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phintohlar:
no oo,is in togo

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funny woman.lol

thornapple:
Nice one.
Oya lefulefu over to you.

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Jesus..what kind of scary fruit is this..thornapple?

I like some of them..but don't know them enough to want to marry...
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evaberry.?.. kash -something......I've forgotten the 3rd girls name...adeola or...something like that

fataisulaiman:
I'm a regular member of Nairaland, but for privacy's sake, I decided to create a new moniker to ask for mature member's help in this issue I find myself in.

Right from my undergraduate days in a university in Oyo state, many people had known me as a cool, gentle, and quiet guy. Many of my friends, particularly the ladies, really liked me to help them out in their assignments and other things and i duly obliged. i didnt see anything wrong in giving people a hand or two, but my room mate and closest buddy told me to tone it down a bit as they, particularly the girls, may want to take advantage of my kind nature.

I remember this particular set of three girls who came to my room regularly. One of them really caught my eye and I tried to ask her out a couple of times, but each time she'll just laugh and tell me she can't date her "brother". I took my roommates advice and decided to shun her, but each time she'll wail and whine till I take her back. This continued until one evening we were both coming from evening service on campus. I was trying to make her see my point on why I wanted her to be my girl, but she just kept laughing. Suddenly a car pulled up to us and a guy I had never seen before called her name. You need to see how this girl squealed in excitement. Without even acknowledging or respecting the fact I was standing there, the guy asked her where she was going and before I knew what had happened, she had turned, gave me a quick hug, told me she'll see me later, and had jumped into the car. I just stared like a fool at them as the car zoomed off.

She didnt call me until the following day. When I didn't pick her call, she came to my room trying to explain away why she left me standing there at the side of the road, but I had had it already. She tried using her baby tactics on me but I got angry and yelled at her. Soon we were having a shouting match. She told me she owed me nothing, and she can go with anyone she pleases. She stormed off in a huff and even though I wanted to call her after my anger had boiled down a bit, I decided not to. Things weren't the same between us afterwards and I didnt talk to her again till I graduated.

Almost a similar thing happened to me when I went to Rivers for my youth service. I met a girl I really liked on camp and we hit it off. As usual, I tried to be the nice guy, treating her with kid gloves, right up to the point she started misbehaving too. She once told me I'm the only person she knows who can take all her shit, and that I'm the kind of guy who goes the extra mile for her in anything she wants me to do. Our "relationship" didn't even last up to 3 months when I found out she was dating another Corper guy who, through some connections of his wealthy parents, was serving in Shell. I had called her one Saturday evening to hang out with her, but she told me she wasn't feeling well. I asked her if she wanted me to come over but she told me not to worry, that she'll see me the following day after church.

I decided to go hang out by myself at a popular joint somewhere near the Choba Campus of UNIPORT. i had just ordered a bottle of Small stout with some nice peppersoup and was about doing justice to it when out of the blue, this girl and the guy walked in arm-in-arm. I was so shocked, I almost fell out of my chair. To make matters even worse, they took the empty table beside me and once she saw me, she didn't even act like she knew me. I called her name several times but she just ignored me. The guy she came with himself was wondering why I was calling her name. I simply stood up, paid the waiter, and left without touching my food.

I made up my mind to harden my heart, not to allow any girl into my life. So many other girls tried to get to me but I kept pushing them all away. I wasn't interested in women again. i stayed that way for the next couple of years. I got an admission to study for my masters and i left the shores of Nigeria.

Even during my studies, I decided not to have any meaningful relationship. I did actually meet a couple of girls, even had sex with one or two and made out with some, but I didn't open my heart to any of them. It was merely physical.

And then Hadiza came into my life.

Pretty. Bold. Fit. Fair. Average height. Had all the curves in the right places. Shy, beautiful smile. Black glasses. nice round boobs and lovely hips. I met her in the library in the Graduate study room. I noticed she had a folder of my alma mater. I asked her if she attended the school and she said yes. I told her I attended the school too and later found out she was in 100 level when i graduated. We chatted a while and exchanged numbers.

Soon we started hanging out. We would study together, gist together, and do many other things. I was still a bit wary, but it seemed she was different. She seemed more reserved, quiet, and flirtatious. We gradually got closer and closer.

I took her to the mall one evening to get her something for her birthday. I was going to be out of town on her birthday and she wasn't happy about it. As I parked in front of her apartment complex, just as she gruffily said good night and was about to open the door, I held her arm gently, and when she turned, I leaned in and gave her a kiss on her lips. I kissed her for a few more moments and when she broke free she murmured "What took you so long?"

To cut a long story short, we became inseparable after then. She spent most of her free time with me. I was still a bit skeptical about opening my heart again. I didn't want to get hurt. I decided to play the bad boy. I started acting up on her for no apparent reason. i felt behaving like the "tough" guy everyone says attracts girls was gonna work. I was wrong. i began to scare her away. I started making her cry. I started getting annoyed with her over the smallest offence, things that weren't worth it at all. I thought I was being the bad guy all ladies love.

