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Rorachy:
Hahahahah, No.

Obi88:
I want to make my story short, I've been dating this my girl since April 2015 when i was in final year in the university while she was in year one, she reciprocated the love infact she made me feel heaven on earth until November 2016 when she started uploading several pictures in a car with a particular guy who happens to be a customs officer,prior to this her attitudinal change, I promised her i'll marry her and from the depth of my heart i meant everything I told her, I even had to influence my state of deployment during my nysc programe to her town of residence, uploading pictures in the car with the guy has never been my problem but the worst happened when she reluctantly (unlike her that usually begs that she wants to visit ) came to spend the weekend with me), right in my presence she was making a call with this particular guy, I mean using this intimate and sexy voice, I left the room in anger to avoid troubles, I returned like after 20 minutes and she was still on the call, I had to take the phone from her and in her bid to resist me, the angel i always loved, cherished and adored hooked my shirt by the neck such that I was shocked to my marrow that such thing will ever happen, i gave a her a resounding slap ( which i regret because I've vowed never to lay my hands on a lady till the day i die), she left my house the next morning and threatened the relationship was over. I never knew the words HEARTBREAK AND DEPRESSION were real till those moments, i begged and begged and everything seemed to normalize after a month, my problem now is that this particular guy calls my girl like more that 10 times in thirty minutes, I called her and asked her what was going on, she told me the guy is her best friend who she has known for five years meanwhile i never knew this guy when things were cool with us, I told her to cut off the relationship but what I get in return when ever i mention this guy's name are insults. Infact there's no type or kind of insult(s) which I've never received from her, I was a corps member but I kept sending her money out of my little savings but she kept demanding things from me like I was already employed, during one of our conversations she told me how she was still requesting for financial aid from her mum when she has a boyfriend (this was a lady that was always encouraging me when I even had nothing when I was in school), between November and now, I've always told her to move on with her life with her best friend (a customs officer ) but after a week or so she calls back promising to change, once i succumb to her plea i end up in tears and agony again, I know it might sound foolish but since November 2016 till now she's been messing with my feelings and emotions. I'm so angry and ashamed of myself that I've not been able to call it a day on this tormenting relationship. I finished my Nysc since April but till now I've not been able to secure a job but I believe God will see me through someday, my story is a very long one but i decided to make it laconic so as not to bore anyone, please i really need advice on how to end this relationship and mean it, I've tried severally but still find myself talking with her again. My soul is no longer with her, I don't want her in my life anymore but i really find it difficult to leave her, I don't want to marry a woman that will make me regret my existence on earth

Rorachy:
It is also not something that you can easily talk a Lady into.

If someone like me don't want to marry you, there is nothing you will say in this world that will change my stubborn mind .

humeeh:
Its only in 9ja a gal will tell her friends she's broke and her friends are like ."Don't u have a bf?"
Me:Heck!!
SMH
Before the money-sucking ladies come for my head
I think 15% is okay.

Snowkel:
The last time my gf told me a friend of her wanna come stay the night bcuz he entered Benin late and cant get to his place. The guy banged her. She even concealed the info from me, it was later wen the guy got to know me better in skul, he opened up to me that he banged her 3 times after that night, but wen I confronted her she told me it was just ones and the guy forced her, but wen I told her I was gonna bring the guy, she said it was a mistake, that the other times she was carried away by an emotional movie and the guy was there for her at that time.
The truth, forget u have a gf if she sleeps in that place.

Ballmer:
Na so. So what does real woman do ? Am guessing they just take all the goodies the real men are willing to offer chop it n walk away ba.

abdeiz:
Somethings all the money, love, care can't fix.

I'm feeling for the other guy as my own kindred....what he have seen in the hands of women.

lalanice:
well, not all ex were ex for a bad reason, that's why I said situations may differ

Rorachy:
Exactly.

lalanice:
are you asking or telling?


one thing people need to know is that situations are not dsame with everybody. some people can easily stay friends with an ex without the thought of cheating with them, keep in mind that it depends on how they became ex. but for the sake of an insecure partner you might have to totally drop a good ex

abdeiz:
One question tho are you the guy currently tapping her current?

wallarwallar:
Walahi it is highly dangerous base on personal experience but sometime it might nt be but it is 85% probability and 15% it won't happen.. Even d so called spirit filled will think deep abt it and dis has nothing 2 do wit trust Hummmm something somehow wud initiate dis even without d two involved and d story wud be how did it happened but Lol it has happened. I wish u can get alternative Bro. Na family friend ting sweat pass walahi no toasting plus no commitment na free style

abdeiz:
hmm guy I wan hear about your experience abeg, might learn from it also

oceanized25:
So my girl friend wants to go for industrial training,I.T,for close to two months in another state and she intends to stay at a male's house,this male she calls"family friend",bear in mind that he does not have a girlfriend or lady that stays with him,he leaves alone,she says there is an empty room that she will own all through the duration of her stay so they won't be sleeping or staying in the same room.....but the idea of her staying with this guy,that they are not related at all does not sit right with me,am not saying he will definitely make a pass or move on her or vice versa but these are members of the opposite sex.......am I just being paranoid?

MrBrownJay1:
He said.. . .not in all cases...but U are also making sense..[color=#550000][/color]




i can find many instances when a babe needs a break... without being because she wants to break up:
- she gotta study real hard and need to focus on her exams (without any outside interference)
- the r/ship brings confusion to her own life
- she isnt comfortable with the direction of the r/ship and need time to evaluate her position
- she has pressing (aka more important) private issues to deal with in her life
- due to a partner going away for a while (aka long distance r/ship)

it is sad that people would automatically believe that asking for a break is THE END!

Rorachy:
As in eh, sex is so cheap and most girls are very loose these days, they will open leg for any tom,dickkk and harry.

Even the ones that are engaged.

modelmike7:
This is the second worst thing that can happen to a man in life!
The first thing is being broke!!

Tmex:
This one na Photoshop nah, no traces of water on their clothes even the lady's hair is so dry

sexxydiva:
A liar will always be a liar!

cerowo:
Lols....sorry dude cant date a faceless guy...no offence meant