we lives in 3 bedroom, I have my own room, my wife have her own and my sister inlaw have her own room. So we sleep in separate rooms except some occasions my wife decided to stay in my room. That night i was pimping through her door. I have been trying to control my feelings and I believed the reason why I have not sleep with her is because i am not always around and I also the fear of traditions implications of sleeping with sister inlaw . And my wife is not helping matters, she can leave both of us alone in d house and go to all night church program and the children will be sleeping.

I don't really know what to do. Should I tell my wife so that we can get her accommodation or just let the sleeping dog be. Though I don't really want her to leave cos is my wife and the children are alone in the compound. I just want to kill that urge before I return from travel.

Sorry for the long episode ..

Your wife leaves you and the children to go for ALL NIGHT program. Lmaoooo better for DNA test NOW.

Idi amIn ran to the same place after eating his people and keeping skulls in his fridge.

“Holy” land.

Herdsmen not bandits. Keep laundering the news.
Great job by the vigilantes.

“We” is the almajiris you will pay 100naira each to start a riot in Abuja while you run back to your state to pay some more almajiris to start burning Christians/southerners and their houses/shops. Then you will run again to a safe house to give a speech again.

Having travelled all over the north and seen the level of structural decay you will be wondering why such “people’s forums” are even in existence and what they are for asides being an arm to criminals in government.
You have never demanded good governance or provision of amenities for the poorest arewa people or even security for those butchered everyday. All your eyes are on abuja and oil money that you will still squander in another man’s land. Jumping from meeting to meeting hoping to be picked by politicians as PA and claiming you represent the “people”.

This thread just dey depressing...