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Re: Single Mothers Are Never Taken Serious by VirginFinder: 10:17am On Nov 30, 2012 |
It's funny how ladies want to eat their cakes and have them. They want to lead wild youthful lives and eventually have a normal happy married life/home. It just doesn't work that way. Believe it or not, a man will always treat his wife based on her sexual status when he first met her. 9 Likes |
Re: Single Mothers Are Never Taken Serious by Sagamite(m): 12:25pm On Nov 30, 2012 |
mondi_cheeks: You have not answered my question. Will you date a dwarf? 4 Likes |
Re: Single Mothers Are Never Taken Serious by Nobody: 1:13pm On Nov 30, 2012 |
Sagamite:why not if I love him? |
Re: Single Mothers Are Never Taken Serious by cantell(m): 1:15pm On Nov 30, 2012 |
AyaSammy:You sound like a single mother - fighting everyone with a negative opinion about single mothers. @topic, If not for the new generation and the constant change in our society, women used to keep their virginity for their wedding night as a gift to their husbands. These days, some give birth to one or two children while they're single and they still wish for a knight in shining armour. Getting married to someone is a problem on its own, add a little brat to the equation and you have situation in your hands. I'd like to be a father when I'm ready not in compromise. 1 Like |
Re: Single Mothers Are Never Taken Serious by Nobody: 1:19pm On Nov 30, 2012 |
cantell:so u r clever enough to be sexually active but dumb enough not to know that u can become a father before u are ready as a result of it |
Re: Single Mothers Are Never Taken Serious by Sagamite(m): 1:31pm On Nov 30, 2012 |
mondi_cheeks: why not if I love him? What took you so long to answer? So you have to love a dwarf before you date him? So what are the chances you can fall in love with a dwarf? 1 Like |
Re: Single Mothers Are Never Taken Serious by Sagamite(m): 1:33pm On Nov 30, 2012 |
cantell: Kids can be very cute though. 1 Like |
Re: Single Mothers Are Never Taken Serious by Nobody: 1:35pm On Nov 30, 2012 |
Sagamite:I'm sure I made my answer clear. Am I suppose to be on NL all day |
Re: Single Mothers Are Never Taken Serious by Sagamite(m): 1:39pm On Nov 30, 2012 |
mondi_cheeks: I'm sure I made my answer clear. Am I suppose to be on NL all day That does not really answer my questions. It appears evasive. I will ask again: So you have to love a dwarf before you date him? So what are the chances you can fall in love with a dwarf? |
Re: Single Mothers Are Never Taken Serious by Nobody: 1:42pm On Nov 30, 2012 |
Sagamite:I have to fall in love wit a guy before I date him, whether dwarf or he is as tall as victor matfield |
Re: Single Mothers Are Never Taken Serious by Sagamite(m): 1:46pm On Nov 30, 2012 |
mondi_cheeks: I have to fall in love wit a guy before I date him, whether dwarf or he is as tall as victor matfield Okay, that answers the first part. Thank you very much, mondi_cheeks. Now the second one: So what are the chances you can fall in love with a dwarf? |
Re: Single Mothers Are Never Taken Serious by SAGirl: 1:50pm On Nov 30, 2012 |
This still all boils down to one simple conclusion: everyone to his own. If you are a man and you feel you do not want anything to do with a woman who has already born a child... then fine. It is okay. Single women are not missing out on anything by not having an opportunity to be with you... you are doing THEM a favor. I have a friend who is dating a single mother of 3: one of her own, one adopted, plus her young brother. He adores her and her kids. Children are a gift, and men who choose to be with women who have children undertand that. They are not baggage, they are not a burden, they are a gift. I'm in love with a man who has a little daughter. And i fell in love with the little girl before her father. She is to die for and i would love nothing better than to contribute to the woman she is going to be one day. |
Re: Single Mothers Are Never Taken Serious by Sagamite(m): 1:52pm On Nov 30, 2012 |
SAGirl: This still all boils down to one simple conclusion: everyone to his own. If you are a man and you feel you do not want anything to do with a woman who has already born a child... then fine. It is okay. Single women are not missing out on anything by not having an opportunity to be with you... you are doing THEM a favor. Well said. |
Re: Single Mothers Are Never Taken Serious by Sagamite(m): 1:54pm On Nov 30, 2012 |
mondi_cheeks, while I wait patiently for you to answer, please can I add one more question: If you had a dwarf and a tall guy who are both of the same personality and achievement, asking to date you, who would you go for? Thank you in advance for answering. 1 Like |
Re: Single Mothers Are Never Taken Serious by Nobody: 1:56pm On Nov 30, 2012 |
Sagamite:I'm not a prophet I don't know when I will meet a dwarf that will like me and want to have a relationship wit me |
Re: Single Mothers Are Never Taken Serious by Sagamite(m): 2:01pm On Nov 30, 2012 |
mondi_cheeks: I'm not a prophet I don't know when I will meet a dwarf that will like me and want to have a relationship wit me I am sorry. It appears my english was not legible enough. I apologise for my rass education with madrassas in Ijebu-igbo. The question was about what you believe are your chances you will be attracted to a dwarf and fall in love with him. Not the chances you will meet a dwarf that likes you. It is really as simple as when you ask a black girl if she will date/marry a non-black guy. The answer is normally "Yes or No because ......". It would be weird if she said: "I'm not a prophet I don't know when I will meet a non-black that will like me and want to have a relationship wit me". They normally always know the answer to the question because the know what they find attractive and what they will date. It would sound evasive if they come with such answer. I am confident in you that you are not attempting to be evasive. So, mondi_cheeks, please have another crack at answering that question. And there is a new one added now. 1 Like |
