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Re: Five Reasons Why Guys Should Quit Complaining About Being Friendzoned by micynute94(m): 11:20am On Dec 02, 2014 |
MzNelly: I love your honesty, if ladies can be more open and be sincere.. life would have been easy for men. I think this playing hard to get thing causes more damage than good looking at it from the guy perspective. Though some guys might disagree with me. I see no reason why a lady simply can't say Yes or No without society terming that cheap.. Like seriously, my current gf told me Yes the first time i asked r and i can say statistically ** roll eyes** that i haven't love someone so fierce d way i love her. I thinking this playing hard to get thing is highly over rated and considering this generation, it does more harm than good to the guy.. Funny enough, it's we guys that call the quick to say YES cheap. Guess we are being paid back in our coins... Relationship is truly a murky business..... ** smiles ** |
Re: Five Reasons Why Guys Should Quit Complaining About Being Friendzoned by Nobody: 11:20am On Dec 02, 2014 |
UjSizzle: Thats full blown homo right there. |
Re: Five Reasons Why Guys Should Quit Complaining About Being Friendzoned by seangy4konji: 11:21am On Dec 02, 2014 |
Olonshos don't friend zone. Always make your intentions know after 10 mins. You gree or you know gree? Time is precious to be wasting it thinking about who friend zoned who. |
Re: Five Reasons Why Guys Should Quit Complaining About Being Friendzoned by UjSizzle(f): 11:21am On Dec 02, 2014 |
phabulous88: Sophyrocks:Let this one worry about that 1 Like |
Re: Five Reasons Why Guys Should Quit Complaining About Being Friendzoned by micynute94(m): 11:22am On Dec 02, 2014 |
Sophyrocks: A nice solution ma'am |
Re: Five Reasons Why Guys Should Quit Complaining About Being Friendzoned by ihedinobi2: 11:24am On Dec 02, 2014 |
micynute94:God bless you too, bro. UjSizzle does have a point. Romance is pretty messy. My reason for saying that may be a littlw different though. I used to always play it by ear. I believed that life was better off uncomplicated so I was always honest about everything. Nairaland started to advise me that that was a very silly way to live sha and that it doesn't pay. That's why things went so hard for me when I fell in love the last time. I think people should just quit looking for strategies and advantages and simply go after people they want to share their lives with. If I really thought a girl was IT for me in the past, ha, I never let up o. The only time I'd ask a girl out and accept rejection back then was when I was messing around or just trying out some new thing. When I was being serious I went at it like I had nothing else to do and I always got my girl. My only regret is that it happened more than once. I hadn't meant to go into more than one serious relationship. Like I said, these girls were always friends or acquaintances so it makes sense that it worked. We already had a connection and were already comfortable with each other. And sex was not on the cards. I think people should stop jumping one another's bones. You want to be with someone, get to know them first and decide just where and how you fit. It's the whole "sexualizing" thing that makes relationships so hard now. Meet the person first before you start noticing the bum, legs, böobs, hair, muscles, shoulders, height and whatnot. When you've connected in the depths, sex is easy and incredible. That's why it was always reserved for marriage. You can tell from relating with someone over time if you two want to take that step. It happens organically. And it is always amazing. Time though does not have to be months and months and years and years. It depends on the depth of interaction. You can have deep dealings with someone in one month that makes them as close to you as years of evolving friendship would have made you. The point is that once you connect in a certain way, romantic love just follows suit. That's how I always experienced it. And the last time was no different. It just happened that Nairaland taught me to fear. And, well, it could do that because I had a major self-doubt at the time. Basically, just relax. Have fun. Free up yourself. Be a gentleman. Smile easily. Don't bottle up your feelings and become a jerk. Let the flighty ones go. Don't attach yourself until someone insists on catching your eye. And when they do and you know they are good medicine, by all means jump in with both feet. Reserve nothing. That's what I would advise young men like me. It always worked before. 1 Like |
Re: Five Reasons Why Guys Should Quit Complaining About Being Friendzoned by jahstech: 11:25am On Dec 02, 2014 |
From all I have read so far I think is now clear and that nice guy issue should be revisited and painted more clearly so the connotative meaning can be dropped. What works for girl A mostly doesn't work on girl B, so am calling for the rebranding of the term : "girls don't like nice guys" since all girls are not hard wired the same way. |
Re: Five Reasons Why Guys Should Quit Complaining About Being Friendzoned by UjSizzle(f): 11:26am On Dec 02, 2014 |
micynute94:Counteractions dear. You find most of these are simply reactions to an earlier action. If men enjoy the chase, then a woman who takes that away becomes an easy meat. I feel a lot of men want the chase so much they lose sight of what the prize really is. Ic you want her, then whether she says yes now or in three days shouldn't change the way you feel. But nah, people have had to make strange interpretation of things that everyone has their hackles raised. I wonder if it's possible to fix this. 2 Likes |
