Vivalavida99: Sweetmelon, you ain't far from the truth. The thirstiness of today's men/guys is beyond believe. And like you rightly said, you can be Kardashian, you can be mother Theresa, you can Brittney, but what will be will surely be. Dig that?

Sweetlemon: Mr Salt1 you need a full collection of Macmillan primary school reader (book1-6)ASAP.

Where in my post did I ever mention teenagers can have sex? You mean even I after my last post to explain myself you block head still do not understand my point? You need deliverance! Btw how old are you?

aflyingbird: op, good post. one of d reasons my ex cheated on me was cuz i didn't want to have pre-marital sex. his other reason... he didn't like my quiet personality. he confessed all these himself. i told him my beliefs right from when we started dating n told he he didn't hv to stay with me if he was looking for a relationship with sex n said he was cool with it n would wait till marriage. i told him i'm a quiet person too. instead of him to break up with me n let me go jeje, he chose to cheat continuously for a year. he was a good actor cuz i had nooo idea. there i was thinking he was sooo patient, sweet, faithtful n honest when he was far from those things. the only reason he decided to confess after a year was cuz he wanted me n him to get back 2gether n he wanted 2 ask for my forgiveness first. told him i forgave him but no way was i getting back together with him. i was sooo hurt because i trusted him n never believed he would ever do that 2 me. some of the other guys who've approached me all seem to be Hot idiaaats too. i make sure i tell them from the start so dey can waka pass if they can't handle it. they change after i tell dem, aka call me less n less. i eventually stop picking their calls once i realize they were only after 1 thing to begin with, idiaaaats.



i concur. too many thirsty-ass men out dere. it doesn't matter who u are, a man who wants to cheat will cheat

salt1:
Sweetlemon, can you buy those readers for me? Oh No, you shouldn't because I am a block head who needs deliverance and may not even understand what I am reading if you bought me the collection. Thanks so much and God bless you.
Now back to your IMMORAL post. I may be very daft, but this is what I understand from your post
1. You are above 30, desperately single, desperately seeking and desperately willing to mingle
2. You are answering back those who have been telling you that if you had closed your legs a little and lowered your skirts, you would have landed yourself a husband
And your answer is basically this: from my experience with all the men who didn't think I was a marriage material, I have learnt that the man who will love to marry you will marry you! It doesn't matter if you have slept with 5 or 50 men, if you have HIV/STDS, if you have the reputation of a slut, if you have committed multiple abortions etc. In fact, the "badder" you are as a girl, the better your chances of landing yourself a "good" husband! After all, Kim Kardasian etc all married "good" husbands! Why didn't you add Maheeda? Is she not a role model and didn't she get a rich husband? I mean, wouldn't your brother have been proud bringing her home to introduce to your Mom as her future DIL?
The entire post, which ridicules decent girls who are keeping themselves chaste, and promotes immorality, is seen as a fact! I can only smh at you and the promiscuous men who liked your post. Continue to promote immorality! Continue to laugh at purity! That one million flies eat shit doesn't mean that shit should be eaten.
I wish you luck
I stand for decency! And purity! And yes I am married and I have very meaningful and fulfilling relationship with my spouse.

salt1:

Please let me help correct this impression. Adults do what they choose to do. It is unhealthy for you to feel that you are responsible for your ex's decision to cheat on you: every adult decides what he wants to do with his life.
You know why he wants to come back to you? Because he has realized that you are a gem. You have principles. You have strength of character! The girls who will follow Sweetlemon's advice are there: 2 for N20! But a principled and beautiful young woman is rare to find.
Please stick to what you believe in and at the right time, the person who shares your value system will come into your life and it will all be worth it

aflyingbird: op, good post. one of d reasons my ex cheated on me was cuz i didn't want to have pre-marital sex. his other reason... he didn't like my quiet personality. he confessed all these himself. i told him my beliefs right from when we started dating n told he he didn't hv to stay with me if he was looking for a relationship with sex n said he was cool with it n would wait till marriage. i told him i'm a quiet person too. instead of him to break up with me n let me go jeje, he chose to cheat continuously for a year. he was a good actor cuz i had nooo idea. there i was thinking he was sooo patient, sweet, faithtful n honest when he was far from those things. the only reason he decided to confess after a year was cuz he wanted me n him to get back 2gether n he wanted 2 ask for my forgiveness first. told him i forgave him but no way was i getting back together with him. i was sooo hurt because i trusted him n never believed he would ever do that 2 me. some of the other guys who've approached me all seem to be Hot idiaaats too. i make sure i tell them from the start so dey can waka pass if they can't handle it. they change after i tell dem, aka call me less n less. i eventually stop picking their calls once i realize they were only after 1 thing to begin with, idiaaaats.



