Delphi: Peter Obi's performance was excellent. The problem is that when it concerns Peter Obi, every dick, tom, and harry wants to spit so as to appear 'woke' and earn some minutes of relevance. By analysis; some people are not comfortable with an already prepared speech. And PO is one of such. However, I know his team must have mandated he uses the written form of address as not to miss any point whatsoever in this "critical outing". His performance wasn't bad at all in the (written) address session. However, he gave a sterling performance during the Q&A session. That's the type of person PO is- akin to Obama!. It is too unfortunate that just because of politics/election, people that ordinarily wouldn't have got opportunity to stand Infront / near such a personality like PO - a former Bank Chairman, former CEO of an international biz conglomerate, former Chairman of SEC, former State Governor, former Sp Adviser to President on economic matters are just opening their stinking buccal cavities and diseased hands to talk and type gibberish. The number of bad people in this country outweighs the good ones This is why no good thing (that works well in other climes) works in this country and people are comfortable with the situation. Irrespective of what the wicked and belligerent fellows do and act, even brandishing all their evil devices; Buhari will be the last President of "Old Nigeria" while Peter Obi is the (new) President of the "New Nigeria" (Insha Allah!!). There is a huge task for the literate and lettered (exposed) sector of the citizenry to liberate this country and emasculate it from the grips of the unlettered, illetrate and ill-hearted sector of the citizenry who wish to allow the statusquo remain, reject change and allow the country sink to everybody's disadvantage. God forbid!!
hartson: lol,I have downloaded refugee application forms of key countries so I am fully prepared to japa under refugee route So any huhuhu on,before or after election I don japa sharp sharp
If Yorubas hate Igbos as you say.. believe me, the Igbos would have long gone extinct.
ALL the successful Igbos you see today cut their teeth from Yoruba land, some born and bred in the west, grew up among Yorubas, enjoyed Awo's free education like every other Yoruba child and they never lacked in anyway.
Even after the civil war, Yorubas returned all Igbo properties and the rent paid by those who sublet their properties out.
Can same be said about Igbos who are so clannish and unwelcoming to other tribes in Nigeria?
Sensible people know that Yorubaland is the land where everyone gets equal treatment and equal chance to become something in life. In Unilag, UI, OAU and all the schools in South West you have Igbos and other tribes in their hundreds and thousands living life freely, nobody is imposing lockdown or inciting people to go and attack them on live radio.
So tell me how Yorubas are the ones hating.. Omuti Obiano, Okonjo Iweala and most prominent Igbos today lived and schooled in Yorubaland.
so no prominent Yorubas school in the south or in igbo land.
Your till acting the wrong way. Are you trying to say no Yoruba became successful in igbo land. What about other ethic group the efik people of calabar is a home to hopewaddell institute, university of calabar and other institutions of renounce does that mean they didn't produce anyone of prominent or importance. Are the efiks or other ethic groups not important to Nigeria. Its not all about we igbos, hausa and Yoruba
My point here is lets stop hating and start working together and build Nigeria for us all.
I just read through all the comments Nd all I see is hatred. We are not united in this country that is why we will never move forward. Igbo hate Yoruba and Hausa, Hausa hate everybody, Yoruba are hate igbos and love the Hausa. The funny thing is Nigeria is not all about the the three major ethic group other ethic groups are also very important but the major group keep fighting over power and wealth like it is their birthright. I pray things don't escalate during the election because it won't be funny for anybody northerner, southerner, east, west, where ever you are from even those abroad will suffer
Here are pics of "lazy SA black men" earning an honest living and developing their country by building t roads, power stations, stadiums and mining the world's deepest mines. Not japaring all over the place and being pests.
How many black SA men have you seen scavenging and being parasites in Nigeria, and then insulting their hosts?
it one thing to show photo of common laborers who are working on road while the white boss give instructions, same thing in Nigeria. Yet it does not change the fact you SA are lazy as fuk. If your south African you real need to change your mentality
That's the problem with your japaholism - you just jump into any country without understanding or respecting its way of life. SA is a sexually liberated country so why blame the "old woman" when the Nigerian is the one who broke SA rules?
