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Tosinville:
Zim drill,

Thank you bro, that exactly what i just figured out to jennykadry, many nigerian women are so obsessed with money to the extent that they can never be amend again, i must confess economy situation, hardship and poverty is really affecting our love life in this country

i had one nigerian hommie from my hood he was new in UK and waiting to get papers all he could think about after getting papers was hustling

i told him like life here is not about hustling but getting a job then do your hustling while you have a job

i dont blame him becoz i think on more than average life in nigeria all about hustling

[/quote][quote author=Bim4u link=topic=525513.msg6880207#msg6880207 date=1286288968]Becos this is a faceless forum doesn't mean u don't respect each others feeling.

do you really think i joined this forum to  respect other's people's feeling ? nope nigga

i joined to air my views  who get offended thats his fcuken problem

Bim4u:
@ Zim
When u're insulting towards others it does bother me but don't exchange words with fool like you.
Have you read your reply
I think it needs amending.
English lecturer that can't even write a sentence without an error.
Pls remove the dirt from your eye b/4 u remove some-elses.

Becos this is a faceless forum doesn't mean u don't respect each others feeling.
Most of nairaland members are so use to been disrespectful.

nigga pliz i never said my english doesnt need amending becoz i know that we all makes mistakes

quote me were i said am better

the problem is --- you think once one corrects you it means s/he is saying is better than you ---- nope nigga it just a correction ---period

Tosinville:
JennyKadry,

You see and can u just hear yourself? Hm! thats the major problem we're having about nigerian ladies, no matter how large u spend for them, they can never appreciate it they still believe you have not done anything yet and i'm so sure same applies to that man's wife(doctor), so tell me why some nigerian men won't go after another country's ladies that you'll spend $100 for and she'll really appreciate it that will makes u glad to do better than that 4 her tomorrow? not that i'm supporting xhosachoc's rltnship towards that man cos what she's doing is a wrong act with a married man and there are days of reckoning so thing like this will definately bounce back into her own marriage later cos it is what she sow.

Sincerely, many nigerian ladies needs amendment, they should learn how to be appreciative in marriage/relationship with the lil thing their men has to offer thats all.

i think nigerian women are a product of their men

the men made them to behave like that

nigerian man use money to beloved than just using your general individual charm that confused your sister thinking money or buying gifts all the time etc is love

hence most un nigerian girls dating nigerians would say am doing for money .ie he spends much on the woman

sucktit:
I'm29 and I need a sugar mam between the ages 35-45. Scammers need not apply.
sucktit29@ymail.com

why would you need one

you cant make a life on your own you have thought of living as a parasite

Bim4u:
@ Zim
If you don't understand the English then your comment isn't neccessary like anybody gives a poo
Other people that understands are living comment.
Been a man I wonder how your wife or g/ f sticks you.
If u're going on about someone English such a nitty picky man.

@ Op
Go ahead n marry the man jare
At least one of your parent is in support.
Best of luck in your upcoming marriage.

i respond the way i want and feel if it bothers you then thats your fcuken problem am not here to please anyone

y me:
you really need to sit mum down and talk her back into the 21st century

like you said she needs to sit down with her mum and hear her fear why she shouldnt marry him and herself, she needs tell  mum what she sees in the man and how he makes him happy

and the mum should also learn to let go she is damn 33 averagely women of her age in nigeria got 2 to 3 baby aready and herself is being taken like baby at 33,  mum should let loose if she would make a mistake on the guy fair and fine she needs to learn by her self mum wont be always there at 33 she can make her own judgements

bamboke:
@Zim Rill

Just for peace sake I decided not to respond to all your comments. I did not make a mistake with my posting. It reads,"Getting married" and not "married" as you assumed.

Please read and understand before replying. My English is okay, probably you ain't used to read much books.

Peace!

I asked for your advise, not for insults sir!

i know you asked for advise but you forget one thing people respond to what they feel and think whether you get hurt i the respond some dont care because at the end of the day we will tell you only what you want to hear than some truth that might hurt though it might help

i suggested you get used to all the positive and negatives responds thats real life it wouldnt the real world when all is good

sharp man:
Zim ZIm. . . . . .na wa for your use of English ooooo. . . . . and to think that you were trying to correct someone else.

I guess you should remove the LOG in your eyes instead of worrying about the OP . . . . . . .

there is a big difference there

i didnt put the CE but still you would get what i wanted to say

with hers it was '''MARRIED 33 & MUM STILL DISAPPROVES'' the rest was "Insert Quote
Mum not in support of my relationship with a guy because he is not yoruba. I am 33 and he is from Abia. I don't care though and will go ahead as long as my dad is okay".


that was confusing to me

bamboke:
@Zim Rill

Just for peace sake I decided not to respond to all your comments. I did not make a mistake with my posting. It reads,"Getting married" and not "married" as you assumed.

Please read and understand before replying. My English is okay, probably you ain't used to read much books.

Peace!