i concur. too many thirsty-ass men out dere. it doesn't matter who u are, a man who wants to cheat will cheat

salt1:
Please let me help correct this impression. Adults do what they choose to do. It is unhealthy for you to feel that you are responsible for your ex's decision to cheat on you: every adult decides what he wants to do with his life.
You know why he wants to come back to you? Because he has realized that you are a gem. You have principles. You have strength of character! The girls who will follow Sweetlemon's advice are there: 2 for N20! But a principled and beautiful young woman is rare to find.
Please stick to what you believe in and at the right time, the person who shares your value system will come into your life and it will all be worth it

Sweetlemon:

The guy didn't leave you because you didn't want to sleep with him. He left because he wanted to anyway. Like I tried to explain in my first post, it doesn't matter if/when a guy has sex with you, if/when he wants to leave, he will leave because you are not the only girl in the world with a virgina.

If you are not ready to have sex, don't. Wait till you want to. With the right man.

aflyingbird:
oh yes, i will wait. in fact, he has made me stronger in d sense dat i know i will neva give it up until i am 100% sure i am with the right man. i am 27 yrs old. if i had had sex with this idiaaat, he likely would've found anoda reason to cheat n i wud b even more devastated. so am glad i didn't n stood my ground d whole time n kept myself. he only made me stronger

Awho:

if u ask me i think i'll advice you keep an open mind and learn from her because i fink as times are changing so also are men what eva she's said her i bet is tested on the alter of experience if you doubt it i give it to you as an assignment.. No disrespect intented please

princesa:
no disrespect noted.

But maybe in comprehending men more, i should start getting the perspectives of a man. Would you do the honor of answering my questions?

princesa:
no disrespect noted.

But maybe in comprehending men more, i should start getting the perspectives of a man. Would you do the honor of answering my questions?

teeowl: Sweetlemon: from your post... I can see that you are no longer in the fantasy and religious bubble that so many girls/ladies are still in... you are now at the stage of awareness. And so many people are going to argue and condemn you because they are still in the clouds.

Personally how quick I get sex from a lady does not determine whether I want a relationship or marriage with her. It is the other things about her that determines whether I want a relationship or marriage. To give or not to give sex is not the determining factor on whether matured men would marry a girl or not - life is multidimensional - sex is not the only factor that a man is considering!

cutiemoi:


So she should keep giving until the man comes! Nawa o.
Hope you will marry a lady that has given 30 men up untill she met you.

chuxyz: OP, you definitely know nothing about Men, sex or marriage. Though you got some points, but you lost them at certain instances. For example when you said men don't like Good women - that's a fat lie. In as much as men needs a woman who is machine on bed which we can most times term as Bad Girl, a man also needs a faithful woman. A man needs not only a wife or bedmate, but a mother in a wife. One who can mother him and his children. Men needs a woman that possess the quality of a good mother. We don't need that bad girl who is likely to cheat. We don't need that girl who cant inculcate good morals in our kids. I am a man and i can stand out to tell you this. You haven't sat around married and unmarried men to discuss about relationships and marriage but i have so i can tell you more if you wish to know. Also i will tell you that a men don't like having sex with who they love. If a man is not married to you but loves you not for sex, he feels bad when he lost control and eventually have sex with you. Now what i'm saying is that a man who does not love you for sex must feel bad each time he has sex with you. I have looked within myself and noticed that i never love any lady whenever sex was my priority. I might like her but...no love. Having sex with one you are not married to is degrading and that's why you have to pay prostitute for services and that's why guys must pay their girlfriends in cash. I believe girl you truely love is like a sister to you. Having sex with her is hurting her. Sit down with men and you will learn

sexyexcalibur: funny you.... I abstain because Christ tel sme too, not because of sme mythology......you keep yourself til marriage, not because you want a Gud husband BT because u want to..... dz post z just a way of making non virgins feel Gud.. ...... dia population z mor so expect mor likes for d pros........ sex z 1 of d easiest tin you can get out dia (for free sef), BT U can Neva gt ur virginity back..... mk ur own choice n don't let sme article or myth mk it for u....