Her privacy and trust in him was broken.
Gosh, SA was not even colonised by the French. What total ignorance is this?
not guilty until proven guilty. Learn to use your head. South Africans are just so low minded no wonder the British used them the mop floor
I have made up my mind to quit, it's hard for me but I have to move on...
Looking for best subtle way to tell her...
It really hurts you may not understand...
there's no subtle way to tell her. Just tell you can continue with her disrespectful behavior and you can't take it anymore that you will like to end things. And please don't fall for sentimental behavior like crying and etc
Can't sleep tonight cos of whole lot of thought going on inside of me.
Let me be brief, please permit me.
I was posted to another state on work related matter, there I meet this pretty lady. I am 35 yr she's 34 so we got along her kind behavior and her openess captivated my heart and after 3 months I said to myself I think I have found my missing rib.
Things were looking good, am actually based in one of the state in the north where am being posted from Abuja and what happens is my company sends personel from Lagos to come assist me and the person sent stays for 2month after which another person comes to replace him.
Anytime I have a colleague sent from Lag and my fiancee visit I do introduce her to my colleague as my person to be...two of my colleagues who have seen her before going back to Lagos have told me she will make a good wife.
I love and cherised her so much even when my job doesn't really pay me that much due to the part of the country where I found myself I still try to squeeze the little I have just to make her happy though she's not too demanding...
A month ago, a personel was sent from Lag on hanging out, my fiancee called me on phone I asked her where she was and told her to come see me where I was with my colleague cooling off after a busy day. She came and I introduced her to this guy they exchanged pleasantry but because we were done as at the time she arrived we dashed out immediately.
She returned back home while I and my colleague took a tricycle to our place of rest.
As we got home I noticed the mood of my guy changed, on trying to know why he said mehnnn I like your woman she's my kind of woman...I laughed it off.
So we have meet at different places together, until the unusual began happening....my girl will call me up and will be asking after my guy on a daily basis.
She did it to a point one day, she called told me I should tell my friend she asked after him that even if she knows I was not going to tell my friend that I should tell him she's greeting him the same way my guy disturbs me about her.
One day she called me while she was at work and am off, asked me if she could bring food for me of course I accepted though she does that occasionally.
As she arrived we sat in company lodge we discussed for sometime...and only God knows how many times she was asking after my guy.
My guy was not around at the same time I wanted to know what happens when my guy returns from the gym...
Before then I took my laptop and was operating while I wanted to see if my instinct is on point. while on the laptop my guy came in, from the gym they both greeted and on the guy teasing her on what to offer her or to take her out my fiancee was so engrossed that she never knew when she told me openly she missed my guy....
Bro see I no even read your post finish. At 34yrs she is not married and still want to play games and act like a child, bro dump her fast because is already sleeping with your friend. That the reason she been single, don't waste your precious time wwoth her.
Your friend is also very useless and has no respectfor you,it's time for your friendship to end. He can kill you, I repeat he can kill you
Madampauline: Back in the days I dated a married man I was 19 he was 35 married with kids.
He had done a lot for me, thanks to him I am in Europe now he has done everything for me.
I broke his heart after moving in Europe in 2011, I blocked him and moved on with my life.
I am happily married since 2015 with 2 beautiful children.
I learned that he passed away this year march and his wife and five children have nowhere to stay.
She is actually staying in church with 2 children while the other 3 are with relatives.
I feel so sad and I want to help her with accommodation and will give her money for business, I want to do know anonymously because if she knows it is me who want to help her I don't think she will accept the money.
Should I do it anonymously or I should let her know I am the one who want to help her.
Advice me please
Help but don't let her know you where dating her husband or your a gunner you will cause her more pain than you can imagine. By the way by helping them you would be removing some curses on your head and your children head. By the way make sure you help one come abroad
We all know no marriage is all that smooth and rosey, we all that are in it have challenges here and there, and for almost 11 years now, out of tolerance, ruggedity, minding my business in terms of taking care of the family have always been something that has held my marriage down, because the majority of the issue I have with my wife have always been issues of trust, transparency, accountability, respect and loyalty.
