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Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by baralatie(m): 4:32pm On Jan 04, 2014 |
SPACE FOR RENT |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Ozone4eva: 4:52pm On Jan 04, 2014 |
shoerack6:We women are the cause of our problems. He probably did this when you were dating but instead of you to confront him, you were doing 'good girl' so that there won't be trouble. And now you think he can stop it? For where? Endure it dear, you saw it coming but pretended not to. 1 Like |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by awesomeness(f): 4:55pm On Jan 04, 2014 |
shoerack6: Keep trusting God for a change. |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by sirthomps: 5:04pm On Jan 04, 2014 |
wetin make i come do shoerack6: Hello house, |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Daresh(f): 6:52pm On Jan 04, 2014 |
shoerack6: Hello house, Why are you letting someone else determine your happiness? If he bones you no mind am. Continue to do your thing. My husband used to do that one too, me wey no like to cook, when he starts boning thats the day I will grill chicken, make ofensala. I cannot be begging anybody biko, he is turning you to his slave. 1 Like |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Nobody: 7:44pm On Jan 04, 2014 |
Can you just quit this begging!!! |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Nobody: 7:55pm On Jan 04, 2014 |
awesomeness: I wanna throw up |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Nobody: 8:00pm On Jan 04, 2014 |
awesomeness: He could be depressed He has a mood disorder There are many people who need to be under the care of a psychiatrist and they are not This is obviously not normal Such an unhealthy environment But first he has to admit that he has a problem and that is the hardest part I hope he doesn't get angry to the point of violence towards you or the children How does he relate with people outside? 1 Like |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Pamcrest(f): 8:39pm On Jan 04, 2014 |
Op, I sympathize with you. Your hubby knows d silence treatment hurts u that's why he persists to use it. However any advice u receive here needs to be adapted to d type of Man U have....don't take it hook, line n sinker. My take is: stop begging so much, it empowers Hs bad behavior. For now just let him be. Continue to perform your roles, talk to him if u need to, don't worry if he doesn't answer. With time he will come around....he's only being immature....some men can be so childish! Chin up girl....he's your hubby, have no fear! |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by greatgod2012(f): 8:47pm On Jan 04, 2014 |
awesomeness: does he attend church with you? If yes, why don't you get your pastor to help talk to him, and when he's in good mood, why don't you recommend a pyschariatic doctor to him, because what you described here isn't normal at all, God forbid he gets so annoyed one day and decide to maim you or the kids, he really needs to be treated, please im not being sarcastic o, im damn serious, he needs a counsellor as well as a doctor, please, don't just look at him as a perpetual angry man, see him as someone who neeeds help and do help him out. May God direct you rightly. 1 Like |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by tintingz(m): 8:47pm On Jan 04, 2014 |
awesomeness:A happy monogamous home All is well mam. |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by oyebod200: 8:57pm On Jan 04, 2014 |
@ awesomeness, i will start by saying that, effective communication is important in marriage, sometimes if your emmotional life is poor then automatically d communication will be poor. I will give u some key points-. 1. Ensure to start each day with God as a family. 2. Try as much as possible to comunicate even d worst thing to him, talk what is talkable, 3. Impove on ur emmotional life, for instance, is he the one that is emmotionally active or u?, pls work on urself, always give him a remarkable & wonderful exprience. In a nutshell, always pray for God to change him. |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by tintingz(m): 9:15pm On Jan 04, 2014 |
LOL, and some biased mind people were here posting as if polygamous home is one hell of a marriage and monogamous home is like a marriage in paradise alas we just read the irony. Welcome to reality. |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Boomboost(m): 9:29pm On Jan 04, 2014 |
Record his childishness wt ur phone or something then send it wt a recordin of how his attitude affects u...end it wt I'l always love u. Then come tell us hz reaction. |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Princewell2012(m): 9:39pm On Jan 04, 2014 |
When u said, ur hubby has another wife honestly i was short of words, but beside this, make sure you serve his food always, whether he eats it or not. Dont ever make the mistake of avoiding his food. Then finaly did u engage in cutship before marriage? Have u ever speak in ur dialect when speaking to ur family in his presence? What was his reaction then? Did he speak in his language when talking to his own people? Did both of you ever love ur self before? Does he suspect every of ur movement due to lack of trust? Did you married him because of his money? Dis and many others. I want u to know, there is no smoke without a fire. |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Sike(m): 9:41pm On Jan 04, 2014 |
Bantino: If you offend him, ensure that you appologise accordingly. If the cause of your misunderstanding is not your fault, ignore him for a while, ensure you prepare his food even when he refuses to eat.Hi Pro! |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Nobody: 9:48pm On Jan 04, 2014 |
tintingz: LOL, and some biased mind people were here posting as if polygamous home is one hell of a marriage and monogamous home is like a marriage in paradise alas we just read the irony. You're badt Time I unfollow this thread. As-Sabur - The Patient One. |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by tintingz(m): 9:50pm On Jan 04, 2014 |
Ewuro707: |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by bukatyne(f): 11:53pm On Jan 04, 2014 |
RoyPCain: ^ so you ladies have not seen co wives who are like sisters? and their children are like children of each co wife? You are joking with your last paragraph right? |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by ypepe: 12:35am On Jan 05, 2014 |