Re: Single Mothers Are Never Taken Serious by Nobody: 2:18pm On Nov 30, 2012 |
Well if u were as clever as u try to make urself sound, u would jus know that it means 'I don't know' |
Re: Single Mothers Are Never Taken Serious by Nobody: 2:24pm On Nov 30, 2012 |
Sagamite:"you sound like you are avoiding the question" would have been the correct way of putting it. Clear and simple, please don't use verbose words if u don't know when to use them |
Re: Single Mothers Are Never Taken Serious by Sagamite(m): 2:35pm On Nov 30, 2012 |
mondi_cheeks: "you sound like you are avoiding the question" would have been the correct way of putting it. Clear and simple, please don't use verbose words if u don't know when to use them Really? Sorry. I thought I have already apologised for my poor madrassa education. We will not go into english lectures. Maybe you would have taught me a new dictionary meaning of "evasive". I am not the type you can strawman. mondi_cheeks: Well if u were as clever as u try to make urself sound, u would jus know that it means 'I don't know' Really? So you know you will date a single father because it is about the person and the future you want to have with them? But you don't know if you will date a dwarf? All of a sudden, when I talk about you dating a dwarf, your answers becomes more hard to drag out, unclear and ambigious, unimpassionate and extremely succinct? The complete opposite of what you were demonstrating before? You don't know? But you know if you will date a non-black? You know if you will date a gangster? You know if you will date gentleman? |
Re: Single Mothers Are Never Taken Serious by Nobody: 2:42pm On Nov 30, 2012 |
Smh let me go to sleep |
Re: Single Mothers Are Never Taken Serious by Nobody: 2:52pm On Nov 30, 2012 |
mondi_cheeks: Well if u were as clever as u try to make urself sound, u would jus know that it means 'I don't know' 1 Like |
Re: Single Mothers Are Never Taken Serious by Sagamite(m): 3:14pm On Nov 30, 2012 |
mondi_cheeks: Smh let me go to sleep Really? You are dodging the question? So your dumb, selfish arsse can come here all righteous and with moral high ground to castigate other people for their preferences but you have your own preferences too? So you are a stupid girl who focuses on trivial things when you choose to date? Is a value of a man measured by his height rather than his willingness to have and maintain a healthy relationship with a woman he loves? You are not mature enough? You are not part of the mature people that reason at a higher level? My dear, a logical person sees beyond height, that height don't determine what the future will be like. And just because a man is several inches shorter than you does not mean should be valued less...don't prejudge...if don't take the time to find a man with the right qualities u will always think that being tall, dark and handsome all there is to a man. I thought you were an advocate of an "emotive" society? So you would rather sacrifice a whole life time of happiness with a woman u love simply because he is not as tall as you when you wear heels? Does the height of a guy affect his capability to be a good husband or boyfriend? So what happened to you not having a prejudice and prejudging people on trivial things? A real woman sees beyond what is considered perfection by society. Focus on the future because that's what's important, you are a grown up person now so you should understand that. Only juveniles are focused on height. You have not grown up well enough, there was a mistake somewhere that led to this your pathetic mentality. Stop reasoning and speaking like a child. Your selfish arsse can only be bitter and whine, it will not change anything. Some men would not mind single mothers, others will. They are entitled to their choices just like you love to exercise your choices. Carry your double standard, man-hating, selfish, me-me-me, dumb arsse to bed and don't be coming here chatting crap. mondi_cheeks: A Stupid man focuses on a girl's mistake and forget the shitload hey did in his own past. He probably made a couple of women mothers and a few other abort. The value of a woman is not measured by the mistakes she made in the past but what she is willing to have and maintain a healthy relationship with a man she loves. I don't see anything with ending up with a divorcee because the are human too and they probably have more insight about what not to do in marriage mondi_cheeks: I wouldn't mind. Women are mature enough to understand that his child can never stop her from loving and sharing a happy life with him ans it wld be good for tht child to grow up in a home where the parental figures are living together too. We stil have mature pple who think and reason beyond ur level mondi_cheeks: so u wld rather sacrifice a whole life time of happiness wit a woman u love simply because u wld not be okay with what will happen on her child's wedding day (one day) wow...ur reasoning amazes me mondi_cheeks: u reason like a child. Having a child outside marriage has never affected a woman's capability to be a good wife or girlfriend, labeling her before you