Tallesty1:
Before I start this, I want to make it clear that I'm not a sexist.

People say it is a man's world, and honestly, it is. I will show you how.

Nature gave us some bonus and women gave their support. Even if a man forgives a cheating wife, the women(society) will not.

Here are the few reasons some men find it difficult to forgive a cheating wife(They are what I heard men say. I didn't author some of them)

1: EGO:- It certainly has alot to do with their ego being bruised. The thought that another man was able to sleep with Someone they believed they had "ownership" of breaks them to pieces as most of them think the women incapable of sex without emotions, meaning the woman loves another. Remember men are like a lioness that can kill most animals for its cubs but will not allow another animal to even play with its cubs.

2: GUILT:- If a woman cheats, the man will never forgive not only the woman but himself no matter whose fault it is. He feels he has failed as a man to protect and keep his own.

3: THEY CAN'T FORGET:- When a man is making love with his wife, it is a sacred rituals the way she moan shows that his sacrifice has been accepted. So if she makes love with another man he will be thinking the temple is no more sacred and when he make love to her and she moan, it will be disgusting cause it will be like that is the way she moaned for the other guy!

4: YOU HAVE LOST HER IF SHE CHEATS:- Female infidelity is often much more damaging to a marriage. Don’t get me wrong: Male cheating is definitely harmful. But when a woman fools around, it’s often the beginning of the end of the relationship. For men, cheating often tends to be opportunistic—they’re in the wrong place at the wrong time and the cheating doesn’t necessarily mean anything emotionally. In fact a man can sleep with a woman today and not remember her again but for a woman to have sex with you(in most cases)you must win her heart to win her body.

5: HE PAID YOUR PRICE:- I guess i gotta be blunt here. I know we call it marriage but I think women are being bought in a way. Don't kill me yet, let's analyze it. He buys engagement ring. Proposes to you, you accept then he decides to see your people. Your people accept him and give him a list containing heaven and earth. He agrees to pay, he pays for everything and when your parents feel they have collected enough, they hand you over to him. Then you automatically change your name(Change of ownership) which confirms that you are now his own.

I have seen where women sponsored their marriage and the men don't care when they cheat soI believe the day you stop asking for head-cutting bride price for us to marry then we won't bother much, imagine paying all that money and she gives it to another man..

On a serious note. A cheat is a cheat and you can't quantify cheating. Who is cheating doesn't matter. Stay Faithful

Mintayo:

Pls go back and read her post and some stop playing the blind game!

Tallesty1:
man....

On a serious note. A cheat is a cheat and you can't quantify cheating. Who is cheating doesn't matter. Stay Faithful

MzMariah:
You just reminded me of a culture in my village. If a man cheats on his wife it has no side effect but if a woman cheats (sleeps with another man) then she is as good as dead if she doesn't confess and have the necessary sacrifice done. She go just die like chicken.

We all are hoping and praying for the best sha, nobody wants a cheating partner.

RuuDie:


I can't agree with this... I believe just about anybody can have s3x without 'severe' emotional attachment - do not mistake mere flitting 'attraction' for that.

carefreewannabe:


Please tell me from which post you "deduced" that she claims that a woman should cheat when a man does. I am still waiting.

BananaBender:


It can change, starting from you. Change your mindset, you are only thinking like the product of the society you grew up in. One way to do that, is by encouraging and teaching gender equality in social institutions.

bukatyne:


If you a Christian that should educate the world is saying this, then all hope is lost

Thankfully, during the OT when it seemed women were worthless, God'a puniahment was equal for the adulterous men and women.

In the NT, we were told that our bodies was the temple of the Holy Spirit without been gender specific, then I do not get the women are more 'honorable, templelike etc'

@OP:

Jesus Christ that paid for us with His blood sef did not see it as a justification to do as He likes

It is all good

centjamie:


I am not a chauvinist,i believe in gender equality.i do not encourage cheating on any gender's part, but there are certain things which cannot change.the traditional african society natuarally gave man certain upper hand in marriage and relationship which is naturally(from creation) rooted in the psychology of man(human beings).

A man can marry more than one wife at a time, but a woman cant marry more than one husband at a time.a man's ego is more important 2 him than anything you can think of and that is why it hurts him more when he is cheated on.the worst a woman can do when her man cheats on n her is to file for divorce and how easily do such women get another husban.it is how nature made it and not the society. i dnt condole cheating among any gender but i know it hurts more when the woman cheats.

cococandy:
I don't know about you ladies but if a man cheats on me,it ruins everything for me.

I wonder what he said to her to woo her.
Were they the same things he said to me?

