₦airaland Forum

Dyt:
Jst a tot,dont blame u though

just a though?

something from what i have said should have triggered the thought but the funny thing you can even point it yourself

Dyt:
Zim drill? Dont tell me u takin dis personal or u jst seekin attention,jst a tot

show me where it suggest that am taking it personal ?

Damoche10:
Kindly help! a friend of mine is confused on what to do on either paying his steps's son's school fees or celebrating his only child that is about clocking a year's birthday. He loves his step son like his own. Married his wife a few years back without any child fully knowing she had one out of wedlock and taking responsibiity of this child from when he knew him. Having sending him to Pry Sch and now about getting admission into high school after having passed his
entrance examination. The problem here is that he just moved into an apartment he bought and is cash strapped but could afford either of the two cos the admission and his legitimate son's birthday is just a week apart.

Should he go ahead with the birthday of his son or Pay the step son's school fees? If you were in his shoes what will you do?

Very daft he should have seen it coming

spikedcylinder:
So how then does it defer from regular dating? I assumed before that it had a religious undertone.
The term 'courtship' sounds very Victorian and I'd run away from anyone who mentioned such to me.
Kilode? In 2010?

it doesnt differ from regular dating

the only difference is the word but it is the same meaning sometimes you nigerians you use old english words and some people get confused with old english words and the current most used words

some of your words are very funny like DISVIRGIN

Dyt:
Also pays er bills,buys er anyth n everyth,treat er ryt bt nt all guys r ladies boyfriends o,if u cant do all dese den 2 your def he aint a boyfriend

typical nigerian female thinking

i dont blame you though

Emy4u:
If someones luv 4 u is condition, will u quit or play along?

wake up

love for someone is always conditional hence the reason why people ditch each other when one cheats

what only differs is how reasonable is the condition

temodent:
Hello all, your various contributions on this forum had been of immense benefits, so when a friend brought an issue to my notice I felt the best place to get other people's oppinion is here, the issue goes this way:
My friend's wife travelled outside the country a couple of Months back actually to deliver their baby, and she had since delivered and would not be back until December, however she left their little 4yrs old daughter behind with the husband.
It so happen that one of the neighbour in their house, though married with 3kids decided to assist the husband with the washing of the daughter's clothes, however the husband because of the associated stress of taking care of the little girl decided to send her to her sister to help take care of the daughter till the mother's return.
The issue here is that, since the daughter had relocated the neighbour then offered to be helping the husband with his dirty clothes with the consent of her husband and my friend obliged, but the wife got to hear this thru a family member whom my friend informed and pronto the wife called asking my friend to immediately suspend the giving of his cloth to the neighbour to wash calling my friend a traitor, that it could be a ploy to win over her husband, even the simple explanation that the neighbour's husband is informed about the issue without any secrecy involved would not assuage my friend's wife feeling of insecurity. Please nairalanders your wise counsel and suggestions is being sought on this issue. Should he continue or not. Thanx.

the neighbour is going too deep and the husband is stupid and so is the wife

she must have sorted arrangements before she left

where i came from no neighbour's wife would wash cloths for another married man they got money to fly abroad to give birth they can afford money to hire someone every friday to do the cleaning of the house and cloths

MrPrsdent:
mugabe is a self-conceited maggot

that i agree

sexylover:
I have known this guy for a year now and we dated for three months. we broke up coz we felt we couldn't be committed to each other.We stayed apart for about three months away from each other although we speak on the fone once in a while. We finally saw eachother about three months ago in the club and he started saying stuff about how he loves me and he was ready to go the extra mile but coz of me being unpredictable he was scared and while he was saying all these he created a scene and I was embarrassed. So I ignored that and later he started calling more often and he would come and see me sometimes in school.Right now he comes again saying that he wants us back but I told him that I think we should just be friends but am falling for him.I thought it was something I could just ignore. He is very nice and caring but he smokes.He has all what I want in a man but he smokes and we argue once in while which makes me know his other side.

