nedu213: I wish my ex can see this quote below:

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Don't even try it

Yes it works because love grows constant being together can build love.

dytbabe: What is even love?
U marry for love and in mnths its over
U marry and then fall in love

It works way better than the first
I blv in it if both partners are willing
Might be hard at first bt it mostly ends in a happy ending

Dazzall. End of dicussion.

Ordering icre cream for Dytbabe for this comment. Hope say go-slow nor go hold am.

marieolae: This is actually what happened to my uncle. He met this girl which he had no interest in marrying. Just a fling. They were having sexx regularly and eventually she got pregnant. He insisted that she should abort the pregnancy but she refused. So in this situation, he was " forced" to marry. Her. And now I believe he is madly in love with her, not only because she is the mother of his child, but its something from within. I guess love after marriage is possible, but its not advisable to rush into things. The story doesn't always end in a glorious way. "And they lived happily ever after" may not be the case.

Your Uncle must have made a very hard decision,but I believe everything depends on the two artner involve.
Even if you fell in love before marriage,if you don't make a conscious effort eevryday to love your spouse,the marriage may hit the rocks!
For a marriage to be successful,the partners must makr a conscious effort to love each other everyday.

I wont advise anyone to marry a person they dont love. They may end up loving each other at the long run, but it takes serious efforts.

Mintayo:
Your Uncle must have made a very hard decision,but I believe everything depends on the two artner involve.
Even if you fell in love before marriage,if you don't make a conscious effort eevryday to love your spouse,the marriage may hit the rocks!
For a marriage to be successful,the partners must make a conscious effort to love each other everyday.

yes I agree, and I even believe that most times, after marriage things start to deteriorate. So its all about emotions,feelings and passion. Marriage is a lifetime thing, which most people don't seem to understand.

The fact is that for the Woman it's very possible infact that's how it supposed to be, Woman is only commanded and expected to luv her own husband Biblically.
A Woman's nature is to be submissive under the authority of the man(that's why GOD never asked EVE weather she LOVE ADAM, before marrying her to him,because as her husband she will LOVE him). Our parents never know what is Luv (as practised this days before getting married) but they are still together till DEATH parted them.A woman however, may not luv an uncaring, unromantic, irresponsible and a disrespectful husband.
For the Man, he should find a wife, he should Be the First to show her Love, care, attention and providing for her needs. So it's expedient that the Man LOVES such a Woman to be able to do that.
In Summary, The woman responds to the love, care, attention from the man(weather her is in love with him before is immaterial).
For the Man, he ought to be in love with such a woman to be able to provide with love, material and emotional needs, against every obstacles, odds and challenges.
Though there are exceptions to this rules depending on peculiar situations and circumstances

LOVE AFTA MARRIAGE IS A SEROUS GAMBLE. IT MITE WORK AND IT MITE NOT WORK. ITS A 50-50 TIN.

DER ARE CERTAIN FACTORS DAT CAN MAKE IT WORK AND DER ARE CERTAIN FACTORS DAT WILL MAKE IT CERTAINLY FAIL.

It does, considering accepting ourselves as best & closest friends. Likeness must occur before love... likeness = sight, love = heart.

Sure it works, better than the ones that dated be4 marriage sef since there is no mystery 2 solve about ur spouse, thus it gets kinda boring after a while....me honest opinion.
On the other hand, HAPPY NEW MONTH!!!

Love after marriage happens.... rarely... Even your worse enemy cld become ur friend if u spend enof time together (without killing each other)


Depending on it to "work" is like committing a crime to put urself in prison, hoping to break out someday.

marieolae: This is actually what happened to my uncle. He met this girl which he had no interest in marrying. Just a fling. They were having sexx regularly and eventually she got pregnant. He insisted that she should abort the pregnancy but she refused. So in this situation, he was " forced" to marry her. And now I believe he is madly in love with her, not only because she is the mother of his child, but its something from within. I guess love after marriage is possible, but its not advisable to rush into things. The story doesn't always end in a glorious way. "And they lived happily ever after" may not be the case.

To be constantly having sex with someone requires a reasonable level of attraction..

100Cents:

To be constantly having sex with someone requires a reasonable level of attraction..

no I totally disagree. It doesn't at all.

Love Can Kick-start Marriage, But It Takes Commitment to keep the Marriage Active and Fun filled

Love after marriage?No..just full of regrets.

You can only build on existing love

marieolae: no I totally disagree. It doesn't at all.

Hahaha.

There is one former colleague of mine who married exactly according to your description. He was even making jest of how the lady was giving him so much sex.

Not knowing she would eventually be his wife.. So when you want to poke, find a presentable person in case of stories that touch..

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LOVE DOES NOT EXIST!![/size]

marieolae: This is actually what happened to my uncle. He met this girl which he had no interest in marrying. Just a fling. They were having sexx regularly and eventually she got pregnant. He insisted that she should abort the pregnancy but she refused. So in this situation, he was " forced" to marry her. And now I believe he is madly in love with her, not only because she is the mother of his child, but its something from within. I guess love after marriage is possible, but its not advisable to rush into things. The story doesn't always end in a glorious way. "And they lived happily ever after" may not be the case.

Tales by moonlight

For me it works.

That's why its good to marry your friend and not just for marrying sake.

It is very possible just like some professed love dies after marriage, for example, if the one who doesn't love first come to discover potentials and added quality, in such cases the bond can be very strong, the attraction has to be there but sometimes, we are deceived by our sense of judgment, environment, pair pressure and presumptions

Impossible is almost nothing so...


I'll rather love my intended before saying 'I do' still.

Rapsainot: lols, think of those that love themselves so much before marriage, but couldn't continue with the so called love after it bro

The topic says love after marriage not before marriage, two different situations. And from personal experience, love after marriage does work, it requires the open-mindedness of both partners

Even couples that get married without being introduced to each other by anyone experience bitterness after marriage,they soon found out after years of courtship and marriage that they have made a mistake and they dont love each other anymore,hence reasons for divorce.go to court and withness many divorce cases of couples of good years of marriage.the fact is that staying in marriage takes a lot of endurance,patient and humility which many couple lack.Let us not deceive ourselves Love that last for long no matter the storm is just one in a million these days.Man wants to be the head ,expected woman to take his orders,directives and advise,Woman wants to please herself.Man cannot satisfy\please woman,any man that want to is digging his grave.Two differently oriented people coming together as one hmmmm it is not easy.some women are fed-up but stays in marriage because of there kids,some thought spiritually the man is not there destined husband ,Same strong LOVE for at least 4 years after Marriage takes God.

Possible but rare.

marieolae: well..tbh I know it was regularly because my uncle told me.

Rapsainot: Love after marriage..... Hmm impossible

Says Who?

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marieolae: yes I agree, and I even believe that most times, after marriage things start to deteriorate. So its all about emotions,feelings and passion. Marriage is a lifetime thing, which most people don't seem to understand.

And it takes some level of mental and emotional maturity from the two people involved to make their marriage work.