BankoleNco:
Hey guys,
I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but I'd go ahead and post here as it is related to health (depression).
Well, I don't want to bore you with long sermon-esque writings, so I'd skip the fancy stuff and go straight
to the point. I'd be turning 30 mid next year and its really eating me up! I feel depressed and old! Its been
giving me sleepless nights and middle of the night insomnia I wake up 4.00 am for no reason nowadays
and just stare at the ceiling lost in thought and scared as hell with thoughts of being in the twilight of my youth,
knowing I'd have to get married pretty soon, just 10 years away from 40, no more clubbing, no more spontaneous
Saturday drives. The worst part is I spent MOST of my teenage and youth life in self development and didn't have
time to indulge in some most of the activities attached to youthful exuberance.Its paid off, yes! But, I AM DEPRESSED right now!
Did any of you guys currently 30 and above experience same? Would really help if someone said something. *sigh*

MrRhymes101:
Get busy!! n Stop thinking of marriage its d major cause of ur depression...Also wen u r less busy make sure u bleep any babe u see, ur neighbors, ur street babes, ur church gals, landlord's daughter, any babe at alllllll........it works like magic. u will testify to over-excitement instead of depression

phreakabit:
I feel op's pain 30 is the actual start of Adulthood in some sense. . . Its really scary and to think that just next year you'd be 30 is a nightmare trust me. [b]Turning 18-27 is fun once 28 you start changing, 29 depressed and then 30 game over! [/b]You must become an adult and get ready to start a family. . Spend the remaining [size=18pt]70%[/size] of your life with [size=18pt]1[/size] woman

GodMode:


your post is baseless and lacks sense of direction which describes you and your situation... my reason for this is u said "I spent MOST of my teenage and youth life in self development" self development is a process that has no end... you are still developing that's you're thinking this way cos you lack self-happiness.

you spent over 28 years of your life looking to develop yourself -- In what way this question needs an answer cos you wasted those years because I've realized that nothing beats self-happiness..

In summary the truth is:
Change your thinking Change Your Life whether negative or positive you are in control of your future... you are the one that chooses either happiness or sadness... It begins with you

Richardjemedafe:
I met this girl on fb and we ve been
chatting for 6 months now.
Today, i logged in and i saw her online,
and we started chatting immediately.
ME: Hello dear
HER: happy independence.
ME: same to u dear
HER: so where is my independence gift?
ME: Habba! Big girl like u is asking for
independence gift?.
HER: Abeg oo. Me am nt a big girl oo. U
wnt to deny me independence gift abi? ....I
quickly went to buy N500 card and sent the
pin into her chat inbox....
ME:Dear manage this pls.
HER: noo, pls am only joking. I will nt take
that.
ME: pls pls.
HER: and i refuse. I cnt take anything from
u.
....i quickly loaded the card and transfered it
into her line acct...
HER: u think u are smart eh? ....a minute
later
heard an alert msg tang-tang..''N1000 is
transfered to u from...''
ME: whats the meaning of that?
HER: i told u, u shldnt. ...(this girl wan show
me big girl abi?) i used my last N2000 to
buy card, load am, making N3000 and send
it to her.
....Some minutes later, an alert, tang-
tang..''N6000 is transfered to u from....''
chaiii..this girl wan try me? And i dnt hv
any money again! I called my friend and
borrowed the N6000 he was keeping for his
landlord, i told him i will be expecting
N24,000 in the next 5min and i will pay him
back...i quickly buy card of N6000, and sent
her the N12,000..and i kept my phone close
to my
ear expecting alert...
Ten minutes later, instead of msg alert, it
was a call from her...''Hello dear, jst call to
thank u for the independence gift..we'll
chat later''....

BankoleNco:
Hey guys,
I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but I'd go ahead and post here as it is related to health (depression).
Well, I don't want to bore you with long sermon-esque writings, so I'd skip the fancy stuff and go straight
to the point. I'd be turning 30 mid next year and its really eating me up! I feel depressed and old! Its been
giving me sleepless nights and middle of the night insomnia I wake up 4.00 am for no reason nowadays
and just stare at the ceiling lost in thought and scared as hell with thoughts of being in the twilight of my youth,
knowing I'd have to get married pretty soon, just 10 years away from 40, no more clubbing, no more spontaneous
Saturday drives. The worst part is I spent MOST of my teenage and youth life in self development and didn't have
time to indulge in some most of the activities attached to youthful exuberance.Its paid off, yes! But, I AM DEPRESSED right now!
Did any of you guys currently 30 and above experience same? Would really help if someone said something. *sigh*

thando:
Im turnin 29 2moro n im beyond depressed, stil hv to get up 2moro for a rather dull job that i hv that i hv which pays peanuts, i basically spend all my salary on transport but cant quit cos i bn ther b4 n almost killed myself "SIGH" .........FUC THIS LIFE I DONT WANT TO B HERE ANYMOR, i dont think i ever did actually