Peeps I need your advice.

you say he is nice and caring but he created a scene


we you say WE what do you mean there is no we in breaking up, one does offers a suggestion and the other one agrees who suggested to break apart

most people african people applause mugabe and those in zimbabwe/zimbabwean turn to be tired of zim

whats your views from what you have heard about the man from media and zimbabweans themselves

Osama10:
How is it a drama?

how old are you ?

Promixking:
So many 9ja men can bear me witness dat dey hav been dumped at least once.Open their heart u'll c scares as evidence of a hrt brk by those "unadviodable demons" who left because of their little begining in life or for no jus reason.or mayb because dey hav sen anoda prey.imagine my girl sent me a txt sayin its ova witout reason.if u're very romantic dey wil dribble u or tel friends u're too caring which a turn to dem.i tel me wat can b more painfu, So aFTA dis 9te mare we resort to being unromatic.change and we'll change too. GOD BLEX 9JA @ 50

the question is

are you yourself romantic ? and if you are why dont teach the one you are dating

pharmking:
My friend is about to turn 30 and two 20 years old girls are chasing after him. I told him not to try to date them because it's drama. Will you date a 20 years old if you're 29 to 32 years old?

what if he likes the drama

colors:
Hi guys,
Pls i need your candid advice.
Ive been dating my boyfriend for about 3years most of which has been long distance. Recently i relocated barely an hour away from him to make the relationship work.
about 2 months ago, he started gushing about this young lady like 24/7.he takes her to work everyday and takes her home afterwards, they speak on phone averagely four times a day not to mention the numerous text messages which he instantly replies wit excitement. I told him i wasnt ok wit the relationship but he persisted sayin they are just friends.
To my annoyance he even calls her in my presence to find out how she is doing. Her name cant seem to leave his lips. I told him dat if he didnt end the friendship i would leave.
He says he will try and end it slowly but they are just friends.
Wat kind of friendship is this.? Pls advice me. Am i being paranoid? Wat should i do.

no man does all those things for no reason taking her to work etc her own boyfriend should be doing that has introduced you to her face to face ?

IT MEANS HE NOTICES YOU

but in his he has bleeped you in all positions he can think about

themanna:
I can't still get over it, my wife slap me for the first time. this is the lady that i brought up with my own hand sponsor her in school in Nigeria b4 we travel. After 4 years here the spirit jump on her to slap me. The reason was that we had an argument on how her brother was managing our goods in Nigeria;NL this is not worth of slapping me , she just feel like slapping me. I'm confused pls what should i do ?.

got a solution for you plan your holiday to nigeria once you land whop the shi/t of her and give her the phone 911

she slap you becoz she knows how the system works in US

nikki4848dd:
I'd like to take the time to thank all of you kind people for your comments, and advice.You have all been a big help to me.And I appreciate all feedback.And compliments.ZIM DRILL for you I have a special message, so listen very carefully ok? I didn't post anything up here that I didn't want anyone to know, so when I said, he doesn't have a car, this does not mean that I put anyone down for what they do or don't have.What I am saying is, where I am from grown backside men are suppose to have themselves together by the age of 40 years old.This man is 40.OK? And if I want to go out.Why should I be the driver all the time?Furthermore, since you asked, I own 2 cars, a mini van that seats 7.A small family boat, a house, my own land, 3 kids that I raised alone, one has graduated high school and is attending college right now.The other 2 are A and B students.The father is not in the picture.I happen to be an independent female and have been for 12 years on my own.I ask no one for anything.Especially a man, all that I ask is CAN A BROTHER GET ONE CAR?Is this asking too much??And if you don't believe all I've just said, pass me your email address , I got pictures, Anymore questions?I mean, are we clear now

i think i did touch were it hurts

dear from your post you sounded like a car is a big deal

you are confused dear one minute you ask, why should you be driven, the next minute you say you own two cars why dont you drive your own cars then ? am i missing something

Yusufi:
My very good friend was called in by my ex girlfriend at the early stages of my dispute with her to reconcile us but they eventually ended up in a romantic relationship. As things are right now, he has formally introduced himself to her father and stating his intentions to be a potential husband to his daughter if he approves of the relationship. I am not very comfortable with the whole thing especially my relationship with this very good friend of mine. Please great members of nairaland, kindly advise me on how to handle the situation.

i dont see your problem here

in most average cases your friend is that one who should be worried becoz you once dated his wife and obvious you had some good times, generally you wouldnt want your wife's exes to be near her or to be kept as friends


so i dont see your problem here

spikedcylinder:
Oh I see. Both parties KNOW beforehand that they are most likely going to get married.

