Jay-O-Jay:

Common guys! Just face it @reality.com! It happens everyday! A man can really love his woman, ready to die for her and will still steadily cheat on her! (Funny way a man loves!!!!!!!!)

A woman @reality.com knows that & she makes do with his home coming all the time and the show of love he puts on whenever he's home. She's not a fool, she knows he cheats, but as long as he keeps it out there and he's up to his responsibilities, the the earth can keep going round the sun. (True love probably comes from woman alone!!!!!!!)

kelvinO:

just because you don't know how to keep your pants-up does not mean all men do that. if you do know what love truely is you would know that sex is the least thing that goes no your mind when you love someone. the fact of cheating is an atribute of irresponsibility. so please do try and go for sex edu. and i'm sorry for you if you believe that(True love probably comes from woman alone) because you would never find one.

kelvinO:

just because you don't know how to keep your pants-up does not mean all men do that. if you do know what love truely is you would know that sex is the least thing that goes no your mind when you love someone. the fact of cheating is an atribute of irresponsibility. so please do try and go for sex edu. and i'm sorry for you if you believe that(True love probably comes from woman alone) because you would never find one.

favour5:

The earlier u realise your weakness as a man when it comes to being responsible(as u term it), the better for u.
Have u ever heard of mid-life(mid-age) crisis? It comes on men married btwn the age range 35 - 45 (or even up to 50). Talk to any in that range who is ready to open up to u and u'll get better u/standing of life in that area. Just pray for the grace to handle it well when it comes.

Nia:

hmnn, this post pulled me back in, lol.
Favour5, you sound like you like being cheated on.
What you're talking about has nothing to do with why people cheat. People who cheat do so whether or not they're going through a mid-life crisis. I'm sure you've grown up with a culture and around people who tell you that you should accept cheating as normal, and that's mostly why you believe it. If you visit a forum by people from the West, Europe, America, etc,  you will see a different mentality. I had a neighbour once (when I was in naija) who would similarly excuse her behavior, (she was cheating on her husband) by claiming that she's not receiving enough attention from her man and that the relationship is not the same, and that men do it too and blah blah blah. Does it make it right? of course not. Similarly, claiming that it's in the genes, or telling people to just accept it is also another excuse to justify the behaviour. And as long as your man knows he can get away with, he will surely continue to do it. Now don't get me wrong: if you don't mind staying with someone who cheats on you, that's really no one's concern but yours. 

favour5:


NIA, don't get me wrong. I'm not supporting cheatin in anyway. but this is one reality we all v to accept whether we like it or not. men love their wives but yet once in a whlile they still go out to check themselves. i don't think here it was specific on the professional cheats but men in general.that was why i was generalising. The question was can a man love a woman and still cheat on her not why people cheat.men can and men do it in their life one time or the other(mid-life crisis is an example of when most men usually do).
it would surprise u to know that i can't tolerate any man cheating on me. if my man does, it's better i don't know because if i do , 
There is nothing good about loving and cheating!

tiggy:

Who seduces who? the fact remains the more the seductions by ladies the more we realise the ***** can't stay in their pouches!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

sage:

U guys should free Jay-O-Jay. He is stating it the way he sees what is happening in the real world, not a childish and hypocritical fantasy.

@borngreat your signature is really funny

Is it possible for a man love a lady and still cheat on her?

Vieira:

I mean women produce very few eggs a month and once one is fertilised that is it.
Men produce millions of sperms EVERY single day!
We are meant to go out there and impregnant as many as possible. You will never see a farm with equal number of hens and cocks now.

Vieira:

LOL!


all this talk of TRUE love and bullshit is just wishful thinking but if it helps you to sleep better at night then good luck to you all.

Vieira:

LOL!

ofcourse!

men are wired differently.

First of all men do not see Sex and Love as the same thing and to them it is two separate things.

Secondly when men cheat, they never do so thinking the girlfriend/wife will find out. So to them she will never be hurt because she'll never know.

Thirdly most of the men who have truly not cheated have done so for the following reasons: Fear of being caught, lack of oppourtunity, Religious fear.

Fourthly (is that a word??) Men by nature are polygamous and that is a FACT, not an excuse. Men have to fight against their nature to remain faithful. Civilization is what has turned men into monogamous creatures but we still have to fight against milllions of years of biological instinct.

I mean women produce very few eggs a month and once one is fertilised that is it.
Men produce millions of sperms EVERY single day!
We are meant to go out there and impregnant as many as possible. You will never see a farm with equal number of hens and cocks now.

all this talk of TRUE love and bullshit is just wishful thinking but if it helps you to sleep better at night then good luck to you all.

Seun:

If men are not full of the same emotion and sentiment, why do they get upset when their girlfriends cheat on them? Afterall, it's "just sex" right? So why do you want to call down fire from heaven when she does it?

Seun:

If men are not full of the same emotion and sentiment, why do they get their friends when their girlfriends cheat on them? Afterall, it's "just sex" right? So why do you want to call down fire from heaven when she does it?

nuellabond:

@ imomoh24

I do believe u in a way anyway but its not like the ladies don't have a choice. If a man says he really loves u and yet messes around then the relationship is bound to crash because he'll start comparing her with the other girls he deals with.Therefore instead of wasting ones time, the best thing to do is to call it quits with the guy and move on.