I asked for your advise, not for insults sir!

dont bother yourself dear you corrected it therefore we got what you really wanted to

myself i didnt want to assume what your where trying to say hence i asked you rephrase

jay bee:
^^^
I amended the thread's subject

she did amend after i responded

justwise:
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Seriously don't bother picking on pple based on their English cos yours is even disaster.

well dear

you cant see the different thats why i said you need glasses

if you had read the heading of the thread before she amended and the rest of her story you would have seen the confusion unfortunately you read between lines

and for me i dont want to assume a story i need the full facts


her original heading read ''MARRIED AT 33 & MUM STILL DISAPPROVES''

justwise:
. . . and you think that your English is great, right?

did i claim that ?     nope

you wish i had

people need to be corrected dear so that we know what they really mean than assuming what they mean

justwise:
The only thing confusing there is you.

really you need glasses or english lesson dear

justwise:
Do you have anything to say about her post apart from teaching her English language?

whats there to say when everthing is confusing ?

bamboke:
I mean that I would be married at 33 this year and m8um still disapproves at choice of man.

it is either you go back to school and learn to to contruct simple english sentence or amend your thread if you miss typed

bamboke:
Mum not in support of my relationship with a guy because he is not yoruba. I am 33 and he is from Abia. I don't care though and will go ahead as long as my dad is okay.

first you say married at 33 then you say mum disapproves then finally you sauy will go ahead as long dady says ok


what the Bleep are you really talking about

fredoooooo:
hello guys , there this friend of mine, who is based in abroad but her fiance is in Nigeria, recently they did family introduction and they are planning to get married when next hes in Nigeria , the girl normally goes to the guy family and oneday the girl pay the elder sister of the guy a visit ,during which the elder sister gave the girl an engagement ring , saying that she want the girl to be wearing it as she think boys will be disturbing her,without the sister telling the boy before her action , the guy now said that how can his sister do such a thing , that he has never seen such , so whats you guys view on this issue ,

having a ring wont stop men or woman chasing you

same as having a ring does stop you chasing wo/men

GboyegaD:
I think you really do not talk to so many people and know how naive some of our guys are.

i wont believe that people have been shagging since the begining of the human kind and it is in our nature you dont need a lesson for the basic --- periods

swizzzy:
there is, this two friend that are leaving close to my house. so one day, they were having quarrel. the girl was shouting at the gal that she has tried to make him understand that she don't like him talk of loving him but he is telling her that he is going to die. so the girl then told the gay that let him do what ever he want to do.
so  she is asking what to do  since she don't  want somebody committing murder because of her.  and she has been with this gal for long cos she don't want anybody to commit murder and that maybe the gal will understand one day and go his way because of her character towards him yet he refuse to go his way.

she should let the nigga die  he wants to meet is maker

and the other nigga go to girl and fcked up da arsee

GboyegaD:
I wouldn't know how true this story is but I believe it because I have heard similar stories at marriage seminar. Some of the stories are:

A couple got married and due to the naivety of the partners, the guy was bleeping the wrong part and it was only wen it affected the wife cos she had VVF and some infections and they visited the hospital that they knew they were doing the wrong thing.
A couple got married and because they have always been restrained from sex and were informed that marriage gives license to them having sex freely, within 2 weeks of the marriage, the wife came to church to seek the process for divorce. The reason was that the husband was over active and at any opportunity they are together, he wants to bleep not minding if it was convenient for her or not.

As such, most times when I hear stories such as this, I just feel wonders shall never end .

thats a sorry for kids not grown up

by nature we know where to put da ding ding and ladies know where da ding ding should go

dryx007:
i met this girl about 2 years ago.we have this great chemistry and i am so much in love with her but she has refused to go out with me,first she said if she goes out with me she will hurt me as and she doest want to hurt me because that was what happened between her and her ex.this year she now told me she is in a complicated relationship with a guy that has introduced her to his parents but she has not agreed for the guy.everybody thinks me and this girl is going out except me and her.i am having a feeling she wants to eat her cake and have it.she doesnt want to go out with me and at the same time she doesnt want to lose my friendship.i am thinking of cutting my losses and move on.people i need your advice.

people you are very funny

when told the truth you want things to go your way, which one is better to be heartbroken or count the lose

queeneve:
Gotdamn Zrill,

Pay attention! I said both PARTIES SHOULD CONTROL THEIR ACTIONS!!!!!! Do you know what both means? Oh I forgot yall speak Uk English,

It the pair of them responsibilities to control their OWN actions,

you got selective reading dear

i only commented on were you said No one MAKES ANYONE DO ANYTHING, the blame is on WHOMEVER does the deed

hence i didnt comment on the BOTH becoz i agree with it

queeneve:
No one MAKES ANYONE DO ANYTHING, the blame is on WHOMEVER does the deed,

Just like she should have left, so should he!

