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Re: On Why The “Beautiful” Ones Are Still Single… by MizMyColi(f): 5:06pm On Sep 10, 2014 |
shoefreak: Nope. She is 'badder' than me. and she doesn't do alternate monikers. ehn?! What I do o o I get scared when any of my boss ladies sound that way @TheEmboldened 2 Likes |
Re: On Why The “Beautiful” Ones Are Still Single… by mukhcech(m): 5:16pm On Sep 10, 2014 |
Kachisbarbie: Being married and with Kids doesnt mean you are happy. Does it? There are many loveless marriages nowadays even in ones where love was once its bedrock. The reason for this? The true essence of Marriage is lost. |
Re: On Why The “Beautiful” Ones Are Still Single… by kalufelix(m): 5:16pm On Sep 10, 2014 |
Evolution and advancement of knowledge has taken mankind very far... Lets not put pressure on ourselves because of these societal beliefs and expectations... Be sure you know what you want and stick to what makes you happy because in REALITY this same society doesnt care about YOU... #generationgonecrazy# |
Re: On Why The “Beautiful” Ones Are Still Single… by MizMyColi(f): 5:40pm On Sep 10, 2014 |
@Ihedinobi2, as it pertains marriage, @ different phases, we almost always feel we know what we need to, when in reality, we really don't. |
Re: On Why The “Beautiful” Ones Are Still Single… by Nobody: 5:59pm On Sep 10, 2014 |
mukhcech:Then that one would be your business dear, the topic isn't about being married and happy, is it? This is topic for another day. If all you guys envisage are loveless marriages, sorry to disappoint you, mine isn't one of them. Thank you 1 Like |
Re: On Why The “Beautiful” Ones Are Still Single… by Misogynist2014(m): 6:00pm On Sep 10, 2014 |
DrGill:He married your sister |
Re: On Why The “Beautiful” Ones Are Still Single… by mukhcech(m): 6:02pm On Sep 10, 2014 |
Kachisbarbie: You are utmost welcome. Happy for your marriage. All the very best till the end. |
Re: On Why The “Beautiful” Ones Are Still Single… by mukhcech(m): 6:09pm On Sep 10, 2014 |
MizMyColi: @Ihedinobi2, as it pertains marriage, @ different pahses, we almost always feel we know what we need to, when in reality, we really don't. I blv this point should not be taken in context with your Original argument which I understood in all sincererity and purpose. |
Re: On Why The “Beautiful” Ones Are Still Single… by MizMyColi(f): 6:16pm On Sep 10, 2014 |
mukhcech:No, it shouldn't. It had more to do with something he said. |
Re: On Why The “Beautiful” Ones Are Still Single… by IdJack(m): 6:36pm On Sep 10, 2014 |
Truth be told...a lot of beautiful ladies not only single, but lonely, I am talking from experience, becos Ive been opportuned to chat with them on daily basic since my kind of business require being online 24/7. When i was in Nigeria, I met a pretty young gal in a fast food house that I went to have my lunch; at the end of the day we exchanges phone numbers. I did not call her for like 3 days, she started calling me even in the night...i was surprise until i told her I dont receive calls in the night, that i prefer chatting. We starting chating till she invited me to her house...the end of history. Now why I'm i saying this, a lot of them their beauty intimidate some guys from approaching them and its posses problem for them. Also some of them take too much pride in their beauty; and forget the main thing which is character and good manners. The earlier they keep their beauty down the better for them to get settle down. That was what my gal frend wanted to do, (using her beauty to intimidate me) until she saw my facebook chat with beautiful ladies and she humble herself, becos she saw ladies of high class begging for chating, pingin and dating. So ladies relax...sometimes your beauty will not take you anywhere near altar, exception of bedroom. 3 Likes |
Re: On Why The “Beautiful” Ones Are Still Single… by ihedinobi2: 7:00pm On Sep 10, 2014 |
