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Re: Husbands Who Demand Their Wives Submit Their Salaries To Them by wordbank(m): 11:39pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
Wives submit yourselves! Money o, sex o, pant o, food o, bra o Just drop am for table |
Re: Husbands Who Demand Their Wives Submit Their Salaries To Them by Ellylace(f): 6:06am On Nov 05, 2014 |
UrrGh! Nigerian Marriage Matters = tons of headaches and then some... Why were "Joint Accounts" created in the first place? |
Re: Husbands Who Demand Their Wives Submit Their Salaries To Them by Daddi: 6:32am On Nov 05, 2014 |
Ezibless:yea. Lemme digress a bit, the dp looks like a face I've come across, maybe in abia or another place like that |
Re: Husbands Who Demand Their Wives Submit Their Salaries To Them by phineas: 6:39am On Nov 05, 2014 |
Raiders: Actually nothing has changed,in the era of this grandparents,women worked and had income,they were farmers,nurses,teachers and artisans,women made and kept their income,which was how they could singlehandedly send many of their children to school in a polygamous setting,it was not dependent on the man. Why is this generation of men trying to shirk responsibilty is what I don't get.Some Nigerian men of today ask women to bring all their income,this much I'm sure of.I repeat nothing protects this women when his relatives or second wives come calling in the future,or when he excercises his african right and sends her packing out of his house.this is why what obtains abroad cannot be set as the yardstick for nigeria...the women should always remember this. And for the men, Don't get married if you can't afford to simple.and definately don't start demanding a womans income to assist you make ends meet,its inexscusable in africa. 3 Likes |
Re: Husbands Who Demand Their Wives Submit Their Salaries To Them by karmaleon: 6:45am On Nov 05, 2014 |
Cutehector4u: The motherless kind of men! |
Re: Husbands Who Demand Their Wives Submit Their Salaries To Them by Tikitaka(m): 7:03am On Nov 05, 2014 |
This kind of things mostly happen when it is the man that saw her through school. However I think there is more to it that meets the eyeball. |
Re: Husbands Who Demand Their Wives Submit Their Salaries To Them by Raiders: 7:04am On Nov 05, 2014 |
phineas:why would you say nothing has change from the time of grandparents and our generation? Men earn more back then and most women were not allow to attend school because their parents think the role of a woman is only in the kitchen. Only few women work and most were full time house wife. Things are different now because more women attend school and the salary difference between men and women is not much. There are many women today who earn more than men. Its not a crime for a woman to contribute the bulk of the home finances if she earn more than her husband. My uncle wife is a professor and she earn more than my uncle who is a business man. She help support him financially in his business and their marriage has been okay. Marriage now invovle both couple pulling their resources to help with the finances. Only stingy wives don't help their husbands with the bills if she earn good salary. Its not an African tradition for a wife to be stingy and you better stop that mentality. Things are different now and we are not in 1940s. 1 Like |
Re: Husbands Who Demand Their Wives Submit Their Salaries To Them by ChynoBEATS: 7:30am On Nov 05, 2014 |
kibi:he[her hubby] should be ashamed of himself , that sounds childish , he's practically stu,pi.d cos I can tell by the thoughts of it Ðat he's too Bossy Ñ I'm sure he's the type dat beats up a lady , how can U (a man) be placing the love of your life under such Unacceptable condition dats preposterous, well I'll suggest they Hold a Family meeting iÑ order to straighten this their marital Feud. 3 Likes |
Re: Husbands Who Demand Their Wives Submit Their Salaries To Them by dahmie2013: 7:42am On Nov 05, 2014 |
Laughing in HD! |
Re: Husbands Who Demand Their Wives Submit Their Salaries To Them by ocheu(f): 7:46am On Nov 05, 2014 |