njokusboy:

You only said 1 tin, you asserted dat I was a teenager while yuu are an elder (which shows u re way less mature than you claim).... Since u don't even know me
Only kids log into a public forum and call people with divergent opinions children... I don't care how old u re but you are an adult kid...

All you wrote up there are total crap which justifies my calling u a kid, u clearly are not smart enough to engage me in a discourse... Who is kim kardashian, who is jlo... They are celebrities, American celebrities.... Americans and Nigerians are not the same... Americans are too individualistic, even porn stars get married... How many of our popular actresses are still single... Use ur tongue to count ur teeth...
Besides u don't live lyk a hoe when you are not angelina jolie and expect a reasonable man to marry you... How many of your brothers are married to prostitutes, would you allow ur child marry a stripper... Is ur wife a stripper
Any Nigerian kim kardarshian would remain single.... Try it, tell one of your sisters to make a sex tape and see if she won't be single for the rest of her life...
Like I said earlier, people go to the villages to marry because they assume those in the village are less loose, which justifies my position dat Nigerians do not intentionally marry loose women.. Most of the time...

Finally, GROW UP, if you have something to say, say it.. Don't go about calling people kids... Not everyone is your age or sense mate... Be wise

Mikkie31: I have been reading every post on this thread for two days now and i have decided to comment with my experience. The fact still stands that every one is entitled to their own opinion but the truth also remains that GOD ORDERED HIS OWN PEOPLE TO KEEP OFF ADULTERY AND FORNICATION. The question i would like every honest person on this thread to answer is ;would you live your life based on people's theories and opinions rather than look into the mirror of God's words which is the bible? Speaking for myself,i was involved in quite a few immoralities and it took me a while to understand why i should rather listen to God other than people's opinion. It really matters the things you do with your self but being happy comes with a choice and only Jesus teaches us how to carefully make that choice. This is not about being religious or not being realistic,the truth remains the truth and i think we all know it. Its best we face it and let it change us. NO SEX BEFORE A MARITAL UNION UNLESS YOU ARE READY TO PAY THE PRICE.

soonest:
Being a virgin is not that u want to get d best of all men or is it abt copying Mother Theresa, it's a matter of principle and choice. That she's a virgin doesn't mean she will be boring in bed when u guys marry! Dat she's boring now while u guys are trying to make out is because she doesn't want u guys to go too far in d act. Marry her first and u will see the tigress in her. She will be so willing to learn and please.

cutiemoi:


So she should keep giving until the man comes! Nawa o.
Hope you will marry a lady that has given 30 men up untill she met you.

jpphilips:

Christ equally asked you to add sexy to your moniker!? do children of God answer sexy Mary or sister Mary? you will make more sense if you said you abstain because of fear of HIV or other STI, God truly knows his people.

onyaigo: don't worry my dear..let me not look for you when I get to heaven biko...

salt1:


Sweetlemon, can you buy those readers for me? Oh No, you shouldn't because I am a block head who needs deliverance and may not even understand what I am reading if you bought me the collection. Thanks so much and God bless you.

Now back to your IMMORAL post. I may be very daft, but this is what I understand from your post
1. You are above 30, desperately single, desperately seeking and desperately willing to mingle
2. You are answering back those who have been telling you that if you had closed your legs a little and lowered your skirts, you would have landed yourself a husband
And your answer is basically this: from my experience with all the men who didn't think I was a marriage material, I have learnt that the man who will love to marry you will marry you! It doesn't matter if you have slept with 5 or 50 men, if you have HIV/STDS, if you have the reputation of a slut, if you have committed multiple abortions etc. In fact, the "badder" you are as a girl, the better your chances of landing yourself a "good" husband! After all, Kim Kardasian etc all married "good" husbands! Why didn't you add Maheeda? Is she not a role model and didn't she get a rich husband? I mean, wouldn't your brother have been proud bringing her home to introduce to your Mom as her future DIL?

