MadCow1: Observations of a Mad Cow.. Why are most of the responses on this thread so far gender bias towards the women? The title didn't specify single mothers, it said "someone who has a child".. Even the female respondents are ignoring the single fathers and focusing on single mothers like they are lesbians.

I guess the trend of the responses speaks a great deal about our overall mentality as a people towards single parents which is;

Single Father = acceptable..
Single Mothers = taboo..



Just an observation.. But it's none of my business..

krall: Big turn off.

How did the kid (or should I say the "singleness" )come about in the first place?

If the father of the child is still alive then I see no reason for them all not to be "together".

khiaa:


You don't hate Nigerians.

dhardline: Its still ok to marry a lady who already has a child,those who dont have yet do you know how many abortions(murder)they have committed?no body holy pass.

dmz: Makes no difference to me. As long as there is no serious complications with the baby daddy. Respect for people who don't take the easy way out (abortion).

Aystormz:

Their child's father doesn't want them. Many single dads dont even have the means to wed them, let alone nurture their own child.

freecocoa: Better a single mum than a serial abortionist abi abortioner if you asked me.

austinereds: complete turn off for me.ain't easy taking care of a woman with child....even after accepting responsibility u will face an uphill problem esp if the kid is a male child..

Aystormz:

Their child's father doesn't want them. Many single dads dont even have the means to wed them, let alone nurture their own child.

freecocoa: Better a single mum than a serial abortionist abi abortioner if you asked me.

Yea I can marry a single father, but to be honest, it would be a lot easier if the child was a sweetheart and not one pain in the a$$ .

Safari29:


my friend think about it. Again think deep about it. It is difficult. It is not meant for a young guy. Am talking from experience. U are going to be third on her priority list. U are definately going to marry her with her kid. her kid must like you. You are going to make her happy almost every time because if u don't u ll be resented. if she is smarter than you pls forget it. most of them are pathetic because of their past and dont have a heart. If she is supportive and u know genuinely that she loves u (not just I love u I love you too)then I wish u the best. I know you have butterfly in ur tommy now wait till you guys are in bad terms. then u know if she really loves u or not

thorpido: To those saying a single mother proves she is fertile,HOW WRONG YOU ARE!
There is something called SECONDARY INFERTILITY.That a woman has had a child is no guarantee that she can have another one.There are countless women struggling to get pregnant again after they already had a child.Every pregnancy is unique.

I'm not against single mothers,I'm just disputing the hypothesis that having had a child means fertility.

khiaa:

So you would marry her but you wouldn't trust her?

databoy247: I have often been in hot conversations with other peeps, and most of them sound like it's a taboo to get married to a lady who has a child (maybe out of wedlock). It's usually cool when they as guys having one or two kids wants a lady to get married to them but when its the reverse, na war.

Wat's behind this mentality? And are single unmarried ladies who already have a child actually "bad" like the society paint the picture? Am not a traditionalist so i really dont discriminate but my peeps sometimes see me as someone who have "lost it" cos i dont see anything wrong with single ladies (with a kid). Your views pls....