One day, after a particularly nasty argument, she got up and left. I didn't hear from her for almost a week. I didn't see her in school either. I tried calling her several times but she never picked up. She sent me an email -

*****

You're scaring me. You used to be a very sweet, understanding guy. I don't know this animal you have become. Where did the man I fell in love with go? I don't know you anymore.

*****


I felt really bad. I knew this wasn't me. I know she didn't deserve all I the shit I gave her. What do I do? I know I owe her an apology. She's the girl of my dreams and I don't want to lose her, but at the same time I don't want to open my heart to another girl and be dashed again. Pleae help.

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my brother..women are the most complicated piece of machinery God created...
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even they don't understand themselves..
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this new girl of yours seems on point...
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my advice is..try and maintain a balance..
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don't be too nice and don't be too harsh...mix up the two..and you will be fine..100% guaranteed!

Heloct:
Who replies a p*ssy hunter?

Moreover, you never sent me a pm.

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lmao hahahhahaha

adajoe555:
Just asking na

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there's no her anywhere .....except the one I came out from...lol

adajoe555:
is the baby own or the momma momma

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Lmao...U are stubborn..confirmed!

tete7000:
That's another confusion in many men: thinking they can claim to love one and have fun with others, thereby hurting the one they claim to love. Do you love a person and still choose to hurt the person? Height of confusion I will say. Only in fidelity to the person one love in God can real love exist. Anyother reality outside that is a delusion of the grandiose..

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exactly what was on my mind when I asked the rhetorical question..." am I even making sense? "..
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didn't have the strength to type more...but U helped me out

adajoe555:
No its not me oh

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I have no " her" then..
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unless momma

adajoe555:
Am just so upset. .any time i visit my boyfriend. he won't even care if am there

always pressing phone .always I don't know if he is addicted to phone


today I called him and told him I'm not feeling fine ..he came didn't even asked what is wrong with me all he did was to sit down and press phone ..the next thing was to get up and say he was going without saying anything to me

I've told him about this phone issue at least when I'm with him, he should at least minimize the use of his phone let's have a conversation ..almost five times he didn't even care about what I told him
and I can't take it anymore,, maybe I should just quite he is not paying attention to me



pls I need an advice on what to do to get my man back I can't take it anymore









Hello guys, thank you so so much for the advice I really appreciate

Dextology

teaser

Divay22

Adeola

Abdulkaybee

And anyone who gave a wonderful advice thank you

my man is back ..it took so much work , without your advice won't have known what to do ...........Am just so happy

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soory dear...has he changed now?..
..,when U are together..he should at least give U attention....he can resume phone love when U leave..

Sniper12:
naso dem dey do.

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my brother..

Fisherman1:
what did u smoke

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I dont smoke.bro

adajoe555:
You know who I'm talking about

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eh....I don't o....is it U?..

adajoe555:
let her catch you first

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Lol..who is the " her" pls?

Sniper12:
would you do it and do you think its bad
i once did it and it backfired. My churchy babe was one of the nicest and decent gals i had ever met. i was gisting my guy about her and he was like ogbeni forget it all of dem na the same , i was like hmmmm my case is different. we den had a bet, he added her up and began chatting. my babe reported d guy to me and was like do you know him, i said nope make sure you delete him o. she said yes. i was impressed. but alas she began to chat with him till he lost interest because i told him not to push. 6 months later my guy had deleted her and she messaged him out of boredom. she began to chat about our relationship and all to him o. her school was on vacation and she was looking for where to go imagine o. i was out of town that period went for some consulting job in the SS . my friend kept discouraging her not to come, because no babe comes to his den and leaves like that. she was adamant nothing would happen. she went and the rest is history . i blasted her and she began to beg. i don't know what happened, am not usually like that, i don't Bleep around bla bla bla. She still uploads church/religious tins on her whatsapp o. i fear all this church babes . she opened for me after 6 months but opened for a stranger on the same day. nna ehn

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fear women..they will gist U about guys asking them out..so they appear faithful to U...
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on the under hand..something is going down....hmmmm

doncox:
My friend told me she is confused. Seems to love two guys in her life equally, can't really place them in her heart. Is this a common experience? Holla back

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that's the funny thing about women...confused....they can love more than one guy equally.....
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whereas...a man will love one woman..but still be having fun with other girls..
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or what am I saying sef?.. am I making sense?..am out

IamKashyBaby:


And definitely U are everywhere too...We are the residents of Romance Section..if u wish not to see us, go to obituary section sha..

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Jesus.......as I read this..a mosquito just flew into my ear..

neoOduduwa:
Yorùbás are the best, richest, most civilised, most intelligent, most cultured tribe in Africa.

Folafoluwa Oginni, thanks for doing us proud. You're a true Omoluabi.

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stop the tribalism..
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by the way..my name is Kola..am not ibo

IamKashyBaby:



Yaaaay!

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kai!
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U ....evaberry.....and sexybstar...
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U are just everywhere

so you now have an ice box where your heart used to be?....
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you just have to move on bro...U can't stay like this forever..time will heal u

AfricanElite:
why are you asking, if she's a virgin in the first place, if you really don't care.. only a brave girl will tell a guy she's not a virgin.

