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Its simply myopia (short-sightedness) and utter ignorance that makes people think difference in religion cannot lead to beautiful and lasting marital union, if both parties understand that religion is about you having a relationship with your creator.

The problem here is not the religion, but Nigerians that have to take things to the extreme, The oyinbos that brought xtianity to Africa hardly goes to church, it is for a fact that churches in London that gets attended are mostly by 98% foreigners. As a matter of fact Sundays are days of beer drinking for the Oyinbos.

Most Nigerian pastors and Imams feed congregations with so many bolllocks in order to get a firm hold on them and be able to commercialise religion as it is presently witnessed in Nigeria. It still baffles me that the pastor must approve your fiance or else there will be no marriage in most Naija pentecostal churches, how rubbish, when its not the pastor that will live your life.


Its not just about Christian marrying a moslem or the other way round only, many xtians would not even allow their kids or church member even marry into another xtian congregation eg a "Redeemer" would not marry a "Cele". In the Igbo part of Naija Anglicans and Catholics don't inter-marry though they are both xtians, as a matter of fact a former female colleague of mine had her father killed in 2002 by fellow kinsmen because he allowed his daughter to marry an Anglican while they are Catholics, what nonsense

I'm so sick of people stupidly mis-interpreting the verse of the bible that says "do not be equally yoked with an unbeliever" as "do not marry someone from other faith", An unbiliever is someone that does not believe and worship the Almighty- creator of heaven and earth and all that lies within. The fact that someone is a moslem or Jew or Catholic or Anglican does make them unbelivers, fools!!

Many moslem preachers also stupidly preach non marrying of moslems to other faiths  because of selfishness and ignorance, The Holy Great Book  chapter 2:6 says "Surely those who believe (moslems), and those who are Jews, and the Christians, and the Sabians, whoever believes in God and the Last day and does good, they shall have their reward from their Lord, and there is no fear for them, nor shall they grieve"

The truth is that all these religious stratifications are perculiar to Nigerians mostly. And we Nigerians don't just stop to wonder why all the pastors are so rich in a country that is ridden with poverty

And being in same religion or congregation does not in any way guarantee marital success, a trip to the divorce courts would reveal to you the reasons most couples separate, you would hardly find 1 out of 100,000 being because of difference in religion

Inspiring couples like Bola & Remi Tinubu, Simeon Oduoye etc have shown us that differences in religion doesnt stop marital bliss.

I'm a practicing a moslem married to xtian (assistant pastor) and I happily take her and the kid church programs.

Also I'm a a molsem but the verse of my life is taken from the Holy Bible, Proverbs 22:29

Am so happy a lot of couples in mixed marriages are coming out to disbunk the claims that mixed marriages cannot work. e create the bariers for ourselves. If we have more action ( Practicing the fundamentals of each religion: Giving to the poor, love for your neighbor, Do not steal, do not cheat, etc) instaed of words and quotations, we will be better people.
Tinubu and Remi did it and are happy, Fashola is a great one, his wife is a practicing Catholic, This Legal Aid Director, cant remember her name. Infact, they are too numerous to mention. Be a Christain or a Moslem, dont just claim it, be it.

aisha2, the only thing I would disagree with you is supporting those Man U twats. Be a gunner!!

JJay, For where, me Gonner, I jump and pass, tell them say u no see me. Me i dey and i go still dey till you Gonners go finally on relgation to division 2

@aisha2

i wont go as far as saying mixed religons

in relationships wont work

but its such a tall order

It does work, only if the couple are willing to compromise. As for me, no compromise when it comes to my Faith. Jesus Christ is the Messiah of the world whether you believe it or not. May God grant me the Grace to continue to uphold my Faith in the Name of Jesus Christ Amen. So, if I tenaciously cling to my beliefs, why then, would I in the name of 'love', albeit, a temporary one compromise my stance on the death and Resurrection of Jesus Christ who gave up all for the sake of my soul. Nope!

