aisha2:


Ovarian cancer
Not being able to concieve when one wants too.

Postinor is an emergency morning after pill and shouldn't be used as a regularlong term contraceptive

Oh, I know that.

I just wish you didn't answer that question because I had a feeling his ideas of "risk" had nothing to do with the medical side.

EfemenaXY:

Oh, I know that.
I just wish you didn't answer that question because I had a feeling his ideas of "risk" had nothing to do with the medical side.

Lol, no vex. I forget say i no dey work lol

aisha2:


Lol Efe you should write a book

I have done dear. It's titled Mysterious Depths and is on my signature

aisha2:


Lol, no vex. I forget say i no dey work lol

No worries dear. Good morning sha!

EfemenaXY:


So a married woman who decides to go on the pill does so, because she "doesn't want to keep her family intact"?

Yes?

A married woman that goes on the pill without discussing it with her husband does not understand the meaning of marriage. I Hope that answered your question.

The heat is on. Vote wisely. Vivly for Miss Nairaland 2014.

ottizz:


A married woman that goes on the pill without discussing it with her husband does not understand the meaning of marriage. I Hope that answered your question.

No it doesn't.

How does going on the pill correlate with "understanding the meaning of marriage"?

Lol @Efe lady it is you biko
The guy should be really worried of his madam continuous use of the medication.
He should be discussing with her to stop....that he will be using condoms.

EfemenaXY:

Oh, I know that.
I just wish you didn't answer that question because I had a feeling his ideas of "risk" had nothing to do with the medical side.

mygeeZ:
My Question is 'Is it right for a married woman to use any form of contraceptive without the consent of the husband.

It is wrong.

[quote author=mygeeZ post=27606190]Am married with two female kids. Was suprised to find out that my wife uses Postinor 2 without my consent.
I feel betrayed. Am just thinking of giving her 3yrs break. [/quote


It is wrong. But this story is one sided. What went down between you guys? Did you have a disagreement on the number of kids you want or the spacing? Do you help out in the home? Do you cheat? Do you leave all the expenses of the house to her alone?

In all, this issue is what a heart to heart talk can sort out. It has not come to doubting paternity of the kids or contemplating divorce. Well except you have deeper issues or you want to taste another pudding.

I thought postinor2 was an emergency contraception?


Consent for wetin na? She be slave?


She should have discussed it with you and heard what you opinions were about it. I don't believe it is solely your decision to make on whether she can use it or not neither is it hers but she knows her body. Still, it should have been discussed.

5minsmadness:


No you don't. Don't mind these girls giving free opinions here. You decide as the man what you want in your marriage and you decide early on during courtship. And if your wife goes out of line like disrespecting you the way this guy's wife is disrespecting him, you discipline her on the spot.

I'm not an advocate for divorce though. Its obvious they are having trust issues. Maybe oga wants a boy child like someone said and madam isn't ready yet. So she hid and took birth control. Unfortunately she got caught. Op should confront her, discipline her and forgive her, maybe come to a compromise and give her one more year of rest.

A relationship like marriage should not be easily discarded. Unless there was never any real love to begin with.

Discipline her how, bend her over his knees and spank her? Yep she has been a very baaad girl!

EfemenaXY:




I have done dear. It's titled Mysterious Depths and is on my signature

Wow congrats. Seen, go order soon

what should a woman now do if she doesn't want another child just yet and hubby is insistent on it even after so many discussions....don't you think she will need to do what she needs to do?

mygeeZ:
How am i suppose to use condom with my wife? Weird. My last child is close to 2yrs now.

I've heard this statement before and it confuses me. Why can't you use a condom with your wife? So what form of birth control are you using? Are you aware that she could carry belle immediately after your last child was born if she didn't find some form of birth control? Why are you even discussing this on NL? Go and talk to your wife and discuss birth control options, visit family planning clinics, prolonged use of postinor 2 is bad for her health.

Are u sure u are not contraditing yourself. "When we discuss, we shud have consented"

kandiikane:
I thought postinor2 was an emergency contraception?


Consent for wetin na? She be slave?


She should have discussed it with you and heard what you opinions were about it. I don't believe it is solely your decision to make on whether she can use it or not neither is it hers but she knows her body. Still, it should have been discussed.

Thanks.. Remember we are over 5yrs in our marriage.. We shud have understood our body very well. I know a woman can get pregnant aside the ovulation period.

Daresh:


I've heard this statement before and it confuses me. Why can't you use a condom with your wife? So what form of birth control are you using? Are you aware that she could carry belle immediately after your last child was born if she didn't find some form of birth control? Why are you even discussing this on NL? Go and talk to your wife and discuss birth control options, visit family planning clinics, prolonged use of postinor 2 is bad for her health.

mygeeZ:
Thanks.. Remember we are over 5yrs in our marriage.. We shud have understood our body very well. I know a woman can get pregnant aside the ovulation period.

Oga this is not effective. Please visit a family planning center with your wife and understand the available options. If you go on like this she will keep using pills and hiding it. Those calculations fail and can change because bodies change dont expect her to just calculate and usr natural methods, there are better more reliable methods. Support your wife, visit a family planning clinic they are everywhere, every village, 80 percent if primary health care centers are equipped with family planning information and methods, they will discuss with you both and advice which is most suitable and family planning is free

[quote
author=mygeeZ post=27654372]Thanks.. Remember we are over 5yrs in our
marriage.. We shud have understood our body very well. I know a woman
can get pregnant aside the ovulation period. [/quote]that is not enough o. i have known myself for a couple of decades and i can tell you that i can never rely on thqt method only.

mygeeZ:
Are u sure u are not contraditing yourself. "When we discuss, we shud have consented"

what if after discussion you refuse to givr your consent, what should she now do? Just take it like that and risk getting pregnant?

mygeeZ:
Are u sure u are not contraditing yourself. "When we discuss, we shud have consented"

Care to explain how? Is discussion the same as consent? You said she didn't get your consent and I said it isn't your decision to make. It should have been discussed though first. I was only trying to be nice by saying it shouldn't be solely hers to make either, infact, it is her body, she can do what she likes.