Some people will say with these things I have listed, that I may be asking for too much, but I can tell whoever would reason that way that it's not too much because am a responsible father/husband that have never for once strayed the family in anyway that will make me lack any of the above stated qualities a man can enjoy from a wife.
Why am I here? Ok.. After enduring so much for 11 years, we are relocating to the UK, she is the main applicant, myself and the 3 children are dependants, she traveled first, leaving myself and the 3 kids behind until she can secure accommodation b4 we leave.
I have heard about countless incidences of how SOME women treat their husbands and the POWER zoned to women in that country which makes it almost impossible for a man with a wife that gives him constant problem to be able to thrive in that country.
I just want to state three peculiar incidences that occured during her 1month stay over there that is already making me feel I have alot to face over there, though I know my God is bigger than anything, I just want people that are over there, or people that are experienced here and all over who are capable of handing a good advise for me on getting there to know how I can fare and withstand what is to come.
Based on the above from the major incidences I have experienced with her, first two weeks of being there, she had gone to check a house b4 heading to school, on her way back to school, she claimed she didn't take enough money and going back home might not be possible, I asked how she would wanna go about it and she replied saying I will borrow money from Mr Mike, a man she just met at school on her first day of registration. I was like that's wrong, you don't form familiarity with someone you just met in another man's country, I said I will call a friend in liverpool to send you money and you could get your train ticket. She fumed, but I stood my ground and said that's how its going to be. I have asked her to collect a friends account details, since she has not opened an account yet, she said when her class finishes by 8.30pm she'll request details from her friend so the money can be sent. Fast forward to closing period, I messaged her to send me details, she ignored, I called ad she said nobody has an account that I should not worry she will sort herself, I was now like you just got to that country, u have no friends that u know too well to rely on, I am ur hubby and I opened a way for u to get money easily, yet u didn't make any effort to redeem the opportunity, omo she hung up on me then later called back that she gathered few pennies she had to get the ticket, I was now like why didn't u just say this instead of putting me on pressure over how to get money to convey u all the way from london to Luton, over an hour journey at night.
Secondly, on her next school day, she had previously told me prior to her closing hours that her data has finished and she's using schools wifi, that the moment she steps out from school to head home, she won't be having access to internet, etc WhatsApp and all of that, but importantly was to make use of GPS google map, that's what people over there use to navigate their way in order not to get lost, I was like without internet how do u intend to get to ur destination when u know how stressful it was for u getting lost the other day, now the same statement she made was, I will sort myself. I was raged and said woman I will ask my friend to buy u data so u can get home easy and safe, she said no proble, that she's leaving now, I said well since i wont be able to reach you on whats app, I will definitely call you on normal call shortly to give you the data pin to load. She said no P and hung up.
Moments later, my friend had sent me the data pin, na so I begin dey call wifey oo, over 15 missed calls she nor pick. Later she called back and said her phone was in her laptop bag and her hands were frozen so she couldnt put hands in the bag to pick the call and that she didn't even hear it ring.
The issue I posted up there are issues of not being accountable, and attitude of not showing that you don't need me when its not just about that but for security and your well being knowing fully well you are new in the country and proper guidelines needs to be taken.
Another incident happened 3rd week after her arrival, we were video chatting while she was on a train station waiting for train, next thing I noticed was a guy sitting BEHIND her, the guy boldly took a peep into her phone directly, seemingly trying to see who she was on video call with, immediately i called her attention to it, she just smiled and looked back and said silently, nawa some people for this London nor go mind their business. This very day developed a story that transitioned towards few things I will be stating.