IF she hits him, then she is to be blame because she controls her own actions,

If he hits her, then he is to be blame because he controls his own actions,

think harder dear


if you hit me i will hit you back ==== you made me hit you back

if dont hit i wouldnt hit you ----if i hit for no reason then we say i am a nutter thats the reason i want to know what made the nigga explode in each case

SA Goddess:
ZIM, I think I have made myself clear on this topic and so have you, NOTHING justifies a public outburst or a beating, no matter what started it, will screaming help the man in any way, other than making him look like an out of control slowpoke!

i do get what you saying but you were sounding as if you were defending her even if she provokes

so i had to ask why him has to be a gentleman even when provoked it is biased to me

Nelbless:
Why Can't I Fall Inlove Like Others

very stupid

yes you can fall in love with anyone simple but it depends if the other person likes/loves you back simple

and why would want to be  like anyone ? your time will come

you said like anyone one, if only you know it didnt happen the same day to those anyone you talk about

lovemoi2:
I would'nt insult any gender, bt the blame oN women is just heartbreaking

some men just need 2 get the crazy negative idea about women and try 2 get 2 know a woman. Stop underestimating the love and care of a women. A woman will do anythng 4 a man that is loving and caring 2 her. Show a woman love n c how she's göna treat u.

Most women in africa are really going tru hell in their marriages cos most of the time they have nO say.
AFRICA has a system where the men thnk that its ok 4 them 2 have so many women bt the wives should just do the dirty laundry. A man wil give all his mOney 2 a LovePeddler while hs wife is at home with nO cloth or food.

The rate at which women are abused in Africa,
wil u blame these woMen who now have the power 2 talk Please show your wives care and see if she's goNa leave u?

in general most women in africa marry for 2 mains reason

1 to up grade her self socially and finacially

2 marry out of love

in process most stay in abusive marriages becoz they got no alternatives i.e looking after her self financially without the help from a man

the abuse has been going on for genarations

once she comes to the west and the man contuines with the abuse of controlling etc the woman divorce becoz she has an alternative i.e find a job and look after herself and man have lost the battle to control

though in both sides man and woman you find people who abuse situations

jlee:
Pls i need mature minds to read through my life history and make sugestions on what i should do cos am in deep confussion

Am from a polygamous home of seven children, of which I happen to be the firstborn child. I have been seeking for admission to study a degree course in UNIBEN since I rounded up my SSCE but in the main while I enrolled for UNIBEN diploma course which I successfully rounded up 2007.
I met this girl a year after I rounded up my Diploma course; we were very much in love with each other. She happened to be an orphan who had relatives showing less concern of her existence. With her love burning in my hearth I summoned courage to assist her with every bit of strength I had in me. In order to make life easy for both of us to co-exit, I offered to share a roof with her.
A year and some months had past with me by her side, she made her SSCE, sooner later we started having issues, she began seeing staying with me under a roof un-married as inappropriate, when I couldn’t condole her anymore, we had to break apart in quarrel of which she left to stay alone. A month later we resolved our issues then I discovered she was having problems paying up her rent, out of love I strive to help her pay a year rent for her.
After two years of attempting UME and she also was unable to gain admission into UNIBEN, I decided she went for a par-time course in UNIBEN while I continued applying for admission with my diploma Crt.
Now with me by her she has successfully cleared for these year UNIBEN par-time in take, meanwhile because of my continuous failure in attempting to gain admission, I lost parental support which made me strive to help myself by engaging in mini jobs.
Honestly speaking we had spent two yrs of bitterness and sweetness (quarrelling and settlings) these quarrels has a hidden motivator by me. Over trying to meet up to her needs am left with little space to attend to my personal problems which is chocking me and making me look for escape by capitalizing every little issue in other to look for a successful breakup. But based on she has given me her hearth completely and not in any chance ready to date any other person, she would often come out very hurt even to the extent of finding life meaningless. {on two occasion she had attempted committing suicide} I feel I need pay full attention to my personal need but leaving her endangers her life, for she sees me as an inspiration for her living.


Thanks for taking your to read through now pls make your suggestion

it seems like you do it for pity than really loving her

queeneve:
Even if SHE DOES PROVOKES HIM, he CONTROLS HIS OWN ACTIONS,

.boys blame others for their ACTIONS, MEN TAKE OWNERSHIP OF THEIR OWN ACTIONS,

you aint reasoning like i am dear

i aint defending the nigga but i want all facts

i want to clear the girl by her giving us the full facts she might be doing the same mistakes over and over again

if she is clear of any faults then we can say the nigga is a nutter but both might contribute to each other mistakes and out burst

to me so far no one is not guilty both are they need to gives facts to not find them not guilty either

SA Goddess:
I understand you need more info but nothing justifies a public outburst (she says it happened more than once, if I read correctly) or a beating, people must just walk away instead of turning another adult into a child, that's all I am saying! If the woman did the same thing to the man, she would be labelled psychotic naughty woman or ill-mannered but for the man it's ok as long as he has a reason, come on now!

happening more than once doesnt mean she is all clear what if she is doing the same thing that makes him explode

i know people rush to conclude but they forget that there is always something that provokes such behaviour not that i support the behaviour but we need to look into things that led to such burst and see if those things good or bad in their own right