ogugua88: "Oyibo Mentality"?

Hardly. Our mentality is to shut up and take whichever problems come our way. We all have stories of parents, grandparents, uncles, aunts, etc., who were in unhappy relationships but endured them, often times for fear of the "s" word: SHAME.

Seeking ways to rekindling the romance flame is not "oyibo mentality" but common sense. If something's failing or not working, the obvious response is to find a way to make it work. Nigerians are too used to the "if it's not working make we manage am like dat" philosophy. Sometimes, it's manageable. Often times, it's not.

I'd rather be married for 30 years and happy or at least trying to make my husband and I happier than married and miserable and unwilling to make changes.

afam4eva:
You guys are making it seem like marriage is a job. It's either you're married or you're not. Are you insinuating that people don't breathe in marriages?

Eze Promoe: *Walks to the cupboard*
*Searching for old-school music*
*Finds one by Bright Chimezie titled 'Oyibo mentality' and plays it.*

Back to topic,
I wasn't saying the article was bad but what it would mean to an African man who has been looking for a way to sleep outside but because of what people would say, he tries as hard as possible to sustain his urges and you come as an African lady to your African man and say, 'nyem ohere' or 'funmi space'. Awwwwwwwww!

malaria:
Okoro iji okwu, I Na anukwa, nyem ohere. hmmm. Ndi rescue mission(runz girls) never go. Strike. Na.

Nne, i sa gi okwu n'atum egwu o. Aha gi nka. Bikokwa o. Alubeghim nwayi o, akpatabem nnukwu ego i nke mu na malaria i buru enyi. Kedu ka imere