Honestly, i would not! why? cos God created us all ,and I am very sure that even He detests what we hav done to His world cos of religious differences.To tell d trut, im presently in this situation and i swear i am going to marry dis lady cos she is d best thing dat has happened to my world.i hav dated several ladies of same religion but who lacked what one could call character.so tell me why i shouldn't marry this one that has character even in abundance!

religion should not be a barier if you really care about an individual because at the end of the day you r both worshipping the same GOD, my gf is a devout moslem and my family and me are devout christians as long as she respects my religion and ill do hers then i dont see where the conflict lies and when the kids come we ll let them decide when they r of age

My question is based on the highlighted portion of your posts.

So would you still call that being ignorantas deduced from the 1st paragraph of your statement above?

If we're addressing the question of : would you date from a different religion?  I don't think the answer is automatically "no" as some on this thread have assumed it to be.
I think the phrase: "don't knock it until you try it," works well in this scenario.  Obviously cultural practices have a profound effect on relationships, that's why people generally tend to choose partners they can ultimately relate to ethnically, lingually, and culturally.  It makes things easier but it's not undoable if they choose to explore another route.  It could turn out that both partners are actually compatible to the extent where the religion is a non-issue in their r-ship.

But, if we're addressing the question of: would you end a beautiful relationship over religious differences?
It's like saying, "I love my wife but she's igbo" or "I'm a chelsea fan, I love my wife, and I have a beautiful relationship, but she's a manchester united fan."
That said, if said person chooses to end a "beautiful" relationship over religious differences, then the question becomes "why would you end a beautiful relationship?" .  Ultimately, I'd be forced to disagree with his profession of the relationship as "beautiful", because often when you romanticize a relationship as "beautiful", people would automatifally assume things are "cinderella".
In his experience it's no cinderella.  Religion is an issue to him and it's up to him to decide if he can handle the differences between himself and his partner.


If you have someone with an "Ndipe-esque" extremist religious view, he'd automatically look past anyone not from his religious background, namely he'll be ignorant to a certain other group of people.

This is why it's all subjective.  Preference matters. Context matters.

Its simply myopia (short-sightedness) and utter ignorance that makes people think difference in religion cannot lead to beautiful and lasting marital union, if both parties understand that religion is about you having a relationship with your creator.

The problem here is not the religion, but peopleNigerians that have to take things to the extreme

I agree with this part of jjay1's quote.

I ave lost relationships dat i wld ave loved 2 ave becos of religion. i was 2old dat there is a bible verse dat exhorts christians not 2b even yoked with non christians.My Quran also advises me 2 connect wit a partner dat we are on d same spiritual level.Both relations advises dat one shd date one who u believe in a same God ,pray and worship d same way, read and ave same books sacred, ave d same holidays, same spiritual belief system.lookin at wars fought all over d world i see dat most of them are over religious issues and i wldnt want 2 experience a mini one in my house.As a muslim i can date or marry a non muslim but she must change.Most times dis change is unchangable and dis might drive someone crazy and someone might xperience pain, frustration and confusion.As a yoruba person my parent's extended family includes both muslims and christians and we all ave been living 2gether in peace and harmony because we knw d boundries, d best best is same religion relationship as it forms part of d equal compatibility

I'm dating a man right now who's Hindu. It is unequivocally the BEST relationship I have ever been in. He treats me with respect. He is a gentleman through and through and he is more chaste and emotionally/spiritually mature than almost all the Christians I have ever met in my life. He even follows me to Mass and I feel so loved when I am with him and his family accepts me as I am razness and all. Am I worried about the religious difference? Of course. Who wouldn't be? In my eyes his religion is pagan. But I know that we will be able to talk about it and work through it. I've been with several "Christian" men. They certainly were NOT examples of Christ's love and fundamentally, we were vastly different in what we considered the basic necessities of a human being even though two of them were Catholic, one was protestant and one was non-denom. I have more of a spiritual connection with my new boyfriend than with any of the previous ones. He inspires me to be a better person physically, mentally, spiritually and creatively. There's no reason why Religion should necessarily be a detriment. So many examples abound of people who've made it work in their favour.

Omoovie: Hindi ke? Na wa oh

Hmmm,

I COULD GET INTO A RELATIONSHIP IF WE HAVE DIFFERENT RELIGIOUS BELIEVES, BUT IN MY MIND I WOULD KNOW ITS GOING NO WHERE. UNLESS SHE ADAPTS ALONG THE LINE.

