OrlandoOwoh:
Rubbish!

OdenigboAroli:

Have your sister/brother ever told you it is your responsibility to pay their school fees....lol
The way our people reason is destructive!

50calibre:

And why should they return to the cesspit called Nigeria, where human lives worth nothing? Many of these men built their lives in America, you're asking them to abandon the sane and functioning society they're used to for an impoverished/dysfunctional one, is there any sense in that? Can you do it?

What you're suggesting is like asking someone to trade a cake for faeces.

If they return, can you guarantee their safety? I'm pretty sure most of these men suffer from one health problem or the other, can you guarantee their medical needs would be met?

Some of you guys bleat like sheeps yet given the slightest opportunity most of you will flee that country without looking back. You can't rebuild Nigeria with bare hands, and say what you will of these men, they are cowards, they're in exile, bla bla bla it doesn't matter, what matters is they're in safer place.

cococandy: So tell me how exactly one person can be responsible for the enrichment and/or welfare of ALL his extended family members.
Una dey do maths at all?
So he shouldn't have a life again because they helped him go abroad which is a very vague statement BTW.
Helped him as in plane ticket money or they paid his way thru' college and bought his house in the US for him?
Even the ones that packed garri for you to go with will count themselves as those that sent you abroad.while counting the months and years before you send a brand new SUV for them.

I'm not against helping relatives.
But the only people you OWE care are your wife/husband, kids and aged parents.
Every other person is an adult that should take care of themselves.
If you help,good.very good and beautiful.
If you don't, It shouldn't make you a bad person.

The problem is that we Africans think money grows on trees abroad.
When a person travels and doesn't come back to build a mansion for them,buy cars and train their kids in school for them,that person 'has nothing to show for having been abroad for long'

Wonder why young men dabble into all sorts of illegal stuff over there?
Because there's a high expectation from those at home.
IT IS WRONG!!!

Omexonomy: What is the significance of this congress to the development of igbo and nigeria at large?

Billyonaire:

The fact that my Igbo brothers gathered in Houston, wearing the Igbo traditional regalia and talking about Igbohood and Igboship, means they have a quiet desperation to become one with their home. The dream of losing Identity is what hunts them. To be truly liberated, one must recognize the need to fight and win his war against poverty and self-destruct. This generation of Igbo men must learn that the greatest thing you can do to lose your identity as a people is running away from your ugly present. The future of runaway soldiers is called Exile. Igbos should come home and lets fight and win.

50calibre:

Good thing you know. Invest that time in finding solutions your impoverished country.

Stop looking for people to slum with you. Your life as you are right there, isn't worth more than $1

Nigeria scares the Jesus out of many people, you should know that now.

GodMode: cococandy, babyosisi and OdenigboAroli... are selfish beings that's why Africa is not moving forward... If u want to help then help cos no one is forcing u to help... But your family and kids come first the wife is just a passenger that's why she also needs to work but most women always want a rich guy....

The whites help themselves no matter the situation.. They don't care if you're a relative or not.

The moment people start taking your help as an obligation you can tell them they are not your responsibility you are just doing it out of goodwill.

oluamid:


Except you are white, native American or African american I hope you know you are still regarded as a second-class citizen. You'll never be fully accepted.

Run and rant against Nigeria all you want, once you give up the ghost ( and I pray that doesn't happen for many many years), your carcass will be brought back here. And if Nigeria has gone to the dogs by then (hopefully not), your body will be bombed out of the ground.


In the meantime, continue playing the ostrich.

babyosisi:

You are very young but very wise beyond your years
People forget that a man's family are primarily his wife and children and he should also take care of his parents
Every other person is a distant relative
You help them if you can,they are not your responsibility
If people are home expecting my husband and I to build them something to show for our sojourn here,they will wait till death
Cousins and some you can't even trace the kinship want you to train them and train their children

babyosisi:

Are you truly accepted in Nigeria?
Why is tribe a determinant of everything in Nigeria
Please!!!

Many of us here have reached positions of authorities in our fields but if you feel better peddling tales,go ahead

babyosisi:

They have nothing to prove to you or anyone
They can wear their tradional Igbo attire wherever they choose
You don't define who is Igbo and who is not
They are confident in their Igbo heritage and gather under that umbrella and that is commendable
Do your own,they do theirs from wherever they choose to be
You can't even get a grasp of your so called country,an Islamic republic in waging within it
Leave them alone
Do your bit