Re: Five Reasons Why Guys Should Quit Complaining About Being Friendzoned by ihedinobi2: 11:28am On Dec 02, 2014 |
UjSizzle:Oh c'mon! How can you be Bible-thumping and disrespectful? Or sin-fearing and inattentive? What kind of confused person is that? |
Re: Five Reasons Why Guys Should Quit Complaining About Being Friendzoned by UjSizzle(f): 11:30am On Dec 02, 2014 |
ihedinobi2:Since when did sin-fearing make one attentive biko? I think you're the one confused now. 1 Like |
Re: Five Reasons Why Guys Should Quit Complaining About Being Friendzoned by Nobody: 11:30am On Dec 02, 2014 |
micynute94: Thanks. |
Re: Five Reasons Why Guys Should Quit Complaining About Being Friendzoned by Nobody: 11:31am On Dec 02, 2014 |
UjSizzle:Don't insult my hibernated vestigial impudence! You're one of those ladies who stall and stall, yea? Whatever rocks your boat tho. |
Re: Five Reasons Why Guys Should Quit Complaining About Being Friendzoned by ihedinobi2: 11:34am On Dec 02, 2014 |
UjSizzle:Come! Don't you know that it is the fear of sin that makes you attentive, ehn? All these spiritually illiterate people sef. Smh. |
Re: Five Reasons Why Guys Should Quit Complaining About Being Friendzoned by UjSizzle(f): 11:34am On Dec 02, 2014 |
MzNelly:Lol I don't stall. If I like you I tell you so, and ask for time. Yes I am cynical and yes I like to be 150% sure about a person's intention and quirky habits I have to deal with. If I don't like you, then you get an outright No that never changes. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Five Reasons Why Guys Should Quit Complaining About Being Friendzoned by UjSizzle(f): 11:35am On Dec 02, 2014 |
ihedinobi2:You spiritual literate might want to explain the relationship to us illiterate ones. 1 Like |
Re: Five Reasons Why Guys Should Quit Complaining About Being Friendzoned by ihedinobi2: 11:38am On Dec 02, 2014 |
UjSizzle: It is a sin to not be attentive to a woman you love. Grave sin. And sin attracts the wrath of God. Fear the wrath of God. Fear sin. And thus be attentive. Shikena! |
Re: Five Reasons Why Guys Should Quit Complaining About Being Friendzoned by UjSizzle(f): 11:40am On Dec 02, 2014 |
ihedinobi2:*rolls eyes* uh huh 1 Like |
Re: Five Reasons Why Guys Should Quit Complaining About Being Friendzoned by laykhorn(m): 11:42am On Dec 02, 2014 |
Mynd44: yes! I sell in bulk and deliver to your doorstep. Call Mynd44, my Delivery Agent... He would deliver to ur doorstep with his rickety motorcycle |
Re: Five Reasons Why Guys Should Quit Complaining About Being Friendzoned by phabulous88(m): 11:43am On Dec 02, 2014 |
UjSizzle: Nne me I like you, oya talk your own Do you wonna think about it and get back to me? Don't spend forever thinking o, unless you're on your own. No time for #FriendZoning |
Re: Five Reasons Why Guys Should Quit Complaining About Being Friendzoned by ihedinobi2: 11:43am On Dec 02, 2014 |
UjSizzle:Hair-flipping, eye-rolling females... |
Re: Five Reasons Why Guys Should Quit Complaining About Being Friendzoned by UjSizzle(f): 11:45am On Dec 02, 2014 |
phabulous88:I like you too *flutters lashes* Oya buy me #5000 Richard card for starters. Tomorrow i will send you my account number for your credit alert and when we're done you'll get my answer The ball is now in your court 2 Likes |
Re: Five Reasons Why Guys Should Quit Complaining About Being Friendzoned by UjSizzle(f): 11:46am On Dec 02, 2014 |
ihedinobi2:Drama queens, honey 1 Like |
Re: Five Reasons Why Guys Should Quit Complaining About Being Friendzoned by ihedinobi2: 11:48am On Dec 02, 2014 |
UjSizzle:What Nollywood is missing |
Re: Five Reasons Why Guys Should Quit Complaining About Being Friendzoned by jahstech: 11:51am On Dec 02, 2014 |
Re: Five Reasons Why Guys Should Quit Complaining About Being Friendzoned by Lovexme(m): 11:53am On Dec 02, 2014 |
drlawizle: You can only be friendzoned if you allow it. Want to know what's sexy? Being yourself is |
Re: Five Reasons Why Guys Should Quit Complaining About Being Friendzoned by UjSizzle(f): 11:53am On Dec 02, 2014 |
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Re: Five Reasons Why Guys Should Quit Complaining About Being Friendzoned by jahstech: 11:53am On Dec 02, 2014 |
Re: Five Reasons Why Guys Should Quit Complaining About Being Friendzoned by phabulous88(m): 12:20pm On Dec 02, 2014 |
UjSizzle: No wahala. Just PM me your account number, your mobile number and your house number. In short, send me all your numbers! I’m waiting... |
Re: Five Reasons Why Guys Should Quit Complaining About Being Friendzoned by Nobody: 2:27pm On Dec 02, 2014 |
Lovexme: Most ppls self is the shy,complex,timid &boring self...being this kind of self will only leave you all by yourself... You need to work on that self and not just leave it that way...only ignorant or lazy assss men leave themselves to rot...real men realize dr problem & find ways to solve it... |
Re: Five Reasons Why Guys Should Quit Complaining About Being Friendzoned by LuckyLadolce(m): 2:34pm On Dec 02, 2014 |
Lovexme:I tell u. That's jst a simple definition of what a man is. |
Re: Five Reasons Why Guys Should Quit Complaining About Being Friendzoned by Lovexme(m): 3:18pm On Dec 02, 2014 |
drlawizle: You mustn't 'change' yourself just to suit someone's needs. Love is not selfish. Only change if it's a bad representation of yourself. |
Re: Five Reasons Why Guys Should Quit Complaining About Being Friendzoned by simdam500(m): 3:34pm On Dec 02, 2014 |
who cares been friend zone?? do guys still complain of been friend zoned? wahala wa o all I want is more cash |
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