EfemenaXY:
Why should you feel betrayed? Over what?It's her body, not yours. Besides, you won't be the one left holding the baby, making sacrifices and keeping a big chunk of your life on hold - she will.

I pity your husband and the unmarried girls who listen to this rebellious counsel. So if the guy starts cheating , it's his body right? And who are you to question whether the OP reconciles with her wife within 12 hours? If you don't believe his story, can't you ignore his thread?. Your ITK is irritating. Book ko , jotter ni.

OP such issues can bring paranoia in men especially if there are trust issues between both of you. Kindly sit your wife down to a matured discussion and understand her fears. Find a compromise at the end.

meine:
I pity your husband and the unmarried girls who listen to this rebellious counsel. So if the guy starts cheating , it's his body right? And who are you to question whether the OP reconciles with her wife within 12 hours? If you don't believe his story, can't you ignore his thread?. Your ITK is irritating. Book ko , jotter ni.

OP such issues can bring paranoia in men especially if there are trust issues between both of you. Kindly sit your wife down to a matured discussion and understand her fears. Find a compromise at the end.

it is his body and his choice to go put his pen!s inside another woman.

Can you see how stup!d comparing the two seem?

you must think popping out children is by just waving a wand and tada, babies!
With all the op posted, the wife is right to be using some form of birth control. If marriage is not working she shouldn't be having anymore babies.

Mygeez, take your wife for a proper family planning, stop having babies and sort your marriage out or divorce her if you don't want her anymore.

kandiikane:

it is his body and his choice to go put his pen!s inside another woman. Can you see how stup!d comparing the two seem?you must think popping out children is by just waving a wand and tada, babies!
.

Nope yours Is the most stup!d and dumbezt post for assuming that only women bear the sacrifice of raising a child. See y'all talking as If men don't have any role to play. The guy has the right to go crazy and assuming anything if their marriage was already shaky.

Join the queue, am ready for y ' all this morning.

meine:

Nope yours Is the most stup!d post for assuming that only women bear the sacrifice of raising a child. See y'all talking as If men don't have any role to play.

Join the queue, am ready for y ' all this morning.

Stop talking shyt! Was my post about raising a child or about carrying a child? As I wrote, you must think it's by a wave of wand and tada, babies! Or maybe because she has had two already, she can just easily pop them out.Abeg go sit in a corner joor!

kandiikane:

Stop talking shyt! Was my post about raising a child or about carrying a child? As I wrote, you must think it's by a wave of wand and tada, babies! Or maybe because she has had two already, she can juat easily pop them out.Abeg go sit in a corner joor!

Stop spewing garbage. Maybe you are the one who needs lecture on how babies pop. I still insist the wife had no right to take that selfish decision without discussing with her husband. I have said what I have said and am happy it's eating you up.

I don't even have business with you, go get your masters for me. Sharpening my alakpata knife

kandiikane:

it is his body and his choice to go put his pen!s inside another woman.

Can you see how stup!d comparing the two seem?

you must think popping out children is by just waving a wand and tada, babies!
With all the op posted, the wife is right to be using some form of birth control. If marriage is not working she shouldn't be having anymore babies.

Mygeez, take your wife for a proper family planning, stop having babies and sort your marriage out or divorce her if you don't want her anymore.

Sorry pls. Are u male or female?

5minsmadness:

Sorry pls. Are u male or female?

Kandi is a she-male

meine:
I pity your husband and the unmarried girls who listen to this rebellious counsel. So if the guy starts cheating , it's his body right? And who are you to question whether the OP reconciles with her wife within 12 hours? If you don't believe his story, can't you ignore his thread?. Your ITK is irritating. Book ko , jotter ni.

OP such issues can bring paranoia in men especially if there are trust issues between both of you. Kindly sit your wife down to a matured discussion and understand her fears. Find a compromise at the end.

Save your pity for yourself, you ignorant fück.

What's the correlation between family planning and infidelity? And while we're on it, who the blöödy hell do you think you are too?

Mtcheew.

EfemenaXY:


Neither do you.

How does incorporating family planning equate to infidelity?

So taking pills without the husbands consent is "incorporating family planning"

I thought family planning was FAMILY planning.. not wife or husband planning... Anyway, it's her body, since every body can do what he/she likes without recourse to the others feeling, the husband can sleep with another woman (with protection ofcourse), afterall, it is his body

njokusboy:


So taking pills without the husbands consent is "incorporating family planning"

I thought family planning was FAMILY planning.. not wife or husband planning... Anyway, it's her body, since every body can do what he/she likes without recourse to the others feeling, the husband can sleep with another woman (with protection ofcourse), afterall, it is his body

I still don't see the correlation between family planning and infidelity.

Care to explain?

EfemenaXY:


I still don't see the correlation between family planning and infidelity.

Care to explain?

First admit what the woman did was selfish and not FAMILY PLANNING, that is, if Family planning is still FAMILY planning...

Then I can explain