Truth they said is always bitter. You were wrong for breakin up with her just 'cause she told you the truth but it would have been better if u had told us her reason for tellin you bout the incident

op do u believe in GOD?If yes do u know our LORDS PRAYER?.Dt means if u forgive odas God will also forgive u.so forgive her first!it is nt easy but try.

stanconnect: Bro...u get mind oo! am sorry if this is getting @ u, if u are a christian, I would like u to reflect back to the scriptures on this word that Jesus spoke; let him that has no sin be the first to cast the stone' no one could respond to this question, if u are a good bible reader u should know what they did...or u want me to tell u? ok...they all walked away!

Do u know that her likes are rare? How many times have u committed such offense or even one worse than that and told on it? If I where u, I will kneel down apologize to her and also make her the mother of my unborn kids

Imagine if men where to be God, where would we all have been?

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MrTeymee: I wish you would just tell us the truth

Im glad she now has a chance to move on with mature man, who doesn't blow trivial things out of proportion. U had broken up, i don't see why you are being a baby about it. If it was when u guys were dating that would have been a whole different thing.

Now that she knows what an immature man is like, she will be able to know what a mature one is like.

Samyj247:

I am a psychologist. Do you know why she told you? It was because, while kissing the guy, she was caught by somebody that knows you, and was afraid that that person will tell you, and she decided to just tell you, not knowing that the person did not say anything. THINK AM the truth has already set you free. Or do you want your wife to be kissed always by your gate man when you are out for work?

I beg to partially dissent from ur point of view. We have conscience and our conscience judge us at times so it doesn't necessarily mean dat some confessed because they think dat others saw them doing that thing and will expose them come do confess because their conscience wants them to

It is a pity that yoou couldn't let it go. Am not blaming you, it is who you are. But that lady in question would have learnt one thing from you, never be honest with your partner. There is this saying, "hurt me with the truth, donot confort with a lie" but I guess with you, the opposite applies

Its a cruel world OP. You really need to start developing shock absorbers.

am short of words...

Samyj247:

I am a psychologist. Do you know why she told you? It was because, while kissing the guy, she was caught by somebody that knows you, and was afraid that that person will tell you, and she decided to just tell you, not knowing that the person did not say anything. THINK AM the truth has already set you free. Or do you want your wife to be kissed always by your gate man when you are out for work?

we were not formally apart...just three weeks of 'no communication'...

andromida: I agree with you there was no reason for her to tell you about the kiss. You guys were broken when she kissed someone else.

sincerely speaking I had a little thing in the UK...but during the three weeks of not communicating with her I never kissed another.

dmz: Just out of curiosity, did you kiss anyone while you were in the UK and during the little break?

if you were her would you have done such to get back at your man...

mysticgal:
some people sha

well...i dont know your orientation but for me I believe true love takes a while to forget...I dont know your sex but if you are guy and you have some scratch with your woman n she cheats on you, you say its valid. There is God oh!!! always remember that

NairaMode:

My opinion is you don't love the girl.
What if she had sex but confessed.
If the circumstances why a girl cheats on you is valid then it is best to forgive if for just once.

I appreciate your comment...I must confess I still feel something for her in my heart. I v always wanted to move on but thoughts of her wont let me already. I v got another very beautiful n homely young girl whom I v know for a couple of months, but I dont think my heart is healed enough to get into an emotional stuff just now

tblacker: Hmmm, truth hurts. I am almost in the same shoes now dude although this was a past that i dug out but it still hurts like she cheat on moi.

I would advice that you go and get that girl back and live with whatever it is she told you, You know why?: That is what makes you a man and definitely broaden your mind. There is no perfect human being and am guessing that you have affection for her in the first place. Just try and forgive her even though you cannot forget. Marriage is for the mature minds, punish her for what she did and let her know that she is being punished for her weakness . The truth is, different stroke for different folks so no one can tell you how to deal with this case unless you sit down with a simple arithmetic of mind. Do you really want her.