MizMyColi:You don't like remembering yourself? Of course I'm serious. I don't play around with serious issues. MizMyColi: I haven't really made it a focus to think on how people get hitched.I see you are employed. So you probably are pursuing a career. Do you expect your career to just happen to you? If your career takes deliberate choices and input from you, how much more marriage? MizMyColi: Going by my story, and like many single ladies out there, I made evident mistakes which I tried to address rather subtly in the original post.About desperation, sure, a desperation to get married is unhealthy but not because it drives prospective love interests away but because it sets the judgment of the desperate one askew. It makes desperate people vulnerable to very bad choices. As for the love interests themselves, I don't know anybody who doesn't want someone they're crazy about to be just as crazy about them. People run from affection only when they know they have to return it and they don't want to. That is the general problem. MizMyColi: Honestly, I don't believe in "parameters" so to speak, they are good, yes.To begin with, how can you not care about what someone you will have to combine your life with is like? The parameters I spoke of are the qualities you should be looking out for. It's both character and personality. A man may be a good person but his particular makeup and purpose in life would be incompatible with yours. And the Book of Wisdom says that two cannot walk together or co-operate if they do not agree in quality. Or consider how Jesus put it, you cannot mix different things. If you use a type of cloth to parch up another, you may cause a worse problem by doing so. So why would parameters not matter to you? Secondly, is there some place in the Scriptures that tells you to depend on this type of knowledge you speak of? Does God offer it to us as our way of telling who to join forces with to accomplish the purposes that He has committed to us? Or does He say that we should take responsibility, learn from His Word what His goals for marriage are and thus learn what we are to look out for in our prospective partners so that we can achieve those goals? Third, character and personality do not just disappear. People can pretend about who they are, yes. But this is where Christians are supposed to have the advantage. We look beyond what people say to what they do. A man who talks about respecting you and pulling out chairs and opening doors for you and actually does all that but frightens pedestrians with his reckless driving refusing to stop at zebra crossings, does not accommodate the weak around him, is lying brazenly to you. He will treat you in the same manner when he loses that glaze in his eyes. Finally, "is he someone I can love still?" is a very tragic question to see from people thinking about a life committed to another human being. As far as love goes, you will have more than enough cause in a long life with somebody else not to love them. But love is how we carry people past their lows. The only condition attached to love is this: thou shalt let me love thee or I shall not. Apart from that, there is nothing. You commit to going through hell and high water with someone if need be because you see something you believe in. Or else you stay out of it. Love is not about what's convenient for you. MizMyColi: I purposely consider it out of my control because I gave that rein of my life to someone who is beyond me, who I consider Alpha, Omega.A good prayer indeed. But what God does in answer to that is to hand you back the reins and then teach you how to wield them. Believe me, sis, God never wanted nor does He now want robots. He insists that His children be mature and able to take responsibility so He gave us His Spirit and one another to learn how the system works so that we can take charge of it and make it go and create even more amazing things. |
Re: On Why The “Beautiful” Ones Are Still Single… by ihedinobi2: 7:03pm On Sep 10, 2014 |
MizMyColi: @Ihedinobi2, as it pertains marriage, @ different phases, we almost always feel we know what we need to, when in reality, we really don't.Let me assure you of one thing. We do not know everything. But at each point in our lives, God provides teachers to teach us what we need to know to take on the next phase. I am confident that I know what marriage is about and what I should look for in a prospective spouse. I learned that from all the mistakes I made and experiences I had when I studied them under the light of the Bible. |
Re: On Why The “Beautiful” Ones Are Still Single… by WoodcrestMayor(m): 7:18pm On Sep 10, 2014 |
I agree bro.I just put dat cos wetin dem dey always talk na say we dey dark age for naija and quite a numba of pple who say so are outside naija.Dem tink say na there life end.U need to visit dat ankle chain thread. hotwax: |
Re: On Why The “Beautiful” Ones Are Still Single… by mukhcech(m): 7:39pm On Sep 10, 2014 |
MizMyColi: No, it shouldn't. Owkay, Ma'm, I wud be glad if we can have an off topic discussion. If you don't mind, would you pls send me an empty message here on "sheidu(at)gmx(dot)com)" thank you. |
Re: On Why The “Beautiful” Ones Are Still Single… by Nobody: 7:58pm On Sep 10, 2014 |
