Okija_juju:



My darling.. The point is that there is no ideal anything/anywhere..


No couple can honestly come out and say they didnt compromise on one thing or the other in their considerations before marrying their partners. NONE!! Comma must dey.. If you have a 100% partner, then I dont see what the fvck you are doing online.. You should be with that person 24/7 protecting them from people like this OP who are out there hunting for 100% perfect partnners to snatch or marry..


[b]_{If my sister brings home a partner (that I dont like), heres gonna be my advice to her; My darling sister.. You know I love you and would always look out for your interest. This I promise you will not change. Like Daddy use to say, Marriage is between 2 people. There is no perfect man or woman on earth. Thats why I told mum that I could never be married to her, because I would kill her.. lol. But look at how peaceful and happy a relationship herself and daddy have. Thats why I would advice you to go remove the love from your eyes and the butterfliles from your tummy and keep in one corner and properly assess, inspect, examine, analyse, research, inquire, probe, scrutinize and evaluate this man you want to marry.. Like I told mum, so will I tell you.. I can never marry your husband if I were a Woman because of XYZ reasons.. However, thats just me and I cant hold you to my standard. If you can go and do this honestly and truthfully and still come back to tell me that this is what you want to do, then I will give you my unreserved blessing with a clause that says: Should later down the line you feel like you have made a mistake, then please feel free to use the DIVORCE option after another careful examination of your situation and the implications of your decision.. I will also be here to accept you with open arms, because that what Family are there for.. [/b]}

ariseandshine:


If I may ask, why was EVE created?

uj_sizzle:
I hope you also have plans for keeping your relationship alive too. Marriage is a two-way thing and not just a woman's responsibility.
As much as you want her to spice it up, she also wants you to surprise her...be spontaneous. Don't do that and someday she'll start to feel she's probably trying too hard to keep you interested, and may come to resent you for that.
No amount of work should keep you too busy for your marriage.

bukatyne:

Oh so you will advice your darling sister to scrutinize?

That is what the OP is doing.

There is no perfect man or woman; there is however that person that is ideal for you. There are some things I cannot cope with and some I can 'manage' and vice versa for a guy too.

I might be able to cope with being disorganized but can't stand a bad cook; a guy might manage a bad cook as far as she doesn't nag; another man might not care for all of the above as far as she is good in bed; another man might not like s.ex and does not give a damn if she is a one time woman.

My point, there is a man/woman ideal for you. She or he will NOT be perfect but you both will be willing to make things work out for the best.

Like they say, she is not perfect but we are perfect in each other....

The Op made it look like a Man that gets angry and throws things against a wall is not the ideal man for any woman to marry.. Or that a Man that insists that his wife pounds yam for him to eat when she is pregnant is not that Ideal man..



Like seriously?!


The OP just made out all of Our Grandfathers and Great Grandfathers to be Bad Husbands

lekpalicious:
Did you read the topic? Where did it mention anything about women waiting for rich husbands or wanting submissive husbands. Smdh Some people are always quick to comment at any topic. You have missed the boat completely.

Please refer back to my earlier post about what the topic is about. This topic is about unmarried women being so desperate they go for men they normally won't have settled for such as cheaters, abusers etc.

What is so hard to understand? Would you like your sisters or daughters to be so desperate that they settle with such men. About those Aunties yes those are desperate women indeed. Old or young. A desperate women is a desperate women.

ariseandshine:


If I may ask, why was EVE created?

eddiebruk:


A woman don't just get married to a man he sees some few days ago, they first start from dating, and while dating, the woman is supposed to have learned and understand what her man is capable of doing, and how she should go about it, if after dating a man for 2-3years before marriage and a woman is still having issues dealing with how to tackle problems with her husband, then she has missed it somewhere failing to realize that they shouldn't have been married in the first place.

eddiebruk:


They become so desperate because they failed or are failing to use the chances when they have them, they will tell you they need a submissive husband, but deep down in their heart that is not truly what they want, what they actually want is an already made man. and because of this they get old without being in a steady relationship and thereby become desperate for just any man that comes her way with the fear of living the rest of her life with a Lonely Old congos

bukatyne:

Eve as a wife is different from Eve as a woman just how Adam as a husband is different from Adam as a man

Which Eve are you referring to?

carujmonella:

You've said it all. Women are their own nemesis. They have made marriage their ultimate goal and it's sad. If they have certain goals set out and they pursue that goal, and become successful in life, MEN will troop their way. Nobody hates a GOOD thing

Rather some women will be pursuing marriage instead pursuing career success that will guarantee MEN their way

carujmonella:

You've said it all. Women are their own nemesis. They have made marriage their ultimate goal and it's sad. If they have certain goals set out and they pursue that goal, and become successful in life, MEN will troop their way. Nobody hates a GOOD thing

Rather some women will be pursuing marriage instead pursuing career success that will guarantee MEN their way

dabrake: LMAO. Who is even looking for a wife? Money over everything oh.