It was while I was in the UK...JUST ONCE and that was because we met a couple of months before I left; so we were still grooming the relationship. As soon as it was obvious we were dating, I couldnt continue living a lie anymore

Mogenerous: Just one question and I hope you answer honesty.... Since you guys started dating, have you ever cheated on her?

clem305D: well...i dont know your orientation but for me I believe true love takes a while to forget...I dont know your sex but if you are guy and you have some scratch with your woman n she cheats on you, you say its valid. There is God oh!!! always remember that

Well like you said you don't know my orientation.
I understand your mindset perfectly and it's as valid too. After all we all make our rules and we owe no one no apologies for it.
Let me tell you a bit about my orientation.
I don't see love the same way you see it.
In fact I don't believe love exist... I only believe in responsibility.
I believe love outside of the one God has for us (if you believe in God) is the only love there is. Humans just try.

That established.
"Love" as it were doesn't stop people from liking other people.
Even married men and women will testify to this...
We may love someone but we may love someone else more than our partner and that's because we are humans.
Just because we love someone else more however does not mean we now fail our partner and start cheating.
That's where responsibility comes in. That you are committed to someone else and you should stick to your choice already.
In fact that's maturity on the contrary.

Now given my mindset above, I believe there are circumstances that can make people falter.
Circumstances which to me are valid and which should give room for forgiveness or reasonable doubt. At least for once.
So like I said if someone cheats on you and you are able to logically peruse the circumstances and you have a forgiven spirit and you love the person then you can forgive a one time affair or more if you have the accommodation.

But for me, if it is more than ONCE then I would tie the engine of a Suzuki power bike to my legs.

nice one...destiny will take its course. I ll leave it in the hands of the Almighy

stanconnect: Bro...u get mind oo! am sorry if this is getting @ u, if u are a christian, I would like u to reflect back to the scriptures on this word that Jesus spoke; let him that has no sin be the first to cast the stone' no one could respond to this question, if u are a good bible reader u should know what they did...or u want me to tell u? ok...they all walked away!

Do u know that her likes are rare? How many times have u committed such offense or even one worse than that and told on it? If I where u, I will kneel down apologize to her and also make her the mother of my unborn kids

Imagine if men where to be God, where would we all have been?

she said she felt bad and disturbed n couldnt put up with me if she didnt let it out; so I promised I wouldnt use it against her...............................................which I did

Exjoker: Truth they said is always bitter. You were wrong for breakin up with her just 'cause she told you the truth but it would have been better if u had told us her reason for tellin you bout the incident

I have forgiven but I couldnt forget or put the thought off my head each time am with her

Vikky014: op do u believe in GOD?If yes do u know our LORDS PRAYER?.Dt means if u forgive odas God will also forgive u.so forgive her first!it is nt easy but try.

thanks for the comment, I appreciate

Mondisweets: Im glad she now has a chance to move on with mature man, who doesn't blow trivial things out of proportion. U had broken up, i don't see why you are being a baby about it. If it was when u guys were dating that would have been a whole different thing.

Now that she knows what an immature man is like, she will be able to know what a mature one is like.

clem305D: I have forgiven but I couldnt forget or put the thought off my head each time am with her

hmmmm.

In all my relationships this far, I v had to put up with a lot of things but when it comes to cheating; I take an exception. Am not perfect I know that already, but I cant help who I am. Wish I could still take her back because in my seven relationships so far, I have never loved anyone as I loved her...she was soo unique and special; I dont know what went wrong...maybe bad company

Harmonyemerald: It is a pity that yoou couldn't let it go. Am not blaming you, it is who you are. But that lady in question would have learnt one thing from you, never be honest with your partner. There is this saying, "hurt me with the truth, donot confort with a lie" but I guess with you, the opposite applies

clem305D: It was while I was in the UK...JUST ONCE and that was because we met a couple of months before I left; so we were still grooming the relationship. As soon as it was obvious we were dating, I couldnt continue living a lie anymore

You were grooming a relationship and had sex still, did you tell her then? Nope? If you had told her, how would she have felt? Bad? And probably forgive you? Maybe. Why not try forgiveness, like letting go of the past, am sure she felt bad enough already. If God had taken decisions like you did, what would have happened? Stop hurting yourself and try getting back... Happiness matters more

are there shock absorbers when it comes to love...I can handle every other thing with the exception of cheating

crudedude: Its a cruel world OP. You really need to start developing shock absorbers.

