Op u dey ask me make I ask who ! anyway shaa passed are days wen such was d trend ! now love ni before marriage otherwise , u r in for a long tin!

Chinese Billionaire Says: If You’re Poor At 35, You Deserve It -

Jack Ma: Before I founded Alibaba, I invited 24 friends to my house to discuss the business opportunity. After discussing for a full two hours, they were still confused — I have to say that I may not have put myself across in a clear manner manner then. The verdict: 23 out of the 24 people in the room told me to drop the idea, for a multitude of reasons, such as: ‘you do not know anything about the internet, and more prominently, you do not have the start-up capital for this’ etc etc.

There was only one friend (who was working in a bank then) who told me, “If you want to do it, just try it. If things don’t work out the way you expected it to, you can always revert back to what you were doing before.” I pondered upon this for one night, and by the next morning, I decided I would do it anyway, even if all of the 24 people opposed the idea.

http://www.ftsnews.com.ng/2014/10/chinese-billionaire-says-if-youre-poor.html?m=1

Missy89: It actually dies after marriage.

I'm still trying to decipher why you said this because for a fact, I know marriage doesn't kill love. Nope it doesn't.

love is also a verb
It grows by showing care, concern, belief, relief and sharing the emotions and concern of your partner
Love that previously did not exist can start and grow after marriage. It happens quite a lot times

Love that existed before marriage can also die after marriage.
when those involved stop caring and showing concern for the life, activities and emotions of one another

Ceasar1:



I'm still trying to decipher why you said this because for a fact, I know marriage doesn't kill love. It's being unable to deal with changes in circumstances that slowly crushes it. Or not.

In deed, marriage does not kill love. It actually nurtures it. What happens is that most marriages entered into ignorantly invariably frustrates the couples and kills their 'love'. Marriage founded on love outlasts the couple. A lot of people think they are in love when in reality, they are very, very far away from love. What many people call love is actually feelings/affection/infatuation/beauty/good dressing/comfort/intimacy/wealth etc. Some of these things are actually found in love but they in themselves are not love. Love is tangible. Love is measurable. Love is action. Love is choice. Love is decision. Love is patience. Love is Kindness. Love is unity/peace. Love is endurance. Love is sacrifice, etc. Love hardly fails! Love is the pillar of marriage. You cannot first build a house before adding its pillars. You add the pillars before being assured of a strong, safe and reliable place of abode. Yes, sometimes, a house founded on strong pillars collapses. This is sometimes because the builders are not experienced, building with absent-mindedness, did not check well the soil on which the strong pillars are put, the pillars are not well fortified with quality materials etc. These things happen but it is one in a million! But houses that collapsed as a result of lack of pillars are rampant.
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CoCoLav:


I don't know how to argue concerning relationship matter because its not a one shoe fits all thing. From the experiences I have had and also from other experiences, I have just concluded that love isn't the bane of marriage. Once there is tolerance, trust, respect, mutual understanding, commitment, whatever other qualities I need in a man and of course sex.ual chemistry then we are good to go. Love stems from all these things.

We are saying the same thing then. What I am saying is before[/size][size=8pt] you say I do to any man/woman, be sure that:

1. You have mutual respect for each other - for each other's body too (this does not come in one day)
2. You tolerate each other (this also will mean unconditional acceptance) this also is not a day's job
3. You trust each other (this come with test, remember) not a day's job
4. You reach some understanding (concerning money, job, children, inlaws, conduct, dressing etc) not a day's job
5. You are pooling resources together to make the relationship work (infatuation does not have this patience)
6. You share affection/attraction (You must be proud to associate/be with each other - not one person in front the other behind) takes time too
7. You are ready to defend each other with your life (this is one of the major test of love)
8. You are willing and able to support him/her in weakness/sickness/setbacks/misfortunes etc.
9. You are willing to share your resources (money, power, favour, privilege, talents, etc) this takes a lot of time.
10. You are ready/willing/able to be in subjection to a man (in case of a woman)
11. You are ready/willing/able to love, protect, provide for a woman (in case of a man)
12. You are ready to remain faithful to each other for life
13. You are ready to live together and nurture the union for life

Love in marriage is not a 100 meters dash. It is a capsule filled with all these and more. It is not that "I feel good" feeling. Love is not feeling at all. There are feelings in love but it is not feeling.

There are different kinds of love. I am writing about marriage love here please. So before you tell a man/woman that
you love him/her (in the marriage sense) be sure to have thought on these and many more.

These lend credence to the fact that love must be the bane of marriage and must also come[b] BEFORE [/b]its consummation, not the other way round.

What on earth is this 'love is/must/should be the BANE of marriage' thing you guys are saying? Hope una know wetin 'bane' mean sha.

Ceasar1:



I'm still trying to decipher why you said this because for a fact, I know marriage doesn't kill love. Nope it doesn't.

seriously thou it was just an opinion. I haven't been married so i wouldn't even know anyway.

Long term relationships usually gets boring eventually so i wonder how a lifetime commitment would look like.

nedu213: I wish my ex can see this quote below:

Awwww, nedu boo I have seen it

Missy89:

seriously thou it was just an opinion. I haven't been married so i wouldn't even know anyway.

Long term relationships usually gets boring eventually so i wonder how a lifetime commitment would look like.

Oh, on the ‘boring’ part, I do understand your view now. But to be honest though, I don't just see myself getting bored with someone am in love with. Yea, I'm being naive here.

Okay. How are things with you?... I think it's only proper for me to show concern as we are both United Fans. [size=3pt]To be.[/size]

It will work if what will hold the love will remain

For there is always a reason for love.
when that reason finish love ends, then we
cite irreconcillable difference

Ceasar1:


Oh, on the ‘boring’ part, I do understand your view now. But to be honest though, I don't just see myself getting bored with someone am in love with. Yea, I'm being naive here.

Okay. How are things with you?... I think it's only proper for me to show concern as we are both United Fans. [size=3pt]To be.[/size]

You want to drag me down with you and your sinking united?

Beat everton first and i might consider it!

Missy89:

You want to drag me down with you and your sinking united?

Beat everton first and i might consider it!

Not 15 anymore? Cool!
Now I just can't wait for Sunday.
My united boys wouldn't disappoint at all.

its very rare , Bt me don't gbadu it abeg

Love after marriage? u af remain

Ceasar1:

Not 15 anymore? Cool!
Now I just can't wait for Sunday.
My united boys wouldn't disappoint at all.

not so fast!

still 15 but i would start paying attention to woman united if they win this weekend thou

Missy89:


not so fast!

still 15 but i would start paying attention to woman united if they win this weekend thou

*Breaks down in tears*

All is well...

Ds is a billion dollar question ,
Will read all comments and learn

[quote author=englishmart post=26792715]My mom and dad have been married for over 25 years. In fact their love grows incessantly.

sometimes I pray I find a wife as good as my mom.
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That your parent's marriage is very successful must have been the result of their combined efforts, not just your mum. As you pray to find a wife as good as your mum, please also aspire to be as tolerant and understanding as your dad.

If you cannot LOVE [/b]before marriage, you cannot after marriage...LOVE is a way of life characterized by [b]SACRIFICE, COMMUNION and BONDING and not necessarily the way you feel about a person...While i'll not advice anyone to marry by parental choice and discretion, i'll say that if you have the heart to LOVE you can move on with the marriage and sail it's dark and murky waters...