kibi:as in, I don't understand how people reason. I can't imagine after working for a whole month, then I will count my hard earned salary (all oo) and hand over to my hubby. Nothing even half, I mean all. Then what will I be left with? Hmmm, though I don't know what brought such decision, pls op tell us what made the husband to give her such condition? |
Re: Husbands Who Demand Their Wives Submit Their Salaries To Them by GeneralShepherd(m): 7:51am On Nov 05, 2014 |
bennyrazz: There's no ultimatum in love. If a relationship is filled with ultimatums then the love is gone. C'est finish 2 Likes |
Re: Husbands Who Demand Their Wives Submit Their Salaries To Them by GeneralShepherd(m): 7:52am On Nov 05, 2014 |
dre11: She's his wife and not his daughter 1 Like |
Re: Husbands Who Demand Their Wives Submit Their Salaries To Them by ocheu(f): 8:08am On Nov 05, 2014 |
Raiders:you said your uncles wife supports him, not that ur uncle authoritatively ordered his wife to be summit her salary every month. Do u know what it means to be left with no cash? 1 Like |
Re: Husbands Who Demand Their Wives Submit Their Salaries To Them by Raiders: 8:36am On Nov 05, 2014 |
ocheu:I think the OP story is not complete because no man in his right sense will ask his wife to submit 100% of her salary to him. Maybe the husband feels like his wife is not supporting the household financially even tho she has a job. Nothing wrong in splitting the family bills by both couple 50-50. But most Nigeria women think the husband should be responsible for 100% of the house finances while she waste her salary on trival stuffs. 1 Like |
Re: Husbands Who Demand Their Wives Submit Their Salaries To Them by Ezibless: 8:51am On Nov 05, 2014 |
Daddi: Abia ke? Lol If you've never been to za north before den it aint moi |
Re: Husbands Who Demand Their Wives Submit Their Salaries To Them by Nobody: 9:08am On Nov 05, 2014 |
ukandi1:u r talkin as if u were there when it happened!!! The picture the OP created is different from what you are saying. On no occasion did the OP mentioned that they will sit 2geda nd plan how they would spend it.. 'submit ur salary to me' is quiet different from 'lets join our salaries 2geda' stop giving excuses nd face the plain fact abeg!!! |
Re: Husbands Who Demand Their Wives Submit Their Salaries To Them by deadie(m): 9:11am On Nov 05, 2014 |
Why should a woman submit her salary to her husband? Because he owns her and she is his slave? Nigerians never cease to amaze. 5 Likes |
Re: Husbands Who Demand Their Wives Submit Their Salaries To Them by tuslakoncept: 9:21am On Nov 05, 2014 |
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Re: Husbands Who Demand Their Wives Submit Their Salaries To Them by shizzleStar: 9:21am On Nov 05, 2014 |
Much as i doubt the veracity of of the post because it lacked details, and so is incomplete and one-sided. However, i see no reason why a wife should relinquish her entire salary to her husband, i consider this stance as wrong and unacceptable. 2 Likes |
Re: Husbands Who Demand Their Wives Submit Their Salaries To Them by ojiefi: 9:24am On Nov 05, 2014 |
Exactly! my husband has never asked me how much i earn because he believes its his responsibility to cater for the family. he earned his respect and i dont wait to be compelled before i do things for him and in the house. men should simply know their place and not hide under submissiveness to hide their laziness and inability to provide for the family. if my husband insists on my submitting my salary to him he wont even see a dime. did he send me to school or get the job for me? anyway women get category and levels. any man that is insisting on a woman's salary is wicked and very very lazy. infact that is abuse number 1, when you strip the woman of economic power. my take though. kibi: 4 Likes |
Re: Husbands Who Demand Their Wives Submit Their Salaries To Them by Godmystrength: 9:49am On Nov 05, 2014 |
ukandi1:@kibi- this is your friend's husband here. You can ask him all your questions... |
Re: Husbands Who Demand Their Wives Submit Their Salaries To Them by Nobody: 9:54am On Nov 05, 2014 |
Nothing to say because I am yet to be married. Sorry..! |