you are really a genius on matters of the heart...If you practice what you preach, then every lady should be at your door for a relationship; if I had one I wouldnt mind giving her to you. I believe in forgiveness too, but like you rightly noted we make our own rules. for me its not a rule thing; its just who I am. I believe she wanted to test what cheating looked like

NairaMode:

Well like you said you don't know my orientation.
I understand your mindset perfectly and it's as valid too. After all we all make our rules and we owe no one no apologies for it.
Let me tell you a bit about my orientation.
I don't see love the same way you see it.
In fact I don't believe love exist... I only believe in responsibility.
I believe love outside of the one God has for us (if you believe in God) is the only love there is. Humans just try.

That established.
"Love" as it were doesn't stop people from liking other people.
Even married men and women will testify to this...
We may love someone but we may love someone else more than our partner and that's because we are humans.
Just because we love someone else more however does not mean we now fail our partner and start cheating.
That's where responsibility comes in. That you are committed to someone else and you should stick to your choice already.
In fact that's maturity on the contrary.

Now given my mindset above, I believe there are circumstances that can make people falter.
Circumstances which to me are valid and which should give room for forgiveness or reasonable doubt. At least for once.
So like I said if someone cheats on you and you are able to logically peruse the circumstances and you have a forgiven spirit and you love the person then you can forgive a one time affair or more if you have the accommodation.

But for me, if it is more than ONCE then I would tie the engine of a Suzuki power bike to my legs.

clem305D: you are really a genius on matters of the heart...If you practice what you preach, then every lady should be at your door for a relationship; if I had one I wouldnt mind giving her to you. I believe in forgiveness too, but like you rightly noted we make our own rules. for me its not a rule thing; its just who I am. I believe she wanted to test what cheating looked like

Funny man.
I personally don't speak out of the blues.
Practice?... I'm "living" what I preached.
Just sharing my mindset with you ni jare.

Wish you all the best bro.

clem305D: In all my relationships this far, I v had to put up with a lot of things but when it comes to cheating; I take an exception. Am not perfect I know that already, but I cant help who I am. Wish I could still take her back because in my seven relationships so far, I have never loved anyone as I loved her...she was soo unique and special; I dont know what went wrong...maybe bad company

Holy cow!!!b!!!!! Seven relationships How old Are you now? Don't mind me shaa, I get you very well, u take the concept of faithfulness so well and you expect your partner to return the favour else it will be a deal breaker. Butnoone is above mistake, hence the concept of forgiveness. Am not asking you to go back to her, am just saying that you need to learn to be more flexible and forgiving towards mistakes in relationships. Relationship is work my brother, I tell u. It is really work. Sometimes, u will want to kill your partner, other dayz, u will just not wanna let go.

Its just a kiss mr... stp being a baby about it...

Overly emotional men sha...

clem305D: sincerely speaking I had a little thing in the UK...but during the three weeks of not communicating with her I never kissed another.

You had a little thing before in the UK when you guys were still dating. She had her own little thing when you were on a break and somehow it's all on her?.

You have already crossed the line yourself and shouldn't purnish her for something you're guilty of. Don't expect to get what you can't offer

clem305D: if you were her would you have done such to get back at your man...

That would be babyish of me,i would rather do something else sensible...like getting on with my life.
*Eba and egusi soup is delicious but my damn life is more tastier,trust me,life goes on.*

I do not understand dis cheatin and forgiveness u guys r talkin abt. Cheatin only occurs wen u av a bf/gf and forgiveness comes in wen some1 wrongs u. So WTF! She was single 4 3wks and just played around a little. Wats d big deal? Guy i tink u're just tryin 2 justify ur actions. U say u tried 2 forgive her and move on but u keep seeing pictures.....wat freakin pictures do u see? Mehn she didnt cheat on u. And since u didnt call/text/see her in THREE weeks den u guys were on a long break and she's more dan free 2 do wat she likes. I tink dere's anoda reason y u dont want ha anymore. M not askin u 2 tell us d real reason but just b true 2 urself.