MizMyColi:


I spoke in very clear terms.

Articul8: you'v bin trying so hard 2 b irresponsible. Leave those ones who deem it ryt 2 try commitment. I knw ur tots even b4 reading ur comments. U av multiple standard. U always wnt 2 b ryt. I wsh u d best

Arcasie:
I'll make sure I ask her at work tmrw

Toks2008: @OP,yes she is still cheating and that can lead to a break in her real affair.

My marriage got destroyed as a result of emotional cheating.

My ex got to know one guy who she said she was matchmaking wth her friend but gradually got carried away and the guy will chat wth her for long on other issues to the extent that he strted shown interest in her.

He would call her on phone for long period dat when i call her,the one wll be engaged.

I sat her down to dscuss it wth her statn emphatcally dat im not against her havn friends male or female but should maintain proper decorum and again i dont like the fact that this guy cals her by the maiden name but shld addrrss her as Mrs,afterall he knew her aftr she got marid. But just like every lady willsay "HE IS JUST A FRIEND" And guys should watch it whenever their ladies use these words.

To cut the long story short one day,i entered her shop after calin her for mnutes n her phone was engaged and wen she saw me enter,she terminated the call and that nyt for the frst time i decided to check her phone and i realised dat this guy have ben expressn desire for her but rather than put a stop she was enjoying the whole thing and even asked tbe guy to read about her zodiac while in actual sense she ought to tell the guy to read about her friend.

Why im wrting all these sermon is to pkint out the ease of gettn involved in an emotional affair expcially bythe ladies and bfore they say jack,they become attached.

I cald her to xplain the crazy chat and she jst waved it aside and i smashed the android phone and after rhat the marriage began crumbling until it finally broke up wen i dscovered even a worse one on a facebk chat of hers accidentally where a guy wrote that he called her to make him cum

This is a tragic case of emotional infidelity because all she always say is they are juat friends and i kept wondering why she always get herself nvolved with dirty minded irresponsible low lifea as friends.

If u are a lady in a commited affair please avoid getting close to any male other than ur man to avoid emotional infidelity cos that will destroy your affair big time and most times the guy u got so attached with may not be into you as you are made to believe.

Watch it

Babymama1:

The second guy is obviously more attractive to her
What is she still doing with the boyfriend?
She is not married,so what is stopping her ,she can leave him and face the more desirable bobo
What is the use having a boyfriend when your heart belongs to someone else
Just switch over and tell the old boyfriend that you are done.such is life
No need living a lie,it will backfire when it comes out for it surely will
She is a single lady and this is the time to go with her heart

Aystormz:


Dayuuum...marriage palaver sha!

kunlesehan: Having a female as a best friend is like having a chicken as a pet,...you will eat it some day.
lol

frankels: Hoes ain't loyal..

kunlesehan: Having a female as a best friend is like having a chicken as a pet,...you will eat it some day.
lol

Toks2008: You can be together and grow old together if both of you are willing to work it out.

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love.

People in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.” Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there, doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they call at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens) and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment just to start that same circle all again and later realize the former partner was way better than the present one and then some people opt out once more to start that same circle all over with another new person and at this point the world starts looking at you as a clueless no good person who can never be happy with anyone.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person, it’s learning to love the person you found.

Did you read that last paragraph?please get this once more;

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person, it’s learning to love the person you found.

Loving someone is not by accident,its not a feeling,its a conscious decision by the people involved to be together and weather the storms together and not looking for an easy way out. The storms of lack,incompatibility childlessness, family scuffle,infidelity,bitterness,and many more.

Until both of you are willing to make it work,only then will GOD come in to make it happen. Because two people can never work together except they agree.

Arcasie: A friend told me about a situation she is going through and that got me thinking about this emotional cheating thing.

she has a boyfriend but shares a deep connection with another guy. their relationship is not sexual or anything but she just enjoys how interesting, witty, and understanding the guy is when they talk or chat and she tells him everything that she is going through. Its gotten so bad he's the 1st person she thinks of calling when she wakes up and her boyfriend doesn't even know about him. I tell her to keep her distance from the guy cuz she may get involved and she says its just a really great friendship and nothing more because she is not attracted sexually.

is she still cheating if she is not sleeping with the guy?

Articul8: I stpd getting scared long ago. We ever wnts to stay stays and if u wnt to go, go! Pls read in btw d lines. Am nt saying efforts shlldnt b made in making her stay bt if its nt working,bros dnt giv urslf hypertension. Stay fine!

Waspy: Lovely thread....its been a while we had such a nice thread. Shoutout to the Op for sharing HER experience, a big shoutout to Toks2008 for the posts

femi4: What give you the impression that the bf is not faithful or does not bring anythin to the table.

The fact that she is getting worried about the level of closeness with the new guy shows that she still know the worth of her bf.

Nmeri17:


Who made this great quote bro?? Shakespeare?? Aristotle??

MizMyColi:



I take it you're referring to the quoted statement?
Nothing gives me the impression, because she hasn't expressly said so.

I spoke in general terms.
You'd agree with me that there are scenarios where a lady takes shhiii from her man even when it's evident that she's the one doing her utmost to keep the relationship alive.
She even goes as far as saying "Oko mi" "My Husband"

She's so psycho-morphologically attached to him that everything he does is right and she has to always be in the wrong.
Yes, there are women like that out there.

Your second statement is also an angle I considered in my post.
Orrrrr it could be that she's getting fed up, but just doesn't want the stigma of being the one who actually started making things fall apart in their relationship, hence the desire to stay and let nature do its thing. (maybe)

I once met someone who had better punchlines than my guy.
I really enjoyed the convo.
When he asked me if I was dating, I said yes and he is crazy about me.

I said so, not because I wanted him off my back, but because it was how I felt.
Even if my guy didn't have all those punchlines and sweet nothings girls like hearing.
I knew he loved me.
I was determined to stay with Him, until proven otherwise.
So, I had to cut off talks with the other one, even when it seemed he was a better choice. (Things are not always the way they seem)

What I did in that post was consider different scenarios/angles and then dropped a quote which I felt would serve as a guide for her.


@Morndew.......I've done a bit of explanation here.

Ceasar1: I really don't know if this is cheating or not.

But one thing I do know for sure is she's emotionally hooking up with the wrong guy and she needs to stop.

maestroferddi: Wrong guy?

You are on your own o. Somebody is developing a very strong attachment and you are calling him a wrong guy.

Maybe you will get a telegraph on the day the lady will be taken...