Billyonaire: Lets not become emotional about this issue. I am a strong proponent of the Igbo renaissance, and as a matter of fact 2 of my younger brothers are married to Igbo ladies, and I have 2 Igbo native names. We are one people, and my Dad lost everything to the needless Biafran war. I am simply pained by the fact that the Igbo decide to migrate enmasse to some distant country, built by the sweat and tears of other race instead of sitting tight at home and creating comfort for generations of Igbo unborn. Today, the average Igbo man has a pedestrian and nomadic DNA, always searching for Greener pastures abroad. Lets not praise these exile meetings, lets no worship away match mentality. Lets come home to Aba, Enugu, Owerri and rebuild the masterplan of our heroes past. So help us Gods.

babyosisi:

Are you truly accepted in Nigeria?
Why is tribe a determinant of everything in Nigeria[b]
Even fellow Igbo states are chasing away other Igbo people from state employment[/b]
Something that will never happen here
Please!!!

Many of us here have reached positions of authorities in our fields but if you feel better peddling tales,go ahead

babyosisi:

Lol
I remember my relatives coming to ask my parents for money to get their wife and new baby out from the maternity ward at discharge
Imagine that
A man enjoys his wife finish and they have a baby and it becomes another's responsibility and it never ends
You will still buy similac o
Pay school fees
Find them admission to the university
The day the child marries,you are expected to sponsor the wedding kwa

This is why our nigerian and Igbo men die young
The burden they are expected to bear is too much
If you show any sign of success,everybody will expect you to carry their burdens plus yours until you stroke out
You are in your parlor and kpo kpo kpo,a relative arrives from the village with his children unannounced
One problem or another

That is why World Igbo Congress is holding a meeting in Houston and people are worried about where they are holding it and why they should hold it and how they should carry the weight of NdiIgbo and Nigeria on their heads.
Nonsense!
Even if they gather just to eat ugba and Nkwobi and dance to Igbo highlife tunes,they are free to do so,it is their money.they are not obligated to share it with anyone if they choose not to

The first time my father came to America to visit me he said he could not believe he could wake up from day to day and not a single complaint from anyone or requests to do this or that or solve one problem or another.

maestroferddi: Leave that thing.

We Igbos have this annoying way of sounding more catholic than the Pontiff.

The patronising way you are sounding makes it look like if people in home give a hoot whether you guys are picking gold billets in the streets of foreign lands or not.


Some of you guys really need to realise that trying to sound sophisticated and aloof because you happen to be out of the country does not cohere at all.

No Igboman waits for another man's bread but how do you reconcile the fact that a man would only be relevant in a foreign land while his homestead suffers abject negligence.

If companies can incorporate corporate social responsibility into their business philosophies, how much more a son of the soil who merely sojourned to a foreign land?


It goes beyond a long, drawn-out argument. I know what I am talking about.

What shall it profit a sojourner to enjoy all the comforts and coziness of a foreign land only to be deemed a misfit by his roots?

Aku fecha na-elu, emesia ukwu eruo ya ala...

maestroferddi: Leave that thing.

We Igbos have this annoying way of sounding more catholic than the Pontiff.

The patronising way you are sounding makes it look like if people in home give a hoot whether you guys are picking gold billets in the streets of foreign lands or not.


Some of you guys really need to realise that trying to sound sophisticated and aloof because you happen to be out of the country does not cohere at all.

No Igboman waits for another man's bread but how do you reconcile the fact that a man would only be relevant in a foreign land while his homestead suffers abject negligence.

If companies can incorporate corporate social responsibility into their business philosophies, how much more a son of the soil who merely sojourned to a foreign land?


It goes beyond a long, drawn-out argument. I know what I am talking about.

What shall it profit a sojourner to enjoy all the comforts and coziness of a foreign land only to be deemed a misfit by his roots?

Aku fecha na-elu, emesia ukwu eruo ya ala...

OdenigboAroli:

Real talk,dear.
Have somebody ever told you they helped you get abroad with their prayers and now everything you worked for should be shared with them. Africans are very lazy and entitled.

1stola:
If you had shut your hoe up, nobody would have known that you're a cretin!!!

GodMode: cococandy, babyosisi and OdenigboAroli... are selfish beings that's why Africa is not moving forward...

you've no idea how generous I am


If u want to help then help cos no one is forcing u to help... But your family and kids come first the wife is just a passenger that's why she also needs to work but most women always want a rich guy....

I'm pretty sure you're talking out of your behind. Where did I say 'don't help?' And what does that line about wife being a passenger mean? And how is it related to the topic? Except you're saying caring for a wife isn't supposed to be a man priority. Read my post again. Wives and husbands should be each others priority'

The whites help themselves no matter the situation.. They don't care if you're a relative or not.

it is called help. Meaning it is obligatory. My comment was against seeing people's help as one's right instead of a priviledge that shouldn't be expected.