Re: Husbands Who Demand Their Wives Submit Their Salaries To Them by Daresh(f): 10:17am On Nov 05, 2014 |
Raiders: Please dont say that. I have a friend that pays rent, school fees, NEPA bills, water bills, buys dispenser water and insurance on the kids. Yet her husband was demanding the rest of her salary. You know what she did when she got tired of being locked out if the house she pays rent in, she moved out. Now he's homeless and sober. 3 Likes |
Re: Husbands Who Demand Their Wives Submit Their Salaries To Them by ThoniaSlim(f): 10:29am On Nov 05, 2014 |
Raiders: By their words you shall know them! Anu Ofia! You are the lazy man who would leech on a woman like a parasite! I hate lazy men who are shameless enough to be fully dependent on a woman! The same way I do not condone women who fully depend on a man! There is absolutely no issue with the woman contributing to the household or assisting with the bills, but demanding that she submits her whole monthly income to you is just foolish! Maka gini! That man can go to blazes for all I care! Women be carrying this marriage thing on their heads like that's your sole aim in life! No man can kill me because I'm married to him! At the end of the day if we die, we all get buried in different coffins, so why should one man be causing me unnecessary stress! Mba nu! 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Husbands Who Demand Their Wives Submit Their Salaries To Them by Nobody: 10:36am On Nov 05, 2014 |
ukandi1: I dont know who this is but the person seems to have information. 8 pages and counting on a quarter story, i warned in page 2 that the poster didnt have enough information to create a thread on her friends marriage. I dont even know why your friend will ask for advice you dont offer any then run to make a post of it without her permission |
Re: Husbands Who Demand Their Wives Submit Their Salaries To Them by beeevan: 10:37am On Nov 05, 2014 |
Raiders: Yes some men do it, the lady in this case couldn't afford to submit the salary and kids weren't involved, they got divorced and both have re married. The lady resigned and moved to the states where she remarried, the man is happily settled here with 2 kids, so..... 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Husbands Who Demand Their Wives Submit Their Salaries To Them by Nobody: 10:43am On Nov 05, 2014 |
The only plausible reason a woman should submit her monthly income to her hubby should be that the hubby should do her work. |
Re: Husbands Who Demand Their Wives Submit Their Salaries To Them by lahit14(m): 10:43am On Nov 05, 2014 |
dre11:Eithr way he's using a military approach! Don't like that style. Thr. R many ways to kill a rat, military style, chase it round ur haus wit a big club n eventually ovrcome it den turn back n look at how redecorated ur haus is. Evrytin no be by power. 1 Like |
Re: Husbands Who Demand Their Wives Submit Their Salaries To Them by beeevan: 10:44am On Nov 05, 2014 |
Some people mentality sha, a man splitting bills with wify 50-50 is great but wify splitting chores 50-50 is disrespect, nah only God will deliver some people from the spirit of confusion. Man of the house calculating and dividing bills between himself and wify, how silly can a man get. What happens to handing over what you have, she pitches in where needed. Better still, divide the chores as you shared the bills, 50-50 . 4 Likes |
Re: Husbands Who Demand Their Wives Submit Their Salaries To Them by pickabeau1: 10:48am On Nov 05, 2014 |
Godmystrength: You can see how much of a friend this OP is I hope she has bit destroyed her friends marriage She may even be a jealous single woman who wants her friend to join her in single hood |
Re: Husbands Who Demand Their Wives Submit Their Salaries To Them by ochardbaby(m): 10:52am On Nov 05, 2014 |
This is how she will say it if the case have been the reverse. This my husband.....he loves me so much he always give me his salary immediately they pay him. Chillisauce: |
Re: Husbands Who Demand Their Wives Submit Their Salaries To Them by Nobody: 10:52am On Nov 05, 2014 |
GeneralShepherd: God bless you |
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