Pmond
that was cool,you took that like some lecturer

pmond:


Dignity in a woman is not about her being a virgin; it’s her not letting herself being used and abused. Remember dignity means self-respect or a token of respect… virgins mostly lack self” dignity” and not until a girl is a woman… she means little to the society at large.

Pmond i will agree has done a pretty good job on this topic,however; i disagree with the sentences in quote ( dats if i inserted d quoting rite cos i ve not used that thing b4) .Anyway u may not kno or understand that MANY virgins choose to remain virgins so as not to b used or abused ( permit me to borrow ur words). Avoiding that feeling of being used brings about a feeling of dignity and opting to stay a virgin till u r married leads to self fulfilment cos u actualized ur dream. As for a girl meaning little to the society unitl she is a woman , u prolly have to explain that cos for me im implying u r referring to virgins as girls. A virgin lady 20/21 yrs of age cant necessarily b described as a girl n i see no way she can mean little to the society as opposed to her non-virgin age mate. ( this is of course if u r referring to "girl" as virgin n "woman" as non-virgin).
You may re-think ur understanding of the word "virgin", it means no penetration. Now, i do not condone virgins that involve themselves in numerous sexual act n still feel dignified , but i think u may want to revise this
"because you haven’t been fully penetrated doesn’t mean you are a virgin".

_hmmmmm

Kellyp,
You said many choose to remain virgin because of the fear of being used and abused… the fear of being used don’t bring dignity. I believe as long a girl want sex and had it with a guy who also want the same thing… it’s a give and take thing and neither party took an upper hand than the other – its really a low mentally to believe that guys always takes it all. I think there’s more dignity taking an unknown path cause it is what you want, than shying away because you fear the unknown.

If you know any woman who remains virgin and had sex until married, she would most likely tell you that what really made her fulfilled was her being deflowered. It’s a relief, of sinful desires of countless thoughts and want! She wouldn’t most likely tell you though, not except she did think aloud!!! So my dear Kellyp, not the woman staying virgin until honeymoon makes her fulfilled… some still wish there have taken that unknown paths lost in the past.

As a man or a woman (boy & Girl, neither way you want it), we have limited right and respect until said married… read between the line Kellyp – can a married woman ever be seen as a virgin? Who is most likely to be dignified in the society; a married woman or a virgin girl?

Virgin literally means Purity. And I explained why I said "…because you haven’t been fully penetrated doesn’t mean you are a virgin". The argument at ground was virginity signifying dignity. Yes it could be if you are pure and without blemish… but can any living being have a personality with little or without flaws?

A girl literally is the naïve state of a woman. A woman is a girl that barely lack experience about her opposite sex (base on this argument not on a general level). A lady of 20/21 and still a virgin could be a woman by right and cause she have everything in the right places (Hope you know what I mean *winked*). But judging from her sexuality (nature) she is more like a day year old girl with a hymen (if ever its still present at 20/21)… have you ever heard the caught phrase “…he made me woman”?

So girls, as long you are not being violated and willingly had sex with a guy cause you wanted it, you are not being used. Maybe betrayed, but it wasn’t the sex he had with you that was betrayed, it was your heart. So the sex you had wasn’t the mistake you made, it was given your heart. And like someone can’t take your face away from you head… dignity can’t be taken except you decide to do away with it yourself.

Conclusion:
Can you really tell a girl is a virgin cause she bleeds after intercourse? Think again. Sometime the hymen can be stretchy during sex or had broken “long-way-back” before her first intercourse. So what happen to a virgin that don’t bleed when she had sex with her husband?

So I present to you all: Dignity could be built from self achievements and opportunities. Virginity is every humans’ right and to develop you have to let go because it degrading to stay so. Degrading could be an opposite of Dignity… if you would ever agree with me on that one; you’re just as wish as the Three Wise Men.

great write up, pmond. Totally agree.

Pmond i dnt know about u, but i def believe someone remaining a virign is more of a dignity than a lack of opportunity

did you even read what he wrote?

@topic


Simple and short, the calabar girl is sex-starved and used you as the provider,so dont feel like a man to here.

Blame your parents for the lack of proper brough up

Sexual intercourse at the age of age 14 couldn’t be much of sex. And A21 is right; it was the Calabar girl that graved for sex, so she was the one who had the opportunity and seized it. She also violated and abused you.

However, sex shouldn’t be since as an opportunity but something spiritual that individuals intertwine them souls. And not a lot could see beyond the lustful desire of relieving themselves from a graving *Private*

Yes Kellp, didn’t you read what I wrote? Virgin or no virgin… the woman virginal is always her pride and she needs to protect it and only should share it from her own willingness… that’s dignity.
And you never really loss the virginity cause you still have the virginal… A rose is still a rose, in its garden or supermarket.

