Crystalsemerald: forgive me if i sound a little bit orthodox but how come most females believe guys are in this world to, you know Bleep ? Or whatever that is called these days.

I don't understand what you wrote ooo

Why are you people bashing me like this? Ɣ☺u dnt seem to get me, God knows I love him and m not with him because of money. I am not this typical nigerian girl with the mentality that the guy should act as the father.
I just want the best for him. Money is important in a relationship even if the girl isn't demanding for it. I have never for once collected money frm him to buy materialistic thing. I pray for his sucess every morning cos I believe in him and I love him very much. He is nice in his own way.

prettythicksme: cheap how enumerate?

So you hve se.x with your BF so that he can take care of your needs? Or take care of what he is fucking as u put it

Any lady that waits for a guy to take care of her needs is Lazy and Cheap.

#work for your money

prettythicksme: don't mind him he thinks am a lil girl he can't just talk to anyhow.

Oya no too vex again. *pats her on d back*

QuiverBox:

So you hve se.x with your BF so that he can take care of your needs? Or take care of what he is fucking as u put it

Any lady that waits for a guy to take care of her needs is Lazy and Cheap.

#work for your money

so you are telling our man should not take care of us if they have the money or whateven though a lady is working a man should also give I can never go into a relationship whereby my husband will not give me money even though I have mine. what you saying is not right okay

faceURfront:

Oya no too vex again. *pats her on d back*

thanks **remove the hand for my back jorr abi baby

prettythicksme: thanks **remove the hand for my back jorr abi baby

prettythicksme: so you are telling our man should not take care of us if they have the money or whateven though a lady is working a man should also give I can never go into a relationship whereby my husband will not give me money even though I have mine. what you saying is not right okay

When you say Man are you referring to your Husband or your Boyfriend?

If you are referring to your Boyfriend, then let me ask, what Morally justification do you have to demand for him to take care of you , what ownership do u have over him? Is it a right for him to succumb to you demand? HELL NO. What ever he will do for you should be consider a privilege not a Right.

If you are referring to your Husband , then he as the Man of the House has a responsibility to take care of his Household , you his wife inclusive. Even the Bible says in 1 Timothy 5:8 "any man that does not take care of his Household is worst than an Infidel"

My dear if you mindset has been that of a Guy to take care of his Babe all the time, you have to change that mindset and learn to fend and take care of yourself with or without a man, But if you are Married , please support your Husband in fending for your Household.

Men don't like Liability.

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QuiverBox:

When you say Man are you referring to your Husband or your Boyfriend?

If you are referring to your Boyfriend, then let me ask, what Morally justification do you have to demand for him to take care of you , what ownership do u have over him? Is it a right for him to succumb to you demand? HELL NO. What ever he will do for you should be consider a privilege not a Right.

If you are referring to your Husband , then he as the Man of the House has a responsibility to take care of his Household , you his wife inclusive. Even the Bible says in 1 Timothy 5:8 "any man that does not take care of his Household is worst than an Infidel"

My dear if you mindset has been that of a Guy to take care of his Babe all the time, you have to change that mindset and learn to fend and take care of yourself with or without a man, But if you are Married , please support your Husband in fending for your Household.

Men don't like Liability.

and what of those men that take care of their wives real good and dont allow them to work is that a crime or what??

faceURfront:

faceURfront:

prettythicksme: at least the bleeper should try to take care of the bleeped

and d bleeped should try to take care of the bleeper. My point is both party should care of one another.

faceURfront:

Let d bleeped take care of d bleepee

na so o brother.

loswhite: and d bleeped should try to take care of the bleeper. My point is both party should care of one another.

good idea tho

prettythicksme: and what of those men that take care of their wives real good and dont allow them to work is that a crime or what??

That's their Choice not yours as a woman, as you said they don't allow them to work and they take care of them.

At 1st I didn't understand the op but later I did




Guys let's stop putting ourselves in permanent anger mode, this girl clearly what's the best for her man but like you and I, she wants the best for her and her unborn children.



And she's been with him for 3 years, I'm sure she must have had lots of chances to leave him for another guy

QuiverBox:

When you say Man are you referring to your Husband or your Boyfriend?

If you are referring to your Boyfriend, then let me ask, what Morally justification do you have to demand for him to take care of you , what ownership do u have over him? Is it a right for him to succumb to you demand? HELL NO. What ever he will do for you should be consider a privilege not a Right.

If you are referring to your Husband , then he as the Man of the House has a responsibility to take care of his Household , you his wife inclusive. Even the Bible says in 1 Timothy 5:8 "any man that does not take care of his Household is worst than an Infidel"

My dear if you mindset has been that of a Guy to take care of his Babe all the time, you have to change that mindset and learn to fend and take care of yourself with or without a man, But if you are Married , please support your Husband in fending for your Household.

