Truckpusher: All the feminists in Nairaland will have a field day taking jabs at guys that dare to come here and say otherwise


As for me , i'll just pass with my two hands in my pockets watching frustration take a deep final plunge into oblivion.


Abeg ,make una no beat me eh, i dey waka pass jeje

Ishilove:
So u have four toes?

bukatyne:

Then she owes no one nothing.

She is any individual walking the earth just like any random Adam out there.

Mz Vox: My fellow unmarried women, it’s not that I have a
vendetta against you; I just want to address some of the things you do,
which I think are supremely silly. Yes, I’m ranting about the unmarried
women today. This post is targeted at, but not limited to desperate
unmarried women.

I know that marriage has always been an important thing for many women,
but the race for it today is becoming so bad, it’s almost diabolic. Yes,
many women are doing all sorts of infernal things to get stay married.
Young woman that wants to get married, pause a bit and ask yourself this
important question: why do I want to get married?

I ask you to do this because your reason for getting married may very
well determine the kind of man you hook up with. If you want to be happy
in your union, you’ll carefully and prayerfully choose a spouse. But if
you want to be married because all your friends are, or because your
family thinks so or because society says your clock is ticking, you may
very well end up making the wrong choice. Such as a man that abuses
you-be it physically, verbally, emotionally or psychologically.
No matter what you say, there are always signs of an abuser, whether
he’s a budding or full-blown practitioner of the punching, verbal or
emotional slicing arts.

When a man makes you stay on a video chat for 24 hours, just so that he
can see where you are at all times, he’s an abuser. Please don’t tell me
that “he’s just a bit jealous” or “you know men are like that”….that’s
not “a bit” of jealousy and not all men are like that!

When a man makes you take pictures of yourself and send it to him 24
hours a day, so he knows where and who you’re with, my sister you’re in
bondage…..only that your master hasn’t paid your purchase price. Any man
that makes you do this, under the guise that his heart has been broken
by the previous women in his life and therefore, you need to earn his
trust, is a confirmed wizard. He needs Jesus and you need a copy of the
Slavery Abolition Act of 1833.

When a man flings objects at you during an argument, throws and breaks
his phone against the wall and says “Look what you made me do,” he will
one day throw you and blame you for it. You’d better run away and from
that far distance, text him the number of a psychiatrist and enrol him
for an anger management course.

When a man tells you that once you get married, because his mother did
it, you too will pound yam for him while you’re nine months pregnant,
wash his car, feed your three children and drop them off at school,
clean the house, do the family laundry, go shopping etc. without help of
any sort, I’ll only say this: are you familiar with the letters R.U.N?

When you’re in a relationship with a man who arbitrarily picks up your
phone, deletes some male contacts, text messages, grills you whenever
you pick a call from a man, logs into your Facebook account and abuses
and warns off all the men who say nice things to you, tells you which
friends to keep and the ones to dismiss, and short of getting you a
bodyguard, monitors your movements in every way possible, I’d like to
inform you that that man is not man who loves you, but a monitirung,
familiar spirit. The earlier you’re delivered from him, the better for
you.

Having said that, I’d like to add that some of this kind of men can
smell desperation and know that there’s little or nothing you can or
would want to do to them.
So my advice to you dear prospective bride, is build your self-esteem,
be proud of who you are, be picky (yes, contrary to popular opinion, you
don’t have to drag the bottom of the barrel), and know that you deserve
a good man. Take your time; because once you make your choice, you’re
stuck with him. Don’t be in haste- for where the hare gets to by
running, the tortoise will arrive there by walking.

#‎IThinkI 'mDoneRantingForToday

eddiebruk:

So in essence the women should fix themselves first before considering settling down with a man, because 70% of relationship issues are actually started by a woman, a man barely has the time to be doing all these policing and all that, plus a man cannot marry a woman whom he finds fault in while they were dating, only a woman can do that with hopes of him changing, and when he doesnt seems to be she makes it look like an issue and there you have a cause for some serious situation

Red_Card: And Rita Dominic will be feeling proud after reading this write up. I hope Madam Ogugua88 has read it as well. Marriage is a matter of choice......getting a child is all that matters. Now all the old single ladies.......start consoling yourselves and hustle for children.

uj_sizzle:
I'm starting to think you a MISOGYNIST

ariseandshine:

Random Adam?

I laugh in Spanish

May God not give you a Random man.

