not another Victim lol
not exactly their nature babes, it's a natural thing.

lol

There must be different meanings and understanding of this 'love' stuff.
If a guy who loves [/b]his girlfriend is [b]cheating on her and the babe is hurt by this then his understaning of love must be different from hers.
I think when a guy and babe agree to love they should define terms,
LOVE or luv?

@Busta


@smashing!
U aint help the Complications Of nature, Can U??

no am not a victim rhodayln

Going back to reality

Every playa has one special person who has his heart.

So, a man can love a woman and still cheat on her.
And what does this say?

It implies that sex is an over-emphasised and misconstrued way of expressing love.

However, a man can still love his wife and remain faithful to her. Not every man cheats on his wife/girlfriend. The percentage may be so small, but they are still out there.

@ Mer-C, shit doesnt happen. If u really love him or her, u wldnt fin ur self in such a compromising situation enof to get into any temptation that might enable u 2 cheat on them!

@Rhea
word!

@Toy

I think me and ma man
are in agreement on that one.
We kno how to sort eachother out.
So wuteva anybody else thinks
doesnt matter to us.
Shit does happen! and when it does
are we gunno give up ALL dat we've
built together? Don't think so!
Not us!!

Its not the fact that once it happens u give up! U can forgive nd work it out, but 2 claim 2 love means u dont want 2 hurt ur partner, and by cheating on them u re hurtng dem even if u eventually work it out!

So thats the point, not to hurt, cuz dats all love is about, not wheter or not u work it out!

We ain't gunno cheat on eachother.
But in the case where it happens.
NEVER SAY NEVER!! Shit happens!
4 real! I don't like to discuss this. . .

i know whay ya mean Mer-C babes

Sorry i wasnt refering 2 u personally. Didnt mean 2 make it seem like a personal attack. MY BAD!!

i Guess So

@ Toy
no no! I'm not offended. I'm cool!
I got ur point.

@Rhodalyn
yeah I kno rite!

2 U too

All these talks about cheating being a normal attitude for guys even though they love their spouses are rubbish. I guess those of you in favour of this are guys and why am I so surprised, jeeeeez!!! There's no longer a sense of decency. If you are so sure it's normal, kindly inform your girlfriend the next time you feel like cheating on her. I'm sure she'll fold her hands and call it a man's nature. PUHLEEZE!!!

@ faaa, he go better for you oo.

If you thinking cheating on her doesn't mean you are hurting her, if you think cheating on her but claiming u love her is right, WHY N OT OPEN UR MOUTH AND TELL HER you slept with bisi or bose or janet or mariah? Nonsense!

Telling me a man can love a girl and still cheat on her. We are not talking about "a guy can get good sex from one girl, but still go out to get sex from other girls"> NO!

This is LOve. U love somebody, u love them And them Alone. U can't love somebody and cheat on them intentionally/conciously. That's n ot love.

If it's LOve, Then u should report to 'the girl u love' every time u cheat on her. Tell her, "hey baby, i love you, and by the way, i cheated on you yesterday". If u have enough balls to tell me u can love a girl and cheat on her. gather some balls and tell ur girl everytime u cheat on her that's it's a sign of LOVE. Gosh!

yes. it is very possible. it doesnt hav 2 b 'cos d lady offended u, or u r trying to get back at her for sometin she's done. human beings love adventure(like doing something not good and gettin away wit it). a girl will even do it without even blinking her eyes.

a girl will do worse. i believe hot_angel will.

Squee, it seems like u are the kind of person that wld condone cheating!! Wooow, dats i pity the bloke or chic that turns out 2 be ur partner (though with the way u talk, it sounds like u re a bloke).

Nywayz as for ur galz doing worse part, dont even get me started on the ration of men to women cheating being higher for the guyz. A gal could do that, but how much worse can it get. We might shout things about being equal, but our sexual exploits arent. Thats becaus even ur average prostitute girl knows how 2 con a man out of his money without having to sleep with, cuz of dignity (or maybe just awful looks).

But either way, guyz hardly care dey can cheat with so many women without thinking twice about dignity. So my friend how much worse can a gal take it?!!!