Sexual intercourse at the age of age 14 couldn’t be much of sex. And A21 is right; it was the Calabar girl that graved for sex, so she was the one who had the opportunity and seized it. She also violated and abused you.

However, sex shouldn’t be since as an opportunity but something spiritual that individuals intertwine them souls. And not a lot could see beyond the lustful desire of relieving themselves from a graving *Private*

Yes Kellp, didn’t you read what I wrote? Virgin or no virgin… the woman virginal is always her pride and she needs to protect it and only should share it from her own willingness… that’s dignity.
And you never really loss the virginity cause you still have the virginal… A rose is still a rose, in its garden or supermarket.

Good spelling son! Perfect use of grammar too!
never you cosign my posts anymore if you dont want hell on earth. . .

Tkb417… I wish I could say the same about your use of English. First I think I made a typo in my write-up (doubt if you could ever find that typo in a thousand years).

And you my friend abused the word “cosign”… you need to learn how to put the right word in the right place. I would just sit here and look… as you destroy yourself with this your TKB (I Know Best).

Tkb417… I wish I could say the same about your use of English. First I think I made a typo in my write-up (doubt if you could ever find that typo in a thousand years).

And you my friend abused the word “cosign”… you need to learn how to put the right word in the right place. I would just sit here and look… as you destroy yourself with this your TKB (I Know Best).

[s]ure a Pillock!!!! look for that in the dictionary again. . .see, your problem is you have never been outside your fathers compound.

Let me teach you a little thing. . .der are some words they call cliches , you havent heard of it before ; You must be from the bush. If you have heard of it, you wont make a fuss about cosign. . .in fact Pmond is a simpleton!!! check that again
im having a laff. . .

If i exhibit "i too know" to you, its because we will never be on the same level.
have you heard of warwick before? Check wiki, and please tell your community to do an appeal fund for you to have it stamped on your CV.

Na today? all these agberos on Nairaland. No be your fault
Destroy myself? Put a gallon of gasoline, set me on fire. . .you know what? its too late for me to be destroyed.

Just watch your grammar because TKB is here [/s]

@ pmond and tkb,
Wetin do the two of una? Abeg go siddon jare. Make better people talk on why you must keep your virginity.

@Pataki

Virginity bawo? i no sabi anything like that
i never jam

tkb417:

@Pataki

Virginity bawo? i no sabi anything like that
i never jam

For this kain thing wey you talk. . . . . . . .

. . . . . . . . You no go jam!

erm, shey na prayer abi na cuss?
i no go jam with my car but i go jam virgins

Abeg no jam virgin[b]s[/b]. That one na self inflicted cuss.

pahtahkee:

Abeg no jam virgin[b]s[/b]. That one na self inflicted cuss.

. . . . . and how is that ?

do you mean all virgins are carrying curses

@NaJa HaJe
how u been girl?

NaJa HaJe:

do you mean all virgins are carrying curses

I do not mean virgins are carrying curses. If you read the context in which I was holding my discourse you do note the emphasis I placed on the[i] virgin[b]s[/b][/i] with tkb, when he prayed that he would continue jamming virgin[b]s[/b]

Why would you want to continue having sex with all virgin[b]s[/b]?

Am I clear to you now?

whatever!. . . .

I do not mean virgins are carrying curses. If you read the context in which I was holding  my discourse you do note the emphasis I placed on the virgins with tkb, when he prayed that he would continue jamming virgins

Why would you want to continue having sex with all virgins?[/b]Am I clear to you now?

Pataki wan kill me for Nairaland . . .
i'm not praying to [b]jam virgins to have sex with them, im praying to jam virgins to marry one of them

@NajaHaje
don't mind o. . .i don't know what hes talking about

@Pmond
i had to cancel my post above
sowrrry man

pahtahkee:

I do not mean virgins are carrying curses. If you read the context in which I was holding my discourse you do note the emphasis I placed on the[i] virgin[b]s[/b][/i] with tkb, when he prayed that he would continue jamming virgin[b]s[/b]

Why would you want to continue having sex with all virgin[b]s[/b]?

Am I clear to you now?

not really. . . . . still dont see how that is a 'cuss' . . . . . . but anyhow sha

Busta:

@NaJa HaJe
how u been girl?

a been good man. U? how's canada treating u? _{i should come visit this year except its really cold}

@tkb417

Babes how you dey na? i haven't been in contact cos i cant find where i wrote it down. _{my desk is really untidy.}

1234@s.com

@tkb417

thanks. . . u can take it off.

Tbk, your hand was very warm; when we shook hands (cold means its not genuine, warm means it is) *smile*
So my friend, stay bless

hahahahahahahhahaha

Again!!!


I no go remove this one lai lai!

Pataki
oya jooo. . .for the last time abeggi

Wetin Naja Haje fit say for this matter?

@pahtahkee

i take god beg u . . . . abeg na

I hear you ma! The next time I catch him, I no go hear word oh.