Say Amen

uj_sizzle:
You want a wise woman. That's normal. But i think you're all over the place. You are yet to state where you disagree with the OP or if you even understood her post. You have just spent the past few minutes discussing everything she hasn't talked about.

lekpalicious:
[s]For me personally i will rather be unmarried and single than be desperate enough to marry someone who is an abuser/serial cheater. It's not worth it. IMO
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Cleft Events: Some ladies are not ready to work sha,they just want ready made. Am not saying dat u shud accept rubbish but with dis kind of attitude u will remain single and divorce will be on d increase. If U don't want to end up tasting all d guys then note dat Marriage/relationship is all about give and take/compromise. No guy will beat u if u do d right thing(pls am not supporting abusers) just do d right thing and be ready to always give and give at all times.

Also I will beg u to stop spreading dis attitude because its not everybody dat can extract d right message from it,some girls/ladies will only pick d wrong ideas and start sending defiant signals to their partners.

Remember our mothers were able to sustain their relationships/marriage because they were submissive,try it,it doesn't hurt. It will save a lot of proceedings in court due to divorce. We always quote d bible but it seems ladies of dis days skip dat part.

And for d guys out there,wots happening,u guys shud step up,some of u need to change your attitudes towards us. Remember one only accepts defeat by punching and if u know u are too powerful pls try punching men like u. People respect u more because of d way u treat your wife and I have found out dat spiritually u gain more by treating her right because u get an additional person to pray for u,remember d saying dat whoever finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from d LORD. Or would u like it if u find your father beating your mother or another man beating your sister all in d seek of marriage. Give your woman her space if dats wot she wants. Always give and give until she gets tired of receiving believe me if u do dat u will be among d happiest men, a lady's attitude towards u is a reflection of how u treat her.
God Bless.

Okija_juju:


Well...


Point is I'm tired of all these women always trying to define what the ideal man is as if their fake hair and make-up wearing asses are ideal...


Women:: If you know that you wanna get married, then you better go out there and hunt down the man for you and marry him.. There is no right or wrong in things like this. What worked for the OP will/may not work for you. The Ideal man for Adaobi will/may not be the ideal man for Ogugua.. Stop listening to all these women who think they got men/relationships all figured out..

!

ariseandshine:

@Bolded
This is the only thing I have learnt from you Freedom Seeking Spinsters today.

Roseey0: They all know,but can't help it, they say they are in love and love is blind.
I only pray for them.

Policewoman: Any advise for us the married ones?

Cleft Events: Some ladies are not ready to work sha,they just want ready made. Am not saying dat u shud accept rubbish but with dis kind of attitude u will remain single and divorce will be on d increase. If U don't want to end up tasting all d guys then note dat Marriage/relationship is all about give and take/compromise. No guy will beat u if u do d right thing(pls am not supporting abusers) just do d right thing and be ready to always give and give at all times.

Also I will beg u to stop spreading dis attitude because its not everybody dat can extract d right message from it,some girls/ladies will only pick d wrong ideas and start sending defiant signals to their partners.

Remember our mothers were able to sustain their relationships/marriage because they were submissive,try it,it doesn't hurt. It will save a lot of proceedings in court due to divorce. We always quote d bible but it seems ladies of dis days skip dat part.

And for d guys out there,wots happening,u guys shud step up,some of u need to change your attitudes towards us. Remember one only accepts defeat by punching and if u know u are too powerful pls try punching men like u. People respect u more because of d way u treat your wife and I have found out dat spiritually u gain more by treating her right because u get an additional person to pray for u,remember d saying dat whoever finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from d LORD. Or would u like it if u find your father beating your mother or another man beating your sister all in d seek of marriage. Give your woman her space if dats wot she wants. Always give and give until she gets tired of receiving believe me if u do dat u will be among d happiest men, a lady's attitude towards u is a reflection of how u treat her.
God Bless.

lekpalicious: What has feminism have to do with this? I really do not understand some men really. So if a man beats you and you don't like it FEMINISM. If a man cheats and you don't like it Feminism. Wow

pinkshell: [color=#000099][/color]
Society isn't makin easier for single ladies.

Wen u are rich n unmarried dey term it as pride.

Society az made it seem lik addin a 'MRS' to ur name is wat makes life fulfilling.

@tjololade:
So is not true what the Bible said?... Im asking

demelza: You have been throwing the word spinster as if its a bad thing. Whats wrong in wanting freedom?

Truckpusher: That comment was simply a relative one and should not be taken out of contest by your overzealous self jare.......abi i call your name join am ni?

ariseandshine:

@Bolded
This is the only thing I have learnt from you Freedom Seeking Spinsters today.

ariseandshine:

Why should you be a spinster at 30 years when over 10 guys have shown interest?

ariseandshine:

Why should you be a spinster at 30 years when over 10 guys have shown interest?