Just my own way of saying 'engaged'. MizMyColi: Errrmmm |
Re: On Why The “Beautiful” Ones Are Still Single… by adexsimply(m): 9:12pm On Sep 10, 2014 |
ihedinobi2: @MizMyColi |
Re: On Why The “Beautiful” Ones Are Still Single… by adexsimply(m): 9:15pm On Sep 10, 2014 |
cococandy: The nastiest girls I ever met were the ugliest."Character flaws" and "nastiness" are two different things, although they are not mutually exclusive |
Re: On Why The “Beautiful” Ones Are Still Single… by shidof(m): 9:40pm On Sep 10, 2014 |
princessayesha: Matured post at lastAu sure abt dt dear |
Re: On Why The “Beautiful” Ones Are Still Single… by Nobody: 9:42pm On Sep 10, 2014 |
Sanchez01: I consider this a rebuttal to the one you read, unfortunately, I find the argument weak, a little too weak, I'd say. Your thread, though seem to serve as a bit of encouragement to females out there, still, it has failed to tackle the real issue.you stopped making sense at some point. And really, I'm tired of people like you excusing unforgivable acts under the guise that we are Africans, Nigerians and thus must take shi.t. |
Re: On Why The “Beautiful” Ones Are Still Single… by MizMyColi(f): 10:20pm On Sep 10, 2014 |
Dear Ihedinobi2, I couldn't fault anything in your posts, though there are some impressions, I'd wanted to correct. I typed a reply that I deemed fit, but I changed my mind. I've let out really personal stuffs in one day than all my (NL)days put together. You might have noticed a certain degree of aloofness in my previous reply to you, that's because, as it stands now, I have a fundamental misunderstanding of relationship reality and I would that I refrain from talking about it (personal ones) until, I gather my thoughts to a large extent. Thank you for your time. Of a truth, I've gleaned from you on this thread, consciously, subconsciously. Again, thank you. |
Re: On Why The “Beautiful” Ones Are Still Single… by ihedinobi2: 10:54pm On Sep 10, 2014 |
MizMyColi: Dear Ihedinobi2,Thank you too for engaging me. I am grateful for the opportunity. And I have gained a new sympathy for women too from being here. Whenever you gather your thoughts, I would be very pleased to hear them. |
Re: On Why The “Beautiful” Ones Are Still Single… by lefteyeball(m): 11:02pm On Sep 10, 2014 |
Shout out to fellow thread viewers.... Una too much! *Strictly here to read thread...No commenting* |
Re: On Why The “Beautiful” Ones Are Still Single… by rhymz(m): 11:05pm On Sep 10, 2014 |
While it is understandable that marriage should not be emphasized to a woman to the point stigmatisation, it will be folly for any woman to downplay its importance in the scheme of her being happy and fulfilled, Yes. This is true even for man. Seriously, I am yet to see a single person that likes being all by themselves, even the celibate priests in their solitude crave for companionship. In my own experience as a young man that has interacted with many ladies both educated and non-educated, it goes beyond beauty and accompanying character flaws. There is the issue of doing things with cultured moderation. That is where many times it seem like the really pretty ladies and very educated ladies seem to get it wrong and many men see it as arrogance and character flaws they can not Kiev with. I have noticed that it is easier for emotionally expressive, sincere and humble women to get married than the ones that are very educated, logically expressive and very proud women to get any man to take them seriously. To many men they are a piece of work they are not ready to do seriously. It is easier for an unexposed woman with just a little above school cert to get married than for a PhD wielding female professor to get married, this is true for women not just here in Africa but everywhere. The fact is this, a woman that knows too much of what she wants always end up being the beautiful well exposed single and lonely woman. No man wants a woman that will continue to be a challenge to him even in marriage. So the key here is moderation. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: On Why The “Beautiful” Ones Are Still Single… by verome: 11:16pm On Sep 10, 2014 |
If May ask, what is the beauty of a woman? |
Re: On Why The “Beautiful” Ones Are Still Single… by mukhcech(m): 6:58am On Sep 11, 2014 |
rhymz: While it is understandable that marriage should not be emphasized to a woman to the point stigmatisation, it will be folly for any woman to downplay its importance in the scheme of her being happy and fulfilled, Yes. This is true even for man. Seriously, I am yet to see a single person that likes being all by themselves, even the celibate priests in their solitude crave for companionship. |