The next sunday, I called her in the morin to say hi and all that, next thing I know she dun dey go church, she nor even discuss am with me and na wetin we dn agree on sey we fo jointly choose church wey we go dey go. After church service, she call me sey that guy wey i talk sey dey peep into her phone, sey the guy that very day asked her how long shes been there for, she said, just 3 weeks, sey how come she come take know road when him don dey 3months he nver know road, sey that same guy him coincidentally meet am for the new church wey she come so, sey the guy dey look am, she comot eye, but later the guy come meet am sey are u not the one that showed me way to where I was going. Sey as him meet the guy coincidentally for church, he fit be sey he get why, maybe for job connection or what not. I nor say anything, cos coincidences arent something new in this world. Then the next day, she call me sey that same guy needs an apartment, sey na married guy with 4 kids, but him wife and 1kid dey here, 3 dey nija them nor fit come yet until house is ready, sey him dey ask her if she can help him get someone that can reference for him to get a house, ha him my wife come dey ginger me sey make i help am talk to my friend wey help us reference if him go fit help the guy too. I come sey no problem, she sey she go call the guy now and put us on 3 way call, i sey no p, i come dey wait for call, no call come and madam nor talk again, i come ring her sey hafa u nor do the three way call again? She sey the guy dey work, him nor fit talk,sey she don give the guy my number to call me later, me come sey no p, send him number I go save am down so if he calls i go know sey na him, madam nor gree send number, I come dey wonder sey wetin dey sup sef, normally I nor spose reason ahead, but me my instict dey very strong, i come begin dey put two and two together sey maybe the guy intention was never to get help but to use style dey hit on my madam maybe na why him nor wan talk to me but wan use my madam dey take communicate.
I come ask madam some some questions on previous ish, I come find out sey small lie dey, so I tackler her sey the way she take explain to me about how him meet the guy for train station nor join, she come vex sey me i come am liar, omo as we dey talk for whatsapp, i nor blv sey my madam added this guy to the call without my consent or my knowledge, so as I dey talk, the guy dey the background, i nor even know anything and the dude himself kept quiet, na after the call finish, I see am for call details sey the guy was added to the call, infact the dude even called me directky i nor pick. Now i got very angry, come call madam sey wetin dey sup, u added this dude wey talk sey him dey work him nor fit talk to the call wey me and u dey on and u didnt even notify me, ok lets agree sey if to sey u wan tell me sey u wan add the guy for call sey i nor go gree sey maybe na why u add am without my consent, at least after u add am secretly, u are suppose to talk and sey bae, since u are accusing me wrongly.
I have added the guy to this call so he can clear me out, but she didnt, she just added the guy and the dude himself kept quiet and didnt say a word until I hung up. I got very furious and told her this is the highest level of see finish and dragging in the mud, wetin u want that guy to dey feel like now? She said shes sorry that she only wanted to clear herself, I was now like even if u wanted to clear urself, if that the best way to go about it, the person who is the subject matter is the best person u need to introduce to clear u out? Later on i just bone the matter come apologise sey make we move on, na so she come begin dey yarn plenty, sey she call the guy that my hubby said that the way we met is unreal, sey the guy sef come talk sey wow, so your husband already thinks am sleeping with you, but i cant blame u though, u know u have a big back side, so thoughts like that from him is likely not a surprise, i was hmmmm to hear that, i come tell madam sey if na true this guy talk this thing, shouldnt u already know he has corny itentions, she said well she too dey wonder cos the two times wey them meet she nor wear wetin fit show her bkside so how d guy come take know. The matter end there, next day madam still dey worry me sey shey I go still help d guy, I was like I cant even talk to him, u dun useless me already for him presence, she dey claim sey she nor do anything wrong by adding him to the call, sey the guy know of agency wey fit help me get better job if i arrive, and sey the guy talk sey if me fit connect am to my friend to reference am for house, him go link me up fr the agency. I talk sey i nor dey interested. Omo I weak. Guys I need advise on how to handle issues over there, cos me nor dey take nonsense for nija here, but for there, one needs to chill, but then should it now be sey because we dey live for country wey give woman power, make woman come use that opportunity come dey fumble?
Listen brother. Nobody is worth you happiness. You have to use your head. Nigerian men and women are very wicked in this abroad where you one come so but you have to use you head.