Sarcasm, I hate u. We can do better without it. If we don't wanna advice. We can also read and pass. Cause we wanna extract our pound of flesh we bury emotions at d altar of pride and revenge. Its even better we don't qoute somebody's outpouring of pains at all than qouting it to despite our supposed enemy. Of course d @op might be wondering why her post generated such post or regreting why she posted. Seun Osewa smiles to d bank every minute thru our silly behaviours and care less if we kill ourselves on or offline. There is even a disclaimer down there. The greatest form of slavery is d slavery of d mind. 2 Likes |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Glexxx: 1:04am On Jan 05, 2014 |
U've promised nt 2 beg him dis yr.My dear be ready 2 be a divorcee.D pillar of a woman is her husband. |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Nobody: 5:01am On Jan 05, 2014 |
The OP may be doing ikwokirikwo with the man and people are here giving advise Nne tell us na How far? |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by NobleG1(m): 6:30am On Jan 05, 2014 |
shoerack6: [size=13pt]The problem:[/size] The problem is simple to understand. Your hubby has a "trust" issue with you. You must have done something or things knowingly or unknowingly that made him think you're cheating or hiding something bad from him. For the fact that you prefer speaking in your native language (which he doesn't doesn't speak or understand) in his presence while on phone, exacerbates the problem. A cheating wife who is in your position could easily be speaking with her boyfriends or be planning evil on phone in her hubby's presence without him knowing. I think your hubby doesn't hate your language and I also think he's not a "tribalist", if he was, I'm sure he wouldn't marry you in the first place. [size=13pt]Soluition:[/size] 1. Focus first on what caused the problem. Good a thing, you know it already. You can't stop speaking your language because of anyone, that's is certain. But try to speak more of the language your husband understands while you're on phone in his presence. Marriage is about caring, loving, understanding and being open to each other. Marriage as an ongoing process in constant need of nurturing. You must also assure your hubby everyday through your character that you're his and his only. The same applies to him. If you must answer a call in his presence, then you should also speak in the language his understands, unless, you're hiding something from him. It's obvious you'll also be upset if you were in your hubby's shoes. 2. His attitude of silence whenever he's angry could be to avoid problem escalation, or just his own way of handling his anger. We don't have the whole story here and of course, you won't like to paint yourself black here, even if you are heavily at fault. I would have liked to hear from the other side before knowing exactly what happened and why he behaves that way whenever he's angry. For now, I would say "silence" is not always the best answer to all marital conflicts. Some problems need to be ironed out through dialogues, to actually resolve them. After you guys have reconciled, discuss about his "silence" attitude with him, not the same day but any other day he's happy. [size=13pt]Conclusion:[/size] Your marriage should be far more important than doing things that could cause unnecessary problems. Show your hubby that you can be trusted by speaking the language he understands when you receive any call in his presence, so that he will start trusting you again. Lack of trust is at the root of many relationship problems. So be wise. My two cents right there. 2 Likes |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Nobody: 9:10am On Jan 05, 2014 |
@bukatyne; by bukatyne(f): 11:53pm On Jan 04if you didn't see a smiley, it is your wrong assumption and since you live in england, you should have known better than that. i do not joke in matters as important as that of a revert into Islam and her smock headed husband is threading on her right. joke is inappropriate. |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Princewell2012(m): 9:40am On Jan 05, 2014 |
Now this is my conclussion, is eighter you re cheating on ur hubby, or ur hubby did'nt love you, period. |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by bebechuks: 10:19am On Jan 05, 2014 |
victorazy:weda u accept or not, almost all men r not worth it! M married too nd knw wot's up. Pls if u r getting married, look for someone u will luv,despite all. Nd for ur information m nt stupid, rada u r immature! |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Saraha1(f): 1:50pm On Jan 05, 2014 |
Since he does not want to settle the dispute btw the two of you, I would suggest you stop doing the begging let see if your will change postively this time around. |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by obowunmi(m): 2:46pm On Jan 05, 2014 |
Go for marriage therapy and psycho social counseling. This behavior is something he probably learned from his parents. |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by katsim(m): 4:46pm On Jan 05, 2014 |
My dear don`t give up because of your kids, just try and do what ever he ask you to do for the sake of peace. When he is talk just be saying yes sir don`t allow those women to take over what belong to you my dear think. Use wisdom don't let him kill you woman have heart so try fore about his character just try to make him happy, and learn not to give him your whole heart to break but love him and care. To me I am married but a man can` kill me why |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Samabu07(m): 3:26am On Jan 06, 2014 |
shoerack6: The most painful part is when it comes to begging. I can stand for 1 hour begging him.What? With two kids For him and he has 2nd wife? Mehn, men are something else. It does not seems you guys are compartible. If I say to you, tell his relative about his attitude that might change the temperature of the already heated polity. Find a suitable way to change him out of this. Probably when you guys settles soon, you may find a lasting solution afterwards and it better be binding on him. God save your marriage... |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by bouncer45: 1:42pm On Jan 06, 2014 |
the solution is simple if he is angry with u say am sorry if he refuse to eat you food after a weal stop given him food gust make for you self and eat it when he is around also enjoy it . note this is the last result after all you have done has failed, every marriage has it challenge yours is nothing, communication is the key to every marriage. |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by thomasedison: 1:50pm On Jan 06, 2014 |
there is more to it than meets d eye.d guy is nt jus angry cos of d dialect.he is tryin ti frustrate u cos of d second wife.jus b prayerful n ask b a dutiful wife n ask God to help ur marriage |
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