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Re: Myths About Men, Sex, And Marriage by soonest(f): 6:49pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
Sweetlemon:I quite agree with u but good character will get u better n more suitors than bad character.(My observation though) 2 Likes |
Re: Myths About Men, Sex, And Marriage by Nobody: 7:12pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
Well said. The article is on point. |
Re: Myths About Men, Sex, And Marriage by Nobody: 7:23pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
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Re: Myths About Men, Sex, And Marriage by soonest(f): 7:27pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
Lenzz:Being a virgin is not that u want to get d best of all men or is it abt copying Mother Theresa, it's a matter of principle and choice. That she's a virgin doesn't mean she will be boring in bed when u guys marry! Dat she's boring now while u guys are trying to make out is because she doesn't want u guys to go too far in d act. Marry her first and u will see the tigress in her. She will be so willing to learn and please. 2 Likes |
Re: Myths About Men, Sex, And Marriage by princesa(f): 7:31pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
They are all messing with my head. The relationship talks, the articles, the books, the advices, all of it! Messing with my head! I don't know who to follow anymore. What do these men really want? This is the phase where I say, I give up. |
Re: Myths About Men, Sex, And Marriage by Nobody: 7:32pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
I've read so many articles claiming men love sex so much and it's bugging me, the truth is if men are more secure than women,then they feel as to 'misbehave'. having in mind that those who will challenge them are men like them(men hate to be controlled), not even a woman whom they ignore. Ok why are there rebels, 'cause they disagrees with the other men (in authority). this is a fact, every woman will act like a man if they were born male! |
Re: Myths About Men, Sex, And Marriage by bennyzer(m): 9:12pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
Sweetlemon: We hear them all the time. These are things our big sisters, aunts, and mothers drum into our heads while growing up. Now all grown up, spiritual mentors keep warning us about them in our fellowships, church/mosque services, etc. But all my almost 30 years on earth has shown me a lot of realities.Make sense. |
Re: Myths About Men, Sex, And Marriage by purplefish: 9:34pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
why are bad things now considered as good and good for bad? I mean having sex before marriage . where is it written in the Bible. it rather goes with a heavy punishment, ie not inheriting God's kingdom. so beware 4 Likes |
Re: Myths About Men, Sex, And Marriage by Legendoscar2: 9:35pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
banega: Very educating piece Op, buh what in God's earth is toto ? ah think that word is inappropriate,. If you ask mee• • • You must love that word otherwise you won't single it out of the myriads of phrases in her write up. Op, well done but I still support waiting till marriage jare |
Re: Myths About Men, Sex, And Marriage by absolute2020(m): 10:07pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
The grace of God has more to do about sex.so just ask for his grace. 1 Like |
Re: Myths About Men, Sex, And Marriage by continentalceo(m): 10:47pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
Sweetlemon: We hear them all the time. These are things our big sisters, aunts, and mothers drum into our heads while growing up. Now all grown up, spiritual mentors keep warning us about them in our fellowships, church/mosque services, etc. But all my almost 30 years on earth has shown me a lot of realities.will you marry me? |
Re: Myths About Men, Sex, And Marriage by Awho(m): 6:14am On Jul 21, 2014 |
i swear if i had u write a book and its make a bestseller pls continue this advocacy campaign |
Re: Myths About Men, Sex, And Marriage by sunnyprof: 10:11am On Jul 21, 2014 |
Marriage is a mystery, you cant understand it all. But you should regard it more as: 'a personal decision to live and remain by somebody you think you love, admire, respect and would co-operate with to raise a family, enjoy intimacy and partner to create an impact or a new unit for posterity' (my definition). This let you see it as a life venture, with its up and down, good and bad trends, but you end up with a joy that you have sustained something in life - married till end. Nobody had ever regretted keeping his or her marriage till the end, its always a big testimonies. they will tell you it has some tough times, disappointments along the way, discouraging situations..... but they scale through with love, perseverance, God's help and a belief in what the marriage stood for - partnership, procreation and posterity (these include Children or whatever). More importantly pray for your marriage and ask for strength to continue till the end. because no marriage is perfect but you can make your an example of a Good marriage ..... and that's your responsibility. |