In the last few days, I have put this questions to 28 of my British and American colleagues and friend and here are the results;

Yes - 2

No - 24

Not sure - 2

Thats about 86% thinks difference in religion is no reason to terminate a beautiful relationship.

And we wonder why these UK & US societies are successful and advanced against our Nigerian utterly backwardness back to the stone age. The problem with most Nigerians is that they think they are more of xtians and moslems than the oyinbos that gave them the religion. One of the many reasons Naija will continue to be bad

And it baffles me that even the so-called younger and educated generation of the Naija society that is suppose to know better as as ignorant as the those that lived in the 15th century

JJay1:

In the last few days, I have put this questions to 28 of my British and American colleagues and friend and here are the results;

Yes - 2

No - 24

Not sure - 2

Thats about 86% thinks difference in religion is no reason to terminate a beautiful relationship.

And we wonder why these UK & US societies are successful and advanced against our Nigerian utterly backwardness back to the stone age. The problem with most Nigerians is that they think they are more of xtians and moslems than the oyinbos that gave them the religion. One of the many reasons Naija will continue to be bad

And it baffles me that even the so-called younger and educated generation of the Naija society that is suppose to know better as as ignorant as the those that lived in the 15th century

great statistics you put out there!!!!!!!!!!! what works well for mr. A may not WORK for mr. B

your faith should be your first love
you dont go into a relationship with an unbeliever. the best thing to do is to quit that relationship, cos the husband ougth to be the head, he should be able to teach you the things of God and not otherwise.
remember be ye not unequally yoke with unbeliever.-

yes.i will end the relationship no matter how rosy.infact any woman who is not ready to leave her parents house and religion for me is not worthy of my attention.i cancelled my wedding with a month left(church wedding) for the same reason.its decietful and i cant tolerate it,especially when the babe goes contrary to agreement.its anti-corruption and ICPC should be involved and same with EFCC

larrychyk:

yes.i will end the relationship no matter how rosy.infact any woman who is not ready to leave her parents house and religion for me is not worthy of my attention.i cancelled my wedding with a month left(church wedding) for the same reason.its decietful and i can't tolerate it,especially when the babe goes contrary to agreement.its anti-corruption and ICPC should be involved and same with EFCC

bros, this is harsh!!!!

And we wonder why these UK & US societies are successful and advanced against our Nigerian utterly backwardness back to the stone age.

we are all quick to want to be the funk

my good sir

how about their divorce rates?

Even though its hard to crack, if 1 person feels it is a problem then it wont work.

religion is not what marriage is about but it is one of the tools to togetherness

Talk deep and find out if it is what you both want if the answer is no? or may be?
please don't waste your time ,

alot is easier said than done, while some draw their inspiration frm such successful unions others hold on to their view based on the destructive ones the've seen. religion is not key but faith is and it forms a a core part of our existence (for those who are still in tune with their maker). if in your relationship, issues arise that seem to test or contradict yours, then your gonna have a big problem. yeah, love is beautiful but atimes it aint enouf and that u love someone doesnt necessarily make u compactible.

ariblaze, high divorce rate yes, but hardly is any of those divorces is due to difference in religion. May I also inform you that majority of the divorces in the US and UK are amongst couples af same faith

@JJay1

you seem to have missed the point here

the high divorce rate might not mainly have to deal

with religon, but in exerting over flexibility in everything relationship based

I don't know what happened to what i wrote earlier but i meant to write that i am catholic and my wonderful husband is muslim and we are loving it.

how come when i write m u slim as in moslem and it changes it to the great one? i don't find that funny Seun cos God is the only great one to me. Meeen

It is usually better for two people with the same religion or faith to stick totgether.

However, the fact that the two of you share the same releigion does not mean the two of you will work out.

If you find a man or a woman who is true to his/her faith and is willing to respect yours and let you do yours and help you out with yours whenever he can I say commit it into God's hand and go for it.

If you guys love and respect each other and share a whole lot in common, I say go for it.

It is good to talk about it in the beginning though, so that each party can know their boundaries and all.[i][/i][font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font][/color][color=#990000][/color][color=#990000][/color][color=#990000]

true and nicely said i agree with u all de way.

@Chika

True true! Hindu oh! Me fa I surprise small!