cj1080:

Come dear, you will be approached that's true, but it's not the people she is approached by that she will like.

She might see this cute walking Chuck of a guy that she really wants attention from, he looks and the first thing that comes to mind is(how much de my wallet, where my atm de) before he considers the approach, tend his checking if she is smiling at him or boning like the mopol at a boko haram check point.

While he is considering all this and she is praying, dude get here an say hi already, some father of 3, with his wife in dubai and his kids in school will do the approach for him.

At this point the guy will go. (thank god, na aristo baby "baba I thank you from saving me and my little money" without knowing that the girl is going(why, does this always happen to me)

Does anyone know where I can get a mind reading app for women.

Nonso23:
Your post was totally on point until the bolded.
You should know that nowadays flashy is synonimous with high-maintenance, high-maintenance synonimous with runz-girlism, runz-girlism synonimous with No Future Ambition (NFA) and even serious, well meaning, RICH GUYS, would be scared of asking flashy ladies out judging from the above deductions. NO sensible guy would want anything serious with an NFA. It's a judgemental generalization but that's how a lot of serious guys think.

@O.p it's not a problem dressing good but moderation is key. It's okay not to be a perfect barbie all the time, it's okay to have your hair out of place once in a while and also unless you are headed to a function tone done on your casuals. Men overestimate the price of clothing on women and once their meter goes into the red zone it's going to be admiration from a distance and nothing more. Only married men and play boys who have nothing to lose will want to take take such up.
It's got nothing to do with esteem, it's all about opportunity cost and time value placed on targeted goals. Say no to time wasting

Youngsage:
Actually what I meant by the bolded was different, you probably saw it differently! This is the definition of flashy according to my dictionary:
Adjective: flashy |fla-shee|
1. Tastelessly showy • a flashy ring = brassy, cheap, flash, garish, gaudy, gimcrack, loud, meretricious, tacky, tatty, tawdry, trashy...

From what I understand from the O.P, I'lld say she. isn't 'flashy', but 'classy', because being flashy has a negative connatation, like you rightly implied above and such a person can't be liked by everyone or be seen as a humble person like was pointed out. Her bro should have used a different word instead.
Yea, self esteem matters a lot. There are some things you cannot say about a person if you havn't met the person. The o.p doesn't depict a flashy person to me, at least from the little description here, so any guy who is scared or intimidated by her looks/aura/personality is problably scared to approach because he feels he might not match up to what he sees. Admiring someone from a distance and not being able to walk up to the person? This clearly has to do with one's self esteem. Or a low selfworth. Has nothing to do with being 'flashy'.
@ o.p Someone your type will definitely come by, just be ready to mingle!

Kelechi2020:
things men don't understand they criticize...




don't take it personal cause it is not my fault that you have low comprehension and probably uneducated like the op....
My advice
use your head plus a dictionary...

FrancisTony: only an uneducated brat like you, would make a comment like yours. U dnt av sense of reasoning and it have eaten deep inside you.

peachez'n'cream:
Okay, we were discussing at home this morning nd my big broda told my mum about how everyone likes me because I'm humble , smart nd down to earth but he was like "I've got good guys that are interested in a serious relationship with you but they are scared coz you are too flashy".

And I was like what's the definition of flashy? and he said "they are scared of sharing you with some other guys even after putting a ring on it". I really felt bad at his response.

My mum stylishly changed the discussion when she noticed I was getting uncomfortable.

I just got back into the country, I'm in my early twenties, caramel complexion, a graduate, i rarely go out but anytime i go out i always try to look simple with a touch of class.

I've got few friends. 5 of them are married the remaining 4 are in a serious relationship.

80% of my toasters are married men who want me as second wife or mistress. Single guys don't really ask me out probably because they think i'm the flashy type.

Please what's your definition of flashy and kindly advice on how not to look flashy.

Writing for a friend. . . .No insult pls

Ohwhy:

Am sure its those kind of braids that will reach the bombom. Its cool but not every time okay. Plsss

As for d heels, I think DAT may be d prob. My exboyfrnd's sister loves heels like mad. Wears dem everywhere, and she's got d height of a model already. All the guys that ever came her way were a disappointment. She even almost got engaged to a married man. I purposely left 2 of my flat shoes for her to start wearing. Saw it on her legs on d road one day and I smiled. Slow down on d heels, use only on some occasions.

Long braids +heels is more than just a touch of class.

alutacontinua: @ohwhy, I disagree with you!
Trying to look classy only becomes a crime when you go beyond your abilities. U know d usual borrow-pose that some ladies do or taking money from guys to look the way their status cannot afford.
If u have the money, pls, go for things that fit in your status.