All I need from a woman is to sign a contract with her. She will bear me 2 kids, train them till they are 5 and then I pay her off. I am happy, she is happy, everybody are happy.

carujmonella:

You've said it all. Women are their own nemesis. They have made marriage their ultimate goal and it's sad. If they have certain goals set out and they pursue that goal, and become successful in life, MEN will troop their way. Nobody hates a GOOD thing

Rather some women will be pursuing marriage instead pursuing career success that will guarantee MEN their way

Okija_juju:


The Op made it look like a Man that gets angry and throws things against a wall is not the ideal man for any woman to marry.. Or that a Man that insists that his wife pounds yam for him to eat when she is pregnant is not that Ideal man..



Like seriously?!


The OP just made out all of Our Grandfathers and Great Grandfathers to be Bad Husbands

eddiebruk: Orisirisi topic, now you will see all the Ada beke's and Olosho popping up to commend the OP, like someone said, so many women are single today because of their pride to be submissive to their husbands, Marriage is not a competition of who owns the best things, some are not married but they are happy, and only their Pillows knows how much pains they feel each night. Nobody should quote me sha

bukatyne:

What has submission got to do with been 'made'?

You seem to really be mixing up issues

eddiebruk:


All i actually need from my lady is that feeling that she is there, sometimes i find her too inquisitive, but then she always knows when and how to present the issues, and that is all i need, not some Nagging women who brings up issues anytime and anywhere they like

ariseandshine:

Eve the woman.

crackhaus:
Instead of money over everything, it should be your happiness and sanity over everything.

Instead of paying her off, offer her the choice of remaining a loving, loyal, dedicated and trustworthy wife or taking a walk without the kids.

But your head dey there sha!

dbride:


Not so easy, only if that career success comes with HUMILITY no man will look your way for marriage

carujmonella:
Most important ladies should fight for is to be successful and men will troop to come marry you. No wise man wants a liability. Men love working class independent ladies that can hold things down on their own, foot their bills while still being a GOOD wife. MOST IMPORTANTLY, Be SUCCESSFUL(be gainfully employed, earning cool cash), have a nice character, don't look down on men that comes your way, dress nicely and men won't be hard to get. It's that simple

uj_sizzle:
Some men are good at pretending, and there's the love bug. She may stay with him because she thinks he can be 'fixed' but some people no matter how much we love them can't be fixed. She'd be doing herself a favour by walking away. That brings us back to the Societal factor--Pressure. A desperate woman will still marry him anyway cos she's probably thought to herself "If i don't marry him, who knows when next a man will take interest in me". That's why we need women to have more confidence and pride in themselves...and yes 'fix' themselves too.

Okija_juju:


The Op made it look like a Man that gets angry and throws things against a wall is not the ideal man for any woman to marry.. Or that a Man that insists that his wife pounds yam for him to eat when she is pregnant is not that Ideal man..



Like seriously?!


The OP just made out all of Our Grandfathers and Great Grandfathers to be Bad Husbands

Akin-David:
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crackhaus:
I can't say anything about the men on this site except myself.

I take it only fake and phony women would disagree with the OP abi, and what is this truth you speak of?
Oh well, what you should know is that there are only a few men, and when I say few, I mean really few men who display such behaviour.
I mean, when I should be busy with my job and my hustle, na to dey stalk my girl with incessant IMs and asking for nude pictures or monitoring her every move, or whatever else the OP tried to convince you people of that will be my problem?

The whole thing does not even make sense because I am yet to have a friend, relative or acquaintance who does any of that.
But I wonder why you sef like the post when it's obvious you are already taken as with all the other ladies here who claim to have the best bf in the world.

I'm going back to my back seat now to observe, thank you for calling me out.

Mrs.Chima:


Your fada.

Ishilove:
So u have four toes?

bukatyne:

Then she owes no one nothing.

She is any individual walking the earth just like any random Adam out there.
how do you mean