The moment people start taking your help as an obligation you can tell them they are not your responsibility you are just doing it out of goodwill

nwokem idi confused. How's this different from what I've been saying? Una go just dey dey quote person meaninglessly.I said before. Extended family isn't anyone's responsibility. If you help,GOOD. Very GOOD and BEAUTIFUL(pls note that in case you're blind.it was in my earlier post)
But if you don't, it shouldn't make you a bad person.
.

maestroferddi: Sorry, I don't waste my gunpowder on low IQ people.

EASTVIEW: I don't know why you choose not to get the point. The congress is more or less for those Igbos in the diaspora, it is not for home based, though few home based joined them at the meeting. Maybe to update them on the status of development at home.

babyosisi:

Lol
I remember my relatives coming to ask my parents for money to get their wife and new baby out from the maternity ward at discharge
Imagine that
A man enjoys his wife finish and they have a baby and it becomes another's responsibility and it never ends
You will still buy similac o
Pay school fees
Find them admission to the university
The day the child marries,you are expected to sponsor the wedding kwa

This is why our nigerian and Igbo men die young
The burden they are expected to bear is too much
If you show any sign of success,everybody will expect you to carry their burdens plus yours until you stroke out
You are in your parlor and kpo kpo kpo,a relative arrives from the village with his children unannounced
One problem or another

That is why World Igbo Congress is holding a meeting in Houston and people are worried about where they are holding it and why they should hold it and how they should carry the weight of NdiIgbo and Nigeria on their heads.
Nonsense!
Even if they gather just to eat ugba and Nkwobi and dance to Igbo highlife tunes,they are free to do so,it is their money.they are not obligated to share it with anyone if they choose not to

The first time my father came to America to visit me he said he could not believe he could wake up from day to day and not a single complaint from anyone or requests to do this or that or solve one problem or another.

cococandy:
I'm pretty sure you're talking out of your
behind. Where did I say 'don't help?' And
what does that line about wife being a
passenger mean? And how is it related to the
topic? Except you're saying caring for a wife
isn't supposed to be a man priority. Read my
post again. Wives and husbands should be
each others priority'

it is called help. Meaning it is obligatory. My
comment was against seeing people's help as
one's right instead of a priviledge that
shouldn't be expected.

nwokem idi confused. How's this different
from what I've been saying? Una go just dey
dey quote person meaninglessly.I said
before. Extended family isn't anyone's
responsibility. If you help,GOOD. Very GOOD
and BEAUTIFUL(pls note that in case you're
blind.it was in my earlier post)
But if you don't, it shouldn't make you a bad
person.
.

maestroferddi: You and your illogical posts.

Africans are lazy bla bla... Guess you are now from Mars just because you happen to be probably out of the country.

We are talking of empowerment and you are feteing yourself with self-importance.


Maybe you have not heard that success is nothing without touching lives. That there occurs a time when the trust and devotion you repose solely in your immediate family would come back to haunt you.

At that time you would understand the practicality of the Igbo aphorism that: ozu siwe isi, enyi ka nwanne alaa. Take it or leave it, but I know that one's extended family always matter at critical times.

Have we not seen some sojourners whose very children could not even honour their burial when they die and are brought back to their despised ancestral homes?

cococandy: I live in Nigeria.

So one can't say the truth because they live abroad without sounding patronizing?
Now that I live Nigeria what say you?

GodMode:

Nope, the children should be the priority.the kids aren't your responsibility alone. You and your wife share that responsibility. So both of you as well as your kids come first with each.
Read my first post again. I wonder why you're repeating my points and making it look like I'm saying something else.
You need to rest your eyes so you can read better.



An obligation is a course of action that someone is required to take, whether legal or moral.
Help is not an obligation

good. So since help isn't an obligation,no one is obliged to help unless they want to. What's the matter with you?
Is that different from what I said?



When u begin to curse during a constructive debate it means u have points.

Says the guy who mentioned me to say that I'm selfish and I'm holding Africa's development under my chair. I just pointed out your confusion ( as I have just done again in this post) and I'm the one cussing?
Constructive indeed. Repeating my points and calling it constructive debate
Abeg swerve!!

buchilino:

as an igboman i beg to disagreed with u, but its a free world. even if u despise the entity called Nigeria (And why should they return to the cesspit called Nigeria) are u telling there r no safe place in igboland to organize the event?. i personally find insulting. are u telling places like nusska, awka (where peter obi was governor for years), orlu, mbano, mbaise etc are not safe. agree or disagree with it no positive change can take place in peoples lives unless such people dont partake in event. i can suggest a venue, anyamelu, a place where its population dont no dat internet exists. just a suggestion