My idea of the world of MALES and FEMALES, :Dis that it is like that of the "Serengeti game reserve in kenya" where we the PREDATORS(lions,tigers, chetahs) and the PREYS(zebras,antelopes etc), The GUYS in this world are the PREDATORS while the LADIES are the PREYS, so like in these documentaries u see the lions chasing very hard to get the the zebras , and u see the zebras running away from the prey so as not to get eaten , i believe thats how we were made to act , how surprised would u feel if u watched a documentary that shows a zebra walking up to a lion and just lying down for it to be eaten , thats how our ladies of today have become , they have little or no regard for their virtue while some dont even the meaning of virtue , so it doesn't surpise me to hear that i lady compares herself with a guy, imagine a Zebra saying 5 lions have eaten me, does it make any sense, it should be one lion and a lion alone that can/should eat u(disvirgin u most likely ur husband)), whereas a lion can say it has eaten 100 antelopes, with pride, so what i am saying is that i feel sick when girls compare their selves with guys we are not the same, and we can never be the same, so on whether a guy can sleep love a lady and still sleep with another chick, its possible cos some of u have rightly said its in our nature, man is polygamous in nature, and like i said earlier 'SEX DOESN'T CONNOT LOVE' and vise visa, ie a prostitute, a rapist, a pornographic actor/actress, ETC, they have sex regularly but don't feel love at all, so a man can sincerely love a woman but have sex with another woman, e.g his wife is sick, pregnant or out of town, or his girl friend is a virgin e.t.c. he may in order no put stress on her just releive his loins with an lady, isn't that being considerate of him, Men i don tire to type jo!!!!

@ nosakhare

What are you saying? I think it's a sick thing to do. your prey and predator examples can in no mesure give a rational explanation for such an attitude. If men can't keep it in their pants then they do not deserve a woman's love.

nosakhare I am happy you used the word

My idea

.
Very happy indeed.

Sh*T happens but yours hits the fan.
You write as if you have no regard for a woman .
The worst(test) time a man can cheat is when his wife if carrying his baby under her heart.(for example).Or when she is sick.
I can understand a man cheating if "It just happened" But the way you write, it dose not "Just happen" you go out of your way to make it happen. And these are the worst type of men,.
They are not lions , Lions eat when they are hungry.
They are vultures and hyenas . They rub the lions of their pray or attack sick animals that can no more run,
Have you seen a dead animal saying come and kill me again

i believe cheating is the peark of irresponsibiity in a man,and if they are caught it is called frolicking but if a lady does it it is called heart breaking.this is very unfair

squee:

a girl will do worse. i believe hot_angel will.

Hmmmmmm. You don't even know me.

Yes, yes, yes, I see it done all the time.

@ TOPIC
IF HE LOVES THE WOMAN,OBVIOUSLY, THERE'S NO NEED TO CHEAT!!!!!

Yup its possible. And it also depends on how much he loves the woman. Or some guys just cant control themselves there just that playboy material that when the see a woman that they like they go for her like that

And like them older men its prolly gonna be harder for them if they were playboys as young men to stop cheating.

Well it all depends on whats up with the man whether he doesnt really like the woman or he just has the cheating playboy gene in his blood

@luvly, ladies cheat too u know

This isn't a battle between who should cheat the most or MEN vs WOMEN.
To claim that one sex (males) have more rights to cheat than a woman is self-serving and all this "It's in our nature to cheat" sounds like nothing but feel good rhetorics. and an excuse to justify that behavior.

Cheat if you want to, but abeg don't assume we're all ignorant enough to buy the "it's in our nature" excuse. There are many men out there who do not cheat on their partners. Are they freaks of nature? Are they created differently from those who cheat? I beg to differ.

Someone is comparing Lions and Zebras to men and women. If all we are is animals then you have no right to complain when a woman cheats on you. Because these animals do not take emotion into account.
The very fact that you are hurt when you are cheated on but claim that you should have a right to do it to other people makes you come across as selfish and self-serving. You do not care how other people feel and you're only out to make yourself feel better. The fact that you get emotional when someone cheats on you separates you from these so-called animals.
We are NOT animals. Granted we share many characteristics with animals, but we are human beings, emotional beings and capable of free choices and thinking clearly/intelligently. There's a reason we're on top of the food chain. Nature does not dictate how we live our life. Nature gives us certain elements and then gives us A BRAIN to decide what to do with those elements.
I don't care if you want to cheat. But at least be man/woman enough to admit what you did instead of claiming that "nature did it" and blah blah blah. 

Even though I don't agree with Calabar man, I respect his view because he came on this thread and highlighted the more realistic fact that both men and women are capable of cheating and no one has more right to it than the other unlike those who are trying to propel one-sided views. 

(My .02 kobo)

@ NIA word.