The entire post, which ridicules decent girls who are keeping themselves chaste, and promotes immorality, is seen as a fact! I can only smh at you and the promiscuous men who liked your post. Continue to promote immorality! Continue to laugh at purity! That one million flies eat shit doesn't mean that shit should be eaten.
I wish you luck
I stand for decency! And purity! And yes I am married and I have very meaningful and fulfilling relationship with my spouse.

Now this is personal
what if the OP is married but just having fun online, will you confess this sin and ask God for forgiveness for you have lied greatly against her?
Know ye! that if your sin remaineth with thee, this lie can get you to hell faster than fornication/adultery you spent years avoiding.

aflyingbird:
tnx. yea i know i'm not responsible for his cheating, can't blame myself for his actions. i know i didn't deserve what he did 2 me. he himself told me i'm a good person. it just hurts bcuz i thought he wud be the last person on earth to ever hurt me n kinda made me feel i wasn't good enuff for him dat he had to go after anoda chick. when we were together, after a while i started getting weird feelings like maybe this guy isn't the right guy for me afterall but i brushed it off n thought our relationship was still new, give it time. n i felt were weren't connecting emotionally like i wanted so i talked to him, told him how we could work together n connect more. when he confessed he said the reason i felt those things was cuz he was seeing someone else so he couldn't always be present with me. it hurts a whole lot, felt betrayed, deceived, everything . i will be listening 2 my instincts a lot more now n gotta be careful with trusting men too n thinking a man will b faithful to me . i now know no one is above being cheated on. if bill clinton can cheat on hilary, arnold schwarzenegger can cheat on maria, u know.. any man can do it, no matter how good n faithful a woman is to them



oh yes, i will wait. in fact, he has made me stronger in d sense dat i know i will neva give it up until i am 100% sure i am with the right man. i am 27 yrs old. if i had had sex with this idiaaat, he likely would've found anoda reason to cheat n i wud b even more devastated. so am glad i didn't n stood my ground d whole time n kept myself. he only made me stronger

Ok guys you have heard it, no more free sex for you guys, see them in marriage,
mehn! dats to promote from fornication to adultery ASAP where are dem bachelors? the battle line is drawn!!!

jpphilips:

Targeting heaven immediately you begot a b@stard? lol you see why i despise African mentality, you advocate no sex before marriage while you have a fruit of your own misdemeanor by the corner, now lets look at it this way;
How about you got enough sex education before you got involved? how about you knew about protection before you got involved?
Is it not obvious you have formed an opinion based on the horrible experience of your past? not necessarily because you love God?

about the guy who quote your post up there but seems to need something to tell her 18yr old daughter, take her to a pathology clinic where she will see AIDS patients first hand if possible witness their demise, teach her sex education, she will form a better opinion in life not some clap trap losers who started opening legs while thinking gold circle is a balloon.

teeowl: Sweetlemon: from your post... I can see that you are no longer in the fantasy and religious bubble that so many girls/ladies are still in... you are now at the stage of awareness. And so many people are going to argue and condemn you because they are still in the clouds.

Personally how quick I get sex from a lady does not determine whether I want a relationship or marriage with her. It is the other things about her that determines whether I want a relationship or marriage. To give or not to give sex is not the determining factor on whether matured men would marry a girl or not - life is multidimensional - sex is not the only factor that a man is considering!

jpphilips:

to believe that some criminals really want to trade marriage for virginity is what makes me sick, most men who married those ugly virgins are on the street today, when you are not there, you will never know, a 27yr old ugly virgin is a mere trophy for a man who have misplaced his priorities aka virgin hunters.

jpphilips:

I will understand if you caught HIV during your sexcapades of immoralities like you put it to form this opinion.
Do you really need God to tell you to flee from fornication? what about science that told you of HIV, Staph, Gono, syphilis, herpes etc, have you listened to it?
All you religious people who give the impression that religion is the custodian of morality are deluded, Common sense and God given conscience is the custodian of morality.

banega: Very educating piece Op, buh what in God's earth is toto ? ah think that word is inappropriate,. If you ask mee• • •