There are some things I see today and when I ask for the price, i'll waka pass. In the next 4 years, if i'm able to COMFORTABLY afford those things, i'll gladly buy them. You don't expect someone who makes USD3000 yo dress the same way she wld when she was making USD1000, do you? I'm not one to advocate for make-up and brazilian hair but u don't need all those to look classy! When you're classy, you're classy. Your steps are, your voice is, your carriage is, your aura is! Everything about you is!


As per the guyz, there are too many hu gry guys out there and their ego won't let them be, don't lower your standards because of dem, if dey can't upgrade or push their ego aside, it's their loss! There are guys who are confortable with women like you, don't let anybody tell you otherwise!

peachez'n'cream:
80% of my toasters are married men who want me as second wife or mistress. Single guys don't really ask me out probably because they think i'm the flashy type.

Please what's your definition of flashy and kindly advice on how not to look flashy.

Reski: pls take this advice and watch your mates tie the not every saturday while you continue looking porsche.

DutchesSsS: @Op, I reallyy do understand what you mean....I was once described as such, I searched deep within me and today I'm different...here are some secrets;

1.) Tone down your colours...clothes, shoes, bags etc...

2.) Rock your natuural hair a little

3.) Reduce the 'hEels' (shoes) .) I got a smaller phone, you might consider that

5.) Avoid loud make-up

You are not changing yourself but rather improving on yourself...

To attract the RIGHT MAN, be the RIGHT WOMAN

DutchesSsS: @Op, I reallyy do understand what you mean....I was once described as such, I searched deep within me and today I'm different...here are some secrets;

1.) Tone down your colours...clothes, shoes, bags etc...

2.) Rock your natuural hair a little

3.) Reduce the 'hEels' (shoes)

4.) I got a smaller phone, you might consider that

5.) Avoid loud make-up

You are not changing yourself but rather improving on yourself...

To attract the RIGHT MAN, be the RIGHT WOMAN

Adaeze003:
^^^
A girl now has to be ugly, broke and dressed like a house girl to date?... Only in 9ja sha.SMH

Now I know guys have self esteem issues! And they'll be yabbing girls. Sheesh.

All those hiding behind the excuse of 'what if 3k gift will not be enough for her' and 'what if I can't afford her bills' all you're really saying is 'what if I'm not good enough for her' it all boils down to low self esteem no matter how you say it.

@All
"Until you realise you deserve the best in life, you'll always settle for less" - Adaeze003

wingman: @ OP: in your initial post u claimed to bé writing for a friend but subsequent response from u shows u were writing for yourselve. You are just a lying, conniving and silly biatch. Gerrout of hia jor !

Nonso23:
Your post was totally on point until the bolded.
You should know that nowadays flashy is synonymous with high-maintenance, high-maintenance synonymous with runz-girlism, runz-girlism synonymous with No Future Ambition (NFA) and even serious, well meaning, RICH GUYS, would be scared of asking flashy ladies out judging from the above deductions. NO sensible guy would want anything serious with an NFA. It's a judgemental generalization but that's how a lot of serious guys think.

@O.p it's not a problem dressing good but moderation is key. It's okay not to be a perfect barbie all the time, it's okay to have your hair out of place once in a while and also unless you are headed to a function tone done on your casuals. Men overestimate the price of clothing on women and once their meter goes into the red zone it's going to be admiration from a distance and nothing more. Only married men and play boys who have nothing to lose will want to take take such up.
It's got nothing to do with esteem, it's all about opportunity cost and time value placed on targeted goals. Say no to time wasting

DutchesSsS: @Op, I reallyy do understand what you mean....I was once described as such, I searched deep within me and today I'm different...here are some secrets;

1.) Tone down your colours...clothes, shoes, bags etc...

2.) Rock your natuural hair a little

3.) Reduce the 'hEels' (shoes)

4.) I got a smaller phone, you might consider that

5.) Avoid loud make-up

You are not changing yourself but rather improving on yourself...

To attract the RIGHT MAN, be the RIGHT WOMAN

ireneidiva:
use a small phone to attract a man? Don't wear heels? Crap

Kelechi2020:






I have beenmonitoring you for quite some time.......
My observations are......
You are single and badly searching for a man....
2 you always make noise about guys that you know nothing about their psychology...
3 the worst part which most gullible nlanders won't notice is that you are deceptive(deceiver) and I pity those that swallow your advice hook line and sinker...
The op is seeking advice on how to appear less flashy a and you are suggesting she stick to her status....What is that suppose to mean..
#criticise objectively

true shes single and sooner or later shes gna ask me out

just watch

aluta's the girl im gna marry everyone