let me REVEAL this to you for free.

1) You have an attitude you are not prepared to change but rather have him get used to it. Now you are not changing and he is not adapting either. Its a thin line my dear between love and hate. He is terribly upset not because you speak that language but because he feels betrayed. He is not seeing you as been sensitive enough to what he likes or dislike.

Moreso, dont you think its unfair to at this point claim not to understand him? He must have displayed this attitude during courtship with you having no problem with it. Dont you think he might feel like living with a different person now?

finally, before you take anybody's advise ask of his/her marital status. We all behave differently so know yours and work it out.

The truth of the matter is that your husband love the other wife than you, you need to look at what the other wife is giving him that you are not giving him. This is one of the disadvantages of polygamies home. just pray and see how you can win his love.

Lol. Funny and crazy story.

when a man behaves thatv way he needs petting...he is ur baby...pet him and continue to pet him..Pet him again...spoil him with pet...his home is the only place where he can be pet, pls pet him.
when this happens, seduce him, get naked in front of him and do some crazy tins...jus be creative!
Do not stop begging or petting him, that will make the situation worse.
pet him, he deserves it, he is ur hubby.

Lots of people have given advice. But the crucial fact is that the OP is into a POLYGAMOUS MARRIAGE. This is not normal or regular especially in this day and age, so she should expect all the consequences that result n this kind of living arrangement.
OP need to recover your self-respect and dignity by separating yourself and living your life right.

Mynd_44: Childish husband. He drops money for food and refuses to eat. Smh

Hehehehehehehehehehehe
Very funny comment from you Mynd_44.

Goldenboy007: Take note of this, men have different ways of resolving issues within themselves, whether you beg him or not he needs that time to resolve the issue within himself before he can resolve with you. Men are generally analyst, they need to analyze the impact of that your so called "simple offence" before they can move on, some do it in shorter time and some take longer.

Who is this guy? Spot on!

shoerack6: The most painful part is when it comes to begging. I can stand for 1 hour begging him.
Just how many days ago, he was angry that my aunty's husband called me.
He's so jealous and practically controls my life. If not that I already have kids, I would have asked him to divorce me.
He has another wife (i'm the first) so whenever he's not talking to me, he'll just face the other wife and abandon me. This breaks me down.

Umm... How can you render yourself so hopeless and helpless in this situation? Your husband has all the aces and you seem to have no out. Na wa o. Still reading sha. Make una no vex say I dey resurrect dusty thread. My aproko get 4g network today.