SAMBARRY:
it goes both ways when guys boot girls out


oya move now

tearoses:


The next topic for our discussion is the younger the man the better for us ladies

5minsmadness:

Make me!

Kimoni:
Damiso and tearoses - You realise you are only allowed to use Nokia 3310, because these expensive phone manufacturers (Apple, Samsung...) won't be happy that after selling their expensive phones to you with orisirisi organizer apps, you are both still making use of post it

tearoses:


The next topic for our discussion is the younger the man the better for us ladies

moca:

Was enjoying ur debate on religion.

U will make a good lawyer

freecocoa:
Lol, thank you.

Everyone that knows me keep saying that, Since better late than never, I just might try my luck with law.

tearoses:


The next topic for our discussion is the younger the man the better for us ladies

cococandy:
Ladies how do you handle a situation where your friend breaks up with her man who happens to be your man's friend?

This is all shades of awkward for me right now because I can't have him come over my place with his new girl (as he did once) while my babe may come around. I knew her before him so I'm girlcodes on her side.

But can't ask hubby to sacrifice his friendship with the dude just so I can preserve mine with my friend.
One selfish person would have to win here and I want it to be me.

Askseek:



I have been itching to ask this question and am afraid I have to one up u here. My friend is married like me for about 15 yrs and we have been friends for about 12 yrs. husbands met through us, we r actually a group of 4 friends that turned into family friends. We are practically neighbors. As in if rice finish in her house she will take from mine. The story started like play until it snowballed into something else. And for the longest I thought her husband was a jerk until forced intervention happened. See story, found out she had never been honest about the issues they were having, I mean she was wrong. Not holding brief for d man but she was more on d wrong. Now they r heading for divorce and it has torn our close group apart. We were the closest and I chose not to take a side but it affected me cos if we did not talk in a day then that day was incomplete. I have been so sad over it, the only choice I see is for the friendship to dry up. How does one handle this other than mind your business. There r some relationships that r so intertwined their business is ur business.

Askseek:



I have been itching to ask this question and am afraid I have to one up u here. My friend is married like me for about 15 yrs and we have been friends for about 12 yrs. husbands met through us, we r actually a group of 4 friends that turned into family friends. We are practically neighbors. As in if rice finish in her house she will take from mine. The story started like play until it snowballed into something else. And for the longest I thought her husband was a jerk until forced intervention happened. See story, found out she had never been honest about the issues they were having, I mean she was wrong. Not holding brief for d man but she was more on d wrong. Now they r heading for divorce and it has torn our close group apart. We were the closest and I chose not to take a side but it affected me cos if we did not talk in a day then that day was incomplete. I have been so sad over it, the only choice I see is for the friendship to dry up. How does one handle this other than mind your business. There r some relationships that r so intertwined their business is ur business.

freecocoa:
According to her, he cheated a couple of times but apologised, yet still say that a man can't help it sometimes, therefore if such happens, the lady has to pray and do the usual red bra and pant thingy.

If he says "I want this thing this way" she can question but whatever he decides goes, regardless of what.

He did some things without consulting her, things she considered important.

Sometimes he took sides with his family when she was involved.

tearoses:
Yay this thread has been resurected. Thank you Buka

How do I cope with career and everything else? . . by organisig myself and planning ahead

I write a lot of notes. I have post it notes and note books for almost everything

Before I leave work for the day, I write a list of things I plan doing the next day and cros them off as I do them. I manage my own workload, so I need to be organised.

I write notes for my housework, I write notes for shopping, If I am going on holiday I write down thethings I need to pack
If I am going to Nigeria, I write down my iteniary before I even leave.

I also try and make things easy for myself. I do most of my housework & cooking on Friday evening so we can have a lie in on Saturday morning.
I try not to let things overwhelm me, and clean as I go along. So I may be in the kitchen cooking and as am waiting for the food to cook, just wipe down the kitchen cupboards and I clean the bathroom as I use it
I also cut corners a lot

moca:
Funny lady,u buky

I stopped commenting on d boys thread cos I don't like d way they treat us ladies there.

Observed that a long time ago.

Chei,babyosisi where r u?


@topic.
Really,i thought I can combine these three but for where. One has to bow and that was my career.

No choice.

If u have my kind of system,not to worry,take some time off and concentrate on others first, then u can re bounce back.


Not easy at all.

SAMBARRY:
That's what happens when you go to a place you're not invited and wanted



news flash: just like you don't attend every party you're invited to, you don't attend to every argument so if you're thrown out please my dear bukky, SPEAK FOR YOURSELF AND DONT BRING ME INTO IT especially after I've warned you previously of doing men pleaser


next

bukatyne:



True true.

Sometimes I cook in stages If I am going to be busy weekends. I go to market on day A, boil the stock same day or day b and mix the soup on fire day c

@Naijababe:

How do you store your vegetables?

naijababe:


Okra I cook and portion up and freeze, I buy frozen spinach but kale and other naija type green veggies, I blanch and store in sandwich bags and freeze.

bukatyne:


Wetin be Blanch?

bukatyne:




More like Penis Worshipper

You know I say it as I see it

@Askseek:

Are they willing to try again?

cococandy:
That's probably the only thing left to do.
Let the friendship die a natural death.

E dey pain sha.

tearoses:


Thats life dear
A very close friend of mine got divorced and after the divorce, it was like suddenly she was set free and her set of friends changed and she would spend weekends out of town etc and in the end we just gradually drifted.
When I think of it, it is painful because we were really close
Sometimes its really hard, but its just something that one has to accept in life.

tollu:
Totally agree with Moca

It all depends on taste. I never dated any one older than me by more than 5 years. And my olorioko bambam sef is within range.
For me, it's likely because of my playful nature, I nor know weda uncle wey senior me with donkey years go fit handle my play play. And guy wey I old pass must be very firm and totally confident cos I'm a first child and a Leo. So used to being a leader, I had to find a balance.

One almost perfect specimen was in my life at a point. His education was pretty fast and when he started earning cool bucks, I was still in 200 level or so. Tall, velvet voice, christian, but I am a couple of months older than him. He looked NOTHING like his age.
Bottom line, I wasn't feeling him though he wanted to wife me asap.
Fast forward to some years later, he asked what the problem was and why I didn't want to be serious with him back then and the easiest thing I could come up with was the age thing (in all honesty, between you people and I, his age wasn't a problem at all. His "something" was unbelievably small, almost like a child's. I couldn't understand why a fine strapping guy like that had a kini that couldn't belleful me and his dress sense left a lot to be desired, we just didn't gel sha) and then he said his wife is actually 3 years older than him.

So ladies do younger men well well, apart from the previous example, I am friends with another couple with a similar set up of older wife. Then one of my good friends has like 20sth years between her and her man. Omo, we no even fit hang out as couples. To greet the man na with both my knees dey approach ground subconsciously. She loves it that way though and she never dated a guy within her age range na agbalagbis she prefer from day one.

Taste is everything.