No here my advice let her be, and zero your heart. Just accept say she can cheat on you and nothing will happen. Now when you get to uk. I fact right now start planing yourself, start develop yourself if it raising your own money start doing so. Since your friend is there ask him about jobs. Now as I said leave madam a lone. Just make sure you focus on yourself, if possible apply for masters course or PhD if you've not done so, get yourself engaged on something keep yourself busy forget that woman, anything she do just ignore and focus on building yourself. Because the truth is your wife is not faithful to you and if you go there and do something you are gone. Now build yourself and japa. You fit relocate to another country leave am for uk
DSS1335: I am writing this with a sorrowful heart! This is quite a lengthy piece!!
In 2018, My wife brought a live-in maid toward the end of her gestational period as we eagerly anticipate the birth of our first fruit after 8 years of marriage.
We took the young girl as part of our family, she was just 13 years old in JSS2 at the time she joined us. She does minor household chores, like washing the dishes, keeping the house in and out clean, that's all. I made sure her education was not interrupted, she continued her schooling from Js3 till she completed her SSCE this year. Outsiders thought she was my first child considering the way she was being taken good care of.
At 16 years age, the evidence of proper nutrition was so glaring in her physique, the young girl of yesterday was already a beautiful damsel. I protected her from ravenous men old enough to be her father. Even from her classmates. Perhaps the mistake i made was in buying her phone before WAEC exam started. Well, the need for constant communication can not be overemphasized because i and my wife go out for work in the morning. My wife comes back in the day while i return back in the evening. Living her our 2 kids in her care: My first Child is 3 years plus in Nursery, the second is about 2 years in Prenursery.
When her mother made a stop by to visit her daughter 5 months ago after 4 years, she was so full of praise and thanking us for taking good care of her daughter, and begged us to allow her stay longer with us rather than her returning back to the village after completing her WAEC. I and my wife plan that i will take up the responsibility to train her up in University so she can be light to her family. Her elder siblings didn't complete their secondary school!
Today, all those dreams and aspirations have been shattered! The innocent girl child i took as a daughter is 5 months pregnant without even knowing she was pregnant! How possible? I could have swear with my life that she was still a virgin and innocent. Damm it! Where do I start from eh??
Well, my wife was rattled up by a what she called a terrible nightmare, she dreamt that she saw her girl carrying a new born baby. That was around 3 A.M she woke her up from sleep and asked her if she was pregnant, the girl denied it ignorantly. My wife had no reason to suspect her as she always buy her pads for her monthly menses except for this month. Then examined her and her suspicion became heightened as she saw a remarkable changes, her bra can't fit any longer, her bellybutton was out with black line running down! She ordered her to pee and run her test kit, it came back positive! My wife broke down in tears.
That morning, we didn't go to work for the day. we grilled her with questions. She confessed to us that she had intercourse only once in the month MAY yet she was still seeing her monthly menses. That she had a boy friend whom they secretly communicate on phone every day. That she lost her virginity to the boy. And they did it only ones in less than 30 minutes as she came back to check the kids who were still sleeping in the afternoon.
The boy came to visit her grand mother who return from the USA, she refused traveling to the East due to insecurities and rented a flat opposite my compound for just 3 months from March to June. During her stay, all her children and grandchildren came to visit her. It was one of her grand son that lured my maid and took advantage of her innocences.
We contacted the boy on phone and told him what happened, he denied it that it is impossible for him to be held responsible that he had sex with her only once and that's not enough to get a girl pregnant! I swear,i could have dealt with him fatally if he were within my reach. Well, i was able to comport myself and explain to him in details after which he kept quiet. He is just 20 years old awaiting admission. We have informed the girl's mother too who became shock and cold! And asked her daughter to return back to the village!
Considering this scenario, i came up with the plan to make that boy and family take up the responsibility of the pregnancy, she can't remain with my family anymore so as not draw unnecessary attention. I will track down the boy and his family and file a statutory rape charge against them if all avenue to resolve this case peacefully fail. From Pregnancy to child care is no joke. My people that is no joke at all. I feel very bad and compassionate for the innocent young girl who will be forced to sacrifice her future to be in the family way.
Any honest advise on how best to tackle this issue at hand would be appreciated
she not innocent. A 16 year old with the kind of world we live in knows alot.
Just report the issue to the police, because it is child abuse as she is not up to 18yrs. Leave the rest to go.