even know her is simply childish. My father married my mother when she had twins as a result of rape in her teenage years. He took the twins like his own and now they are married, he adores his grandchildren from the twins, they turned out to be so beautiful and successful. A real man sees beyond what is considered perfection by society. My mother is an amazing woman, she loves her husband dearly and she has been through thick and thin with him. The fact that she had children at 19 never affected her capability of being a supportive, faithful and loyal wife. mondi_cheeks: negate rule of of lack of reasoning logically? Being prejudious, yet not wanting to be judged for ur own errors? So explain to me if it's all about choices, why do men get emotional when a woman finds him unsuitable because he isn't rich. The same people who show no loyalty to a woman because of her past expect to be shown loyalty when he is broke? horse crap mondi_cheeks: I have grown up...well enough to know that I shud never focus on a person's past..stuff happens and it can never be changed...focus on the future because that's what's important. Only a grown up person would understand that. Juveniles are too focused on the past that they fail to see the future and the joys it can bring. My dear a logical person sees beyond past mistakes, those mistakes don't determine what the future will be like mondi_cheeks: mondi_cheeks: 5 Likes |
Re: Single Mothers Are Never Taken Serious by Sagamite(m): 3:16pm On Nov 30, 2012 |
Shollypopz: If you want me to notice you, I will never notice you like that. You will have to work far harder and in different style to get my attention. |
Re: Single Mothers Are Never Taken Serious by Nobody: 3:30pm On Nov 30, 2012 |
Sagamite: 1 Like |
Re: Single Mothers Are Never Taken Serious by Nobody: 7:36pm On Nov 30, 2012 |
mondi_cheeks: I have to fall in love wit a guy before I date him, whether dwarf or he is as tall as victor matfieldsagamite I don't know why u wasted ur time quoting and writing long azz paragraphs wch I wil never bother to read. That quote alone answer all ur question if I love a guy (regardless of race, deformity or height) I will date him. U really put in all ur effort I must say, I wld never waste that many words on u in one post. |
Re: Single Mothers Are Never Taken Serious by Sagamite(m): 2:35am On Dec 01, 2012 |
mondi_cheeks: sagamite I don't know why u wasted ur time quoting and writing long azz paragraphs wch I wil never bother to read. That quote alone answer all ur question if I love a guy (regardless of race, deformity or height) I will date him. U really put in all ur effort I must say, I wld never waste that many words on u in one post. Lying hypocrite. https://www.nairaland.com/1104680/consider-height-major-issue-choosing/1#13026167 1 Like |
Re: Single Mothers Are Never Taken Serious by 2sexy(m): 3:04am On Dec 01, 2012 |
chei chei chei.. oga mi Sagamite... you don finish this Angolan! She sabi claim holy holy no be small.... no be today I know her. Imagine! [size=20pt]Nailed To The Cross[/size] 1 Like |
Re: Single Mothers Are Never Taken Serious by Nobody: 7:39am On Dec 01, 2012 |
Sagamite:women love nd marry men whose ugliness they re not comfortale with...how am I a hypocrite . I never said I wldnt love the person...I said I wldnt be comfortable |
Re: Single Mothers Are Never Taken Serious by Sagamite(m): 11:22am On Dec 01, 2012 |
mondi_cheeks: women love nd marry men whose ugliness they re not comfortale with...how am I a hypocrite . I never said I wldnt love the person...I said I wldnt be comfortable You would be uncomfortable? Wow! you did not tell us that when I asked you about the dwarf, so you were being evasive? So when I asked you that: If you had a dwarf and a tall guy who are both of the same personality and achievement, asking to date you, who would you go for? The obvious answer was the tall guy but you were dodging to answer because you are a hypocrite. Why would you be uncomfortable? You are not mature enough? You are not part of the mature people that reason at a higher level? Does the height of a guy affect his capability to be a good husband or boyfriend? Is a value of a man measured by his height rather than his willingness to have and maintain a healthy relationship with a woman he loves? A real woman sees beyond what is considered perfection by society. Only juveniles are focused on height. Hypocrite, stop preaching crap from a crap heap of moral high ground. 3 Likes |
Re: Single Mothers Are Never Taken Serious by 2sexy(m): 11:28am On Dec 01, 2012 |
Oga Sagamite, you get enough time ooo Not me. I know this girl wella... she is very good at arguing blindly... 4 Likes |
Re: Single Mothers Are Never Taken Serious by Sagamite(m): 11:38am On Dec 01, 2012 |
2sexy: chei chei chei.. oga mi Sagamite... you don finish this Angolan! Don't ever believe the crap claim she is half SAcan, half Angolan. She is a full typical Naija girl. https://www.nairaland.com/1027097/why-nigerian-women-underrated/13#12692922 SAcan girls normally have a different class, not the one she demonstrates. There is on SAcan girl on this thread and her class is obviously different. This one is Naija to the core! |
Re: Single Mothers Are Never Taken Serious by Sagamite(m): 11:39am On Dec 01, 2012 |
2sexy: Oga Sagamite, you get enough time ooo And I am very good at humiliating people that argue blindly. She never has any value to add to relationship discussion. She is just one of those selfish, man-hating feminists that only think of what they want. 1 Like |
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