Yomieluv: Can someone explain the rationale between being poor,and having many children?despite most people who are poor,dont feed well,how come their s.per.m is able to fertilize egg,and rich that feeds well,always have low s.per.m count...the man ought to be arrested for causing population explosion#justjoking#.

seedord247: Since the govt were not to be blamed why does chinese govt authorized one child policy?

eduson33: madam abeg,mix peper soup and beans,add okporoko and kpomo.spray some stew if posible.no time for dis kin talk

Chedarking: You can be sure this woman would be VERY concerned about the price of Garri....

shymexx:

Why should the entire society and government share the blame?

coogar:

that is if the man hasn't left her already the moment she misses her period....

Nuzo':

Thank you for the question.
The society should bear part of the blame because of stigmatization they have place on families with only female children. In other words, placing more importance on the male child over their female counterparts pushs women like this to breed more in order to avoid being stigmatized.

Its the government's duty to enlighten and provide the necessary infomation to her citizenry. This goes a long way to saving the tax payers' money that will be used to manage situations like this. In some cases, such situation become worst, hence cost a lot of government money.

Miss_3v3: This man was her husband not some stupid bf. Unfortunately the main problem is the type of men these women go for. Real men would not abandon their wifes or kids during tough times only the cowards. Woman should stop settling with imbeciles just for the sake of getting married. Monitor them and see how they are before they get married. He probably showed signs of a selfish man who does nt like responsibilities. When women finally realise that then things will get a bit better. Also unfortunately not every one has the finance to education so the government should try perhaps to organise programes to enlighten sucg individuals.

Miss_3v3: This man was her husband not some stupid bf. Unfortunately the main problem is the type of men these women go for. Real men would not abandon their wifes or kids during tough times only the cowards. Woman should stop settling with imbeciles just for the sake of getting married. Monitor them and see how they are before they get married. He probably showed signs of a selfish man who does nt like responsibilities. When women finally realise that then things will get a bit better. Also unfortunately not every one has the finance to education so the government should try perhaps to organise programes to enlighten sucg individuals.

ayobase:

Is it a crime if someone planned for 5kids, but being suddenly 8..what did u expect....abi na the man programme the 4 kids for there?
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And about the issue of people giving birth like ducks....thats illiteracy and with some factors involved.
Havent u heard about Islamizing by child bearing and reaering?
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Government indeed has a role to play Ileke!

Miss_3v3: This man was her husband not some stupid bf. Unfortunately the main problem is the type of men these women go for. Real men would not abandon their wifes or kids during tough times only the cowards. Woman should stop settling with imbeciles just for the sake of getting married. Monitor them and see how they are before they get married. He probably showed signs of a selfish man who does nt like responsibilities. When women finally realise that then things will get a bit better. Also unfortunately not every one has the finance to education so the government should try perhaps to organise programes to enlighten sucg individuals.

Tolaaaaannni:

You are speaking like its their first child, keep in mind that they have already had 5 children before this. So it must have been a long time that she was married to the "imbe.cile". Im not trying to take the womans side, and im definately not trying to take the side of the man too but im sure the price of condoms is not that expensive.

maclatunji: Drama in Ibadan: Woman gives birth to quadruplets after five children, husband absconds

"Children are the heritage of God and blessed is the man that his quiver is full of them,” says the Holy book, but not in the situation of 35-year-old Iyabo Oladunni, a mother of five girls who was blessed with a set of quadruplets at 5:14pm on Friday 24, 2012 at the University College Hospital (UCH), Ibadan .

Iyabo, who live in Ijaye Orile near Ibadan, Oyo State, with her husband, Olayemi Oladunni, is a tailor by profession, while her husband is a welder.

The mother of five girls before the birth of the quadruplets said that her aim and hope of having another baby after the five girls was to have a boy. But to her amazement, God gave her more than she requested and expected.

Moreover, Iyabo Oladunni said that the eldest of the first five girls, who is now 12 years old, lives with her father’s younger brother at Lagos. The second girl, 8-year-old, is presently in Nursery 3 in a school in Ijaye; the third born, a set of twins, are in Nursery 1 and the fifth girl, aged three years has not started schooling.

When asked how she feels about the birth of the babies, Iyabo said “I have mixed feelings about their deliveries. I’m partly happy and partly sad. I’m happy because I have a male which is my desire among the four children, and sad because I don’t have the wherewithal to take care of them in a rented room where we live.”

