bukatyne:

It should be obvious by now that most Christians do not know anything about Christ or the Bible

A lot of man worship is in vogue now.

You will see all pastors in a mission mimicking the GO

beeevan: The man is right on this one, the husband's suggestion to attend a church closer to home was very reasonable, yet she chose to be stiff headed. Now the unexpected has happened, the man should play it any way he deems fit.

bukatyne:

Acidosis,

You funny

That was probably why the wifey did not want to leave Ota branch. If she & hubby was going to church together and he raised their relocating to another church/branch, she might have been more receptive to the suggestion

It is sad

Stillfire: Submission ko, sobolation ni. This has nothing to do with submission abeg but the mental IQ of the wife. The woman must be a person of low mental assimilation to not have weighed the consequences and detected the rationale behind her partner informing her of the risks and endangerment she places herself. When they tell you people to marry intelligent wives, una no go gree.

alutacontinua:

As per your first paragraph, I totally agree!
However, how many churches out there today are actually a body of TRUE BELIEVERS?
And no, if what I see on a Sunday does not point towards the fact that the elder lives a Christian life, why do I have to wait to watch what happens on weekdays? From the message of most elders, you can certainly deduce that you've missed road. Not to mention other things in a church that just totally makes you to know it's not the place to be.




Agreed!




As per the woman in op's story, I cannot really say, as Winners church, I believe is all over the country. However, I hope the real gospel of Christ does not get that scarce but if it does and I have to drive 6 hours to get spiritual nourishment, I'll gladly do it! People drive 6 hours every week cos of work, no?



As I said earlier on, spiritual immaturity!
Which also has a place in Christianity. There would always be newborn babes in Christ.....does not make them bad, it means they are immature. Even in the Corinthian Church, some people preferred Paul, others Apollos! This was a church Apostle Paul established himself! Paul only had to correct their mindset, not criticize them! A few years ago, one of my uncles was transferred from his church branch to another branch as a Pastor. There was a particular woman in that church who was his convert that decided to also move to his new church with him (even though it meant more distance, and of course, money). All efforts to convince her otherwise proved abortive, she actually told him if she doesn't follow him, she'll stop coming altogether. Apparently, at that point, he left her alone and she actually did start attending his new branch. Fastforward almost 10 years later and this woman does not even belong to his denominatiom again, and yes, she's still in the faith (I believe). I'm sure if she even remembers now, she'll prolly laugh at her ignorance then.


My point? Such acts of clinging towards sentiments are acts of ignorance and immaturity, something about behaving like a child when you are a child, not reasons enough to criticize such people. It is almost natural for a woman to believe the person who gave her the miracle of a child after many years of trying and maybe places is her closest link to God. It takes maturity to get rid of such sentiment.





I AGREE!

carefreewannabe:

If we want to continue playing blame games, then let's ask ourselves why the father didn't tell the woman to go but to leave the child with him?

carefreewannabe:

Even a married woman can decide for herself and choose which church she wants to go to. You don'T have to follow EVERY wish / advice of your spouse.

BananaBender:

This has nothing to do with feminism.

Come to think of it, why didn't she leave the baby at home with his/her daddy?

The husband is probably one of those men that believe taking care of his own child will make him less of a man.

carefreewannabe: This accident could have happened anywhere.

TribalEAST: what does he know about diapers changing? Ok, that's cheap. What does he know about breast feeding a child when he's hungry? Ok he should chest feed! Maybe he should as well consider carrying the next pregnancy. You feminists just don't want to admit that we are built for different purposes.

DukeNija:

Women! Women! Women!!!
When will you ever be rational and unbiased?

Bigsteveg:

Never, I can't go to a church and my wife will tell me she's going to another...all these small small issues would be sorted out b4 marriage o. I don't take such for granted. Ni no lo tin bo?

Bigsteveg:
And what if the child is less than 4months? How do u keep such child with the father?
Then don't forget that the excuse she gave for going was becos she got the child after 5 yrs through the church.

Her faith was limited, What she didint know is that it is God that gave the child not Winners or Oyedepo!

freshdude2: I don't know this couple, I probably never will. No amount of sorries from me will they hear nor will said sorries restore their losses. What my post could achieve though is correct one pastor-worshipping spouse and probably set them on the path of common sense and marital harmony. There are women on here going against their husbands pleas and advice who might not end up losing their children or limbs but their husband's affection. Let's be objective. If she had submitted to her spouses authority over her the loss would have been easier to bear. Good luck to her flushing resentment out of his heart. Whether we like it or not, he's going to directly link the loss of his child to her disobedience. Hopefully, someone else would learn.

freecocoa: So now people can get to do whatever the want in a relationship/marriage regardless of how it affects their partners, okay.

carefreewannabe:

Next time, a husband is disobedient and something happens, tell him the same.

BananaBender:

Haba! Are you expecting a man to obey his wife?? That's disrespectful to him, women can't tell men what to do

carefreewannabe:
They need to put their girls down to feel better. This is what happens when men have no other achievements.

BananaBender:

I don't know why this is strange to you but she could squeeze breast milk into the baby feeding bottles.

B*reast milk can be refrigerated; all he had to do is warm it up when the baby feels hungry. This is a common practice.

LMAO! Women are built for changing diapers?? Bwahahahaha

TribalEAST: all because she wants to go worship david oyedepo. It's now a confirmed thing that you feminists have negatively skewed brain.

TribalEAST: all because she wants to go worship david oyedepo. It's now a confirmed thing that you feminists have negatively skewed brain.

carefreewannabe:

I logged in on this beautiful morning and hoped to read nice comments but instead I found myself taken back to the Middle Ages.

I don't blame them. It's pure psychology. They need to put their girls down to feel better. This is what happens when men have no other achievements.

Good morning.
Good you were here right now. I was about to commit online murder.

TribalEAST: let's even try to agree with you that men put down their lady to feel better. Look at what happened to a man that failed to put his lady down: he lost an only child and has a crippled stubborn wife to cope with. You feminist think you are always right but end up being the losers. The man can decide to divorce and get married to someone else. Who can blame him? Who would want to marry a divorced woman here in africa especially when she can't walk straight, knowing fully well about her past? Ok, she'll keep it from suitors, right? That'll be the beginning of her going down the drain. You see where stubbornness and lack of submission can lead a woman.

Acidosis:
If wifey had married a believer who goes to church, this sad event wouldn't have occured.

ALL BLAMES goes to Wifey. Even Bishop Oyedepo would never approve such marriage.

#The thought of ignoring the proposal of a rich lekki-based unbeliever

BananaBender:
I have no business concerning myself with the pastor or her church of choice.

BananaBender:
Squeezing breast milk isn't rocket science, we have pump for that. It's not a big deal.

BananaBender:
Are you saying a mother should not go out while her baby is still an infant? If she was going to a party, can't she leave the baby with his/her father?

BananaBender:
Get your life, you're yet to make any sense.

blueberryp: lmao at the last line
This didn't happen because she married an unbeliever rather it was because she refused to apply wisdom. The husband was right in this case, he wasn't stopping her from worshipping with her church, he only wanted something closer home probably because of the baby and she could open her eyes to reason.
May God see her thru dis trying times

Bigsteveg:
What if the husband is a Muslim, must everybody be a church goer?