Re: Myths About Men, Sex, And Marriage by sunnyprof: 10:14am On Jul 21, 2014 |
marriaige is give and take, play your own part and do everything to keep your marriage (minus any evil). You will love what you get. |
Re: Myths About Men, Sex, And Marriage by ayobase(m): 11:19am On Jul 21, 2014 |
one of the few best threads I have come across on NL this year. nice one sweetmelon! 1 Like |
Re: Myths About Men, Sex, And Marriage by Sweetlemon(f): 11:56am On Jul 21, 2014 |
Lol! So this made front page? 344 likes? Thanks to those who understand and appreciate my post. To those of you who didn't, I don't know how to simplify this post any further than this to make you guys finally understand my point. |
Re: Myths About Men, Sex, And Marriage by Nobody: 12:34pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
Wow! Is this post still trending? Anyway, let me still reiterate my stand below: IrishKez: Like seriously the Op captured the interest of most men here in her write up but most of the claims are subjective. |
Re: Myths About Men, Sex, And Marriage by phew09(f): 3:50pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
good gals marry bad boys, bad girls marry good girls blah blahblah.... peopl kiss on first date and marry, some wait for 6 six months and dont end up marryng....blahhhh lots of bllaaaaaahs everywhere. its really not about marriage but having a good home. anybody can get married anytime but how many really have successful homes. the last time i checked 99% of ladies out there follow your theory(its not a new thing you know) its hasnt made the soceity any better. rather we keep rearing men that think through their d.i.c.k. The ones that lack self control. That even life its all about intimacy. the number of divorcees increase by the day. lots of unhappy couples. those men you live all your life to please even to the extent of calling ya mum a liar even the ones hailing your thread still cheat on you when you marry them. what people dont understand though is that the decision to remain a virgin or go celibate has nothing to do with pleasing your husband. its really about pleasing God, its a convenant between the person(guy or gal) and God. having a good home is something the couples would have to work on. 2 Likes |
Re: Myths About Men, Sex, And Marriage by cutiemoi: 4:00pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
bisi16: What shall it profit a woman to hold d toto for years and loose d man when he finally hits it. Moral of d lesson, man wey go stay go stay... Shikena! So she should keep giving until the man comes! Nawa o. Hope you will marry a lady that has given 30 men up untill she met you. 1 Like |
Re: Myths About Men, Sex, And Marriage by cutiemoi: 4:03pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
Dynamo1: Nice write up, should come in handy for the singles. Let love flow naturally, do not coerce it like most females do. Ensure he loves you as much as you do. Threaten to leave him and see if he would come on his knees begging. Pay attention to little details that matter and not just the effizy. Don't only love his money, status and paparazzi, love his ordinary personality more. Don't marry for spiritual reasons only, be quite selfish and go for what your physical body wants as well. May the Almighty guide us How about you don't bring in the almighty into this. deciding to even start testing is already against his wish. 1 Like |
Re: Myths About Men, Sex, And Marriage by Sweetlemon(f): 4:13pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
phew09: good gals marry bad boys, bad girls marry good girls blah blahblah.... It's sha not my fault that you lack comprehension skills. My mum married as a virgin and I couldn't wish my dad on my worstest enemy! Like you were somehow able to grab from my write-up, it's not about when you marry but how well you marry. It's not about how many people you slept with but about the kind of person you eventually end up with. 1 Like |
Re: Myths About Men, Sex, And Marriage by Sweetlemon(f): 4:24pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
Disclaimer: This article is in no way whatsoever against waiting till marriage for sex. It only separates fantasy from facts. If you want to remain a virgin till marriage please do. If you want to stop having sex till marriage, please do. Even after I wrote this disclaimer in bold, some quarter-baked, hypersensitive people are still concluding that I am against no sex before marriage O ga o! Did you guys also see where I wrote this? "Even if you do not want to have sex with him until marriage, make sure that chemistry is there. Make sure you see a sign of hot and steamy nights to come after marriage. Thank me later." It beats me as to how someone will conclude that I said men don't like good girls. Please what does this sentence mean to the average adult? "See, men like good girls that have fire underneath them" smh 1 Like |