Men don't like Liability.

nice write up



I'm impressed

Annnyberry: hhahahaha your so funny and so on point

My Sister, you don see am nah

OlamiB:
I am not. I do most of the spending and also giving him money for this career

so this kind of girls still exist.
Hmmmmm God bless u @op

OlamiB: Why are you people bashing me like this? Ɣ☺u dnt seem to get me, God knows I love him and m not with him because of money. I am not this typical nigerian girl with the mentality that the guy should act as the father.
I just want the best for him. Money is important in a relationship even if the girl isn't demanding for it. I have never for once collected money frm him to buy materialistic thing. I pray for his sucess every morning cos I believe in him and I love him very much. He is nice in his own way.

Well, u came here to complain, to tell us tins u cant tell him. And we all concluded dat u dont love him. If ur boyfriend read ur initial post, do you think he will believe dat u actually do love him, afta comparing him with odas and using ur friends' standard to judge him?

How can u pray for him every morning and still come hia to complain? Is it dat u dont have faith or u think God is too slow concerning his case?

U just need to take it easy cos complaining usually grows into complacency and eventually contempt.

loswhite: are your friends not enjoying the bleeping? Are your friends taking care of the thing dat does the bleeping? If no, y then do you expect the bleeper to take care of the bleeped

LMAO

QuiverBox:

When you say Man are you referring to your Husband or your Boyfriend?

If you are referring to your Boyfriend, then let me ask, what Morally justification do you have to demand for him to take care of you , what ownership do u have over him? Is it a right for him to succumb to you demand? HELL NO. What ever he will do for you should be consider a privilege not a Right.

If you are referring to your Husband , then he as the Man of the House has a responsibility to take care of his Household , you his wife inclusive. Even the Bible says in 1 Timothy 5:8 "any man that does not take care of his Household is worst than an Infidel"

My dear if you mindset has been that of a Guy to take care of his Babe all the time, you have to change that mindset and learn to fend and take care of yourself with or without a man, But if you are Married , please support your Husband in fending for your Household.

Men don't like Liability.

This is nicee

OlamiB:
Who is this one? That ur gf is dating Ɣ☺u for money doesn't mean every girl is like her ok? I have been with my bf for close to 3years now nd I haven't spent his 10k, if the relationship is based on money, I would have left even before the first 3months.

So what's d idea behind ur post and relating it to ur relationship with ur boyfriend. And btw is he aware that u put up dis trash here?

prettythicksme: I don't understand what you wrote ooo

you wouldn't....

Its he who wears the shoes that knows where it pinches...
if you are a lady and you're of the opinion that you shouldn't mind/depend on ur man's finances, welldone.
I can relate very well with the poster OlamiB. Even if you are a multi-billioniare duchess, there's this satisfaction as a woman if and only if you can boast TO YOUR SELF that at least, the lingerie youre wearing today was given to you by your partner.
So if a man is broke, if thats what it is, is not healthy for a relationship...

I call money a "hygiene factor" (from Herzeberg's motivation theory) in relationships, be it dating or marriage. If money is present, it doesn't mean the relationship wont crash, but if there's no money, that relationship will struggle to survive. Even a broke guy knows he's not happy; hes only hopeful that things will change pretty soon. And if he cant handle the effect of "brokage", several factors can creep in, even being unnecessarily possessive over the (only) girl who can tolerate his weak pockets even if she has hers.

Back in the days, my big uncle told us that its the poor boyfriends that yell at you, ask you questions like "where'r r u coming from"?, "Who's calling you?" "who gave you that money? etc, yet they be the ones to come to your room, open ur fridge and drink those exotic can drinks you stuffed in there, but u bear it all for love.

My dear poster, one deep suggestion is that as long as you see some harness-able potentials in him, let the love you have for him encourage you to support him get there--->the promised land.

For others, please dont bash yet until you've taken the challenge to date a broke guy while you are "hardworking" and "ok". I bet you wont even be able to buy yourself that lovely average wrtistwatch you've always craved when you know your guy hasnt even got a wristwatch. You cant even spend your own money openly near him cos youre just inviting palaver for yourself (Guys you know this very well).

Like i said, please only bash if you have survived, and STILL surviving in a relationship with a broke guy.

tx

loswhite: are your friends not enjoying the bleeping? Are your friends taking care of the thing dat does the bleeping? If no, y then do you expect the bleeper to take care of the bleeped

guy u well so?

[quote author=DiamonJ]girls are depending on guy, just a little [quote][/s] suport and gift ginger d relationship, like me my guy know what am what, but atleast when coming back from outside even if is groundnut buy for me ooooo, if u don't i'll start losting feeling for u, i'm a romantic person, even if u are getting d money from me atleast use 10 or 5 percent of it to make me feel like a women that i am[quote][s]

prettythicksme: and what of those men that take care of their wives real good and dont allow them to work is that a crime or what??