Re: On Why The “Beautiful” Ones Are Still Single… by MizMyColi(f): 7:00am On Sep 11, 2014 |
Hi Ihedinobi2 Good Morning. Please, when you can, I would that you edit out the part of the story I shared with you, I think it's served its purpose already Thanks. |
Re: On Why The “Beautiful” Ones Are Still Single… by hotwax: 7:04am On Sep 11, 2014 |
IdJack: Truth be told...a lot of beautiful ladies not only single, but lonely, I am talking from experience, becos Ive been opportuned to chat with them on daily basic since my kind of business require being online 24/7. When i was in Nigeria, I met a pretty young gal in a fast food house that I went to have my lunch; at the end of the day we exchanges phone numbers. I did not call her for like 3 days, she started calling me even in the night...i was surprise until i told her I dont receive calls in the night, that i prefer chatting. We starting chating till she invited me to her house...the end of history. Now why I'm i saying this, a lot of them their beauty intimidate some guys from approaching them and its posses problem for them. Their beauty get into their head. At times when I walk to Law school/Idowu Tailor side of Victoria island in the night. I see very beautiful and clean babes standing at the road side for customers. If you look at them twice and if u r not a disciplined type, you would want to negotiate. When young beauties like this, can offer herself to just for 5,000 naira. Why do I have to run after pompous beautiful girls who will use me do Yanga and give me hard conditions before she can date me. It beats me. When a man see a beautiful woman, what comes to his mind is, how is she gonna be on bed. They wont think "How is she gonna be as wife". The mentality sucksss 1 Like |
Re: On Why The “Beautiful” Ones Are Still Single… by MizMyColi(f): 7:04am On Sep 11, 2014 |
10000000+ likes rhymz: While it is understandable that marriage should not be emphasized to a woman to the point stigmatisation, it will be folly for any woman to downplay its importance in the scheme of her being happy and fulfilled, Yes. This is true even for man. Seriously, I am yet to see a single person that likes being all by themselves, even the celibate priests in their solitude crave for companionship. |
Re: On Why The “Beautiful” Ones Are Still Single… by rhymz(m): 7:27am On Sep 11, 2014 |
Kachisbarbie:Your answer is very succinct and apt. Nothing is as stvpid a reply as a somebody trying to justify being single in the hope that those who are already married probably are not happy in their marriage, like they wish you are not happy so you can go back to being single like them. A Lot of black women like to hide under the guise of being strong and black like that really means anything outside of fighting off loneliness and the lack of presence of a male figure to help them raise the kids. If it did not mean anything to many of them that claim all sorts of happiness, why then do they use the term Strong Black Women....that in itself is ironical. Many women these days just want already made men, they don't have time for a man whose time has not come regardless of his future prospects. The irony of this state of mind is that many of these same women are not made women either, and most made men want made women like them as well. They too have become wiser in the game. I know a lot of guyz that suffered rejection from women they truly loved when they were just starting out, many of these guy today are made and have become players that are on a kind of revenge mission. Many of them end up marrying women who are just average looking, this of course is after they have sampled all the so-called pretty ladies out there. 3 Likes |
Re: On Why The “Beautiful” Ones Are Still Single… by ihedinobi2: 7:45am On Sep 11, 2014 |
MizMyColi:Hi. Good morning to you too. Sure. |
Re: On Why The “Beautiful” Ones Are Still Single… by pickabeau1: 7:49am On Sep 11, 2014 |
rhymz: While it is understandable that marriage should not be emphasized to a woman to the point stigmatisation, it will be folly for any woman to downplay its importance in the scheme of her being happy and fulfilled, Yes. This is true even for man. Seriously, I am yet to see a single person that likes being all by themselves, even the celibate priests in their solitude crave for companionship. Dude why are u being diplomatic at the bolded Use the word...... submissive |
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