ayox2003:

Poor-huckster. Not even ready to take any responsibility. 'U'...as if husbands are the only one meant to cater for kids.


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vivian chinaza: I'm from a very humble background or should I say poor? Yea poor sounds like it, "humble" just makes it bearable, Lol, ok. But rich guys keep coming for me, and no one has ever cared about my family's financial/social status. In fact, that's the first thing I tell them, I'm always like "dear, don't let my looks deceive you, I'm from a very humble background o." I'm Vivian, and that should be enough!
So contrary to your opinion, majority of guys don't actually care.

A lot of ladies who have misplaced their priorities actually care about how rich a guy is before they consider him and I just pity them. I just hope they realize that the life of a man is a mystery. A man's life can change in a twinkle of an eye.

I'm friends with a lot of people who at one time couldn't even afford a decent meal, but just one phone call changed their lives for best, and vice versa.

Last year, I did a job for this couple that had no house. The groom is my friend and as at then the most valuable property he had was his laptop. In fact, when he told me he was getting married I was like "are u crazy?" Cos he didn't even have a house. Few weeks to the wedding someone gave them a room in his flat and they were squatting there. Whenever I went to the house to discuss their wedding I was always like "how could this girl get married to a man that doesn't have a house?" Honestly, I couldn't understand, I couldn't even think of myself doing it. Well, there marriage is a year old and they are now living in one of the beautifully furnished house I have ever seen.

Stories like this humble me, and I of all the things I have seen in my few years on earth, I have known that riches cannot be guaranteed. I have also known that life is a mystery.

So if you fall in love with someone from a rich background good, if you fall in love with someone from a humble background good too. Marrying a rich person is not a crime, marrying a poor person is not a crime either, provided that LOVE is the driving force.

luvable sam: I called up a friend recently to tell him I was getting married, guess what he did.
He SCREAMED n then asked me who I was getting married to as follows;

HE: Who are her Parents, are they rich?
Me: Why are you asking?,
HIM: Just want to know cos if they aren't then you have messed up big time, seriously guy you no try .

I was shocked, though that's the harsh reality these days, no or very few guys want to marry girls from humble backgrounds.

Same goes for ladies too, if theirs even isn't more pronounced. Like a friend once said 'perceived ugly girls get married every weekend while the ones that think themselves beautiful buy "Aso ebi or anko" to attend such occasions hoping to meet Dangote's sons.

My question now is that what is happening to our value system, what's your take on everyone targeting the rich for marriage and who marries the average or seemingly poor?

bukatyne: love doesn't put food on the table but lack of love doesn't let you eat food on the table. Have you ever wondered why it's women always running from one church to another b'cos of their marriages? it's b'cos 80% of them married for the wrong reasons! so a husband is your ticket to good life... why don't you use the brain God gave you to think about making your life better? God has deposited something in everyone to make them succeed. what if you marry the comfortable man and things turn about tomorrow? i rather marry a poor man who loves me than marry a comfortable man who doesn't! i crave for things i can't give myself in my husband so we can be complement one another! i can't hug myself, make love to myself, watch my back, support myself etc but i can make tons of money, buy myself cars/houses/clothes/shoes, send my kids to d best schools, travel round the world etc!

blink182: OP, your friend is just whack and nigerians do not marry rich people, your generalisation is annoying.

bukatyne: love doesn't put food on the table but lack of love doesn't let you eat food on the table. Have you ever wondered why it's women always running from one church to another b'cos of their marriages? it's b'cos 80% of them married for the wrong reasons! so a husband is your ticket to good life... why don't you use the brain God gave you to think about making your life better? God has deposited something in everyone to make them succeed. what if you marry the comfortable man and things turn about tomorrow? i rather marry a poor man who loves me than marry a comfortable man who doesn't! i crave for things i can't give myself in my husband so we can be complement one another! i can't hug myself, make love to myself, watch my back, support myself etc but i can make tons of money, buy myself cars/houses/clothes/shoes, send my kids to d best schools, travel round the world etc!

chiboy1928: vivian u are the kinda of lady I have been looking for were have u been,can't wait to met u,u are the [b]most wisest [/b]person I have seen in dis country the rest girls Are wash.pls holla me BB 22AFBC88 or 08062251431. Would love us to build a serious relationship tanx and merry xmas.