Yes,its a crime in d civilized world...if your dream is to be a sit at home wife in d 21st century,then u are not just 1 of those NFAs,you are also crude...a relic of a lost age

Just saying

3sha4lyf: Its he who wears the shoes that knows where it pinches...
if you are a lady and you're of the opinion that you shouldn't mind/depend on ur man's finances, welldone.
I can relate very well with the poster OlamiB. Even if you are a multi-billioniare duchess, there's this satisfaction as a woman if and only if you can boast TO YOUR SELF that at least, the lingerie youre wearing today was given to you by your partner.
So if a man is broke, if thats what it is, is not healthy for a relationship...

I call money a "hygiene factor" (from Herzeberg's motivation theory) in relationships, be it dating or marriage. If money is present, it doesn't mean the relationship wont crash, but if there's no money, that relationship will struggle to survive. Even a broke guy knows he's not happy; hes only hopeful that things will change pretty soon. And if he cant handle the effect of "brokage", several factors can creep in, even being unnecessarily possessive over the (only) girl who can tolerate his weak pockets even if she has hers.

Back in the days, my big uncle told us that its the poor boyfriends that yell at you, ask you questions like "where'r r u coming from"?, "Who's calling you?" "who gave you that money? etc, yet they be the ones to come to your room, open ur fridge and drink those exotic can drinks you stuffed in there, but u bear it all for love.

My dear poster, one deep suggestion is that as long as you see some harness-able potentials in him, let the love you have for him encourage you to support him get there--->the promised land.

For others, please dont bash yet until you've taken the challenge to date a broke guy while you are "hardworking" and "ok". I bet you wont even be able to buy yourself that lovely average wrtistwatch you've always craved when you know your guy hasnt even got a wristwatch. You cant even spend your own money openly near him cos youre just inviting palaver for yourself (Guys you know this very well).

Like i said, please only bash if you have survived, and STILL surviving in a relationship with a broke guy.

tx

Hmm! Madam, I totally agree with u. Broke guys hardly find love dis days, especially with the no-finance-no-romance philosophy in naija. He shd be grateful she stayed with him for 3yrs.

gede7744: op l like u. u are too factual.

but have u considered d fact that some ladies/women are created to be richer than their husbands/ (or in ur case bf)

if u are born to be richer than ur husband and u refuse to maximize ur potential all because u believed that men are born to be a sole provider u are cheating on urself and u will definitely be miserable


my advice- maximize ur potential. don't wait for any man to complete u. be a complete entity. any other jara is appreciated

shalom

You know one thing my friend....

You must have come from village...cause only peeps from my village talks the way you just did.


It is good having a sister like you.

Hope th OP hids to your advise.

ChiSun27:


You know one thing my friend....

You must have come from village...cause only peeps from my village talks the way you just did.


It is good having a sister like you.

Hope th OP hids to your advise.

is this a compliment or an insult?

3sha4lyf: Its he who wears the shoes that knows where it pinches...
if you are a lady and you're of the opinion that you shouldn't mind/depend on ur man's finances, welldone.
I can relate very well with the poster OlamiB. Even if you are a multi-billioniare duchess, there's this satisfaction as a woman if and only if you can boast TO YOUR SELF that at least, the lingerie youre wearing today was given to you by your partner.
So if a man is broke, if thats what it is, is not healthy for a relationship...

I call money a "hygiene factor" (from Herzeberg's motivation theory) in relationships, be it dating or marriage. If money is present, it doesn't mean the relationship wont crash, but if there's no money, that relationship will struggle to survive. Even a broke guy knows he's not happy; hes only hopeful that things will change pretty soon. And if he cant handle the effect of "brokage", several factors can creep in, even being unnecessarily possessive over the (only) girl who can tolerate his weak pockets even if she has hers.

Back in the days, my big uncle told us that its the poor boyfriends that yell at you, ask you questions like "where'r r u coming from"?, "Who's calling you?" "who gave you that money? etc, yet they be the ones to come to your room, open ur fridge and drink those exotic can drinks you stuffed in there, but u bear it all for love.

My dear poster, one deep suggestion is that as long as you see some harness-able potentials in him, let the love you have for him encourage you to support him get there--->the promised land.

For others, please dont bash yet until you've taken the challenge to date a broke guy while you are "hardworking" and "ok". I bet you wont even be able to buy yourself that lovely average wrtistwatch you've always craved when you know your guy hasnt even got a wristwatch. You cant even spend your own money openly near him cos youre just inviting palaver for yourself (Guys you know this very well).

Like i said, please only bash if you have survived, and STILL surviving in a relationship with a broke guy.

tx

Ɣ☺u seem to understand me. I am just pouring my heart out to feel light inside of me, posting this about my bf wasn't intentional