@ poster, maybe she doesn't want to marry you?

no

it is not about knowing beforehand but just having seeing someone/dating/courtship and in that dating/courtship the relationship i works its self to marriage, when i say its self i mean the two of you clicking to the point that you say s/he is the one i want to marry

dating/courtship gives you the chance to see if you are compatible

AFRICAN WOMAN IN GENERAL DONT KNOW WHAT IS LOVE, WHY

well most marry becoz they want an upgrade in life hence they always look for some rich or above her own status, they think that having money i.e having it all is love, they only realise the truth when their are inside the marriage. they have it al,l material wise but there is no love is that house husband bitches like a dog and herself cant think of leaving him becoz she will loose all those material things

justwise:
Maybe he wants to set the record straight from day one. Zimbabweans does that as well.

yes thats what we do

JesusloveU:
I met this lady on nairaland,though am not based in naija and i would be coming home soon to meet her face to face.She's a graduate working class lady of 29 years old.I told her that before we can proceed for anything more serious like marriage if we click well as friend,we must go through courtship first.She strongly refused that she does not believe in courtship.She asked me why am looking for courtship because am looking for mrs.perfect.My people how can you just see a lady today and jump into marriage with her ?i think that's not normal.She has stop chatting with me because i asked for courtship.I guess she has a bad character she's hidding from men.


Advice me please before i leap.Thanks everyone.

this is so funny

is this how you nigerians date

yes you are right but you dont even need to ask her that

where am from you ask a girl out and if she likes you, then you start dating and from how you click etc thats when you start to talk of marriage etc

themanna:
I can't still get over it, my wife slap me for the first time. this is the lady that i brought up with my own hand sponsor her in school in Nigeria b4 we travel. After 4 years here the spirit jump on her to slap me. The reason was that we had an argument on how her brother was managing our goods in Nigeria;NL this is not worth of slapping me , she just feel like slapping me. I'm confused pls what should i do ?.

i think you think alike

if you where in nigeria she wouldnt have slap you becoz she knows that you would have whopped her arse, you are pissed becoz you know that she wouldnt do it in nigeria and there is nothing much you can do here especially if you are very proud of your ego(like most nigerians)

you wouldnt report her to police becoz of your ego and am sure she knows that

you should have paid attention to every detail she talks about from that you can always pick what your woman wants or wish to have

I am currently involved with a gentleman who I will call, Randy.Randy and I met about 6 months ago online.We got up a good chat, actually he saw me on a dating site, and contacted me.As we chatted together, he seemed like a dream to me, he said all the right things.And I was impressed.(Ladies, when a man sounds too good to be true.He usually is.) Anyway, I was a little nervous meeting him for the first time.But when we did meet, it was as if I were getting back to my best friend.He is involved in a religion that I am not use to.Now when I met this guy, I knew what I was dealing with, on the surface that is.I knew why he didn't have a car, was not working at the time, had been married before, had 2 kids, by 2 different females, and was living with his mother.I gave him a chance anyway.He turned out to be a good guy who just needed a little push on things.Turns out after knowing him some more, he does not plan to get a job, he does not plan to get a car, [size=8pt][/size]he never has money, he always has to ask me.What the hell am I doing still with him? I do have feelings for him.But he never seems to want to be with me now.All he does is hand me one phone call a day.It feels as if he is  just giving me enough attention to make me stay around a little longer.I am a good woman, I always try to do the right thing by people.And I feel like I am being used.Am I this man's fool 

whats the big deal with having a car ?

my question is do you have a car yourself