Kzinne: guy dont fall for her tricks, all na packaging

bukatyne: love doesn't put food on the table but lack of love doesn't let you eat food on the table. Have you ever wondered why it's women always running from one church to another b'cos of their marriages? it's b'cos 80% of them married for the wrong reasons! so a husband is your ticket to good life... why don't you use the brain God gave you to think about making your life better? God has deposited something in everyone to make them succeed. what if you marry the comfortable man and things turn about tomorrow? i rather marry a poor man who loves me than marry a comfortable man who doesn't! i crave for things i can't give myself in my husband so we can be complement one another! i can't hug myself, make love to myself, watch my back, support myself etc but i can make tons of money, buy myself cars/houses/clothes/shoes, send my kids to d best schools, travel round the world etc!

agoha_vivi: This doesn't apply to just nigerians but all over the world. Who no like better thing?

Pinkyshron: I'll definately be a successful woman in future that's a decision I made right from wen I was a child.I'll neva b a burden to any man and no man will be a burden to me.Ma husband must be the breadwinner of the family...even though I have all the money in the world ma husband should be the one taking care of the family...what I'll do is to assist besides if a woman is the breadwinner of the family the man becomes lazy because he knows his wife will provide...so me being successful is not a problem that one is sure but when there will be a problem
is if my husband is lazy...I'll just use ma mouth to kill him
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bukatyne: love doesn't put food on the table but lack of love doesn't let you eat food on the table. Have you ever wondered why it's women always running from one church to another b'cos of their marriages? it's b'cos 80% of them married for the wrong reasons! so a husband is your ticket to good life... why don't you use the brain God gave you to think about making your life better? God has deposited something in everyone to make them succeed. what if you marry the comfortable man and things turn about tomorrow? i rather marry a poor man who loves me than marry a comfortable man who doesn't! i crave for things i can't give myself in my husband so we can be complement one another! i can't hug myself, make love to myself, watch my back, support myself etc but i can make tons of money, buy myself cars/houses/clothes/shoes, send my kids to d best schools, travel round the world etc!

promire2004:

Smh....u're soooooooo pathetic. I learn't a lot from what you referred to as an "epistle". Be nice and stop been sarcastic.

Pinkyshron: help me ask them o

chiboy1928: It so obvious dat nigeria ladies are so materialistic,they won't recognize u as a guy when u are hussling and ask dem out,they will bluntly turn u down with a harsh tone as if you a piece of shit,but finaly when God remember u,they will come crawling and offering them self to u free of charge with bad intention just for u to accept dem back. bunch of idiots,were was them wen I was hussling nw my future is bright they want to come and have a share of the national cake,I bet if dat should happen to me I will used holy ghost fire to scatter dat girl head money mongers lazy babone dey don't want to husslie like they fellow girls always looking for already seRved meals fools.in short those kinda of girls make me suck and those are the kinda of girl dat lose respect fr guys.

chiboy1928: It so obvious dat nigeria ladies are so materialistic,they won't recognize u as a guy when u are hussling and ask dem out,they will bluntly turn u down with a harsh tone as if you a piece of shit,but finaly when God remember u,they will come crawling and offering them self to u free of charge with bad intention just for u to accept dem back. bunch of idiots,were was them wen I was hussling nw my future is bright they want to come and have a share of the national cake,I bet if dat should happen to me I will used holy ghost fire to scatter dat girl head money mongers lazy babone dey don't want to husslie like they fellow girls always looking for already seRved meals fools.in short those kinda of girls make me suck and those are the kinda of girl dat lose respect fr guys.

bukatyne: Marriage is a partnership. I never said you would be the breadwinner but you both must contribute financially to the home esp if you want him to contribute domestically. Love makes life worth living. when there is no love in your home, even if your husband provides everything @ home, put your kids in best schools, shop for you in Paris, shower you wit gifts and jewelry etc you will feel empty inside. A lot of rich people are so unhappy cos they didn't marry for love. Don'T let their smiles and carriage fool you, they hug their lonely pillows and cry every night.

bukatyne: Marriage is a partnership. I never said you would be the breadwinner but you both must contribute financially to the home esp if you want him to contribute domestically. Love makes life worth living. when there is no love in your home, even if your husband provides everything @ home, put your kids in best schools, shop for you in Paris, shower you wit gifts and jewelry etc you will feel empty inside. A lot of rich people are so unhappy cos they didn't marry for love. Don'T let their smiles and carriage fool you, they hug their lonely pillows and cry every night.

Koolking:

I like what u wrote. If those opinions are true reflection of who you are, you have my unrefined respect. You are one of the most beautiful ones the world was expecting. Hold on to your believe, the sky will not be your limit but ur starting point. Cheers