I wonder what he said when he was about to cum.
"You're the sweetest woman I've ever had"
I know he said that to me too.

He must have complimented her beauty in ways he did to me.

Maybe lied too. "I'm single. Not married. Divorced. Just broke up". Anything to get her to relax and open up.
I like to feel that I'm the apple of my man's eye.

If he could forget how valuable he said I was,if he could discard my well being and feelings the moment he see another,then it means I'm not the woman I thought I was to him.

It will make me feel CHEAP.

It is not acceptable. Not even slightly acceptable.

I don't know what he'll feel if I cheat on him but I'm pretty sure it's akin to what I'll feel if he cheats on me.

Mintayo:

keep waiting dear,keep waiting!

pickabeau1:


Can you explain the correlation between cheating in a marriage and gender equality
I get the relation to equal opportunities, education, jobs, access to property.

carefreewannabe:


I am not waiting. I am just watching how you will talk yourself out of it. I knew from the beginning that you could NOT back up your accusation.

Mintayo:

Its actually a waste of time answering you,just as it is a waste of time to take dem wey dey your league serious.
If you are sincere enough,which i doubt,you will go through are post and also go through some of d post of d people that quoted her,you will see they also had the same question nd replies!
But i guess you are not!

carefreewannabe:


I didn't accuse anyone. You did so it is your job to back up your accusations. As long as you cannot, they remain baseless accusations.

faceURfront:


Benue South Senatorial District things

ShoryuKen:
Ok, I'll digress with a narrative, before I get to answering your question... I've had two African Gray Parrots (locally AKA red-tail, or Paulie!) as pets in my lifetime. They are the most intelligent of birds; they've been scientifically proven to have the intelligence, and temperament of a 4-year old human, and live for 50-70 years. Here's the thing... they are monogamous, and stay with one partner for their ENTIRE lifetime! When domesticated as pets, they are very emotional, loving, and are fiercely defensive of their owner (in a household, they typically select, and super-bond with 1 person) – for example, they'll haughtily scream at, bite at (when newly aquatinted), and/or destroy the shoes of the girlfriend of a male human owner.
So, coming to your question, if an intelligent bird can keep to it's PROMISE of being MONOGAMOUS, why can't a human in MATRIMONY – male or female – keep their word?! If you wish NOT to be monogamous, let the other party KNOW your inclination/stance from the jump, rather then cheat.

Digressing again... the penis anatomically is a problem for males – not trying to sound sexist – observing nature, a male lizard that'll avoid you on a normal day, WILL run over your foot chasing a female lizard for sex, and NOT the other way round; same for the cock chasing a hen, male dog chasing a biiitch, etc. Randy-ness in male species is common occurrence – while not to be tolerated in a human RELATIONSHIP – it's more digestible than in a female; a randy male would be thought to be a champion, while a female a slut.

Finally, answering you question... It's just unsexy of a female to be slutty in any species – forget what The Kardashians/cable TV has made of/glamorizes it. Culturally, religiously, heck... even common-sense-ically it's a bad look... damn, "these millennial girls ain't loyal!" [in Chris Brown voice]

MzMariah:
You just reminded me of a culture in my village. If a man cheats on his wife it has no side effect but if a woman cheats (sleeps with another man) then she is as good as dead if she doesn't confess and have the necessary sacrifice done. She go just die like chicken.

We all are hoping and praying for the best sha, nobody wants a cheating partner.

tooltip:
damn! , you are crazy!

BananaBender:


*sigh* She said the society condones a man cheating but frowns at a woman cheating. Polygamy is legal for males by omission while polyandry isn't even a concept that is recognized.

Gender equality: refers to the view that men and women should receive equal treatment, and should not be discriminated against based on gender.

Gender equality is not suppose to be ignored in social institutions.

50calibre:


Oh I understand!! So you're prescribing un-forgiveness?

MizMyColi:
Talking about paying her price - well, that's true, let's not forget that the same way the guy forwent scores of women to pay her price, she forwent scores of guys to accept his price

bebe2:
I kind of see ur point.

Se-x in marriage is sacred like u said.

Most men will never touch the woman again if they find out they slept wit someone else.

Call it pride or watever u like but the fact is wat drives a woman to infidelity is totally different from wat drives a man.

We will all agree that most men think wiy their pe-nis, once the thing done stand something need to bring am down regardless of the consequences. And most times these actions have no emotional involvement.

Buutttt before woman open leg for another man, e don weigh am, calculate am, manipulate am and decide say its worth doing.

And once she try am once, she go hardly stop am. Even science says there is a certain hormone thats secreted during se-x dats imbibes the memory of the man in her for a very very long time.

So which man wants to be competing with dat??