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I am not the op... I will never ask a girl such a question..

Henryyy:
The bolded is absolutely correct but your last sentence is flawed.There must be a first in every exam. Just saying.

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Well....in this kind of exam...U can't say for sure...
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Unless U have seen every single Ibo..Hausa... or Yoruba babe to compare them....

bros. I am from ekiti state ..
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ayedun ekiti to be precise..
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yoruba girls are beautiful..
Hausa girls are beautiful..
Ibo girls are beautiful..
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..there's no most beautiful abeg

Evaberry:
Why do girls lie about virginity it's very annoying and a disgusting thing


A virgin must be super tight, she might not bleed but if she isn't SUPER tight then she's no fvcking virgin, just a liar!


A man who loves you will love you regardless of your virginity status

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U are correct...I don't care if the woman I intend to marry is a virgin or not....
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what really concerns me is why she has to lie that she is a virgin when she is not...
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the very foundation of that relationship is built on sand...
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it's very painful..

your situation is really classic...
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if U tell your friend...it might wreck his marriage and he might blame U indirectly for it...
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if U don't tell anyone..U might eventually succumb to the temptation and end up with a life long guilt..
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I suggest U do what Joseph did in the Bible..
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how about changing location?..maybe she might forget U if she does not see U regularly...
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and..be careful..what if your wife sees one of those texts?..
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..hmmmmm

i cant love who i dont know o..hmmmm

My brother...if U are waiting for a yes...U are on a longest thing...
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If I like a girl...I tell her mind..and act like she has said yes..
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Her reaction to my actions will eventually determine my final counter reaction...
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Like if she's not interested in U....U will know from her behaviour towards U...either she sounds weird when U call...or she hardly returns your calls..or she acts as if U are disturbing her when U call....
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Well...........

He cheated because she refused to shave.....that's a flimsy excuse..
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I am stunned..
I am stupefied..
I am petrified....

Rorachy:
Hahahahah, No.

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In patience Jonathan's voice..
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" God will help us "

Obi88:
I want to make my story short, I've been dating this my girl since April 2015 when i was in final year in the university while she was in year one, she reciprocated the love infact she made me feel heaven on earth until November 2016 when she started uploading several pictures in a car with a particular guy who happens to be a customs officer,prior to this her attitudinal change, I promised her i'll marry her and from the depth of my heart i meant everything I told her, I even had to influence my state of deployment during my nysc programe to her town of residence, uploading pictures in the car with the guy has never been my problem but the worst happened when she reluctantly (unlike her that usually begs that she wants to visit ) came to spend the weekend with me), right in my presence she was making a call with this particular guy, I mean using this intimate and sexy voice, I left the room in anger to avoid troubles, I returned like after 20 minutes and she was still on the call, I had to take the phone from her and in her bid to resist me, the angel i always loved, cherished and adored hooked my shirt by the neck such that I was shocked to my marrow that such thing will ever happen, i gave a her a resounding slap ( which i regret because I've vowed never to lay my hands on a lady till the day i die), she left my house the next morning and threatened the relationship was over. I never knew the words HEARTBREAK AND DEPRESSION were real till those moments, i begged and begged and everything seemed to normalize after a month, my problem now is that this particular guy calls my girl like more that 10 times in thirty minutes, I called her and asked her what was going on, she told me the guy is her best friend who she has known for five years meanwhile i never knew this guy when things were cool with us, I told her to cut off the relationship but what I get in return when ever i mention this guy's name are insults. Infact there's no type or kind of insult(s) which I've never received from her, I was a corps member but I kept sending her money out of my little savings but she kept demanding things from me like I was already employed, during one of our conversations she told me how she was still requesting for financial aid from her mum when she has a boyfriend (this was a lady that was always encouraging me when I even had nothing when I was in school), between November and now, I've always told her to move on with her life with her best friend (a customs officer ) but after a week or so she calls back promising to change, once i succumb to her plea i end up in tears and agony again, I know it might sound foolish but since November 2016 till now she's been messing with my feelings and emotions. I'm so angry and ashamed of myself that I've not been able to call it a day on this tormenting relationship. I finished my Nysc since April but till now I've not been able to secure a job but I believe God will see me through someday, my story is a very long one but i decided to make it laconic so as not to bore anyone, please i really need advice on how to end this relationship and mean it, I've tried severally but still find myself talking with her again. My soul is no longer with her, I don't want her in my life anymore but i really find it difficult to leave her, I don't want to marry a woman that will make me regret my existence on earth

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Bro...I had a similar experience to yours but I had to just let her go..
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Imagine...some women can lie right in your face.. it's quite shocking.....best friend indeed...
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That's how my ex was dating a guy and she kept saying he was her family friend...and she had over 15 of his pix on her phone....
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Additionally... she always defends the guy like a tigress..
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Bros end the relationship and move on with your life...
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Its very tough...but time will heal u

Rorachy:
It is also not something that you can easily talk a Lady into.

If someone like me don't want to marry you, there is nothing you will say in this world that will change my stubborn mind .

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Lmao....hope U are not an mbaise girl?..them stubborn ehn