Efemena_xy:

Stories like these make the MrBrownJays and their attitudes to pregnant women look acceptable.

@OP, why should you be having mild to heavy arguments with your spouse frequently? Sounds like you instigate them. Please explain 'heavy arguments'. Do you get violent? Throw things around? Do you have a sharp, caustic tongue that's quick to insult the hell out of the man??

You're pregnant. The least you can do is respect yourself and keep your mouth shut. Why must you have an argument with your husband? Pls don't give the excuse of being hormonal this and hormonal that! Aren't you aware of the complications that can arise from having a high bp, which can be induced from unnecessary arguments?

I'm sorry to say this, but your husband sounds like the more mature one here. Rather than entangle himself with a battle of words, he chooses to walk out of the situation till things cool down. Or what do you expect him to do? Sit down quietly while you heap insult upon insult upon his head? Do you even know what might happen if he snaps?

Or maybe, you really are one of those who has a fetish for violence and only feel loved if your husband plummets the living daylights out of you.

Sorry, but from what you've posted, I support your husband 100%. You on the other hand haven't learnt your lesson. If sitting down to discuss amicably, and keeping your mouth shut while he airs his grievances is too much for you to bear, then don't blame him the day he walks out on you for good... straight into the arms of a more accommodating missus.

Oh, and I need to ask this of you: Didn't you guys date at all before getting hitched? Didn't you study the man before tying the knot and saying "I do"?

Wislet: daily news, how u dey?

Efemena_xy:

Stories like these make the MrBrownJays and their attitudes to pregnant women look acceptable.

@OP, why should you be having mild to heavy arguments with your spouse frequently? Sounds like you instigate them. Please explain 'heavy arguments'. Do you get violent? Throw things around? Do you have a sharp, caustic tongue that's quick to insult the hell out of the man??

You're pregnant. The least you can do is respect yourself and keep your mouth shut. Why must you have an argument with your husband? Pls don't give the excuse of being hormonal this and hormonal that! Aren't you aware of the complications that can arise from having a high bp, which can be induced from unnecessary arguments?

I'm sorry to say this, but your husband sounds like the more mature one here. Rather than entangle himself with a battle of words, he chooses to walk out of the situation till things cool down. Or what do you expect him to do? Sit down quietly while you heap insult upon insult upon his head? Do you even know what might happen if he snaps?

Or maybe, you really are one of those who has a fetish for violence and only feel loved if your husband plummets the living daylights out of you.

Sorry, but from what you've posted, I support your husband 100%. You on the other hand haven't learnt your lesson. If sitting down to discuss amicably, and keeping your mouth shut while he airs his grievances is too much for you to bear, then don't blame him the day he walks out on you for good... straight into the arms of a more accommodating missus.

Oh, and I need to ask this of you: Didn't you guys date at all before getting hitched? Didn't you study the man before tying the knot and saying "I do"?

waybaloo: this forum makes me laugh - a woman comes asking a question about problems with her husband and then she gets bashed left, right and center. i could say Nigerian men are so misogynistic but then the most antagonistic posts are written by women!!! shaking my head ...

drake2:

Its not funny at all. My Uncle once married a woman, they both had 2 children ; very good job with a british company and very rich too.

Every thing is available in the house including official and private cars, but this woman would often nag and even violently smash the windshield of the car in which he was being taken to the office in the morning .

He devised a way of avoiding her hurting words and violence by frequently going to work from a hotel room in Ikeja anytime he smelled trouble in the house.

The marriage has since become history, some women can truncate your life ; my eldest brother died of stroke cos of a similar scenario.

DailyNews: Yes na...why should she bring such a sensitive topic here Does she even know the ages of people that would advice her Most of us, myself included are all single....and there are even more teenagers and adolescence here, so why would she expect pampering alone

Whenever someone brings a topic like this on nairaland, they should expect the good, the bad, the ugly and what have u....and who told u everyone here wants the marriage to hold when it is an opportunity to woo her out of that marriage

iamsaved: I am extremely confused at this point as I need to plan my future and my kid(s) future.

We have been married for 4years now, blessed with a child and expecting the second. For weired and unexplained reasons, my hubby is fond of abandoning our home whenever we have mild to heavy misunderstanding. He first abandoned me 2weeks after wedding over a minor arguement, came back, 4months later after wedding, same thing for one month and finally when I was pregnant with our first child over a little misunderstanding but this time for a long time. Yes I know it sounds funny. We reconciled late last year after he came with his family to beg, my major reason of going back being cos of my child. Now am some months pregnant and he attempted to leave again last two weeks. It was his friend who stopped him from leaving. During the meeting held last, Hia friend asked him exactly the reason he keeps doing that, he said he just doesn't want wahala or stress.

This didn't start with me, he once said he ran away from home for 5years when he was in his early 20s cos his mum was telling him to o house chores.

I regret reconciling with him. If I wasn't pregnant, I know i would have walked out finally since its still the same thing happening all over again.
I am scared for my future and the future of my kids.

saintade01:

Who says its only the kids and singles you have in this forum? Get your findings right bro.

I got to know about Nland from my boss of 51 5yrs ago. Can also name about 6 matured adults that visit frequently like you do.

Just because the kids in this forum makes the loudest noise doesn't make them d 'Super User'.
So people can stil b advised rightly here.

obuji:
Is so silly how you guys are already passing judgment on the lady. Even if she has sharp mouth, any man who was not expecting that from his wife is not yet ready to settle down.
And how do you expect the woman to have already knew the kind of man he was? Even if they did date, was it marriage.