Good maid = bad oga and madam, bad maid = good oga and madam
lhordspy: You see my friends, Abraham Lincoln once said, and i quote:
"My concern is not whether God is on our side; my greatest concern is to be on God's side, for God is always right".
And do you know what God said:
In Joshua 4:23
"For the Lord your God dried up the waters of the Jordan before you until you had crossed, just as the Lord your God had done to the Red Sea, which He dried up before us until we had crossed;"
The Lord already granted us victory. i think am convinced truly that JAGABAN is truly coming....
Cheers to a new Nigeria!!
how can somebody see a man that is sick and old and yet will be saying all your saying above. Honestly I don't know what to say again
Since the day I came across a post by one guy here stating his experience right from the moment he applied for the Scholarship till the last day he boarded plane (though the guy turn out to be scam yet he narrated everything in details to the extent that I was already seeing myself in Poland. Lol) I have decided to give it a try though ASUU is delaying thing but yet my determination is still high.
keep pushing. Going abroad is not easy. The process is always looks easy but the stress can be overwhelming but don't give. Anywhere in Europe is better than nigeria.
Another advice, If you don't the finance to go abroad develop yourself learn a tech skill. It will help you and you will get a job from Nigeria
luluosas: Marry first, then ask us how we've been doing it for the past 17 years in marriage
sir if your wife cheated on you and you galdy had to find out yourself how are you sure she didn't cheat on you later. Don't you paternity court, Don't you watch the news our time is not your time sir. If women where going crazy 17 years ago, now 2022 Women have gone mad patapata. Life is more difficult than 17 years ago. I refuse to die for any woman and even my own children.
See the exple that I gave you How you wan solve am That is just one o There is still another that happen in Chevron Okay let me add that one here The dude a big boy came complaining that his wife gave a standing order no sex for the marriage until she is ready in two after her programme.dude was soonsex starved that he literally was paying money to a girl to just get laid. Long story short lady is pregnant and wants marriage. The dude was crying
as a Christian the Bible said don't refuse each other your body. If my wife has no reason to refuse me sex I'll lay her off. Is there no condom, are they no contraceptive. If she can't give you sex, she dey collect outside. Instead of falling into sin sendher packing.
Now if the lady out side is pregnant dude already has a wife she can't force him to marry her. She can end up as baby mama as she knew what will happen if she date a married man
That is why I said prayer! Now let us say a man was married with a wife for 12 years.the man lost his job and the woman is the one working and her work takes her time from Monday to sunday.will you judge the man if his neighbours wife text him that he should have sex with her for him to have connections to make money!
yes I will. If he can sleep with her for money then he can kill his wife for money. There is no excuse for cheating. If the person comes clean then it's okay, but if he or she keeps it secret. hmmm that is where you should draw a line.
No that is not the way to go about the response! One you don't get married to have someone cheat on you No one prays for that but The prayer is that when you get married Heavenly Father lead us not into temptation and deliver us from evil!
Why the importance marriage is a journey .a journey that has all sorts of props! Let God not allow wicked people set up props for our marital journey and family! And God should give us wisdom to successfully tackle and solve any problem that comes out way
amen. One advice to solve all this cheating in marriage is avoid any relationship with the opposite sex. Keep everything between you and them official as possible
It's not even about being a good man Confession and Repentance is key here...that's if they are christians... Everything is not violence The same reason why Jesus did not allow them to stone that adulterous woman in the Bible...
What if it was the man that an affair, impregnated some other lady and not the woman.... Everybody will say it's normal..sort yourselves
Now...the dude still like his wife ....the mother of his children, the psychological effect on his kids staying away from their mother at this early stage... Those are the things bothering him...
He is weighing his options....
It's so easy for you all to sit and tell him to scatter the marriage....
let me just say this. While he might love his wife she does not love him. Do you know what it means to be attached to someone for a year talkless of 4-5 year have 4 kids with this person, share the same bed with this person then damn it all to sleep with another man in her office. Do you think it just happened in one day. What if she had std and he ignorantly got it and have his life terminated young. Omo a man can sleep with another woman and love his wife but a woman can't
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