free2ryhme: If all keeping specifying the kind of single mother they want to marry with specific qualities and xter my question remains if you eventually find the woman with all these why can't she with all the right qualities and xter maintain her current marriage with her child's father? Except her husband is late which is an exception.

ericessien24: HELL NO, it disgust me a lot cos il be imagining the reason she is not with her man,baby daddy,

will she leave me too
most of them are dirty
imagine small me being step father
the real daddy will come for his baby after youv spent all ur life on the baby
will she still not be loving the baby daddy.


I have a lot to consider.I can't even try it.if she lies and I marry her even after 20 yrs il stil leave her.

MadCow1: Observations of a Mad Cow.. Why are most of the responses on this thread so far gender bias towards the women? The title didn't specify single mothers, it said "someone who has a child".. Even the female respondents are ignoring the single fathers and focusing on single mothers like they are lesbians.

I guess the trend of the responses speaks a great deal about our overall mentality as a people towards single parents which is;

Single Father = acceptable..
Single Mothers = taboo..



Just an observation.. But it's none of my business..

AdeniyiA: At least it shows her fertility, how do you explain a lady who had had several unprotected intimacy not having a baby, it's either she's done abortions or she's infertile, either way what's d assurance she'd be able to conceive when married /

DWJOBScom: I was going to scream a loud "NO" after reading a lot of comments here somehow I feel I don't have to right to judge a book by it's cover and won't look down on anyone's comments or decision.
A lot might have made her "baby mama" "single with a kid" etc as stated by Mad Cow but I stick with the caution maintained by safari(watch out for a lot of things like loyalty, love etc)
I will marry with all the caution and "watch out" loud on alarm screen.

#my thoughts

Safari29:


my friend think about it. Again think deep about it. It is difficult. It is not meant for a young guy. Am talking from experience. U are going to be third on her priority list. U are definately going to marry her with her kid. her kid must like you. You are going to make her happy almost every time because if u don't u ll be resented. if she is smarter than you pls forget it. most of them are pathetic because of their past and dont have a heart. If she is supportive and u know genuinely that she loves u (not just I love u I love you too)then I wish u the best. I know you have butterfly in ur tommy now wait till you guys are in bad terms. then u know if she really loves u or not

Yungwizzzy: [size=70pt]No[/size]

Safari29: hmm dating a single mother is so easy and u Wd enjoy it in the short run. But marrying a single mother needs maturity no be beans. U ll face alot of challenges. alot of things u can't take. Most single mothers are not loyal. if shes the outgoing type u break her heart she leaves in a giffy. I once dated one with marriage prospect. all her friends are guys I knew we won't last

Safari29:


my friend think about it. Again think deep about it. It is difficult. It is not meant for a young guy. Am talking from experience. U are going to be third on her priority list. U are definately going to marry her with her kid. her kid must like you. You are going to make her happy almost every time because if u don't u ll be resented. if she is smarter than you pls forget it. most of them are pathetic because of their past and dont have a heart. If she is supportive and u know genuinely that she loves u (not just I love u I love you too)then I wish u the best. I know you have butterfly in ur tommy now wait till you guys are in bad terms. then u know if she really loves u or not

Hishuula: I only pray for birth tru vigin* for my wife ,after birth it can never be the same again ..if you keep telling her its the same as before u re simply trying not to hurt her

databoy247: I have often been in hot conversations with other peeps, and most of them sound like it's a taboo to get married to a lady who has a child (maybe out of wedlock). It's usually cool when they as guys having one or two kids wants a lady to get married to them but when its the reverse, na war.

Wat's behind this mentality? And are single unmarried ladies who already have a child actually "bad" like the society paint the picture? Am not a traditionalist so i really dont discriminate but my peeps sometimes see me as someone who have "lost it" cos i dont see anything wrong with single ladies (with a kid). Your views pls....

databoy247: wow.....lotsa comments. Where are the ladies naw?

I presume this is an FP topic? Haven't checked just yet.

Hmmmmmmmmm

I'm not a single MoM, So I wouldn't know how to reply this without a bias of sorts.
Hmmmm.......

There are some parallels to consider here.

I'll put myself in the shoes of a man here.
I'll ask myself these questions.

1. Does the child like me?
2. Do I love this woman (not the feeling kind of love, I'm talking bou the DECISION kinda love.)
3. What's her background like?
4. If she took in as a result of promiscuity, is she a better person now or striving towards becoming better?
5. Am I good for her?
6. Am I willing to treat the child(ren) like they are mine whether or not she concieves for me?
7.Does she love me.
8. Can she...................

If I were a Man, My reply would be Yes. All things being equal.
I can marry a single Father too, if he's not above 35

Errmm, that's my 2Rand.
Hope that's somewhat coherent......
Listening to my favorite music and deepthinking on matters like this aren't my strongest suit.

Goodmorning

Jarchi:
No No No Yes,my yes is of 25percent xcept on reasonable ground,but why can't they marry the fada's child is still my question

lepasharon: Black women have the highest incidence of abortion in America and yet STILL are the race with the most kids out of wedlock ! What do they want?

Jheezzz

Atmmachine: [b][/b] I HATE NIGERIANS.
You can't marry someone who has a child ??