Wislet: @dailynews, am good, thnx.
Have ur fun arguing oo

Efemena_xy:

Madam, I was enjoying your post till I got to the last bit! Must you add comedy to it, eh?

Why does she need to find out where he stays for weeks / months on end? How e go help her case na?

mercylicious: @OP, Has anyone been mad in ur hubby's family b4? Is ur guy a very proud person , over bloated ego,r u richer than he is/or ur family richer than he is? Does he have inferiority complex but covers it with pride?

If the above is yes, then u don enta. When he eventually comes back, try to minimise/avoid arguments with him even if u feel like dying from keeping your mouth shut. If u continue with the arguments, one day he will go mad and that won't be funny.
Never abuse him nor remind him of past mistakes or weakpoints. Such ppl can be very caring when they are ok, but during the arguments, his mind will be telling him to leave the home. It will also be painting a terrible picture of someone that killed the wife.

Most importantly, pray like never before. There is no situation prayer cannot change.

Dantedasz: Another husband bashing thread.
Don't you people get tired of your crappy lies and fake stories?
For chrissakes is your husband a Fulani nomad who roams away from the house to herd his cattle for months before returning to the house and you?
So many freaking lying threads on this forum.
1.My husband spits on me whenever we have an arguement-Is he a snake?
2. My husband beats me up all the time.-Is he a wrestler or a kick boxer?
3. My husband slept with my maid and kicked me out of the house.-Doesn't he have any class? Yet you married him.
4.My husband is impotent.-Yet you married him.
We are sick and tired of these immature,childish Mills and boom threads,if you are job less,stop opening silly threads and get yourself a freaking job. Jeeeezzz!

iamsaved: I am extremely confused at this point as I need to plan my future and my kid(s) future.

We have been married for 4years now, blessed with a child and expecting the second. For weired and unexplained reasons, my hubby is fond of abandoning our home whenever we have mild to heavy misunderstanding. He first abandoned me 2weeks after wedding over a minor arguement, came back, 4months later after wedding, same thing for one month and finally when I was pregnant with our first child over a little misunderstanding but this time for a long time. Yes I know it sounds funny. We reconciled late last year after he came with his family to beg, my major reason of going back being cos of my child. Now am some months pregnant and he attempted to leave again last two weeks. It was his friend who stopped him from leaving. During the meeting held last, Hia friend asked him exactly the reason he keeps doing that, he said he just doesn't want wahala or stress.

This didn't start with me, he once said he ran away from home for 5years when he was in his early 20s cos his mum was telling him to o house chores.

I regret reconciling with him. If I wasn't pregnant, I know i would have walked out finally since its still the same thing happening all over again.
I am scared for my future and the future of my kids.

DailyNews: I am not fine o really wanna make some e-trouble tonight

And Alutacontinua is giving me a lead to follow...

For what reason shud people date, huh(maybe for sex, money, favour, poverty upliftment, peer-pressure, etc? what else?)

@Aluta, did your father dated your mother before marrying her? If yours did, mine didn't do anything like courtship or dating and they have been married for so long now still living happily like sister and brother...dating is a western world culture which has destroyed the world....I know you guys won't understand cos it sounds weird for someone to stay without a girlfriend or boyfriend right No wahala....the world will soon realize their mistakes....soon

Most married ladies are encountering marital crises today becos of the numerous guys they dated!!!

You have already enjoyed all what u are supposed to enjoy in marriage during dating and courting, so y complain that the marriage isn't sweet

And how have u been @wislet...been long

baby_123:

hehehehe. Growing up, i have witnessed a wife fu*ck up her husband at any slight thing. The bad thing is they bring their fight outside, with the man running for his life. When you wake up to shouts, you will just hear two people running. Na the wife dey always chase. Na wa oooooo. All we hear at our house is "Oga, Oga, help me o!". Na the man dey shout. LMAO. My dad will have to warn the woman seriously to go back home, while we shelter the husband and my parents will resolve their matter. It was always like action film. Those two foo*ls are still together till today. I guess they are now too old to be pursuing themselves. Funny thing is after the beating, the man will go like a goat and continue with his girlfriends. SMH . You have never heard of "obirin bi okunrin" " A woman that is like a man".

Efemena_xy:

Stories like these make the MrBrownJays and their attitudes to pregnant women look acceptable.

@OP, why should you be having mild to heavy arguments with your spouse frequently? Sounds like you instigate them. Please explain 'heavy arguments'. Do you get violent? Throw things around? Do you have a sharp, caustic tongue that's quick to insult the hell out of the man??

You're pregnant. The least you can do is respect yourself and keep your mouth shut. Why must you have an argument with your husband? Pls don't give the excuse of being hormonal this and hormonal that! Aren't you aware of the complications that can arise from having a high bp, which can be induced from unnecessary arguments?

I'm sorry to say this, but your husband sounds like the more mature one here. Rather than entangle himself with a battle of words, he chooses to walk out of the situation till things cool down. Or what do you expect him to do? Sit down quietly while you heap insult upon insult upon his head? Do you even know what might happen if he snaps?

Or maybe, you really are one of those who has a fetish for violence and only feel loved if your husband plummets the living daylights out of you.

Sorry, but from what you've posted, I support your husband 100%. You on the other hand haven't learnt your lesson. If sitting down to discuss amicably, and keeping your mouth shut while he airs his grievances is too much for you to bear, then don't blame him the day he walks out on you for good... straight into the arms of a more accommodating missus.

Oh, and I need to ask this of you: Didn't you guys date at all before getting hitched? Didn't you study the man before tying the knot and saying "I do"?