HASSANAASIA:
Pray u go reach the 30 sef....

thando:
Im turnin 29 2moro n im beyond depressed, stil hv to get up 2moro for a rather dull job that i hv that i hv which pays peanuts, i basically spend all my salary on transport but cant quit cos i bn ther b4 n almost killed myself "SIGH" .........FUC THIS LIFE I DONT WANT TO B HERE ANYMOR, i dont think i ever did actually

slap1:
My first guess is, 'This guy wants to have it all!'
Bro, you can't have the best of both worlds. How long do you wanna club and drive spontaneously? Life comes in stages and you have to condition your mind in readiness for each stage.
And who says 30 or 40 is old? Have you heard that life begins at 40? You spend quality time thinking of tomorrow and end up wasting today. Live one day at a time! Good luck!

duni04:

Is this how to advice someone?

BankoleNco:
Hey guys,
I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but I'd go ahead and post here as it is related to health (depression).
Well, I don't want to bore you with long sermon-esque writings, so I'd skip the fancy stuff and go straight
to the point. I'd be turning 30 mid next year and its really eating me up! I feel depressed and old! Its been
giving me sleepless nights and middle of the night insomnia I wake up 4.00 am for no reason nowadays
and just stare at the ceiling lost in thought and scared as hell with thoughts of being in the twilight of my youth,
knowing I'd have to get married pretty soon, just 10 years away from 40, no more clubbing, no more spontaneous
Saturday drives. The worst part is I spent MOST of my teenage and youth life in self development and didn't have
time to indulge in some most of the activities attached to youthful exuberance.Its paid off, yes! But, I AM DEPRESSED right now!
Did any of you guys currently 30 and above experience same? Would really help if someone said something. *sigh*

synergycom19:
At this age, you are still young to be depressed because you have not seen anything yet, though this days people aged quickly am 40yrs but have white beard. However, you are only expirencing a PHASE CHANGE and not depression and that can creates anxiety(because you are scared of the future, aging, accomplishments etc) and makes you perplexed, feeling unhappy or lack of satisfaction for your present status. You shouldn't be afraid
Try the following
Get closer to the ALIMIGHTY GOD
Get a decent wife/ mother characteristics kind of a woman( because at 30, you should have your first kid at least)
Get a an interesting job, the one that makes you happy. If you have already get into one more at least
Get a land if possible and imagine your building on it and how wonderful it will be with your family living in it.

Hope you will be ok
Goodluck

olaeffect:




Faced my book all through school not catching fun at all, out of school good job but still feeling out of place many years later.

BankoleNco:
Hey guys,
I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but I'd go ahead and post here as it is related to health (depression).
Well, I don't want to bore you with long sermon-esque writings, so I'd skip the fancy stuff and go straight
to the point. I'd be turning 30 mid next year and its really eating me up! I feel depressed and old! Its been
giving me sleepless nights and middle of the night insomnia I wake up 4.00 am for no reason nowadays
and just stare at the ceiling lost in thought and scared as hell with thoughts of being in the twilight of my youth,
knowing I'd have to get married pretty soon, just 10 years away from 40, no more clubbing, no more spontaneous
Saturday drives. The worst part is I spent MOST of my teenage and youth life in self development and didn't have
time to indulge in some most of the activities attached to youthful exuberance.Its paid off, yes! But, I AM DEPRESSED right now!
Did any of you guys currently 30 and above experience same? Would really help if someone said something. *sigh*

clefstone:
I can relate with what u r saying OP. Felt same way when I was turning 20, not to d extent of having sleepless nights though. I feel its cos we set targets for ourselves as to what we hope to hv achieved at the turn of a new decade in our lives but such high targets r hardly met in entirety that we always wish for more time. Good tin is tht we eventually gey used to our new age wen it finally hits us. I will be 30 next year nd I am already worried tht I'm not married. By d way, u r not depressed.

Kimmo:


I'm not thirty yet, but I can identify with a few of these thoughts as they're generally the sort of things people have to contend with as they hit adulthood. I'd say you should find some of these fun things you missed out on and do them from time to time. These thoughts will come up when your 39, 49 . . Also, you should have a companion, like a girlfriend or spouse who can encourage you and be a support in such times. Be strong, life is full of possibilities.