Re: Myths About Men, Sex, And Marriage by Awho(m): 5:20pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
princesa: They are all messing with my head. The relationship talks, the articles, the books, the advices, all of it! Messing with my head! if u ask me i think i'll advice you keep an open heart and learn from her because i fink as times are changing so also are men what eva she's said her i bet is tested on the alter of experience if you doubt it i give it to you as an assignment.. No disrespect intented please |
Re: Myths About Men, Sex, And Marriage by Awho(m): 5:22pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
princesa: They are all messing with my head. The relationship talks, the articles, the books, the advices, all of it! Messing with my head! if u ask me i think i'll advice you keep an open mind and learn from her because i fink as times are changing so also are men what eva she's said her i bet is tested on the alter of experience if you doubt it i give it to you as an assignment.. No disrespect intented please |
Re: Myths About Men, Sex, And Marriage by salt1: 8:54pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
Sweetmelon, when i was thinking of how to respond to this your horribly ungodly post, i saw this from a thread on NL May God forgive you for calling evil good and good evil. Looks like all you and your fellow admirers like is how to trivialize sex. The most important sex organ is the brain. Read what you wrote on the first page to your daughter when she's 18. I stand with the person I quoted below onyaigo: Anyway...for me sha oooo....it happened when I was a teen,i took in immediately i got disvirgined.....it wasn't funny then....going to school,,,the stigma,,the gossip,,,,breaking my family's heart,,,emotional,,,psychological,,,mental trauma(na die)....thank God I never did an abortion(i for done die of heart attack)....today am a better,,stronger,,prettier,,,classier lady......its been from one blessing to another since then(i can't fit shout).........I have learnt that love ain't sex,,relationship is for the matured in mind,,parents know your kids in and out,make them your best friend.....my advice is,,,no Sex before marriage(u r entitled to ur opinion so don't give me dat look)..,,love is not a feeling but a choice u make,,,,if it is easy getting the right partner we all would have been married by now so chill and be the best you can be(your own dey road)......brb. 1 Like |
Re: Myths About Men, Sex, And Marriage by Nobody: 9:40pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
salt1: OP, when i was thinking of how to respond to this your horribly ungodly post, i saw this from a thread on NL May God forgive you for calling evil good and good evil. Looks like all you and your fellow admirers like is how to trivialize sex. The most important sex organ is the brain. Read this to your daughter when she's 18don't worry my dear..let me not look for you when I get to heaven biko... 1 Like |
Re: Myths About Men, Sex, And Marriage by salt1: 9:44pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
onyaigo: don't worry my dear..let me not look for you when I get to heaven biko... I hope you didn't misunderstand me. It is Sweetmelon who is the OP that I was addressing, not you. Your post is diametrically opposed to hers actually buttressing my position on no sex before marriage. So sorry if you thought I was addressing you. I was inviting the op to read your experience and your advice that sex should be avoided till marriage. Thanks for wishing me heaven, tho... I am aspiring to go there 1 Like |
Re: Myths About Men, Sex, And Marriage by Nobody: 9:48pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
salt1:ok....sorry too. you are a good man..... 1 Like |
Re: Myths About Men, Sex, And Marriage by Sweetlemon(f): 10:16pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
Mr Salt1 you need a full collection of Macmillan primary school reader (book1-6)ASAP. Where in my post did I ever mention teenagers can have sex? You mean even I after my last post to explain myself you block head still do not understand my point? You need deliverance! Btw how old are you? |
Re: Myths About Men, Sex, And Marriage by phew09(f): 11:59pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
[quote author=Sweetlemon] the same super story. madam comprehension. stop consoling your self with those words. |
Re: Myths About Men, Sex, And Marriage by Lenzz(m): 2:52am On Jul 22, 2014 |
soonest: Hello ma'am. I was about to have a go at you but thought better. You sound pretty confident with ur submissions. I think it has a personal undertone nd I must say I find it quite remarkable. Hopefully with some measure of patience, support nd accomodation, my own tigress will emerge as did you . Thanks for dropping by miss 1 Like |
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