According to Iyabo, although the couple were both desirous to have a male child, it was amazing that her husband and the father of the quadruplets, Olayemi, took to his heels immediately he had an inkling a day to his wife’s delivery.

Recounting her husband's reaction when he heard she was carrying four babies in her womb, Iyabo said “after a scan was carried out in the month of March this year, and it showed there were four babies in my womb, I was afraid and started crying.

'"But the doctor who did the ultrasound test encouraged me to pray to God for assistance instead of weeping. The man also told me that God, who put them there, will definitely take care of them. When I got home after the scan, I told my husband about it and he kept asking me 'where do I take the four babies to?'"

She, however, pleaded with her husband wherever he is that he should return home so that they can jointly take care of the babies, even as she called on the Oyo State governor, Senator Abiola Ajimobi, to come to the aid of the babies in whatever ways he deems fit. She also appealed to Nigerians generally to come to her rescue.

According to the pastor of the Oladunnis, Evangelist Olawumi Abiola of Emmanuel Anglican Church, Ijaye Orile, Akinyele Local Government, Ibadan, “Mrs. Iyabo Oladunni started complaining of stomach pain for a very long time and had used some medications. When she told me that the pain persisted, I persuaded her to undergo a medical test in order to get to the root of the stomach pain.

After the test, she discovered that it was pregnancy and I told her that she should go and register in a hospital outside Ijaye. She obeyed and came to register at Adeoyo State Hospital. I can’t afford to lose her as I lost another member of the church about two years ago.”

Evangelist Abiola also spoke about the committment of the Oladunnis, especially the wife owing to the fact that women are generally committed to the work of God. He also expressed his gratitude to God for keeping the four babies and their mothers alive. "I implore Nigerians to come to our aid, most especially considering the future of these children. The responsibility cannot be carried by an individual more so that the parents live in a village; there is no money in the village.”

Also speaking, the mother-in-law, Madam Moyiola Oladunni, said, “I’m very happy for this miraculous work of God. When God gives me this blessing, I can’t question him, but my major concern is how to take care of these blessings because it’s not a one-man responsibility.”

http://www.olufamous.com/2012/09/husband-absconds-after-wife-delivers.html#more

Kobojunkie:

We have heard this story hundreds/thousands of times before now. I do have to ask why people are not addressing the obvious problems. The man living now does not mean he would not have left if she had not had the quads now. I mean honestly, women need to start re-focusing their minds a bit more.
She already had five kids living in the same cramped apartment. Why think of having another when she has yet to solve the problem of their living in that cramped apartment?

Kobojunkie:

We have heard this story hundreds/thousands of times before now. I do have to ask why people are not addressing the obvious problems. The man living now does not mean he would not have left if she had not had the quads now. I mean honestly, women need to start re-focusing their minds a bit more.
She already had five kids living in the same cramped apartment. Why think of having another when she has yet to solve the problem of their living in that cramped apartment?

Miss_3v3: This man was her husband not some stupid bf. Unfortunately the main problem is the type of men these women go for. Real men would not abandon their wifes or kids during tough times only the cowards. Woman should stop settling with imbeciles just for the sake of getting married. Monitor them and see how they are before they get married. He probably showed signs of a selfish man who does nt like responsibilities. When women finally realise that then things will get a bit better. Also unfortunately not every one has the finance to education so the government should try perhaps to organise programes to enlighten sucg individuals.

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shymexx:

I don't think the 'stigmatization' is a societal thing - I think it's more of a cultural thing. It happens in most cultures, where only male kids are allowed to carry on with the family name/tradition, or are more valued. No one wants their family name to die, and in as much as people put importance to the LAST NAME - the culture isn't going anywhere soon.



The government can't enlighten people, if they can't give the people they govern their dividends of democracy. Most people who tend to have many kids are poor and as long as there's poverty in Nigeria, this vicious cycle is going to continue. Sex is the poor man's only get-away from the stress in life and you can't expect him to give that up as well, do you?

The situation isn't costing tax payers(if at all anyone pays tax in Nigeria) money in Nigeria. The last time I checked, there's no social welfare in Nigeria.

The only solution to this problem is to get people out of poverty but people shouldn't be dictated to on the number of kids they should have - as long as they can look after them.